Essential Reads

The Surprising News about Children's Mental Health

New research suggest today’s kids are in pretty good psychological shape

What Happens When the Whole Family Plays with Food?

“Family therapy can be helpful; family dinner is transformative.”

Police Versus Community: Why All the Trauma?

Using a trauma-informed lens to understand the promise of community policing.

The Digital Revolution & the Nature of Adolescent Passage

A look at how technology and connectivity affect youth development

Recent Posts on Parenting

When You Feel Like a Hot Mess

Ever feel that you were a hot mess? I guess that’s the new way of saying, “I think I’m having a nervous breakdown.” All around you Murphy’s law is in full force, and you are honestly having a hard time believing that so much could go wrong so quickly. This year could only be better, right? But you’re still having a hard time.

The Epidemic of Insecurity

The stressors in your life adversely impact your self-esteem and trigger insecurities. Because you cannot avoid them, learn how to negate them. These steps will help you combat your insecurities and strengthen your confidence in you own worth and abilities.

Evidence? We Don't Need No Stinkin' Evidence!

By Alfie Kohn on April 07, 2015 in The Homework Myth
It's possible to prove that rewards and punishments aren't effective in the long run. But what if defenses of these practices are rooted more in ideology than psychology?

Can Narcissists Ever Change?

We tend to associate narcissism with psychological problems that impact a variety of everyday behaviors and relationships. However, according to a new theory of narcissism, one of the three basic types has the chance to grow up psychologically healthy.

Uncontested Divorce Can Improve a Relationship

By Wendy Paris on April 07, 2015 in Splitopia
New legal processes can improve a relationhip on the other side of marriage. Some of the most exciting innovations in divorce are coming from the legal professionals.

Everything Ends Up as Pornography

By Steve Albrecht DBA on April 07, 2015 in The Act of Violence
Internet access to pornography is negatively reshaping dating relationships Millennials have with each other.

What’s Hiding Under Pollyanna’s Smile?

By Elizabeth Wagele on April 07, 2015 in The Career Within You
Some Enneagram types value appearing positive more than others do. Many of us 5-Observers challenge the prevailing opinion or look at the negative side while searching for more information. Many introverts and some 5s, 4-Romantics, 8-Asserters and counter-phobic 6-Questioners dislike overly-optimistic language as it seems automatic and insincere.

How Parent-Child Relations Have Changed

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on April 07, 2015 in The Prime of Life
The parent-child bond in the twenty-first century.

Failing Our Fathers

Many studies of fatherhood leave out nonresidential fathers, particularly those of lower educational and financial backgrounds. A new book by Ronald Mincy and colleagues offers rich insight into the challenges faced by U.S. economically vulnerable nonresidential fathers.

How to Give Unconditional Love to Your Child and to Yourself

Parenting is really, truly, the hardest thing any of us will ever do, because it requires us to grow. So we all need to give ourselves support if we want to parent well. Instead of berating yourself when you make a mistake, resolve to learn from it.

How Jealousy Can Poison a Friendship

The people, places, and things that cause you to be jealous of another tell you more about yourself than you might realize.

Is Your Adult Child Having A Mental Health Crisis?

By Melissa Deuter M.D. on April 06, 2015 in The In-Between
Many young adults with stress induced mental health symptoms can benefit from learning simple coping skills, like time management or self-soothing. The presence of mental health symptoms does not have to mean disability.

7 Signs of People With Integrity

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on April 06, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
Some very basic signs of integrity are dreadfully rare - see my reference to physicians - but the good news about integrity is that we're not born with or without it, so we can change how much integrity we show in everyday life. Check out these seven examples of integrity and ask yourself how often you see these signs in everyday life.

An Open Letter to Parents Who Let Their Kids Drink at Home

What To Do About Letting Your Teens Drink At Home

The Science and Tools to Put Baby on a Wellness Path

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on April 06, 2015 in Singletons
Baby holds his breath; baby loses hair; baby cries for hours. What to do? A new book has answers to reduce parental anxiety and give baby the best beginning to optimize your child’s first crucial 18 months.

Can Healthy Living Reduce Cancer Risk? (Part Two of Two)

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on April 06, 2015 in Media Spotlight
According to available statistics, roughly fourteen million people worldwide were newly diagnosed with cancer in 2012 alone. That same year saw about eight million cancer deaths. How many of those deaths might have been prevented using available medical knowledge about cancer risks? And how many more cancer deaths can we expect over the next three decades?

Adolescence and Making Parents Proud

While the attached child tends to be happy to make parents proud, the detached adolescent can be more ambivalent about being a source of parental pride.

Weighing In... Should Schools Assess Body Mass Index (BMI)?

A second grade girl brings home a letter from her school revealing her BMI scores taken in September 2014 and March 2015. Her scores didn't fall within the "healthy range". So puzzled by the letter, the little girl she got off the bus and asked the troubling question, "Does this mean I’m fat?"

Biased? Yes, against the tide and FOR baby’s needs

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on April 05, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
Someone recently remarked that I was biased... Yes, I am biased FOR babies. I am out of sync with biases that lead people to think letting babies scream is a good thing. Not!

8 Tips to Help Your Distractible Child Succeed

Learn these eight ways to coach your distractible child to success.

Three Ways To Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Well intended parents lose sight of the emotional damage their children experience from yelling. Here are three ways to break out of the parent yelling trap.

Just Say No!

Many people find themselves agreeing to do something when they don't really want to. It may be that in some areas of your life you find it difficult to say no. Why is this?

Public School Problems Are Solved, Almost!

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on April 04, 2015 in Digital Pandemic
When all children are treated the same, all children lose. We need to overcome two damaging myths: that all children are pretty much the same and that all children should go to college.

If I Talk to a Therapist Will I Stop Speaking to My Parents?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on April 04, 2015 in Off the Couch
A young man walked into my office for his first therapy session. “If I start talking to you, am I going to end up not talking to my parents?” he asked.

What Are the Most Important 10 Years of Your Life?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on April 04, 2015 in The Prime of Life
The ten years from eighteen to twenty-eight are the pivotal decade in a person’s life.

Alzheimer's Discordance and Family Discord

There is usually a significant difference between how the person with the disease sees (or doesn’t see) the symptoms of the disease, and how the care partner sees them. This “discordance” is one of the most distressing and difficult challenges care partners face in trying to cope with the illness.

The Paradox of Self-Pity

Everybody knows someone who's steeped in the language of self-pity. All they talk about is how rough they have it. They constantly seek sympathy, to the point where they turn others off. But contrary to what they're putting out there, such people usually have no real sympathy for themselves.

Getting Testy About All Those Tests?

Is your school district testing too much or too little?

Should We Call it Postpartum Depression?

For reasons that are both straightforward and extremely complex, I just think the terminology should be different.

Andreas Lubitz Desperately Needed Help

Germanwings' pilot Andreas Lubitz was depressed and needed help.