Essential Reads

Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree

Different visions? Find the problem under the problem.

Do Generations Exist?

Are generations caricatures or are they drivers of social and cultural change?

Anti-Vaxxers Love Their Children Too

They're wrong, but are they crazy?

Recent Posts on Parenting

6 Things We Must Accept to Be Happy

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in Compassion Matters
Many of us are going about happiness all wrong. In order to discover our own true form of happiness, we have to shed baggage from our past, free ourselves from outside influences and identify who we alone really are.

Are Your Boundaries Making You Miserable?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in Evolution of the Self
Sure, you need boundaries. And undeniably, you have the right to assert them—whether to safeguard your privacy, self-respect, or basic sense of decency. So it’s crucial to develop the ability and self-confidence to say no, or to tell others to stop doing what they’re doing. But what also needs to be emphasized is that some of your boundaries may be holding you hostage. . .

Attachment Styles Can't Change, Can They?

John Bowlby, the founding father of attachment theory, argued that the attachment style formed in early childhood often continues to shape a person’s behavior far into adulthood, permeating all future liasons. The attachment style of adults, however, need not completely reflect the child’s early interactions with a caregiver. Sometimes it undergoes a radical shift.

Mass Shootings in America: Crisis and Opportunity

By Joe Pierre M.D. on February 12, 2015 in Psych Unseen
Why do some people commit mass murder? Is it violent entertainment, guns, mental illness... or something else that lurks inside all of us and is reflected in American culture?

The Psychological Antidote to ISIS – Part I

By Ran Zilca on February 12, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
Can we humans look at ourselves in the mirror today and confidently like what we see? If aliens are watching us from faraway galaxies, how would they describe us today? Are we the predators at the top of the food chain, or perhaps a virus infecting the planet, as Agent Smith in the film The Matrix suggested?

Obsessing Over Wrinkles? Depressed About Aging?

By Dr. Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on February 12, 2015 in All Grown Up
While many of us recognize that growing older is a privilege, this doesn't change the fact that sometimes, aging can feel really unpleasant. Even downright depressing. Here are 5 questions to help you back out of negative thoughts about aging (obsessing over sagging skin and other perceived "flaws") and focus on what really matters.

Protection Compulsion...A Case Study

By Teri Woods Ph.D. on February 11, 2015 in Compulsive!
A psychologist can't fix what they don't know about. Sometimes a patient's defenses can be so strong they thwart their own treatment. But if a therapist slips into detective mode, he/she just might find enough clues to find out what's really going on.

Love Was Just Around the Corner

By Judith Coche Ph.D., ABPP on February 11, 2015 in No Ordinary Life
Just when Eva assumed love had passed her by it stopped to call and stayed a while. Perhaps the reason is that Eva has done superb work to strengthen her troubled family experiences and to build positivity and resilience. Join us as we stop in to see how she built her career and found a Valentine’s Day love just around the corner when she was 55.

Lean Back, Dad

By Nanette Fondas on February 11, 2015 in WorkLife Matters
When a dad spends more time with his children, virtually everyone benefits.

Childhood Amnesia and Plasticity in the Adult Brain

Setting in around age seven, childhood amnesia involves the sudden deletion of previous memories. The process underlying this phenomenon is also known as "pruning." While adult memory doesn't usually get lost during pruning processes, the lack of pruning tends to make the adult brain less flexible. A recent study, however, shows that there may be exceptions to this insight

Campus Sexual Assault & Binge Drinking: What Can Parents Do?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on February 11, 2015 in Off the Couch
The double whammy of sexual violence and binge drinking on college campuses has parents concerned – as well it should. As numerous studies have shown, the two behaviors are closely linked in a number of ways. Do you, as a parent, feel helpless to do anything about it?

The Science of Raising Happily Productive Kids: A Podcast

Intelligence and creativity are controversial topics, with expert opinion ranging widely in a number of directions. In this podcast, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss some of these controversies. In response to his thoughtful questions, I provide some practical suggestions for parents and teachers who want to support kids in living happily productive lives.

True Love vs. False Love

By Mark Banschick M.D. on February 11, 2015 in The Intelligent Divorce
Falling in love is great. But loving a real person is better.

Love and Love-Ability

By Ann Smith on February 11, 2015 in Healthy Connections
Being love-able means that I am able to be loved, able to make a conscious choice about who I want to love, and accept love when it is offered.

Surviving Parental Alienation, Part 3

By Amy J.L. Baker Ph.D. on February 11, 2015 in Caught Between Parents
Reconciling with formerly alienated children is both a joyous occasion but one that is also fraught with a unique set of challenges.

Feeling Powerful vs. Being Powerful

Most anger and resentment are attempts to feel powerful at the cost of being powerful.

Your Bad Relationship Could Make Your Hair Gray

A lot of love advice out there is nothing more than myths and urban legends. If you are an experienced myth buster, go solve some puzzles on Mensa's math site. If not, continue reading.

The Risks of Not Choosing to Vaccinate

A number of parents make the decision not to vaccinate their children. While parents clearly have the right to choose the kinds of medical care for their children, are the risks for other children and, indeed, the world worth it? The key question is the balance between individual rights and what is in the best interests of society.

Energy Drinks and ADHD

Does the recent Yale study suggest that energy drinks cause ADHD? Not at all. Are sugary drinks with lots of caffeine a wise choice for students (with or without ADHD)? No way.

Why Couples Need Other Couples

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on February 10, 2015 in Buddy System
Couples should consider spending Valentine's Day with another couple they both admire and respect. Seeing a spouse/partner happy in a couple's friendship can make that spouse/partner even more attractive.

7 Tips for Getting Booked on TV Talk Shows

By Judy Carter on February 10, 2015 in Stress Is a Laughing Matter
Want to REALLY get your career moving? Here are seven insider tips to get you booked on national TV as an expert.

6 Catchphrases to Connect Your Children to Nature

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 10, 2015 in The Power of Prime
Because words send powerful messages to children, you can further help your children connect to nature by associated their wonderful experiences in nature with meaningful catchphrases related to nature. Our catchphrase for sending positive messages about the environment to our daughters is “We’re a green family.”

51 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on February 10, 2015 in In Practice
While many relationships may display one or two of these warning signs, toxic relationships often feature a lot of these alarm bells.

What the Experts Really Think About '50 Shades of Grey'

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on February 10, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
What relationship experts really think about the book and upcoming movie may surprise you...

What Assessment Can Do and What It Can’t

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on February 10, 2015 in Feeling Our Way
When I hear that so-and-so is not the kind of person to do such-and-such, I wince.

What Matters Most in a Man?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on February 10, 2015 in SexualityToday
I wonder what Jane Austen would think about Fifty Shades. Sure, she'd probably hate the prose. But if she got past that, she'd definitely be interested in what has and hasn't changed for women in the two centuries that divide Pride and Prejudice from Fifty Shades of Grey.

Why You Might Find It Harder to Make New Friends

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 09, 2015 in Good Thinking
Every seven years we lose about half of our close network of friends and replace them with others. Here's how it's done.

Are You Raising a Couch Potato?

Do you ever wonder why some kids become unmotivated—why they would rather doze off in front of the TV instead of working toward a personal goal? Learn how initiative is developed and fostered through specific types of experiences—most of which happen outside of school!

Mixed Messages in Your Family? A Quiz You Can Take

By David M. Allen M.D. on February 09, 2015 in A Matter of Personality
A highly prevalent feature in families that produce an offspring with a significant personality disorder is parents who give their children mixed, contradictory messages about how to behave in certain social circumstances. To see how your family stacks up against other families and to find out what issues your family has, I herein provide a self-administered quiz for you.

Adolescence and Seeing What Can Be Gotten Away With

Growing up, adolescents sometimes test themselves by testing dangerous risks, family requirements, and social rules to see how much freedom they can get away with.