Essential Reads

Waving Sadly and Yet Joyfully Goodbye

First Day of School Reflections from a Recovering Mr. Mom Newbie

What If the Diagnosis of Autism Is Wrong?

There are several reasons why children may be misdiagnosed as autistic.

For the Sake of the Children

Divorce isn’t failure; living in unhappiness is failure

What We Like About Stories

Both adults and children appreciate elements of surprise and predicability.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Toward a More Civil Divorce

By Liza Long on July 16, 2015 in The Accidental Advocate
In a high-conflict divorce, both adults share the blame. But the adversarial family court system doesn't do much to help parents or their children. My thoughts as a mother on the three Michigan children sent to juvenile detention for refusing lunch with their father: it's just lunch.

What Artistic Pigeons Tell Us About Superstitious Parents

Like most first-time parents, we had a set of baby-care rules that was more complicated than the federal tax code and more sacred than the Bible. We wanted everyone to follow it to a T.

Teenage Insecurities

To ensure peace of mind and safety of their children during adolescence, parents need to take early preemptive action. Help teenagers improve their self-esteem during adolescence, and also strengthen and maintain a positive relationship, by taking advantage of these five pieces of advice.

What Race Is Rachel Dolezal?

Rachel Dolezal says she is black, but many others--whites and blacks, liberals and conservatives--disagree. What race is she really? How should we react to her claim?

A Better Way to Combat Anti-Semitic Bullying

By Izzy Kalman on July 16, 2015 in Resilience to Bullying
A recent settlement of $4.5 million in the anti-Semitic anti-bullying lawsuit against the Pine Bush School District in Upstate New York is a questionable cause for rejoicing. The taxpayers will pay, the lawyers are the biggest beneficiaries, and it will probably do little to reduce bullying and anti-Semitism. My free manual can do a much better job with less effort.

A Debate: Is Marriage Worth It?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 16, 2015 in How To Do Life
These pros and cons may help you decide.

10 Lessons I Learned from Little League Baseball

By Kate Roberts Ph.D. on July 15, 2015 in Savvy Parenting
Most baseball players strike out 7 of 10 times at bat. Baseball is great preparation for achieving life goals in that it requires perseverance, commitment, determination and frustration tolerance in order to be a great player.Baseball is fantastic way to learn those life skills while having fun.

Screening Out Screen Time

We've become addicted to our screens, obsessively checking email, chomping at the Twitter feed, and buried in Facebook. The disquiet many of us feel turns to downright worry when we see our children growing up screen-saturated. Research suggests this may have serious consequences for development.

10 Ways the Children of Single Parents Defy All Stereotypes

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 15, 2015 in Living Single
Here are 10 stereotype-defying scientifically-based facts about the children of single parents. Sometimes they do even better than the children of married parents. How is that possible?

Wired Parent, Wired Child

When it comes to managing their kids' screen-time, parents are often blamed for being bad role models. But in practice, blaming and shaming parents doesn't work. Here's what does.

Don’t Be Shameless! Why Good People Feel Bad Emotions

We tend to protect our children from shame. Should we?

The Value of Spending One-On-One Time With Your Children

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on July 15, 2015 in Once Upon a Child
One-on-one time with your children - all of them - keeps your unique relationship with each one of them healthy and in tune.

Seven Challenges of Being a Single Mom

Other moms grapple with exactly the same issues – from self-doubt and anxiety over money to the stress of making decisions alone – and they've come up with some creative solutions that may work for you too.

Releasing Greatness

Since our modern society is fueled by innovation, leaders are needed in every field to develop ingenious, out-of-box thinking not just in themselves – more importantly in their people. Creating environment that release greatness in others is quickly becoming the most important challenge of the 21st century and one that will pay off for generations to come.

Three Tips for Discipline Without Desperation

You may feel that no discipline of any kind has ever worked with your child. If so, you are certainly not the only one who feels that way.

Will Having Children Really Make You Happier?

By Paul Dolan Ph.D. on July 14, 2015 in Happiness by Design
Research shows that the effect of having children on happiness is, at best, neutral. But is this really the whole story?

The Day I Quit Boxing

"Suddenly I stopped and looked up at him and said, "Dad, I don't think I want to box any more."

Suicide: From Darkness to Light

Odds are you or someone you know has been affected directly or indirectly by suicide. If you know someone who lives in the darkness, or if you are personally struggling to find the light, don't give up hope. No matter how dark life may seem there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Resilience: The Capacity to Rebuild and Grow from Adversity

Resilience is not a genetic trait. It is derived from the ways children learn to think and act when they are faced with obstacles, large and small. How do teachers cultivate resilience in the classroom?

Color Me Bored and Creative and Calm

Relearn the art of art and the ability to just sit and be.

Some Advice for First-Time College Students and Parents

By Dana S Dunn Ph.D. on July 13, 2015 in Head of the Class
It's normal for first time college students and their parents to be a little jittery about this exciting transition and there are things to think about and to do that can make it a good one.

Keeping Adolescents Mindful of Parental Needs

For parents who want their teenager to act mindful of their needs, training in this relatedness needs to start in childhood (when it is mostly welcome) and not put off to adolescence (when it is mostly not.)

Rich Kids

Research has found that privileged kids are, as a whole, more self-centered, depressed, and self-destructive. They're more narcissistic, but struggle to develop a sense of self.

Is it OK Not to Come Out?

“Is it ok NOT to come out?” In short, depending on the circumstances, the answer is sometimes yes.

Cheerful to a Fault

By Alfie Kohn on July 13, 2015 in The Homework Myth
Is happiness really what we want most for our kids? Should we question "higher expectations" as a slogan for school reform? Is it time to rethink responses like "Good job!" and "Ooh, you're so close!"?

What Are the Qualities of Competent Coaches?

“A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment.” John Wooden, legendary UCLA basketball coach

Helping Siblings of a Defiant Child See Fair Is Not Equal

Your children need to learn that you will do your best to meet each of their unique needs, but this does not mean that everything will be equal between them.

Brace Yourself

By Joann P. Galst Ph.D. on July 12, 2015 in Fertility Factor
While egg freezing can offer a woman the possibility of extending her fertile years, it is a procedure that is far from benign in its psychological ramifications.

Recent Advances in Understanding Parental Alienation

Mistaken beliefs about the genesis of parental alienation and appropriate remedies have shaped both socio-legal policy and therapeutic and legal practice in ways that have failed to meet children’s needs during and after parental separation, and therefore are contrary to the principle of the best interest of the child.

The Tendency to Smugness in the Culture of Psychology

I hope your first thought about overt anger is that something unjust has happened and not that someone is too emotional or being mean.