Essential Reads

Your Magic Wand for Less Drama, More Love

What if you could create that deep loving connection as your (almost) constant way of being with your child? It would be like giving yourself a magic wand.

The "School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying" Lie

By Izzy Kalman on August 25, 2016 in Resilience to Bullying
When children like Daniel Fitzpatrick commit suicide because of bullying, parents accuse the schools of having done nothing. They're usually wrong.

Easing a Child’s Summer to School Transition

School is right around the corner but your child is still sleeping until noon and moving in slow motion. Here are some suggestions to help get them ready for the new year.

Professional Misunderstanding of Parental Alienation

Until professionals attain an in-depth understanding of the actual dynamics of parental alienation, cases of severe alienation will continue to be discounted.

More Posts on Parenting

Self-Reg: Self-Regulation vs. Self-Control

By Stuart Shanker DPhil on July 11, 2016 in Self-Reg
So much of the behaviors we see in children today seems inexplicable until we realize that we are dealing with the effects of excessive stress.

Mental Illness, Violence, and Family Homicides

By Allen J Frances M.D. on July 11, 2016 in Saving Normal
Mental illness is not responsible for most violent crimes, but is a much bigger factor in the 4000 family homicides that occur each year.

5 Ways Outdoor Learning Optimizes Children's Well-Being

New research has pinpointed five ways that outdoor learning benefits children's overall well-being.

Where We Fail Our Children

By Susan B. Winston LMFT on July 09, 2016 in Shift Happens
Our kids are not prepared for life beyond high school. Is it our fault as parents? The fault of our schools? How can we fix this and give our kids the necessary tools for living?

Smartphones vs. "Smart Parenting" - Part Two

Do you soothe or comfort your child with a digital smartphone or tablet? Here's what you can do instead, and how you can limit your child's use on a digital device.

3 Reasons Why Parents Let Their Kids Bully Them

Do you let your kid push you around? Here's how your childhood set you up to be bullied by your children.

Where Do I Come From?

Follow her questions as a guide and you will not overload her with information.

The Narcissism Epidemic and What We Can Do About It

By Joe Pierre M.D. on July 08, 2016 in Psych Unseen
Is narcissism on the rise? If so, can anything be done to curb it?

Does Social Media Harm Kids?

There is solid evidence that social media networking can have positive benefits for young people.

The Gaslighted Child

By Peg Streep on July 07, 2016 in Tech Support
Our culture is resistant to the idea that some mothers actively undermine their children. That resistance doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Managing Emotions: Mindfulness, Impulsivity, and Goldilocks

Mindfulness is an affordable substitute for the real thing.

My Therapist Mother Treats Me Like A Patient

How To Survive A Therapist Parent

How Divorce Is Changing for Our Neighbors Up North

By Wendy Paris on July 05, 2016 in Splitopia
New article in Canada's largest newspaper looks at Canadian couples who co-parent cooperatively, celebrate holidays together, and even help out with each other’s laundry.
Mack Hicks

School Reform? Let Them Eat Cake!

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on July 04, 2016 in Digital Pandemic
Is force-feeding advanced academics really a good idea?

Guilty of the Sin of Outdoing

Some families are truly happy to have their child outdo them. But others may resent our success.

Being With What Is

We all have the task of knowing ourselves as deeply as we can, and then manifesting that self as fully as possible in the world.

How Sex Changes During Pregnancy, Nursing, and Parenthood

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 01, 2016 in All About Sex
Pregnancy, nursing, and parenthood have sexual impacts few expectant parents appreciate.

Smartphones vs. "Smart Parenting" Part One

There is something fundamentally wrong when a child's greatest source of comfort is their parent’s smartphone.

The Origins of Our Emotional Life: Our Earliest Feelings

Our earliest nine inborn feelings—“primary affects”—are key to understanding human development and emotional life. What are they? How do they work?

Struggles That Make Kids Stronger

Sometimes the best thing we can do for our kids is to allow them to struggle.

Helping Your Shy Child

When they’re around other kids, shy children feel like outsiders looking in. Here are ways to help your child feel more comfortable and confident in social situations.

Independence Day

America truly is the land of the free and the home of the brave. This year as the fireworks light up the sky, remember the reason we celebrate this special day in our history.

5 Reasons Teens drive their Parents Crazy

Adolescence is a treacherous period – seismic changes are often driven by 5 key beliefs that adolescents hold dear.

Children Will See and Learn

How do we help teens, grow and thrive in healthy ways? Establish gender-neutral standards for behavior and enforce rules uniformly. Don't give in to bullying.

They Dream of School, and None of the Dreams Are Good

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on June 29, 2016 in Freedom to Learn
I don’t know why these particular dream themes are so common. How sad, though, that schooling, which is more or less required by law, produces a lifetime of bad dreams.

Mending the Eating Disorder Fence: Neither This nor That

Attachment issues in children and adults are precursors or precipitating factors in the development of eating disorders. What does this mean?

As Simple as Breathing

The easiest way to remind yourself to let go of tension is to breathe. Noticing our breathing brings us back into our body, back into the present moment, back into balance.

Encouraging Independence in Young Children

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on June 28, 2016 in Once Upon a Child
Moving away from neediness and toward confident autonomy in the school-age years.

Messing Up Literacy in Texas

Find out why reading scores have plummeted in Texas and across the nation and what can be done to improve literacy education.
Carl Pickhardt Ph. D.

Conducting Conflict with Your Adolescent

The curriculum of family life teaches the adolescent how to manage significant relationships. Learning how to conduct conflict constructively is one important skill for later on.