Essential Reads

Adolescence and Honoring Agreements

Why adolescents can make more agreements with a parent than they tend to keep

One More Reason to Unplug Before Bedtime

Reading a bedtime story improves a child's brain function and mental imagery.

10 Ways to Stay Connected with Your Adolescent

The challenge of parenting a teenager is staying connected as you grow apart

How I'm Using Science to Help My Daughter Keep Liking Math

Priming studies show uphill battle for girls and math, and how to help

Recent Posts on Parenting

Public School Problems Are Solved, Almost!

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on April 04, 2015 in Digital Pandemic
When all children are treated the same, all children lose. We need to overcome two damaging myths: that all children are pretty much the same and that all children should go to college.

If I Talk to a Therapist Will I Stop Speaking to My Parents?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on April 04, 2015 in Off the Couch
A young man walked into my office for his first therapy session. “If I start talking to you, am I going to end up not talking to my parents?” he asked.

What Are the Most Important 10 Years of Your Life?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on April 04, 2015 in The Prime of Life
The ten years from eighteen to twenty-eight are the pivotal decade in a person’s life.

Alzheimer's Discordance and Family Discord

There is usually a significant difference between how the person with the disease sees (or doesn’t see) the symptoms of the disease, and how the care partner sees them. This “discordance” is one of the most distressing and difficult challenges care partners face in trying to cope with the illness.

The Paradox of Self-Pity

Everybody knows someone who's steeped in the language of self-pity. All they talk about is how rough they have it. They constantly seek sympathy, to the point where they turn others off. But contrary to what they're putting out there, such people usually have no real sympathy for themselves.

Getting Testy About All Those Tests?

Is your school district testing too much or too little?

Should We Call it Postpartum Depression?

For reasons that are both straightforward and extremely complex, I just think the terminology should be different.

Andreas Lubitz Desperately Needed Help

Germanwings' pilot Andreas Lubitz was depressed and needed help.

Will Love Conquer Addiction?

Addiction is a complex disorder that includes neuropsychological changes, biochemical disruption, and interpersonal chaos.

I Am A Bad Daughter

How To Be A Good Daughter

Gestational Age and Learning Disabilities

Should preterm children receive learning support early in their school career?

The Shared Joy of Holiday Cooking

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on April 02, 2015 in A Million Meals
A holiday meal has the benefit of allowing you to cook for an occasion that has two rare qualities—time and respect—built in.

The True Heart of Money

By Michael F. Kay on April 02, 2015 in Financial Life Focus
Money might be the target of your desire. The reason you work, get out of bed in the morning, maybe even the driving force behind the endless hours you devote to its creation.

6 Things Dieticians Need to Know—and Then Pass on to Parents

Talking up health abdicates "tasty" to junk. Six hidden reasons kids won't eat their veggies.

The "Silver Tsunami"

By Sheila Weinstein on April 02, 2015 in What Do I Do Now?
Choosing how and where we age.

How Can We React Less to the Stress in Our Lives?

By Allison Carmen on April 02, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
As our minds get consumed with stressful thoughts at home or work, this is the moment when we are most in danger of overreacting to situations like our children not listening, a disagreement with a co-worker or a difficult client. Here is a tool to help you show up with more ease, patience and kindness in all of your daily interactions.

The Attractiveness of Personality Traits

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on April 02, 2015 in A Sideways View
Some traits are more attractive than others. But there are downsides to all extreme scorers. Is there a downside to being a sociable extravert or a highly agreeable person?

Is Technology Disempowering Us?

How to live (sanely) with technology should be mindfully chosen by human grownups, not left up to our children, or worse, our devices to decide.

The Flynn Effect as Adaptive Change

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on April 01, 2015 in The Human Beast
All living creatures can change to fit in with their environment. Some of that flexibility is due to gene selection but a lot is developmental. The Flynn effect of rising IQ in developed countries is an enrichment effect of modern life. It arises due to the adaptive response of our brain to the increased challenges it faces.

The Fastest Way to Get Over It

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 01, 2015 in Ambigamy
Grief, mourning, grudges—necessary but man, can they suck away the years and we don't get that many years anyway you cut it. Here are a few fast-acting poems that can keep the sucking to a minimum.

Does It Really Matter Where You Go to College?

If you want to be a leader in society, where you go to school probably matters. A good college, after all, might increase the likelihood of your success. When parents worry about which school their kids go to, they may be acting quite rationally.

Study Folly?

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on April 01, 2015 in In Excess
One of the more interesting types of Culture Bound Syndromes is Brain Fag Syndrome (BFS). The symptoms are such as to prevent students from carrying on with their work and include various unpleasant head symptoms, memory loss, visual difficulties, inability to concentrate, and inability to write. But is this real and what does the psychological literature say?

How Young Is Too Young?

Do you remember feeling pressure as a child to do better at school, fit in socially, or behave more appropriately? Making the right decision was not always as easy as adults and cheerful children's books sometimes painted it. Luckily, stumbling slow motion through a decade or so of dysfunctional days (aka natural childhood development) was an expected and accepted part...

One Person–One Language and Bilingual Children

A well-known approach used with children who are acquiring two languages simultaneously is for each parent to use his or her own language with their child. It is an appealing strategy with advantages but also some inconveniences. Researching into its modern onset a bit more than 100 years ago has revealed a surprising finding.

Social Challenges of Children With ADHD (Part 2)

“Parental friendship coaching” may be an important key to helping children with ADHD address their social challenges.

Loves Lost: One Troubled Pilot Brings Grieving to Many

One wonders how many words were left unspoken by those who boarded the plane? Will those left behind expressed gratitude because their last moments together were a blessing? Or did they part with an unkind word or look that can never be repaired?

Boyhood

By Elaine Reese Ph.D. on March 31, 2015 in Tell Me a Story
Richard Linklater's film Boyhood beautifully illustrates milestones in child and adolescent development. The film is required watching for all students of child development, as well as for all parents.

Social Challenges of Children With ADHD

For children, the most difficult part of having Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often the social challenges it causes.

Rock On: Getting Your Teen to Talk

By Elaine Reese Ph.D. on March 31, 2015 in Tell Me a Story
Teens need to be able to disclose their thoughts, struggles, and dreams with their parents. Learn ways to communicate with your teen that help build your relationship, and that will make it more likely that your teen will keep talking to you.

5 Signs That Seeking Help May Benefit You

People often get stressed, have problems with others, or have problems coping with life. Yet many don't seek professional help. Here are some ideas about when therapy may benefit you or your family.