Essential Reads

A Quick, Easy Technique to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Changing your perspective can change your behavior in parenting power struggles

Yet Another Reason Why It’s Good to Be a First-Born Child

Research finds that eldest siblings are better at picking up second languages

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

Recent Posts on Parenting

PTSD Nation

Each time we experience an unexpected, devastating trauma such as the loss of precious, innocent lives at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut, our entire nation suffers from PTSD.

Letting Go

By Amy Przeworski Ph.D. on December 16, 2012 in Don't Worry, Mom
Letting go our of kids and sending them to school in the aftermath of Newtown.

Faking the Holiday Spirit

By Wendy Lustbader M.S.W. on December 16, 2012 in Life Gets Better
Amidst a convivial atmosphere, feeling blue is a direct route to loneliness but pretending to be happy is a terrible burden. There are ways to break through the pretense.

How do You Explain the Inexplicable?

In the aftermath of the massacre are many unanswered questions. How do you discuss what happened with your child?

Another Mass Shooting: Who Is Dangerous and Who Is Not?

By Kathryn Seifert on December 16, 2012 in Stop The Cycle
A dialogue is needed about: 1) How to determine whether someone is dangerous to self or others; 2) what can be done when professionals or family members have concerns about a person's dangerousness to others; 3) whether danger must be imminent in order to have someone committed to a forensic hospital for a thorough evaluation and treatment.

On Access: Mental Health and Guns

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 16, 2012 in The Friendship Doctor
Access to legal and illegal guns seems easier than access to mental health treatment. This imbalance needs to be reversed.

Narratives From The Front

It is hard to imagine trauma and resiliency without hearing the stories of people actually living daily under an existential threat. Below is a description from an American woman, very familiar with Israel, and there during the most recent skirmish. More information about trauma in Israel can be found at the PDF here at

Adolescence and Being Solitary for Good and Ill

Solitude in adolescence can have a healthy and an unhealthy side. Parents need to stay enough in touch with the teenager to make sure that harmful, hidden growth is not underway.

No Satisfactory Explanation, Ever, for Connecticut Slayings

By Marietta McCarty on December 16, 2012 in Life Saving Philosophy
I am struck by the futility of "making sense" of what happened in Connecticut. Reason is not up to that task. Three different points of view—the first from nineteenth century Russia, the second from a grieving father, and the last from one of my first-grade child philosophers—somehow steady me.

What if Jesus Had Been Born in the USA?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 16, 2012 in Moral Landscapes
If Jesus had been born under USA standards, he might not have been the wise, calm, peaceloving person he became. Why?

The Pain of Being Linked by Asperger Dx to a Mass Shooter

By Lucy Berrington on December 16, 2012 in Asperger's Alive
The autism community has responded with shock, pain and eloquence to the horror at Newtown, CT. The commentaries share an essential theme: please judge the shooter, not the autism or mental illness (if he even had autism or a mental illness). But they approach it in different ways and with varying emphasis.

God and grief

By Gordon S Livingston M.D. on December 16, 2012 in Lifelines
God's absence is revealed in many ways, none more heartbreaking than in the deaths of children.

Some Counsel Following the Tragedy

By Gregg Henriques on December 16, 2012 in Theory of Knowledge
Some psychologists with expertise on crisis situations offer some guidance following the school shooting tragedy.

Deciding to be Adults

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on December 16, 2012 in Media Spotlight
How early should adolescents start thinking about taking up adult roles? While that awkward stage known as adolescence can be uncomfortable, being halfway between childhood and adulthood means making choices about when to become an adult. How soon should they become sexually active? Or finish school? Or become parents?

Gun Control and the Slaughter of Innocents

Our ability to protect those we love from tragedies like mass killings is severely limited. We must be able pursue gun control without embarking upon a “War on Guns” to evade traumatic feelings and vulnerabilities that we need to own and face.

Helping Kids Cope with Traumatic Events

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in Shyness Is Nice
When confronted with traumatic events, parents face the twin tasks of coping with their own reactions as well as their children's. Here are tips from A-Z on how to help your kids cope.

7 Tips: When Every Millisecond Matters

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in Creating in Flow
Reptiles freeze when threatened, while mammals run. As humans, there are times when both impulses war within our brains. Our choices are often made in tiny fractions of a second. Seven insights to consider.

Thinking in Scale

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in A Swim in Denial
We have difficulty thinking about things larger and smaller than we're used to, especially when conflict and denial further fuzz the picture. Here's another look at "Beating up Baby."

Protecting Children From Psychological Trauma

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on December 15, 2012 in Fighting Fear
A description of some of the pitfalls of dealing with the aftermath of traumatizing events. Particular suggestions for helping the survivors of the tragedy at Newton, Conn.

The Massacre At Sandy Hook Elementary School

By Peter Langman Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in Keeping Kids Safe
Other shooters have killed family members, and other shooters have been adults who attacked elementary schools, but no previous shooter has done both. In that way, Lanza’s attack appears to be unique.

Keeping a Diary

Having children write down what they remember about the deceased and sharing it in regular family meetings is one way of following these changes and helping children understand that what they are experiencing is appropriate.

Coping With the Recent School Shooting

Many of the surviving children will have witnessed bloodshed and others around the nation may see images and videos of it on television. Here are some guidelines for parents struggling with the issue of how to help their children and families.

Pornography:The New Sex Ed For Kids

Is your kid learning about sex through porn?

What You Need to Know about Borderline Personality Disorder

Many of us, without knowing it, enter into close relationships with people who fit the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. The findings from a new study can help you (or someone you know) cope with this challenging condition.

Talking to Children About the School Shooting

An anxious child may be asking for reassuring words, but may be most comforted by a cuddle on your lap, a game of Monopoly or a warm and loving family dinner. At times like these, we all are restored by the normal routines and simple activities that nourish our hearts and spirits. Take time, make time for the things that bring you and your children quiet comfort.

Violence and Shame: The Attack Other Response

When it comes to violence against others, the affect of shame is present.

Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World

When tragedy strikes, whether it’s personal or related to a news event, children may feel very frightened. Here’s one way you can reassure your child without offering false promises.

How to Get Straight A's in Life

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on December 14, 2012 in BrainSnacks
Let's teach our kids that the key attitudes for success in life start with "A."

Talking With Children About Disaster

Children are magnets for emotion, so they’re likely to pick up on adults’ fear, sadness, horror, and anger about tragic events in the news, even if they don’t fully understand what’s going on.