Essential Reads

A Happy Ending Matters in this Hollywood Divorce

By Wendy Paris on September 27, 2016 in Splitopia
The negative stories about the Brangelina break-up are dangerous, because the expectation that divorce must be a tragedy for all involved can create just that outcome.

Will Your Gamer Survive College?

By Victoria L. Dunckley M.D. on September 26, 2016 in Mental Wealth
If you're concerned about your son's video game habits spinning out of control when he goes to college, you're right to be worried—but here's what parents can do.
Ken Ginsburg

I Do Not Have an “Empty Nest,” My Children Are “In Flight”

Are you in mourning because your child is growing up? Are you wondering what life looks like after your teen leaves home? Let's celebrate both independence and interdependence.

Help Your College Student Combat a Major Danger: Depression

By Marcia Morris M.D. on September 25, 2016 in College Wellness
With the right treatment plan, your child can develop the tools to fight her way out of the darkness of depression and into the light of recovery.

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How Divorce Is Changing for Our Neighbors Up North

By Wendy Paris on July 05, 2016 in Splitopia
New article in Canada's largest newspaper looks at Canadian couples who co-parent cooperatively, celebrate holidays together, and even help out with each other’s laundry.
Mack Hicks

School Reform? Let Them Eat Cake!

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on July 04, 2016 in Digital Pandemic
Is force-feeding advanced academics really a good idea?

Guilty of the Sin of Outdoing

Some families are truly happy to have their child outdo them. But others may resent our success.

Being With What Is

We all have the task of knowing ourselves as deeply as we can, and then manifesting that self as fully as possible in the world.

How Sex Changes During Pregnancy, Nursing, and Parenthood

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 01, 2016 in All About Sex
Pregnancy, nursing, and parenthood have sexual impacts few expectant parents appreciate.

Smartphones vs. "Smart Parenting" Part One

There is something fundamentally wrong when a child's greatest source of comfort is their parent’s smartphone.

The Origins of Our Emotional Life: Our Earliest Feelings

Our earliest nine inborn feelings—“primary affects”—are key to understanding human development and emotional life. What are they? How do they work?

Struggles That Make Kids Stronger

Sometimes the best thing we can do for our kids is to allow them to struggle.

Helping Your Shy Child

When they’re around other kids, shy children feel like outsiders looking in. Here are ways to help your child feel more comfortable and confident in social situations.

Independence Day

America truly is the land of the free and the home of the brave. This year as the fireworks light up the sky, remember the reason we celebrate this special day in our history.

5 Reasons Teens drive their Parents Crazy

Adolescence is a treacherous period – seismic changes are often driven by 5 key beliefs that adolescents hold dear.

Children Will See and Learn

How do we help teens, grow and thrive in healthy ways? Establish gender-neutral standards for behavior and enforce rules uniformly. Don't give in to bullying.

They Dream of School, and None of the Dreams Are Good

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on June 29, 2016 in Freedom to Learn
I don’t know why these particular dream themes are so common. How sad, though, that schooling, which is more or less required by law, produces a lifetime of bad dreams.

Mending the Eating Disorder Fence: Neither This nor That

Attachment issues in children and adults are precursors or precipitating factors in the development of eating disorders. What does this mean?

As Simple as Breathing

The easiest way to remind yourself to let go of tension is to breathe. Noticing our breathing brings us back into our body, back into the present moment, back into balance.

Encouraging Independence in Young Children

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on June 28, 2016 in Once Upon a Child
Moving away from neediness and toward confident autonomy in the school-age years.

Messing Up Literacy in Texas

Find out why reading scores have plummeted in Texas and across the nation and what can be done to improve literacy education.
Carl Pickhardt Ph. D.

Conducting Conflict with Your Adolescent

The curriculum of family life teaches the adolescent how to manage significant relationships. Learning how to conduct conflict constructively is one important skill for later on.
Joyce Klein, Photographer/Don Greif Copyright owner

Good Enough Parents Are the Best Parents

Good enough parents are the best parents. There’s an obsession in our culture with perfection. By Don Greif, Ph.D.

Pain, Ambiguous Loss and Acceptance

Acceptance can be learning to accept that pain, right now, is reality, while simultaneously fighting for a better future.

Why Time-Outs Need a Time Out

In using time-outs parents unintentionally convey that they are unable to contain or tolerate their own feelings.

How to Get Children to Eat Vegetables

By Cliff McKinney Ph.D. on June 24, 2016 in From Whining to Winning
Many parents struggle with getting their children to eat vegetables, but the solution may be simpler than you think!

Clark Kent Syndrome: When Boys Are Social Media Supermen

There is a disturbing trend that seems to be whispered about in the hallways of schools.

4 Ways to Build Resilience (All Kids Are Not the Same)

We’re told resilience can be built in all children with the same tools: Mindfulness, self-esteem, a positive caring relationship. Research tells us something different.

Why You Should Never Call Your Picky Eater a "Picky Eater"

By Dina Rose Ph.D. on June 23, 2016 in The Art & Science of Teaching Kids to Eat Right
Parents know not to call their child, "The Dumb One." But Picky Eater? When identity shapes eating behavior, thoughts become reality.

It Didn't Start With You: The Mystery of Inherited Trauma

By Mark Matousek on June 23, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
How do we inherit family traumas? What tools can we use to work with painful experiences that did not begin with us? Family Constellations pioneer Mark Wolynn explains.

Raising Empathic Kids

Michele Borba's new book "Unselfie" offers practical ways to help kids learn to care about others.

6 Ways to Talk with Your Kids About Money

Children learn about money and how to handle it, wisely or not, from watching and listening to their parents.

Three Key Father Parenting Jobs, Analytically Speaking

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on June 21, 2016 in Full Living
Psychoanalytic theory has a lot to say about the role of mothers in early infant psychological development. Less familiar is the roles fathers play in their childrens' developement