Essential Reads

The Stubborn Ones

By Dena Kouremetis on February 05, 2016 in The Unedited Offspring
Do you have a child whose first response is to push the outside of any envelope designed to contain her? Take heart. You just might have gotten lucky.

No, There Is No Extra Credit!

Nearly every teacher has heard this gut-wrenching question: “Is there extra credit?” For me, the answer has always been "no!" And here’s why.

Parenting for Intelligence and Success

Welcoming obstacles as growth opportunities and helping kids own their learning, are two of 18 ways parents can help kids learn better and do better.

Depression in Children

What are the risk factors for childhood depression and how can it be treated?

More Posts on Parenting

What Is Anger?

Currently, we are discussing two of our most important innate affects, interest (curiosity) and anger. In the last several newsletters, we have examined interest in some detail.

Disciplinary Problems and Bullying in Youth Sports

Removal from sports is a last resort that should occur only after reasonable efforts have been made to correct the problem.

7 Ways to Cultivate More Thankfulness

Gratitude has been linked to changes in mood, sleep, brain, heart, energy level, and personal happiness. How exactly do we become more grateful? Here are 7 practical ideas.

Adolescence and Problems of Parental Over-giving

Many of the old interpersonal rewards that parents enjoyed in their relationship with their child diminish once the little girl or boy transforms into an adolescent.

Homework Emotions in Children and Parents

A positive relationship between parent and child can happen around seeking relief from homework emotions that are negative.

Are Your Kids Cool or Do They Melt Under Pressure?

It's a week before SATs, your daughter's dance recital, your son's first job interview and their feeling the heat. Do you know how to help them keep cool?

Top 20 Social Networking Etiquette Tips for Teens

What your teen needs to know about interacting with others online.

Early Childhood Education: Is Earlier Really Better?

Does forcing a preschooler to sit in a desk and do "schoolwork" make them better students when they are older? The answer may be surprising!

In Defense of Parents Who Don’t Lie About Santa

Many parents who don't lie about Santa spin tales of being berated by parents who do. Here I argue that this practice should stop.

How to Spot Depression in Children

Left untreated, teenage depression can lead to problems at home and school, drug abuse, self-loathing, homicidal violence or suicide.

Anxiety Makes the Holidays Harder

Holiday stress gets cranked up tenfold when you have an anxiety disorder. Here are 4 ways to make it through.

Stubborn Children

By Maureen D Healy on December 22, 2015 Creative Development
Is your child intense and strong-willed? Do you wonder about their future?

Real Facts About Parental Alienation

Misunderstandings and misperceptions about parental alienation

Book Review: The Room

Abused children can have surprising responses to being "rescued."

Teen Love & Dating in Today’s New World

Does your teen want to date? Check out part two of the three part series on Teenage Dating, Love, and Sex.

Let’s Get Santa Right: A Reply

In response to my argument that parents shouldn't lie to their children about Santa, David Ottlinger suggests I don't understand the function of the Santa myth. I offer my reply.

Conflict and Peace: Lessons from Childhood

Children squabble, but adults do battle. Can we learn anything about conflict and peace from childhood?


Are you a "sharenter"? Do you share too much information about your kids online?

Managing Children’s Behavior During the Holiday Season

Holiday vacations often bring about challenges managing behavior (even for the most well behaved child). Here are some tips to help.

Parenting: Opposite Strategies, But the Same Results

Extremes of parenting (such as being overprotective vs not protecting at all) may often lead children to act out in very similar ways -no matter which extreme the parents are at.

Why Does 'Caveman' Parenting Support Adult Mental Health?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 21, 2015 Moral Landscapes
Affection, touch, play—did you have them in childhood? As an adult, your health and social skills may depend on them.

My Advice to Teenagers About Money

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 21, 2015 How To Do Life
A mini-talk I might give about earning, spending, and saving.

Bigger than Ourselves

Being a part of a community has the capacity to expand who you are in exponential ways. Here’s why.

What I'd Say to My Teenager About Relationships and Sex

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 20, 2015 How To Do Life
A mini-talk I might give to my 16-year-old.

Finding Grace on Christmas

When parents shuffle into Christmas with pajamas, slippers, and an unwavering commitment to “scan for grace” (despite challenges), they’re likely to find it everywhere.

'Star Wars: The Force Awakens' to the "Heroine's Journey"

How will the lack of loving and enduring father figures in 'Star Wars VII: The Force Awakens' influence our children's psychology?

12 Days of Non-Tech Gift Giving

Get "real" toys this year! Here are 12 gift categories for children that encourage imagination, bonding, movement, and of course loads of family fun.

My Career Advice to a 16-Year-Old

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 19, 2015 How To Do Life
When a teen has no idea what s/he wants to be when s/he grows up.

The Strange Advocacy for “Parental Alienation Syndrome”

"Parental Alienation Syndrome" is tailor-made to dismiss harm done to children. Advocates for it will not count obvious harms as significant as they push their theory.

How To "Con" Others ... It Pays Off!

Do you know how to make others do their best? It starts with knowing how to make them feel's how