Essential Reads

What Happens When the Whole Family Plays with Food?

“Family therapy can be helpful; family dinner is transformative.”

Police Versus Community: Why All the Trauma?

Using a trauma-informed lens to understand the promise of community policing.

The Digital Revolution & the Nature of Adolescent Passage

A look at how technology and connectivity affect youth development

Losing My Mindfulness: A Tale of Spilled Milk and Blue M&Ms

How a little mindfulness can change your perspective, your brain, and your day.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Mother's Day for Those Raised by Narcissistic Parents

Mother’s Day is approaching. Is it time to run and hide or stumble into a Hallmark store to desperately search for that empty card that says nothing upon which you simply sign your name? How sad, awful, taboo, and misunderstood this is for adult children raised by narcissistic parents. Who woulda thunk it?

Autism Spectrum Disorder: Do You Know the Facts?

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that impacts the lives of many families.

Spring Roadside Cleaning with Two Boys and Two Bags

So which is it: Do we take care of what we love? Or do we love what we take care of? Which comes first—loving the Earth or taking care of it?

Two Things Children Should Know about Grief

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in Freedom to Grieve
Do not think you have to have all the pain go away before you can have fun or even just go about your ordinary routine. You are not being disloyal to the person you miss if you are experiencing joy.

Angry Tears

It’s become increasingly common for therapists to note that underlying your anger are feelings of hurt. In fact the more pronounced your anger, the greater the hurt it conceals. So if the phrase “angry tears” sounds oxymoronic to you, that’s because it is: It’s profoundly descriptive of human experience yet, on the face of it, certainly seems contradictory. . . .

Suicide Alert: The Spring Season Can Be Deadly

Suicide Alert: Springtime can be a deadly season.

10 Tips for Correcting Your Anxious Child

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on April 28, 2015 in Worry Wise
Anxious kids are so afraid of messing up and getting in trouble. They are constantly rattled by the thought that someone could be mad at them. They stress about it all day, and have bad dreams about it at night. So wouldn’t it be helpful for them to learn that the thing they fear most— messing up— is survivable and maybe even not that bad, not to mention pretty rare?

What's New with Mac n' Cheese?

American kids deserve the same treatment that European children have been enjoying for decades.

The Misery Checklist

The Misery Checklist: A made-up story about a real problem

Parenting: From Well-Doing to Well-Being

A strengths-based approach to parenting.

One More Reason to Unplug Before Bedtime

How does being "plugged in" to an electronic device impact a young child's developing brain?

My Daughter Is Dating My Son Figure

How To Adjust To The Changing Nature Of Relationships

Bullying Hurts Everyone, Even Bystanders

A vast majority of teens are called homophobic names in middle and high school. This name-calling is not the result of kids being kids. It is bullying, and it harms everyone.

10 Ways to Stay Connected with Your Adolescent

There are affirmative actions parents can take to stay meaningfully and satisfyingly connected to their teenager as the process of adolescence grows them apart, as it is meant to do.

Superhero Play

If you manage the play carefully, stress safety issues, and interject positive ideas, this play will be fun for the kids.

Life is Beautiful?

He hit me about the head with newspaper and yelled furiously at me. I am five years old. It is one of the most wonderful memories of my life.

Changes in the Family: Impact on Child Relationships

Single parenting carries many responsibilities, not least of which is an even greater need to support children in their understanding for healthy relationships.

How I'm Using Science to Help My Daughter Keep Liking Math

By Garth Sundem on April 24, 2015 in Brain Candy
My 5-year-old daughter loves math and I'm terrified this fall when she starts kindergarten, she could lose that love. Priming studies show that girls are still on the receiving end of negative math stereotypes. But knowing the challenge might also point to a solution. I sure hope so...

Using Time-Outs: Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make

Time-outs do not cause brain damage and are an effective strategy to reduce negative behavior in children. However, they can easily be used in less than optimal ways. Keeping in mind these 5 common errors can help parents get the most out of this valuable technique.

Managing Student Expectations After High School

If as a parent you’ve been handing out money without teaching your children about budgeting, you’ve done them a grave disservice. Teach your children about budgeting, living within their means, and having an emergency fund.

The Grass Moment

By Alfie Kohn on April 24, 2015 in The Homework Myth
If we want to raise kids who aren't self-centered, we should stop emphasizing compliance and instead foster a willingness to question authority

Where Do Babies Come From? From Peer Pressure, Apparently.

We commonly consider fertility outcomes to be idiosyncratic or accidental. But parenthood spreads through social networks, passing between siblings, friends, and co-workers. Why might the baby bug be so contagious and how do prospective parents catch it?

Would Teaching Doctors to Cook Solve the Obesity Problem?

Attacking the obesity problem by teaching docs to cook. Hmm. Are there really families who have missed the message about cooking? And if people know they ought to cook but don’t know how, what could a physician say that would really change anything? Are doctors going to start conducting knife-skills tutorials between vaccinations?There's a better solution.

9 Important Technology Rules for Children

The unhealthy relationship children have with technology is a mounting epidemic with uncharted consequences. These nine steps below will help keep your family balanced amidst this technology-addicted world.

Prime Your Child’s Reading & Math Development with Patterns

Patterning refers to the meaningful process of organizing, coding, and categorizing information in the brain. It is through the patterns constructed and stored in neural networks that our brains recognize and find relevance in the millions of bits of sensory input received every second. Your child’s early experiences sorting, categorizing and patterning are key.

Ten Steps Toward Parenting for Happy Productivity

Accomplishment, achievement, and recognition are good goals for our children, but being loving and happily productive on one’s own terms are better. For my children and grandchildren, what delights me more than any prizes the world might offer is a confident integrity; a radiant inner light; a life lived with love, kindness, courage, happy productivity, and appreciation.

Encouraging the Best From Your Child

Parents have so many worries, but by instituting some proactive strategies for positive reinforcement they may be able to affect healthy outcomes in their children.

Which Parent Do You Love More?

Parents are told not to favor one child in the family, but there are no rules that govern how children ought to feel about parents. One theory of family relationships can help provide perspective on this surprisingly under-researched area.

Mindfulness, Little League, and Parenting

How much of our parenting time do we spend taking children to ball games, dropping them, and then waiting for the action to begin? And then once the so-called action begins, how much actually happens? The answers, at least until children get older, are an awful lot and not much. It’s all fun and games and bonding together, except when it isn’t.