Essential Reads

Holiday Bullies: The Dangers of Overindulging Your Kids

3 Kinds of Kids Parents Should Never Reward with Gifts

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Causes of Students’ Emotional Fragility: Five Perspectives

Teachers, professors, employers, parents, & students explain students’ problems.

5 Tips to Help Children Cope with Threats of Terrorism

Being Resilient in Times of Threat

Recent Posts on Parenting

Positiveness Part II: Encouragement, Appreciation, and Pride

By Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on January 14, 2013 Pride and Joy
Last month, I discussed ways that parents can strengthen positive feelings in their relationships with their children. In today’s post, I will offer additional recommendations for how we can maintain an attitude of “positiveness,” even when we are frustrated by children’s challenging behaviors.

Finishing High School and "Senioritis" (Academic Letdown)

It's easy for high school seniors, particularly the college bound, to slack off academic effort their final year. But this decision can come back to bite them freshman year in college when weakened study habits make academically catching hold harder to do.

6 Lessons Learned Transitioning to High School

By Kymberly Grosso on January 13, 2013 Autism in Real Life
My son and I came up with a list of “lessons learned” to date, regarding high school and autism. All autistic kids are different; so our experience doesn’t match everyone else’s. That being said, here are some areas to think about with regards to transitioning to high school:

Eight Steps For Raising A Happy First-born

Firstborns face an enormous challenge when another sibling is born.

How Children Read Mixed Messages From Parents

Parents who are confused over their own roles in life often give out mixed messages to their children about what is expected from them. If children try to point out the contradictions, they are often faced with very negative reactions, so they have to figure this out for themselves I find that they use three rules to heirarchically rank the elements of a double message.

Are You First or Last On Your Own To-Do List?

Many women find it easy to put their health last on the priority list...but let’s stop and consider the effect that this “last on the list” placement we give ourselves has on our children -- and even how others see our potential

New Moms Need Social Support

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on January 13, 2013 Moral Landscapes
Growing up my mom always joked with me, “I wish you could have stayed a baby.” She loved that I needed her, that she could hug and kiss me infinitely without my complaints. But most of all, she jokes her favorite thing was the attention she received.

Trauma Can Spark Change

By Vivian Diller Ph.D. on January 13, 2013 Face It
While there have been gestures following the Sandy Hook shooting that have brought national attention -- like the one that NBC's Ann Curry began when she created a Twitter-generated program for 26 acts of kindness -- there are small ones within our own families that may go unnoticed. But it's these very actions by everyday people that may contribute most to helping avoid r

The Educative Value of Teasing

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on January 13, 2013 Freedom to Learn
Teasing gets a bad rap, especially in educational circles, because of its association with bullying. But not all teasing is bullying. In fact, in most settings (maybe not in our typical schools), teasing serves positive ends far more often than negative ones.

Why Are Your Kids So Secretive?

Parents struggle trying to make contact when their teens seem secretive and removed. Understanding and responding to your child's sexual needs for privacy and helping them to distinguish privacy from secrecy may change your feelings of rejection to feeling like a trusted confidante--and relieve them from awkwardness.

Five Tips for Living with an Avid Sports Fan

Avid sports fans devote huge chunks of their time and emotional energy to their favorite teams. If your romantic partner seems to care more about sports than about you, there's hope for your relationship with these five simple tips.

We Are No-thing

Crisis often mobilizes us to experience the transitory nature of life and our no-thing-ness. Acknowledging that we are no-thing goes against the cultural paradigm that all we are is some-thing. One must come from the space of one’s no-thing in order to be authentically some-thing.

Dating: Then and Now

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on January 11, 2013 Fighting Fear
The rules for dating have changed many times over time. An account of some of those changes.

See Your Part

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on January 11, 2013 Your Wise Brain
Whatever sense comes to you of the benefits of seeing your part: really take them in. You surely deserve them. Acknowledging one's own part in a difficult situation is one of the hardest - and I think most honorable - things a person can do.

Where Is...?

How do we not lose ourself and our dreams in our crazy busy lives?

Tag Team

Parents maintain considerable influence over decision-making even when their kids go to college.

Loving Your Appetite

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on January 11, 2013 A Million Meals
We are so surrounded—even suffocated—by the abundance of food in the developed world that we often no longer appreciate the simple pleasure and gift of eating.

The Strange Science of Sleep

By Stephen Fleming Ph.D. on January 11, 2013 The Hidden Mind
Evolution has endowed many animals, from giraffes to fruit flies, with a period of mandatory downtime. It’s as if the latest laptop computer or iPad were to arrive with the warning: “Must remain switched off for at least seven hours a day”. Sleep is a puzzling affair. What is going on after bedtime?

Fishing is Bad for the Best Bass Fathers: Evolution at Work

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 11, 2013 Animal Emotions
Recreational fishers may be removing the best bass fathers who are most vulnerable to angler ploys. This study caught my attention not only because of the unanticipated ways in which human activities can have wide-ranging and unsustainable effects on populations of animals, but also because we know fish are very intelligent and sentient beings who don't like being hooked.

Confronting the Violence That Betrays Young Lives

By Roy Eidelson Ph.D. on January 11, 2013 Dangerous Ideas
We can best honor the lives lost in Newtown – precious young children and the courageous adults who sought to protect them – by working together with determination to reform our gun laws and to address all forms of violence against children at home and abroad.

Flipping Parenting: My Family's Media and Tech Agreement

When young people are invited to contribute items to their family's contract about technology use, some interesting insights can emerge.

Do You 'Friend' Work Colleagues and Bosses on Social Media?

By Meredith Fuller on January 10, 2013 Working with B*tches
It’s hard enough negotiating ‘who knows what’ about you at work, let alone what your ‘five hundred closest friends’ know about your personal life.

Envy: The Vice That Stings You Twice

By Sonia Taitz on January 10, 2013 Trauma and Families
Why do we submit to envy, knowing -- as we do -- that it is painful and pointless?

The All-Important Annual Birthday Party

Rarely do we stop to consider why we have birthday parties in the first place. What do children understand about birthdays and birthday parties?

Monthly Meditations to Invite Eroticism (January)

Contemplate core beliefs, rewire neural pathways, and invite erotic intimacy into your love life with these meditations excerpted from the upcoming companion book to "Erotic Intelligence".

Hot New TV Show: "All My Babies' Mamas"

The latest reality show stars rapper Shawty Lo, his 11 kids and their 10 mamas. The push to ban the show is intense. Why are these shows so popular?

Happy Relationships – Do You Want One?

Love, not laughter, is the best medicine—A scientific look at the power of love, and tips on how to secure what you need.

Nonviolence, God, and a Theology of Not Knowing

Maybe that grace, that love, will reach the person I was agonizing about, maybe not. Maybe it's possible to create a world that works for all, maybe not. Not knowing...

Therapy as a Cultural Cop Out

By Stanton Peele on January 10, 2013 Addiction in Society
Our cultural confidence that we can handle depression and other mental illness is misplaced. It is a cultural meme put in place to reassure us while we proceed with business as usual.