Essential Reads

Suicide as a Form of Homicide

Multiple characters operate in acts of self-harm.

"Is Adolescence Really Necessary?"

Surprised by early adolescence, parents wonder if their child's changes need be.

Here is a Powerful Acronym to Help Your Child Manage Stress!

Giving your child essential skills to succeed in life.

Why Are Little Girls' Halloween Costumes Still So Sexy?

The Hot-and-Sexy trend for girls' Halloween costumes and why it's concerning

Recent Posts on Parenting

I am a Sourpuss and I Deserve to Be!

Often, we use challenging real-life circumstances to justify undesirable thoughts, behavior and emotional states. This is not in our best interest. We can choose to change our perspective to focus on the positive. At the end of the day, it is a choice —and your choice will affect your life fulfillment and happiness.

Is it the Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?

It's natural to wonder if what you are feeling may be a symptom of something more serious. And considering 20 percent of women do experience postpartum depression or anxiety, it's also important to know when to seek professional help to feel better.

Beware of First Impressions

Alienation can be counter-intuitive, even for mental health professionals

Before Blending Families, Consider All of This

By Wendy Paris on August 04, 2015 Splitopia
Expecting your blended family to be one big Brady Bunch-like good time can lead to some serious disappointment. Psychologist Anne Brennan Malec recommends managing your expectations and taking steps to help all family members adjust.

6 Reasons Teens Won't Tell Parents Their Violent Thoughts

What struck me from reading about rampage killers was how common it was for caring parents to not know about the dark suicidal and violent impulses that lived within their teenage sons (nearly all the rampage killers have been male).

Tweens, Teens, and Video Screens

Parents complain that they can’t tear their kids away from video games when it is time to start their homework and that kids are texting when they are supposed to be sleeping.

Life and the Essence of Adolescence

During a summer vacation on a lake in Wisconsin, I look at my son and daughter, my nieces and nephews, and soak it all in. Life is a passing of these moments, I know, ones we cannot hold onto. A startling discovery of exploring this important adolescent period of life is that the ESSENCE of adolescence is also the key way to keep our brains vital and growing.

Welcome to Our Blog!

We are pediatric psychologists with expertise in treating children and adolescents with chronic pain. This blog is for parents who want to help their child better manage chronic pain.

Refill Your Cupboard

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Stress builds up over time, so it's important to do small things throughout the day to keep the stress meter in the "green zone." There are many ways to lower the sense of stress in your mind or body, even in the middle of a busy day.

Sharing Is Important, Not Easy

More adult sons and daughters are returning to the family nest to live; which complicates life for both them and their parents.

Helicopter Parenting Isn’t Killing Millennials, but This Is

Doing this could save your kid's sanity (and maybe even his life).

WOSPs, the Amalfi Coast, and Unstructured Play in Children

By John Tauer Ph.D. on August 02, 2015 Goal Posts
Why Can't Kids Play on Their Own?

The Baby and the Butterfly

How do you fight the urge to solve the kinds of challenges that are necessary for your child’s healthy emotional growth?

Happy Mothers

Happy mothers-what does it take? We have one of the most demanding jobs in the world, yet when it comes to recuperation, you'd be surprised how little we actually need....

When Parents Date Someone New, What's Best for the Kids?

Though parents are moving in and out of romantic relationships more often, there are things they can do to make these transitions easier for their children.

5 Reasons to Ditch Perfection and Embrace 'Good Enough'

A mom I know was trying to arrange a birthday party for her child. “I want it to be the best party ever!” she said. “I want her to have memories of this party for the rest of her life.” What's wrong here?

A Quick, Easy Technique to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

If your kids have you climbing the walls, don't despair--just head for the ceiling to stop the yelling, power struggles, and drama. Here is how to do it!

I Used to Be Such a Good Teacher...

Delivering a lecture is easy. Teaching is hard.

Yet Another Reason Why It’s Good to Be a First-Born Child

New research finds that eldest siblings are better at picking up second languages.

No, No, No, I Love YOU

A word game that sometimes takes you both beyond words into something very much like deep, loving, intimate glee.

Can't Stand Your Self-Absorbed Parent?

Got an aging parent or in-law who's a narcissist? They're arrogant, have a sense of entitlement, are always ready to instill guilt, they insist rules don't apply to them, and they fly into a rage if challenged. There's help for you.

Depression and Suicide in Black Youth

Depression is a serious mental health issue that significantly impacts the lives of many youth. Among Black youth 3.2% report suicidal thoughts and 1.4% report attempting suicide. Given the serious risk, it is important to learn early warning signs.

7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You'll Parent

Attachment research tells us that the biggest predictor of how we will be as parents is how much we’ve been able to make sense out of our own past. So, while the last place we may be looking when we become parents is at our own childhood, that’s exactly what we should be doing if we want to be better present-day parents to our children.

Affects, Language, and Cognition

For many months, we have been exploring the three pillars of human development: Affects (Feelings), Language, and Cognition. We have tried to make the case that there is a revolution in our understanding of human development. I have suggested that this revolution has tremendous potential for enhancing development.

Book Review: "Drop the Worry Ball"

When children experience fearful situations, they have the opportunity to cope with challenges, which increases their long term resilience.

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Post-Baby Mental Health, For Dads

If you’re about to become a father, there’s little likelihood anyone will talk with you about how these experiences will change your life.

5 Strategies to Reduce Gender Bias Against Girls As Leaders

These 5 stategies for reducing gender bias were recently developed by researchers at Harvard University. These 5 easy tips have the potential to close the gender gap in leadership for teenage girls in the future.

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

The ideas of "choice" and "intent" have arisen in debates about both the confederate flag and prenatal genetic testing. But are these concepts insufficiently nuanced for these tough topics?

Why I Tossed the Gummy Vitamins

Parents make most, if not all, food and health choices for our young children: the pressure of that constant decision-making, plus our primal drive to ensure they survive and thrive, creates a potent stew of emotions that makes us particularly vulnerable both to magical thinking about food and to those who exploit it.