Essential Reads

Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree

Different visions? Find the problem under the problem.

Do Generations Exist?

Are generations caricatures or are they drivers of social and cultural change?

Anti-Vaxxers Love Their Children Too

They're wrong, but are they crazy?

Recent Posts on Parenting

What 50 Shades of Grey Tells Us About Women

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Good Thinking
The phenomenal success of Fifty Shades of Grey is telling something important about the female psyche.

30 Ways to Prevent ADHD

Here are 30 tips to keep ADHD at bay.

Is Your Teen an Observer, Asserter, Perfectionist or …?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Singletons
So much about being a teen can be confusing and difficult. Understanding the nine Enneagram personality types could help your teen. What type is your teen and what does that say about the way he or she relates to others including you, her parents?

Losing a Family to Suicide

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Media Spotlight
A recent issue of the journal Crisis includes a moving case study of a South Korean man whose depressed wife had committed suicide by jumping off a building with her young son in her arms. How can someone move on after such a loss?

Teaching Adolescents How to Manage Money

When parents neglect money management training with their child and adolescent, the lack can be expensive when they graduate a young person from their care who lacks a very important pillar of self-management responsibility.

Let's Give Valentine’s Day 2016 Back to Children

By Rita Watson MPH on February 15, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
Look at the world through the eyes of a child before that child learns anger or hate. And just as we tallied up cards from our Valentine’s Day box as children, let the next Valentine’s Day become a day when children’s organizations can tally up checks.

Is College a Waste of Time and Money?

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on February 15, 2015 in Digital Pandemic
Did you go to college. Do you wish everyone would. Or was your time and effort in college a mistake?

Sex After 50 Can Be the Best of Your Life

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Older lovers can have great sex—by turning intercourse into "outercourse."

Don't Worry. Be Happy.

Do you worry about your child? Join the club. It's part of the job description. But when we say "Be careful!" to our child, we're not giving the message that we care, even though that's what we feel. We're giving the message that the world is an unsafe place and we don't have confidence in our child to navigate it.

Does Being a Parent Really Make You Happier?

If you have enough money to hire a 24 hour/day nanny, parenting may add significantly to your life satisfaction. But what if you don't? Does parenting make us happy? Is parental love enough?

Creativity and Multicultural Experiences

In a recent study, children whose parents were born in different countries were generally more creative than children whose parents were born in the same country. The mystery is why.

How did "the Gossip" Become a Woman?

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on February 14, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
Although everyone seems to detest a person who is known as a “gossip” and few people would use that label to describe themselves, it is an exceedingly unusual individual, male OR female, who can walk away from a juicy story about one of his or her acquaintances. So, how did gossip become thought of as a primarily female activity?

Understanding Teen Anxiety

Anxiety can leave vulnerable teens feeling and believing that they are destined to live a life of gloom and doom. Can you imagine living your life like that day in and day out? Many anxious youth do...

Fifty Grades of Shale

By Robert J King Ph.D. on February 14, 2015 in Hive Mind
50 Shades of Grey is part of a pattern of human behavior going back millennia

The Valentine’s Day Bomb

I say, let’s bring back the fun in Valentine’s Day! Let’s make Valentine’s Day be about love in all its incarnations. Let’s throw love at our friends, family and dog, and do something special for them, even if it’s just a phone call. Let’s make an effort to smile at strangers and warmly thank the guy in the café when he hands you your coffee.

Inequality on the Rise? Workers of America Adapt!

By Peter T. Coleman Ph.D. on February 14, 2015 in The Five Percent
The American Dream has been replaced with a nightmare for the working class; the harder you work, and the more jobs you take on, the more you seem to lose ground. So what can a hard working American do to get ahead? Adapt.

The Ideal Family: How Do You Stack Up?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on February 13, 2015 in Fixing Families
An ideal family isn't necessarily about children having manners or creating "quality time", but creating a healthy foundation and structure. Here's what you want to shoot for.

Why We Need Fantasy

What exactly do we get out of watching romantic relationships on television?

Travel: The Ultimate Aphrodisiac?

By Jaime Kurtz Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in Happy Trails
Travel is related to improved communication, deeper satisfaction, and increased intimacy in married couples.

On the Persistence, and Underlying Causes, of Vax-O-Noia

By David Ropeik on February 13, 2015 in How Risky Is It, Really?
Understanding the psychological roots of fear of vaccines is important if we are going to reduce the threat to public health posed by those fears.

Physics and Poetry: A Polymath’s Creative Strategy

Where do successful individuals find inspiration and energy to do the things they do? Some may harbor their forces, focused on a single passion. Yet others take on multiple problems or even multiple careers. What? They let a hobby eat up their time? They split their energies between two careers? How does that enable success?

From "Sex and the City" to Marriage, “The Longest Date”

By Elise Ballard on February 12, 2015 in Epiphany
Award-winning, former "Sex and the City" writer Cindy Chupack talks candidly with Elise Ballard about her epiphanies and insights on life, love, romance, writing, and therapy, as well as her new book about the trials and tribulations of marriage and starting a family.

Your Dark Side’s Upside

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in How To Do Life
Why you might add some societally discouraged behaviors to your toolkit.

The Keys to Rewarding Relationships: Secure Attachment

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
If everyone could read social situations accurately, not get flooded or hijacked by strong emotions, and respond in a kind, empathetic, non-defensive and constructive manner, the world would be a more accepting and predictable place. Understanding the processes underlying secure attachment can help you get there and experience more rewarding and healthy relationships.

Joni Mitchell on New York Magazine: Is The Photo Disturbing?

I hope to see my idols looking and sounding as if they are enjoying themselves as they reach the season of harvest (not so very far away from any of us). That's what I long for but very rarely see.

From Grit to Growth

By Neal H. Mayerson Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in Quite a Character
Focusing on a handful of character qualities is “character-education-as-usual.” Wouldn’t a stronger approach be to get to know who the child/adult is? What are their unique signature strengths? How might their highest strengths be embraced, celebrated, and developed?

6 Things We Must Accept to Be Happy

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in Compassion Matters
Many of us are going about happiness all wrong. In order to discover our own true form of happiness, we have to shed baggage from our past, free ourselves from outside influences and identify who we alone really are.

Are Your Boundaries Making You Miserable?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in Evolution of the Self
Sure, you need boundaries. And undeniably, you have the right to assert them—whether to safeguard your privacy, self-respect, or basic sense of decency. So it’s crucial to develop the ability and self-confidence to say no, or to tell others to stop doing what they’re doing. But what also needs to be emphasized is that some of your boundaries may be holding you hostage. . .

Attachment Styles Can't Change, Can They?

John Bowlby, the founding father of attachment theory, argued that the attachment style formed in early childhood often continues to shape a person’s behavior far into adulthood, permeating all future liasons. The attachment style of adults, however, need not completely reflect the child’s early interactions with a caregiver. Sometimes it undergoes a radical shift.