Essential Reads

Honey, I've Optimized the Kids

By Hara Estroff Marano on December 05, 2016 in Nation of Wimps
Turning out OK is no longer an outcome acceptable to parents. Today children must be optimized. And that may be why failure-to-launch is a growing problem among young adults.

Why Kids Believe in Santa Claus (And Why That's Okay)

By Vanessa LoBue, Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in The Baby Scientist
Some scientists and parents believe it can be harmful to lie to children, even if it's about something harmless like Santa Claus. Research suggests Santa might be okay after all.

A Step-Child's Guide to Step-Parenting

Each family has its own story with its own peculiar complexities, but most have a moment in which the new boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a parent...

How Parents Raise Children to Fit In

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in The Human Beast
There is a lot of skepticism about whether parents truly affect their children. Comparing kids in different societies finds links between parenting and outcomes.

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Frosh Week Worries: Overprotected Kids Are the Most at Risk

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on September 01, 2016 in Nurturing Resilience
There is good research to suggest that children who experience the right amount of stress will do better at college than children of parents who snowplow away problems.

“Lumos Solem”: Breaking Free from a Stress Cycle

By Stuart Shanker DPhil on September 01, 2016 in Self-Reg
How do we break out of a stress cycle? Harry Potter holds some clues. Lumos Solem is actually a pretty good motto for this process.

How to Get the Deepest Rest of All

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on August 31, 2016 in Feeling It
Many of us are tired or burned out, here's how to restore ourselves for good.

Guilt: In This Case, You're Not Responsible!

Are straight parents able to change the sexual orientation of their LGBT kids? Should they feel guilty if they can't?

The Real Narrative of Life

Every story is unique. But the path always leads back to one’s Authentic Being. Love is the sustenance, and authenticity is the fountain of our aliveness.

Dealing With Difficult Teachers

Strategies to put in place before requesting a teacher change.

On an Albert Bandura Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 31, 2016 in How To Do Life
How work can enhance family life.

On Closing the "Word Gap"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 30, 2016 in How To Do Life
The 30-million word-gap "cure:" A confusion of correlation with causation?

Remember Your Best Teacher? One 82-Year-Old Does

As students head back to school this year, Bill, an 82-year-old widower, grieves the loss of his wife. What do the two have in common? Teachers.

Reconciling as Parents

Can divorced parents act like parents, not spurned lovers? These women found a way.

Why Are There Mommy Wars but No Daddy Wars?

By Amy Tuteur M.D. on August 29, 2016 in Push Back
Is this really about what's best for children? Is this really about "the science"? Or is this yet another, albeit thoroughly modern, way to control women?

Primary Affects

We have been exploring how our earliest, innate feelings work – Distress, Anger, Fear, Shame, and Dissmell. This month we look at Enjoyment, Shame, Disgust, and Dissmell.

Helping Kids Succeed—Minus the Stress

The secret of high-achievers is NOT tutoring or AP classes

A Is For Aunt

By Susan Hooper on August 28, 2016 in Detours and Tangents
Since 2003, I have lived four miles away from my two nephews. During that time, they grew from boys to young men—and they transformed my life.

Dear Parent, Call Me With Any Concerns About Your Student

By Marcia Morris M.D. on August 28, 2016 in College Wellness
At a time of increasing distress among college students, I want more parents to collaborate in their child’s psychiatric care.

A Marriage for the Kids’ Sake

Kids benefit when their parents co-parent well together (even if their parents are not married).

Response to'The School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying Lie'

Juxtaposing the emergence of bullying as a contemporary social problem against the emergence of domestic violence as a social problem during the 60s and 70s is instructive.

Every Stereotype of Single People, Debunked by Science

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in Living Single
Science shows that the common stereotypes and negative perceptions about single people are simply not true.

How Schools (Sometimes) Fail Our Children

By Maureen D Healy on August 26, 2016 in Creative Development
Can your child's school improve in certain areas?

Clear Evidence: Spanking Will Harm Kids

A large body of research definitively shows that spanking has negative consequences for kids.

Serious Learning Happens at Summer Camp - Without Technology

For those ending a summer at camp, the transition back to home, school and screen time can be infused with lessons from June, July and August.

Divorce an Unreliable Predictor of Aggressiveness

Severe aggression is rare among children of divorced parents.

Safety First Before You Pokémon Go Out Into the World

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in Screen Time
Interest in Pokémon Go has waned a bit in the US, but it is still very much active in other parts of the world, as evidenced by the recent stampede in Taiwan.

My Mother Won't Listen to Me

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when your mom won't talk to you
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How Am I Doing?

Most women never completely outgrow the need for approval from their mothers.

Is Committing Rape Just Making a Mistake?

Why are young male athletes getting away with sexually assaulting girls? Entitlement is part of the answer.

Will Sugar Take Away the New Baby Blues?

I love this baby so much! But why do I need to eat and sleep all the time?

Win-Win Parenting When It All Falls Apart

It starts by extending compassion to ourselves, which we can do when we Stop, Drop and Breathe. Just stop. Drop your agenda. Take a deep breath.

To Be or Not to Be: School of Hard Knocks or the Quad?

By Dena Kouremetis on August 23, 2016 in The Unedited Offspring
You dream all your life of having a child who values what college has to offer, and then you find out otherwise. Have you failed at parenting? We don't think so...

Taking Care of Elderly Parents

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on August 23, 2016 in Life After 50
Is taking care of an elderly parent making you feel guilty no matter how much you do?