Essential Reads

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

Recent Posts on Parenting

Why Family Holidays Are So Difficult

By Nick Luxmoore on July 11, 2015 in Young People Up Close
At school, young people know who they are and how to be. At home, things aren't so clear. Holidays are horrible transitions.

Russia’s ‘Safe-Selfie’ Campaign: Will It Work?

The Russian authorities have launched a “safe selfie” campaign in response to a series of deaths and serious injuries among extreme selfie-takers. Since most selfie-takers are under 25, showing them what NOT to do will make extreme selfies more, not less, attractive. The initiative ignores the motivational factors driving the need to show off doing dangerous things.

Facebook-Self vs. True-Self: Presenting Contrived Happiness

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on July 10, 2015 in Screen Time
The need to have the false-self visible on a digital platform in an unusual trend in parents that has taken shape over the last several years.

An Open Letter to Teens and Parents About Sex

Sexual desire is about pleasure, right? Well, it's not quite so simple.

Helping Children Stay Safe Online and Offline

Parents' fears about cyberbullying victimization increase with each news headline. But there is research to suggest that rather than worrying too much about the latest app, we should be focusing on helping children build skills to protect them wherever they are.

Policy Responses to Teen Pregnancy

The United States has the highest teen pregnancy rate in the Western world, and most of these pregnancies are unintentional. Importantly, teen mothers are less likely to finish high school and more likely to receive public assistance as compared to women who delay childbearing until after their teen years

6 Family Friendly Ways to Help Kids Grieve After Pet Loss

"Young members of the family often experience the death of a pet as their first exposure to grief."

Using Psychology to Help At-Risk Students

By Art Markman Ph.D. on July 09, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
There are many rewards for doing research in psychology. For one, it is just plain fun. There is something powerful about making progress on one of the world’s great scientific mysteries. For another, the things we learn about psychology have the potential to make people’s lives better.

Should You Let Your Toddler Use an iPad?

The enthusiasm with which children use touchscreen devices is evident to any parent, but so far developmental science has been slow to investigate the relationship between tablet use and cognitive development.

Dysregulation: A New DSM Label for Childhood Rages

The disorder, which is meant to distinguish intense temper outbursts from bipolar disorder, describes children who lash out for a host of reasons.

Why Kids Sometimes Hit After They Feel Close

After some nice snuggling or giggling, your child may begin to cry or even lash out. That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It means your child wants to accept the love you’re offering, and needs your help to let go of those upset feelings that are in his way, before he can connect with you.

Teach Your Kids to Talk to Strangers

We may think we're teaching safety when we tell children to disregard the unfamiliar, when we tell them to turn away from strangers, but what we're teaching is intolerance and indifference.

Are Smartphones at the Playground a Dumb Idea?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on July 08, 2015 in Singletons
Texting, snapping photos, checking email—smartphones at the playground are as ubiquitous as strollers these days. But a new study finds cell phone use leaves parents and caregivers far more distracted than they realize or want to be. Should you be worried?

K & Preschool Teachers: Last Stand in War on Childhood?

By Peter Gray on July 08, 2015 in Freedom to Learn
The war against childhood continues. Children are no longer generally free to roam, play, and explore on their own, as they were in the past and are designed by nature to do. Parents who allow such play are being arrested. Schools throughout the country have eliminated or greatly curtailed recesses. The last bastion in the battle to preserve childhood appears to be be....

Why Working Mothers Shouldn’t Feel Guilty

What do people really think about working mothers?

After Divorce: Ten Principles for Parenting

Divorce can disrupt a child’s life and development, but the basic principles of good parenting hold true through the challenges. Current research shows that most children are beginning to function reasonably well within two years after their parents' divorce. Some kids even benefit, especially those whose pre-divorce family included fear, chaos, unpredictability, or abuse.

Inside Inside Out (No Spoilers!)

If you want someone to know what you’re feeling, they’ll need the story, not just the headline, and certainly not just which section of the paper it’s in.

Relationships Cause Conduct Disorder, Not "Bad Seeds"

To paraphrase a certain politician, it's the relationships, stupid! In order to avoid looking at their own or their family's behavior, both parents and professionals seem to want to think that children can be born as "bad seeds." However, human genes do not work that specifically. It is not toxic people that create most dysfunctional families, but toxic relationships.

Is Coding Camp a Good Thing? Answer: Not to Me

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in The Power of Prime
One of the booming trends in the 'youth-achievement-industrial complex' is computer coding camps (and after-school coding programs). I think this trend is driven by economic uncertainty that has created immense anxiety in parents for their children's futures. Also, a hyper-achievement culture in which parents feel compelled to 'keep up with the Joneses'.

Surviving the Family Car Trip

Before you tell a child to sit still, stop annoying everyone, or threaten to leave him on the side of the road if he doesn’t stop asking questions, try offering another source of stimulation. Give the child a meaningful role like navigator or ice cream finder and see if bad behavior doesn't change into something more socially desirable.

Who Will Clip Your Toenails When You Cannot?

They never tell you when you are little that you will one day clip the toenails of your parents or siblings. Such little things must amount to great differences in the quality of life as we age. If you needed one more reason to build and maintain lifelong, loving relationships. . .

Women’s World Cup Win: Contributions to Tween Self-Esteem

Each of these players tells a unique story. What bonds them all together is their love of soccer and their desire to be the best. Role models such as the USA Women’s National Soccer team are important for our tweens and teens. Their accomplishments as individuals, and of course, their victory as a team model important lessons.

7 Things I Love About Women With Postpartum Depression

When we can harness that arousal, we can guide her toward support resources that she is unable to utilize distress is high.

What My Children Teach Me About How to Live Well

What my children have taught me is that it is better to be a human being than a human doing.

Ten Tips for Making a Family Vacation Great

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on July 05, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Why do so many family vacations fail to live up to our expectations and what can we do about it? Read on to discover the secret to making family vacations great.

Top Teen Driving Distractions

Memorial Day through Labor Day marks the "100 deadliest days" for young drivers. What you need to know before you hand over the keys to your teen.

You Will Get Closer to Your Children By NOT Doing This.....

The best discipline you can give your child is having the self-discipline to not make this very common parenting mistake.

New York Times Best Seller Hoping to Bring More Awareness

By Judy L. Mandel on July 04, 2015 in Replacement Child
NY Times Best Seller Hoping to Bring More Awareness to Replacement Children

Raising Kids Who Love Reading & Devour Books Voraciously.

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on July 04, 2015 in All Grown Up
Tips for raising kids who love reading, devour books voraciously, and practically beg for a trip to the library. Ready to ignite a lifelong love affair with books? Here are 5 questions that can help you to light the first spark:

Dads: What's Your Impact on Your Daughter's Body Image?

The bottom line is this: Dads: you make a significant difference in how your daughter will feel about her body and appearance, as well as her overall self esteem. Consider some of the following strategies to help your daughter maintain a positive body image throughout her girlhood and adolescence...