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Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Adolescence and the Parental "No"

A parental "no" is a barrier to adolescent freedom. Parents have to decide when to keep the barrier up and when to let it down.

How to Help Your Kid Pick a College

By Jake Breeden on March 19, 2017 in Tipping Sacred Cows
'Tis the season for high school seniors to pick a college. If your child is making this choice, discover five ways to help.

When Meditation Is Not Enough

Strategies for bringing mindfulness into everyday life.

Social Norms, Moral Judgments, and Irrational Parenting

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on March 19, 2017 in Freedom to Learn
We are all conformists; it’s part of human nature. But sometimes our conformist nature leads us to do things that are downright silly or, worse, tragic.

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Help! The Teacher Says My Child Is Misbehaving

By Janet Hicks Ph.D. on February 08, 2017 in Raising Parents
How can I help my child when the teacher says he/she is misbehaving?

10 Anxiety Busters for Moms

How to keep anxiety low when political tensions are high.

"Free-Range Kids?" It Depends

By Alfie Kohn on February 07, 2017 in The Homework Myth
Conservative outrage over so-called "helicopter parenting" may be one reason so many want children to be given more freedom

The Lessons My Daughter Teaches Me

By Lybi Ma on February 07, 2017 in Brainstorm
The parent-child relationship. By Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot.

Janet Jackson Gives Birth at 50: Two Older Mother Pluses

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 07, 2017 in Singletons
Waiting to have your babies? It can be difficult and expensive to have babies older, but new research reveals potential benefits.

5 Essential Facts About Children and War

If we want to help children exposed to armed conflict, we would do well to heed the findings of recent studies.

Questionable Study About Implanting False Memories

By David M. Allen M.D. on February 03, 2017 in A Matter of Personality
A study shown on "Nova" puts a subject in the position of having to call her parents liars. The experimenter ignores her behavior during the study in drawing conclusions.

What to Teach Young Athletes About Bullying

Bullying is a deplorable behavior that has no place in sports.

Where Does It Hurt?

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
The wounds in our life are so often related to severed belonging. Healing is possible, and begins with the question: Where does it hurt?

Life with a Mentally Ill Parent

By Mitch Prinstein Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in The Modern Teen
A riveting new book chronicles one woman's experiences with a mentally-ill parent, and offers remarkable inspiration for coping as an adult

Acceptance: What Does It Mean?

Do you accept or tolerate your LGBT child? Lean the difference so you can resolve the conflict.

The Most Important 5 Minutes You Can Spend to Stop Bullying

Young people don’t care if we have all of the right words or if we sometimes give “out-there” advice.  What they do care about is that we genuinely care about them.

Collective Stories in Families Teach Us About Ourselves

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Collective family storytelling helps parents and adolescents learn about each other and themselves

Paranoia: From Parenting to Politics

By Molly S. Castelloe Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in The Me in We
How paranoia in American parenting fuels paranoia in politics.
"La Mama de los Politos"/Jorge Elias/CC BY 2.0

Incubating a Political Conscience

By Barb Cohen on February 01, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
Figuring out when asserting yourself reflects courage and when it reflects imprudence takes, for many of us, a lifetime.

How to Survive Your Beloved Adolescent

Being a parent is the hardest job you ever love...and research shows that it's hardest during adolescence. Very few people offer good advice. So here is my master plan for you:

Pregnancy Changes the Brain for the Better

By Lydia Denworth on January 31, 2017 in Brain Waves
Feeling forgetful in pregnancy? Your brain is changing, but in ways that will help in motherhood.

The Curious Human

Interest is crucial to our learning, exploratory activities, and creativity. But what happens when this feeling of interest or curiosity is squashed…

5 Ways to be a Pro-Life Feminist

By Joanne Bagshaw Ph.D. on January 30, 2017 in The Third Wave
How to reduce rates of abortion according to research.

God Has Nothing to Do With Morality

By Phil Zuckerman Ph.D. on January 30, 2017 in The Secular Life
The relationship between God and morality is much more problematic than most people realize.

7 Exercises That Reduce Stress Better Than "Trying to Relax"

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on January 30, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Sometimes willing yourself out of a stress cycle just doesn't work. Here's what can.

Why a Child’s Social-Emotional Skills are So Important

Here are 5 ways you can promote these abilities in children.

Building Resilience: How to Shift Mental Gears

Stress itself can be defined as the perception something is more than we can handle. That may sound like the most clichéd advice ever – but is a foundation of resilience research.

Achieving Happiness by Helping Others

When we help others we feel happy. There is a relationship between our well-being and giving our time, money or other resources to a cause that we are passionate about.

Raising Children With Love or Dynamite?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on January 29, 2017 in Moral Landscapes
Every animal has a nest that optimizes the development of the young. Humans have an intensive nest and without it they miss their potential and can become vicious. Welcome to now.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Choosing

Conscious awareness of choices we make, our motivation, and processes we use can enhance trust, stability and longevity in a close relationship. Consequences of decisions matter.

When Binary Thinking Is Involved, Polarization Follows

Don't allow a need for certainty where none exists hijack your rationality.

5 Simple Yet Powerful Ways to Get Kids to Cooperate

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on January 27, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Parents have to move kids through tasks like chores, potty, teeth-brushing, etc. Here are 5 tools to strengthen cooperation, reduce resistance, and promote bonding along the way.

The Truth About "Quiet" Verbal Abuse

By Peg Streep on January 27, 2017 in Tech Support
Most people associate verbal abuse with yelling and shouting and while that's sometimes true, it isn't always. Quiet abuse may actually do more damage.
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Chubby, Chunky, Heavy, Big

Many parents are watching their children getting bigger and bigger and wonder, when do I say something? How do I help them when I can’t even help myself?