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The Successful Blended Family

Three (or Four) questions for Anne Brennan Malec about Remarriage

Life and the Essence of Adolescence

Reflections from a summer vacation

WOSPs, the Amalfi Coast, and Unstructured Play in Children

Organized Sports Has Killed Unstructured Play in Children

A Quick, Easy Technique to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Changing your perspective can change your behavior in parenting power struggles

Recent Posts on Parenting

Your 10-Step Plan to Stop Yelling

When we're angry at our children, most of us burst out with comments we would never say if we were calm. Later, we're remorseful. We apologize. But kids react to our yelling by putting another brick in the wall between us, and dismantling that wall isn't easy. Wouldn't it be amazing to simply stop yelling, even when you're angry? It's completely possible.

Distinct ADHD Symptoms in Girls Result in Under-Diagnosis

Understanding gender differences leads to a better diagnosis.

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Do Warning Signs Apply to Parents of Kids With Autism?

Many parents of children with autism find themselves becoming accustomed to routine discomfort, and, as a result, may not acknowledge typical warning signs as an indication to seek outside support.

Raising Sensitive Boys

By Maureen D Healy on June 10, 2015 in Creative Development
Are you raising an emotionally sensitive boy?

Unloved Daughters and Their Siblings: Five Common Patterns

By Peg Streep on June 10, 2015 in Tech Support
The lack of maternal love shapes a daughter in myriad ways but it alters the dynamic of the family as well. Taking a close look at what happens between and among brothers and sisters when a mother is unloving...

Do You Know Your Father? Do You Like Him?

A bad father attaches an emotional price tag to everything, meaning that your success is his success, your failure is his failure and, essentially, nothing is ever yours. He’s not there as a support or a guide but as an overseer and a judge.

“Appisode” Applications

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on June 10, 2015 in Screen Time
For parents of toddlers and preschoolers, Appisodes are a newer app available through Disney and iTunes that allows children the experience of watching and playing along with their favorite episodes.

Fathers' Impact on ADHD

Fathers have a large impact on the behaviors of children with ADHD. Find out what makes the the role of a father so important in ADHD.

How to Stay Calm? The Same Way You Get to Carnegie Hall

Regulating our own emotions is the hardest part of parenting. The good news is, every time you resist acting on your anger and instead restore yourself to calm, it gets easier. In fact, neurologists say you're actually rewiring your brain to be calmer and more loving.

Must Judges Follow Children’s Wishes Over Their Custody?

Giving children a voice in family law conflicts.

Why Are Teen Brains Designed for Risk-taking?

Here are four ways parents can reduce the danger

The Whole-Brain Child Workbook

By The Book Brigade on June 09, 2015 in The Author Speaks
Children’s minds develop through the quality of attachment and communication with parents. It works best when parents first understand their own life experience.

Teach Kids the Wisdom of Failure Long Before Graduation

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on June 09, 2015 in Worry Wise
Our job is to not wait for graduation to talk about failure and success. It’s a little late then. Rather, we need to be rolling out the red carpet for our kids throughout their education. Making saying “I don’t know” or making mistakes safe. Making “I don’t know for sure” a noble and defendable position.

Nature’s Original Probiotic: Breast Milk

By Erica Sonnenburg Ph.D. on June 08, 2015 in The Good Gut
Mother's milk contains more for the gut than just the oligosaccharides that feed her growing child's microbiome. It also has another special ingredient to nourish her baby’s developing gut. Breast milk contains probiotics.

Parental Complicity in Adolescent "Problems"

Parental perception and parental enabling can contribute to what constitute adolescent "problems" in their eyes.

How 4th Grade Predicts Your Future

By Mitch Prinstein Ph.D. on June 07, 2015 in The Modern Teen
Recent research reveals remarkably strong links between the way you got along with your peers in elementary school and a wide range of outcomes in adulthood. Can your health, your happiness, your salary, your insecurities, and your relationships all be traced back to what happened to you on the playground in grade school?

Duggar Sisters Interview: Disturbing Message About Sex Abuse

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on June 06, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
The Duggar sisters' attempt to whitewash the sexual abuse is problematic, sending a message to perpetrators and victims that a little over-the-clothes touching isn't really so bad.

The Crisis of Fatherhood

By Ray Williams on June 05, 2015 in Wired for Success
Some would argue that America is rapidly becoming a fatherless society, or perhaps more accurately, an absentee father society.

12 ways to raise a competent, confident child with grit

It has become a commonplace idea that failure is good for kids, and builds resilience. But when children fail over and over and don't have the support to keep trying, all they learn is that they're failures. Resilience comes not from failing, but from the experience of learning that you can pick yourself up, try again, and succeed.

The Ratio of Love

The sex ratio influences men's mating and parenting effort. In a mating market, more men can mean more stable relationships and child-rearing. Yet this may be surprising when we also imagine men's lives in male-dominated social niches, like frontier mining towns, where plenty of gambling, prostitution and gun-toting can prevail.

Teachers Should Reward Questions, Not Just Answers

By Hal Gregersen on June 05, 2015 in The Curiosity Deficit
How encouraging children to ask questions can increase their capability to innovate.

Managing Tantrums

You want to give your child the feeling that you care about what he wants.

How to Avoid Raising a Narcissist

By Craig Malkin PhD on June 05, 2015 in Romance Redux
Praise doesn't create narcissists. Here's what does.

Monkey See, Monkey Don't

It important to continue to explore not just the sticky irrelationship dynamic that we have seen so many many of us get tangled up in, but also to ask: what are the resiliency factors? What allows one person from the same family to break the pattern, when others cannot?

5 Special Questions To Ask Your Father—Before It’s Too Late.

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on June 04, 2015 in All Grown Up
Storytelling can be a powerful opportunity to reinforce your values and teach important life lessons to your child. Whether you choose to be the question-asker, the storyteller, or both, take some time to celebrate Father’s Day with a beautiful round of family storytelling.

Grieving the Loss of a Child: The Five Stage Myth

The trauma experienced by grieving parents cannot be captured by the five stage model.

Saying No: the Most Affirming and Authentic Thing You Can Do

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in Living Single
The "Affirmative No" is "the refusal to pursue a course of action that, on serious reflection, you discover is not right for you." It can be the most important, affirming, and authentic act of your life.

What Trolls Don't Know About Children's Mental Illness

By Liza Long on June 04, 2015 in The Accidental Advocate
The Internet has made experts of all of us. But when your child is suffering from a mental illness, the "obvious" causes aren't always so obvious. Let’s all stop to think, just for a minute, before making a potentially hateful and hurtful comment about an issue that might be more complex than it appears at first glance.

Enough About “Inner Demons” Already!

Maybe it was the 1000th time I heard that familiar, but fictitious, explanation: “It must have been his [her/their] inner demons that made them do it!” that I felt the strongest urge to scream. Why? Simply because the errant thoughts and behaviors we’re all prone to can almost always be understood without alluding to satanic forces insidiously goading us from within.