Essential Reads

Yet Another Reason Why It’s Good to Be a First-Born Child

Research finds that eldest siblings are better at picking up second languages

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Narcissism vs. Authentic Self-Esteem

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on December 03, 2012 in Shame
Genuine self-respect grows from living up to our own standards. Narcissism is a defensive cover for an underlying sense of shame, the very opposite of authentic self-esteem.

Legalization of Marijuana Is Okay

By Lance Dodes M.D. on December 03, 2012 in The Heart of Addiction
Readers of this blog know that addiction is a psychological symptom, a compulsive behavior driven exactly like other compulsions, and readily understandable and treatable. This perspective can be helpful in thinking about the recent election, in which two states legalized the recreational use of marijuana.

The Importance of a Proper Psychiatric History

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on December 03, 2012 in Fighting Fear
A proper psychiatric and psychological history: Its relevance to knowing the patient as a particular human being, and its importance in determining treatment.

How Widespread Is Sexting Among 10 to 17 Year-Olds?

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on December 03, 2012 in Homo Consumericus
How likely is it that your child is involved in sexting? A recent study offers an answer to this important question.

Transforming the Classroom

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on December 03, 2012 in What Matters Most?
Educator/consultant Sarah Pearlz trains teachers on how to bring strengths—such as perseverance—into the classroom.

Small Rewards, Big Impact

By Katrina S Firlik MD on December 03, 2012 in A Spoonful of Sugar
The joy of rifling through a treasure box appeals to both kids and adults. The prizes just need to be a little different.

Fallen Generals…And Our Own Private Truths

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on December 03, 2012 in The New Resilience
The Petraeus scandal is just an extreme, titillating version of a disconnect in many people's lives between their public self and private self; between outer lies and inner truths.

Leave Me Alone – I’m Lonely

By David M. Allen M.D. on December 03, 2012 in A Matter of Personality
Many parents seem to go out of their way to annoy, irritate, and/or verbally abuse their adult children on a regular basis. This post describes some of the reasons for this bizarre behavior.

Managing the Bully in Your Life

Bullying has reached epidemic proportions, at work, at school, and even in the home. Here are some strategies to help you deal with a bully, and realize that you are not alone.

Parental Resentment Toward A Self-Centered Adolescent

When parents resent their teenager for being so selfish to live with, it's time, and past time, to teach the young person to practice the skills of mutuality in their relationship.

The Male Biological Clock

Men, as well as women, are advised to attend to the tick-tock of the biological clock.

Feel Like a Cat, See Like a Bat

By Kristian Marlow on December 02, 2012 in The Superhuman Mind
A little sensory deprivation can turn you into an animal.

Why Friendship is the Key Relationship of the 21st Century

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on December 02, 2012 in Living Single
Across the ages, friendship lost its place of nobility. Now, however, a confluence of factors has created the grounds for a renewed significance of the relationship that once was so esteemed.

Skill at Substance Use

By Stanton Peele on December 02, 2012 in Addiction in Society
Alcohol use has always been ubiquitous among human societies, while new drugs are regularly added to our pharmaceutical cornucopia - and increasingly so for young Americans in the form of psychiatric pharmaceuticals. Under these conditions, skill at use of substances is a necessary concomitant to modern life.

Priming Performance

By Adam Naylor EdD, CC-AASP on December 02, 2012 in The Sporting Life
Self-control on the playing field is over-rated. The most impressive displays of mental toughness occur rather effortlessly… or to be more precise, they are displays of automatic self-control.

What Does Good Parenting Look Like? You Decide.

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 02, 2012 in Moral Landscapes
Parenting advice is confusing. Tell us what you think.

Will I Be Good Enough For Santa?

Last year around this time I was having a discussion about the holidays with two brilliant five-year-olds. They both had the family tradition of making that wish list for Santa. One of them was exuberant about her desires and generously shared her thoughts. But when I inquired about the wishes of the second child, she burst into tears. My heart stopped. What was wrong?

No More High Standards for our Schools

By Susan Engel Ph.D. on December 02, 2012 in Young Minds
Why phrases like "Race to the Top" are bad for children and schools.

Condescension as Manifest Envy

How rational or irrrational are we as human beings?

Video Game Rage

By Victoria L. Dunckley M.D. on December 01, 2012 in Mental Wealth
Contrary to popular belief, video games don't need to be violent in order to trigger aggression in some children, particularly in the face of biological or psychological vulnerablities. Here's a case study illustrating how gaming can push a child over the proverbial edge.

Autistic People: Victims or Victimizers? Both? Or Neither?

By John Elder Robison on December 01, 2012 in My Life With Asperger's
A recent Time.com article depicted siblings of autistic people as "autism's invisible victims." I challenge that way of thinking in this article.

Drinking and Pregnancy: Placing Your Child in Danger

By Karen L. Schiltz Ph.D. on December 01, 2012 in Beyond the Label
Numerous parents, regardless of their intelligence and socioeconomic levels, are not mindful that drinking during pregnancy may result in significant problems in their child’s language, social skills, and ability to focus.

Does ADHD exist?

By Marilyn Wedge Ph.D. on December 01, 2012 in Suffer the Children
The most typical way to treat a child with ADHD is with stimulant medications, which may, in the long term, be harmful to a child’s brain development.

Halle Barry: Can You Get Past The Anger?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on December 01, 2012 in Shrink Wrap
What can Halle (and you) do to find peace?

I Never Want to Have Sex Again

The most frequent phone call to my office begins with these 7 dismaying words. Even young women say this. Hot women say this. In fact about 40 million women feel this. They all can’t be too busy for sex. Have you told your husband this? Has your wife told you this? Here’s how to analyze what’s going on.

Going Viral: Officer DePrimo and "Nolan Daniels"

By Peg Streep on December 01, 2012 in Tech Support
Is it harder to be your true self in the digital age? Two stories from this last week, each with a very different moral, leave us pondering the question....

Study Uncovers 23 Million Generous Women Society Overlooks

By Melanie Notkin on December 01, 2012 in Savvy Auntie
One in five American women is a PANK. Collectively, they spend $9 billion dollars annually on children not their own. More than a third of PANKs contribute to a child's education. Yet, half feel overlooked by society. Who are these generous, childless women? A new national joint-study reveals their power.

Living With Mild Cognitive Impairment

Do you worry whether your memory is okay? Do you have a parent with dementia and worry if you are headed down the same road? What’s normal, what’s not? What can you do to improve your chances of staying in good brain health? What the heck is mild cognitive impairment, anyway?

Different Degrees of Incest and/or Sexual Abuse

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on November 30, 2012 in Fighting Fear
Different kinds of sexual encounters among family members have merged in many people’s minds with sexual abuse in general. Not surprisingly.

Are 'I' Statements Better than 'You' Statements?

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on November 30, 2012 in Cui Bono
In theory, someone who hears "I feel bad when you do that" will feel less defensive and will be more likely to change his or her behavior to your liking than someone who hears "You make me feel bad when you do that." But does the choice of the pronoun "I" or "you" really make that much difference in how a listener reacts?