Essential Reads

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

Recent Posts on Parenting

Fathers and Sons

Boyhood memories of our fathers provide lessons for our own fatherhood

Top Five Social Media Lessons

There is no way around it, we have all had made social media mistakes. Either we have responded to an email out of frustration, accidentally sent something to the wrong person, or posted something we later regretted. No one is immune to acting impulsively, but doing so online can come with major consequences.

Does Becoming a Dad Make Men More Sexist or Progressive?

When asked to select from a list of ten items the two or three traits that they most valued—including different ranking of intelligence, attractiveness, sweetness, independence, and strength—men report different priorities for wives as for daughters. What does this tell us about men’s relationships to women and their attitudes regarding gender equality?

The Motherhood Safety Net

By Juli Fraga on June 13, 2015 in The Birth of Motherhood
Expanding mental health screening for maternal mental health

Fathers and Sons

Ciao! Phil Zimbardo here. I’d like to share some alarming new information we’ve gathered about men and boys, fathers and sons...

A Different View

By Alfie Kohn on June 11, 2015 in The Homework Myth
The opposite of self-centeredness goes way beyond the Golden Rule. It's the capacity to imagine someone else's point of view. Fortunately, there are practical strategies for helping children to acquire that skill.

Mira Hu

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 11, 2015 in Minority Report
The recent story of an Asian teenager running away after her parents dropped her off to take her SAT test should cause Asian parents to pause and ask themselves if they are contributing to unreal academic expectations for their children. Beyond the high-pressure stakes of college entrance exams, AP classes, lies the stifling cultural theme of Asian honor and shame.

Grow a Child's Empathy in 3 Easy Ways

When young people experience and act upon feelings of empathy, they are more likely to achieve greater success and emotional well-being. These 3 phases of development help young people feel good about themselves and act in ways that benefit others. In the process, it just might help them change the world!

Kids Are Safer Outside Than Inside Their Homes

A recent report on risky outdoor play tells us that our children are actually healthier when they are less supervised and outdoors in unstructured play than indoors and supervised by their parents. Overprotective parenting may actually be doing children more harm than good.

3 Ways to Build Rapport and Influence Others

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on June 11, 2015 in Turning Point
From my experience dealing with terrorists, I teach you 3 powerful ways in which you can bond with the insurgents in your own life. Knowing how to bond with others is at the root of a fulfilling and happy life.

11 Reasons Never to Shame Anyone

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 11, 2015 in Living Single
When people behave badly (or when we think they do), we are often tempted to shame them. From psychological research, though, we have learned that what happens to people who are shamed can be quite dire.

Intergenerational Transmission of Irrelationship

Irrelationship can manifest powerfully in places where we least expect it to. Subtly, our family relationship patterns, when carefully examined, are shown to span generations. We are not as individual as we think we are... but we can choose to change the future by breaking the chain right now.

Your 10-Step Plan to Stop Yelling

When we're angry at our children, most of us burst out with comments we would never say if we were calm. Later, we're remorseful. We apologize. But kids react to our yelling by putting another brick in the wall between us, and dismantling that wall isn't easy. Wouldn't it be amazing to simply stop yelling, even when you're angry? It's completely possible.

Distinct ADHD Symptoms in Girls Result in Under-Diagnosis

Understanding gender differences leads to a better diagnosis.

Contact

The world can be a lonely place

Do Warning Signs Apply to Parents of Kids With Autism?

Many parents of children with autism find themselves becoming accustomed to routine discomfort, and, as a result, may not acknowledge typical warning signs as an indication to seek outside support.

Raising Sensitive Boys

By Maureen D Healy on June 10, 2015 in Creative Development
Are you raising an emotionally sensitive boy?

Unloved Daughters and Their Siblings: Five Common Patterns

By Peg Streep on June 10, 2015 in Tech Support
The lack of maternal love shapes a daughter in myriad ways but it alters the dynamic of the family as well. Taking a close look at what happens between and among brothers and sisters when a mother is unloving...

Do You Know Your Father? Do You Like Him?

A bad father attaches an emotional price tag to everything, meaning that your success is his success, your failure is his failure and, essentially, nothing is ever yours. He’s not there as a support or a guide but as an overseer and a judge.

“Appisode” Applications

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on June 10, 2015 in Screen Time
For parents of toddlers and preschoolers, Appisodes are a newer app available through Disney and iTunes that allows children the experience of watching and playing along with their favorite episodes.

Fathers' Impact on ADHD

Fathers have a large impact on the behaviors of children with ADHD. Find out what makes the the role of a father so important in ADHD.

How to Stay Calm? The Same Way You Get to Carnegie Hall

Regulating our own emotions is the hardest part of parenting. The good news is, every time you resist acting on your anger and instead restore yourself to calm, it gets easier. In fact, neurologists say you're actually rewiring your brain to be calmer and more loving.

Must Judges Follow Children’s Wishes Over Their Custody?

Giving children a voice in family law conflicts.

Why Are Teen Brains Designed for Risk-taking?

Here are four ways parents can reduce the danger

The Whole-Brain Child Workbook

By The Book Brigade on June 09, 2015 in The Author Speaks
Children’s minds develop through the quality of attachment and communication with parents. It works best when parents first understand their own life experience.

Teach Kids the Wisdom of Failure Long Before Graduation

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on June 09, 2015 in Worry Wise
Our job is to not wait for graduation to talk about failure and success. It’s a little late then. Rather, we need to be rolling out the red carpet for our kids throughout their education. Making saying “I don’t know” or making mistakes safe. Making “I don’t know for sure” a noble and defendable position.

Nature’s Original Probiotic: Breast Milk

By Erica Sonnenburg Ph.D. on June 08, 2015 in The Good Gut
Mother's milk contains more for the gut than just the oligosaccharides that feed her growing child's microbiome. It also has another special ingredient to nourish her baby’s developing gut. Breast milk contains probiotics.

Parental Complicity in Adolescent "Problems"

Parental perception and parental enabling can contribute to what constitute adolescent "problems" in their eyes.

How 4th Grade Predicts Your Future

By Mitch Prinstein Ph.D. on June 07, 2015 in The Modern Teen
Recent research reveals remarkably strong links between the way you got along with your peers in elementary school and a wide range of outcomes in adulthood. Can your health, your happiness, your salary, your insecurities, and your relationships all be traced back to what happened to you on the playground in grade school?

Duggar Sisters Interview: Disturbing Message About Sex Abuse

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on June 06, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
The Duggar sisters' attempt to whitewash the sexual abuse is problematic, sending a message to perpetrators and victims that a little over-the-clothes touching isn't really so bad.