Essential Reads

Bad Moms: Social Stigmas and Postpartum Mental Illness

By Jean Kim M.D. on September 29, 2016 in Culture Shrink
We need to examine how the biological symptoms of postpartum mental illnesses intersect with the high societal expectations regarding the "perfect mother."

Biological Foundations for Self-Directed Education

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in Freedom to Learn
Self-directed education—as it occurs in unschooling families and at democratic schools--operates by allowing these four natural drives to flourish. ....

The Big Mystery of Baby Names

By Jean M Twenge Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in Our Changing Culture
What's going on with baby names? Millennials, and their need for uniqueness.

A Happy Ending Matters in this Hollywood Divorce

By Wendy Paris on September 27, 2016 in Splitopia
The negative stories about the Brangelina break-up are dangerous, because the expectation that divorce must be a tragedy for all involved can create just that outcome.

More Posts on Parenting

The Greatest Gift of All

By Lee Kravitz on November 30, 2010 in Unfinished Business
By writing down your life story, you create a legacy for your children and grandchildren. As they embark on their own journeys of self-discovery, you and your story will help guide their way.

In Which I Introduce a New Feature: the Assay.

By Gretchen Rubin on November 30, 2010 in The Happiness Project
During my parents’ last visit to New York City, my mother pointed out a limitation of my blog. “On your blog, it’s easy to find certain things, like tips and quotations,” she began. “They’re set off and labeled, so you know exactly where they are.” “Right,” I said. “I try to make it easy.”

Letter to a Young (Sexual) Person

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on November 29, 2010 in Insight Therapy
Let me tell you something that the elders around you are too polite or afraid to tell you: Your sex life isn't any good. This is not bad news. Actually, it's good news, since it means that you have a journey ahead; an adventure; a mission possible, should you choose to accept it.

What Stepmothers Are Stepping Into

Here are the three most important things you should know about being a stepmother.

What causes divorce? And how to prevent it

By Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A. on November 29, 2010 in Just Listen
Marriages end not because you stop loving each other, but because you can’t stop hating each other

Is Marriage “Just a Piece of Paper” Today?

By Barbara Ray on November 29, 2010 in Adulthood: What's the Rush?
Young adults are in the vanguard in carving a new and slower path to marriage. While the Boomers took early steps in changing the path to marriage, young adults have made this slower path the norm, with many options along the way. But the question now becomes: Are young adults unburdened by social expectations but overwhelmed by choices?

Teachable Moments--Finding Them This Holiday Season Rebecca Mannis, Ph.D.

By Wednesday Martin Ph.D. on November 29, 2010 in Stepmonster
A parent serves as a child’s first, most important, and lifelong teacher. The open-ended nature of family time during the holidays, regardless of the place it is spent, provides a perfect backdrop for parents to teach and to encourage development.

Saving Face

By Alida Brill on November 29, 2010 in Chronic Healing
Faces have preoccupied me for a specific reason -- steroid treatments for chronic illness.  I have taken steroids from pre-adolescence. Steroids always alter the shape of your face. I wore dramatic hats with large brims during the worst years.  Even if you're feeling your real face has been "lost" to steroids, celebrate your existence this holiday season.

Kim Clijsters and Building Strong Families

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on November 29, 2010 in Nurturing Resilience
As an ambassador for SOS Children's Villages international, Kim Clijsters reminds us that strong families are the best protection against child abuse. There's lots to be said for government policy that puts family welfare ahead of building more prisons.

What do you consider a 'friendship-killer'?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 29, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
There have been times in the past when I've felt let down by this person - cancelling things at last minute, not reciprocating favors of all kinds - but I always decided I would just take the good with the bad. 

What If It Turns Out the Earth Were Flat After All?

By Satoshi Kanazawa on November 28, 2010 in The Scientific Fundamentalist
Science is a cumulative endeavor. We build on past knowledge to attain even greater knowledge than before in a progressive manner. Unfortunately, however, science doesn’t always work as it should.

Cellular Etiquette for Teens

 Teaching your teen everything he/she needs to know about cell phone manners.

How to Identify your “Life Force”

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on November 27, 2010 in Wander Woman
When you allow yourself to focus on the force that fuels your life, you achieve amazing things that fill your heart not just your bank account. If this force is suppressed, you feel trapped or numb. Here are three steps for helping you discover your life force.

No Science, Please. We're Anthropologists.

By Alice Dreger Ph.D. on November 25, 2010 in Fetishes I Don't Get
And so, we've come to this: the American Anthropologial Association's Executive Board is officially ditching science. Should we be surprised, or just dismayed?

What is Psychodrama?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo PhD., MFA, MAPP on November 25, 2010 in The Healing Crowd

Ten Careers with High Rates of Depression

By E E Smith on November 24, 2010 in Not Born Yesterday
As if the holiday season were not depressing enough for some of us, (me, for instance!) along comes a new study that suggests we might also have chosen a career with a high rate of depression. 

Siblings-Good and Bad - Celebrated on NPR This Thanksgiving Week

By Cathy Cress M.S.W. on November 24, 2010 in Mom Loves You Best
NPR ‘s Morning Edition Thanksgiving week series spotlights siblings . 

Make Your Own Thanksgiving

By Michele Woodward on November 24, 2010 in Getting Unstuck
Look at the legacies gifted to you by your parents and grandparents - around money, around relationships, around body image, around holidays - and decide: "Is this what I want for myself?  Does this make me happy, or give me stress?"  Lovingly let go the things that no longer serve you, and get to happy.  Quick.
Fight Bullying with Babies

Fight Bullying with Babies

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on November 24, 2010 in Freedom to Learn
Here are four stories about the power of babies and young children to reduce the aggressiveness and increase the kindness of older children and adults.

A Conversation With Parents of Pre-Schoolers

By Phyllis R. Silverman Ph.D. on November 23, 2010 in Raising Grieving Children

Taking Children to The Funeral

By Phyllis R. Silverman Ph.D. on November 23, 2010 in Raising Grieving Children

10 Things Passive-Aggressive People Say

Is there someone in your life who consistently makes you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster? Do you know a person who is friendly one day but sulks and withdraws the next? If you answered "yes," chances are you may be interacting with a passive aggressive person.

Does Volunteering Your Time Really Help Anyone?

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on November 23, 2010 in The New Resilience
Volunteerism can have a significant impact on the volunteer's own values, relationships and life goals.

What Price Happiness?

By David F Lancy Ph.D. on November 23, 2010 in Benign Neglect
 Should we expect children to always wear a smiley face? Might they be better off, especially in the long run, to experience the states of hunger, cold, frustration, failure, and the pain of a scraped knee? Is being "picked last" the same as being bullied? Should their wish-list be our shopping list?

Poor Man's Polygraph Part 3

 The Forced Response is designed to increase cognitive load. A truthful person has little difficulty processing new information. Conversely, liars use all or most of their cognitive processing capacity to maintain their deception.      

10 Steps to Handling Unfair Criticism

Let's take a close look at how we can manage--or mismanage--the process of receiving unfair criticism.