Essential Reads

Meaningfully Salient Parenting

For the child to become whole, he or she must have a model who is whole.

Living With a Control Freak? Some Sanity Tips

Control: Like most things it’s not about what you think and not personal

Getting Existential with Josh Rouse

Musician Uses Mindfulness to Manage Anxiety

Breakup: How to Tell If You Suffer from Complicated Grief

The emotional responses to a severe breakup can resemble the responses to death.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Born to Be Friends

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 13, 2013 in Singletons
How early friendships shape kids for years to come.

7 Habits for a Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body

By Christopher Bergland on February 13, 2013 in The Athlete's Way
In this entry I will explore ways in which modern living is causing our bodies and minds to short-circuit. I will recap the major periods of human evolution, how technological advances impact our lives, and offer a simple prescriptive of 7 Habits for a Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body.

The Labor of Love: Life As a Sex Therapist Part 2 of 2

By Brad Waters on February 13, 2013 in Design Your Path
In part 2 of my interview with renowned sex therapist Sallie Foley, she discusses internet porn, finding humor in sex, and staying resilient after 30 years in the field.

The Root of It All

By Andrea Fox on February 12, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
It is not about rehashing the past, blaming our parents, or even trying to do better than they did. It’s about moving forward, recognizing why we do the things we do, and trying to do better. One mistake at a time.

Breathe Deep...?

By Hal E. Hershfield Ph.D. on February 12, 2013 in The Edge of Choice
Should you relax before making a big purchase or decision?

Happy ValenTribe’s Day

By Rachel Clark on February 12, 2013 in Marry, Divorce, Reconcile
Without our tribe, our marriage would be a pale shadow. With it, it becomes everything.

What's Past Is Prologue

By Michael F. Kay on February 12, 2013 in Financial Life Focus
Understanding your financial mentality by looking backward.

Schools Shouldn't Be Teaching Critical Skills, Some Say

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on February 12, 2013 in Am I Right?
While every society raises children to accept its core values, real education must challenge obedience to authority. A vibrant and humane society rides the twin horses of culture and intellect.

Why Valentine's Day Is Scary

What's that scary holiday where you’re encouraged to dress up, hope for a trick or a treat, and expect candy? Where chatting up a virtual stranger after dark seems normal? When whispering voices warn to be afraid, to be very afraid, if you’re on your own? Why, it’s Valentine's Day, of course.

Listening to Music Ain't a Simple Thing

By Dr. Kimberly Sena Moore on February 12, 2013 in Your Musical Self
What was your reaction to Beyonce's Superbowl halftime performance? Everyone listened to the same performance, yet there were highly diverse reactions to it. Why? The answer can be summed up in a single word: complexity. Music is a complex stimulus. Humans are complex beings. The interactions between humans and music is thus a highly complex phenomenon.

The Science Behind Falling in Love

By Maryanne Fisher Ph.D. on February 12, 2013 in Love's Evolver
Although you might feel that your experience of falling in love is unique, science can explain why you have lost your appetite, or why you think the sky is bluer.

Concrete Cases of Poverty in America

By Elizabeth Wagele on February 12, 2013 in The Career Within You
In this blog I want to bring the problem of poverty down to Earth with some concrete examples of what it’s like for children to go hungry here.

When Secession is an Option, After All

By Lucy Berrington on February 12, 2013 in Asperger's Alive
My 13-year-old son with Asperger's acquired a new obsessive interest: micronations. Perhaps establishing his own small country was an attempt to impose order on a too-big world. But how much of a threat to him (and us) was isolationism?

Do You Mesh? Try This One-Minute Intimacy Test

Would you like to intensify closeness with someone you love? In what ways can intimacy be understood and improved? Take the 1 minute Intimacy Compatibility Test!

What Your Grandmother Didn’t Tell You About Her Sex Life

We associate aging with loss of sexuality, but a large national survey showed that people keep up their sex lives throughout their lives. What’s more, they engage in a full range of sexual behaviors, as well as maintaining a healthy interest in sexuality. Both men and women until their mid-80s are likely doing things in the bedroom that you think they’ve given up on.

Trauma of Divorce and its Effects on Children

By Stephen Joseph Ph.D. on February 12, 2013 in What Doesn't Kill Us
The bottom line is that divorce can be traumatic for children. That does not mean that divorce is never the best option. But it does mean that we have to ensure that children's welfare is at the heart of the decision.

Coming to the End of a Relationship — Over and Over Again

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on February 11, 2013 in Fighting Fear
Good reasons for breaking up and bad reasons for staying together--but getting back together anyway, over and over again

'But I didn't mean to...'

By Nancy Rappaport M.D. on February 11, 2013 in We Are Only Human
Students with sexualized behavior are one of teachers' biggest concerns. It is unusual and upsetting, and they often do not know how to respond.

The New Vogue of Hating Motherhood

By Lauren Sandler on February 11, 2013 in One and Only
We're more confessional than ever about how hard motherhood can be. But all our bitching doesn't really change a thing.

Fear, Obligation, and Guilt (FOG) in Relationships

By Randi Kreger on February 11, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten, directly or indirectly, to punish us if we don’t do what they want. The main tool of the trade is FOG: fear, obligation, and guilt.

The Risks of Sleep-Disordered Breathing in Children

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Sleep Newzzz
Does your child snore? Does he breathe through his mouth when he sleeps? Do you ever notice pauses in your child’s breathing while she’s asleep? If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, your child may be suffering from sleep-disordered breathing.

Was Your Dad a Narcissist?

By Mark Banschick M.D. on February 11, 2013 in The Intelligent Divorce
Do you work too hard for Dad's approval? Was he great, but there was something missing? Do you end up with charming partners who don't meet your needs? Your father may have been narcissistic. Here's a check list that can help you out.

Helping Psychologically Wounded Children Heal

Victimization and life injuries create trauma, suffering and psychological wounds. Some avenues to healing are engagement with experience, which can be created through reading and writing stories in schools; warmth, affection and support by parents, teachers and peers; and gaining meaning out of one's suffering by becoming active bystanders to prevent others' suffering.

Snooze Alert, Snooze Alert: Sleep-Deprived Fathers Ahead

By Peter B. Gray Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in The Evolving Father
Fatherhood can alter men's sleep patterns, as a large, new U.S. study shows. Fathers also face a variety of sleeping arrangements, adjustments with work, and even decreases in testosterone.

Keys to Building Hope in Children: Part 2 Self–Regulation

By Anthony Scioli Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Hope Today
What Children Need to Have Hope

Is Technology Changing the Way Kids Develop Relationships?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in The Power of Prime
Do you want your children to learn about the meaning of love from The Bachelorette, about families from Keeping Up with the Kardashians, or friendship from Gossip Girls? Do you want your children to have 100 Facebook “friends,” learn about sex from pornography web sites, or experience cyberbullying though text messages? I hope not.

No Romance, No Marriage, Just a Baby, Please

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Singletons
They hardly know each other, they may or may not end up living together, but he and she want a biological baby. These newly formed baby-making partnerships will be questioned, but there is logic to them.

Your Life Is Like a Three Ring Circus

It took me three years to master the art of watching a three ring circus. Now you can do it in under five minutes and use the skills you learn to manage your career.

The Psychology of Studying Your Children

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
“The Birth of a Word,” MIT researcher Deb Roy talks about a phenomenal experiment he launched in which he recorded almost 250,000 hours of audio and video from the day he and his wife brought their infant son home from the hospital until the boy was 3 years old.

When Parents and Adolescent Are Very Different People

When there are basic differences between parent and adolescent in temperament, functioning, interests, capacity, or personality, it can be tempting to encourage the teenager to change and become more similar to the adult, rather than accepting and nurturing the young person's human nature and inherent strengths.