Essential Reads

Holiday Bullies: The Dangers of Overindulging Your Kids

3 Kinds of Kids Parents Should Never Reward with Gifts

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Causes of Students’ Emotional Fragility: Five Perspectives

Teachers, professors, employers, parents, & students explain students’ problems.

5 Tips to Help Children Cope with Threats of Terrorism

Being Resilient in Times of Threat

Recent Posts on Parenting

The Bully as a Symbol/Symptom of Unsafety

How are our children supposed to convey to us that it doesn't feel safe to be a kid in today's society? As an issue that has captured national and international attention, the issue of bullying may be a message that our children are sending to us about a general sense of unsafety, a dropping of the ball, in our society's ability to care for our younger generation.

How to Talk to Children About Divorce

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on October 22, 2015 All Grown Up
Dreading talking to your children about divorce? Here are some general guidelines and scripts on how to approach this sensitive topic, listen, and give children the reassurance that they need.

Using the Science of Gratitude to Raise Grateful Children

By Sara Konrath Ph.D. on October 22, 2015 The Empathy Gap
Gratitude is not just for Thanksgiving.

How to Protect Children from Bullies

Here are five expert tips for parents.

Finding Hope and Security in Relationships

Scientific research demonstrates that you can learn to become a “secure base” for others in order to help them develop confidence and hope for the future. You also can learn how to pick people who can provide a secure base to you and give you the sensitivity and support that you deserve in creating a life full of hope and promise.

Can Children Benefit from Reading E-books?

By Jamie Zibulsky Ph.D. on October 21, 2015 Book Smart
As younger generations do more and more of their reading online and on electronic devices, one of the most common questions I hear from parents during our reading workshops is some variation of “should I let my kid read on my iPad?” There is not yet a great or conclusive body of evidence out there to answer the question, but some recent studies shed light on the issue.

The Case for Transgender-Affirming School Policies

How can we make schools more inclusive of transgender students? Why policies matter.

Understanding a Parent’s Access to Records

By C Philip Hodson on October 21, 2015 Protect Your Practice
When a parent requests your records for your sessions with their child.

Embracing Imperfection

Frustrated with the messiness of life with kids? A subtle shift can make all the difference in the world.

When Praise is Punishment

Praise May Not Work Quite the Way Parents Hope

The Death of Munchausen by Proxy

It's time for the term Munchausen by proxy to die a timely death in terms of its use in medical child abuse allegations and for investigators to focus on the impact on the child rather than the intent of the parent.

Bike Helmets for Brain Safety

Is wearing a bike helmet really necessary? And what about helmets for pee-wee football?

Awakening a Beginner’s Mind

“You’re the guy who taught us Japanese!”

How to Support and Nurture Your Child's Passions

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on October 20, 2015 Singletons
In an effort to help their children stand out, parents attempt to guide kids toward a specific area of “passion.” When it comes to parenting, passion and specialization are often confused.

5 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Strong After Having a Baby

Research shows that new parents are the most uniformly dissatisfied group when it comes to marital happiness. Here are five ways to not become one of those statistics.

A Workover: She Has a Smart but Unfocused Adult Son

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 20, 2015 How To Do Life
What, if anything, should a parent do when her young adult child is a dabbler?

How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Parenting

Attachment research has shown that our attachment style with our own parents is the biggest predictor of the attachment style we’ll have with our child. As we become familiar with our attachment styles, we can have insight into many of your relationships, past and present. We can even change how we parent.

How to Talk to Your Children About Bullying

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on October 19, 2015 Once Upon a Child
Be aware that preschoolers can bully and be bullied on a daily basis. Most of it is not lethal, but a lot of it hurts and shames—both are feelings that can ruin their day and stay with them for a long time.

Discovering Who I Am

Developing a coherent, personal identity is a basic human need. The establishment of our identity is an integral outgrowth of our relationships with important people in our lives.

Violent Media Creates Couch Potatoes, Not Violent Youth

How many times have readers read stories about how violent video games and movies are causing more youth violence? Youth violence has in fact fallen as media has become more violent. Many studies only measure short-term aggressive thoughts after watching these things, not actions. In fact, most kids who watch a lot of violent media are couch potatoes, not gang bangers.

10 Tools for Your Weekly Family Meeting

Holding a weekly family meeting will be one of the highest return investments you will ever make. I believe that parents have two jobs: to teach their children how to love, and to teach them how to live without their parents. The family meeting will help you accomplish both of these goals.

When Your College Freshman Gets Homesick

That first step in the last stage of adolescence, Trial Independence (18-13), moving out from home for job or college, can be harder to take than the young person anticipated. The separation feels hard because the familiarity and comforts of home are sincerely missed.

Have A Difficult Partner or Parent? Learn this One Technique

Stop confronting that difficult person, and stay on course with this important rule.

Baseball is Magic (When You're Seven Years Old)

By Steven Schlozman M.D. on October 18, 2015 Grand Rounds
Why Baseball is Magic in the Low Light of October

'Grit' Training for Babies?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on October 18, 2015 Moral Landscapes
The idea of “grit” is hot right now. Schools and businesses are taking up an emphasis on grit, the perseverance to get a job done. Is it good for babies? Nope, and here’s why.

How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on October 17, 2015 Presence of Mind
Is a friend or relative in an abusive intimate relationship? How can you best help?

Sons and Mothers

By Nick Luxmoore on October 17, 2015 Young People Up Close
Sons grow up and become men but do their relationships with their mothers really change?

A Brilliant Way to Avoid College Application Insanity

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 16, 2015 Off the Couch
For years I have worked with parents and adolescents, high school advisors and college counselors, all of them struggling with the madness of the college application process and the years building up to it. Finally, I have come across someone with some brilliant, common sensical and easily applied ideas about how to deal with the "mania" of college applications.

Binge Drinking

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on October 16, 2015 A Sideways View
Alcohol consumption and addiction is the result of many psychological and social factors. Why do some young people manage moderate and healthy alcohol consumption while others binge drink regularly endangering their own and others health?