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The Real Reason Religion Is Declining In America

Why the U.S. will eventually resemble Europe

How to Foster More Adaptive Thinking

Are your cognitions working for you or against you?

The Perfect Graduation Gift: A Coat for All Seasons!

Give your son or daughter life's ultimate edge!

Room Rights in Adolescence

When disagreeing about room-care, respect the importance of the teenage room

Recent Posts on Parenting

Children & Praise: Why Certain Types of Praise May Backfire

Common sense suggests that praising children is certainly better than withholding it. But new research suggests that not all praise is created equal. In fact, certain types of praise may actually undermine the self-esteem of some children, especially those whose self-image is already fragile.

Who Helps the Caregivers?

She faithfully loads her husband's wheelchair into the car, but who attends to her needs? Some skills make you a good caregiver, but which ones let you survive it?

Got Milk? Our Life with Cows

By Kimerer LaMothe Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in What a Body Knows
For the past five years, we—mostly Jordan, Jessica, Kyra, and infrequently, me—have been milking from one to three cows every day. It wasn’t my idea.

Gifted Children: Skipping Grades

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Attention Training
Hana, age eight enrolled in the NYS public school system was first identified as a high ability learner when she was four.

A Child of a Single Parent Asks, Why the Hurtful Digs?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Living Single
Some of the people in public and private life who say, essentially, that the children of single parents are doomed to a lesser life, really believe that’s what the science says. They are wrong.

What Type of Thinker Are You?

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 28, 2013 in Turning Straw Into Gold
“Convergent” and “divergent” thinking represent two different ways of looking at the world. A convergent thinker sees a limited, predetermined number of options. By contrast, a divergent thinker is always looking for more options. Many of us get stuck in convergent thinking and, as a result, don’t see the many possibilities available to us.

Physical Activity Boosts Brain Power

By Christopher Bergland on February 28, 2013 in The Athlete's Way
Healthy children come in all shapes and sizes. Being physically fit is more important than Body Mass Index (BMI) when it comes to doing well in school. A new study published this week in the Journal of Pediatrics found that aerobic fitness has a greater effect on academic performance than weight.

The Myth of the "Other Mother"

By Andrea Fox on February 28, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
Moms often have a difficult time admitting just how hard parenting can be, especially when we are faced with the realities of motherhood versus our pre-children idyllic expectations. Assuming that other moms are doing it better, faster, easier, and in really good shoes, can lead us to feel pretty down on ourselves. Unless and until we realize that no one is perfect.

How Close is Too Close in Mother-Daughter Relationships?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Singletons
Most mothers want to be close to their daughters, but how close is too close? Is being a “Best Friend Forever” with a daughter a positive thing or a slippery slope that could compromise her development?

The Younger Generation Is Always Right

By Robin Marantz Henig on February 28, 2013 in Cusp
My daughter Samantha and I did another bit of publicity for our book Twentysomething yesterday: a taping of an upcoming episode of Katie Couric's new afternoon talk show, "Katie." But when Katie asked me what I thought of the Millennials, I gave the wrong answer. Here's what I should have said instead.

Bipolar Bad, Ritalin Good

By Nassir Ghaemi M.D., M.P.H. on February 28, 2013 in Mood Swings
Hating bipolar disorder and loving Ritalin doesn't make sense scientifically.

Mornings in High School—A Total Loss!

By Ian McMahan Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Chronotherapy
You’re bleary-eyed and dead to the world—so what’s the purpose? Is it your fault, or the system’s? You guessed it: it’s the System. Which must be tweaked a bit. Parents, teachers, and school boards: Take note!

Infanticide: Exploring the Heart of Darkness

By Helen M Farrell M.D. on February 27, 2013 in Frontpage Forensics
Another tragedy grips the nation and leaves people with many questions. Why would anyone ever kill children in their own family?

Latest News about Teen Marijuana Use

By Vivian Diller Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Face It
While recent studies show some good news regarding the decline in teenage cigarette smoking and alcohol abuse, the bad news is that more are using marijuana and doing so more regularly than ever before. Studies also reveal a growing perception that marijuana use is harmless—a confluence of trends that could lead to an entirely new health crisis among teenagers today.

Giftedness Not Unwrapped—We All Lose

By Judy Willis M.D., M.Ed. on February 27, 2013 in Radical Teaching
If giftedness is not carefully nurtured it may not blossom. Failing to identify and support children’s gifts can limit their access to future careers in scientific, artistic, or other academic pursuits that could give them great joy. Discovering and developing gifted children is not only critical for them, but also vital for society.

Cinematherapy: A Useful Tool in Group Therapy

By Jeremy Clyman Psy.D on February 27, 2013 in Reel Therapy
If you've heard of the term, cinematherapy, but want to actually know what it looks and feels like in action and how it can be beneficial....then you've come to the right blog post.

When All Else Fails,Try Reverse Psychology!

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Evolution of the Self
Many years ago I wrote a text for therapists on employing paradoxical therapeutic techniques—for the most part, more intricate and refined versions of reverse (or negative) psychology. The book,*Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy*, was primarily about motivating (though deviously!) highly resistant clients and families to change dysfunctional behaviors.

Are Online Relationships Healthy For Young People?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in The Power of Prime
Virtual relationships have all the appearances of real relationships, for example, connectedness, communication, and sharing. Yet, these relationships are missing essential elements that distinguish them from flesh-and-blood relationships, namely, three dimensionality, facial expressions, voice inflection, clear emotional messages, gestures, and body language.

Why The Boobs Song at the Oscars Missed the Mark

By Carrie Goldman on February 27, 2013 in Modern Day Parenting
A breakdown of why the "We Saw Your Boobs Song" at the Oscars was sexist and harmful.

Eating Disorders: Fighting Stigma with Science

In honor of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, it is time to replace myths about eating disorders with truths.

Your Child's Path

By Susan Engel Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Young Minds
What can and cannot change about your child.

How Important Is Your Date's Wallet?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 27, 2013 in Open Gently
The term "gold-digger" summons up an image of 22 year olds kissing ancient lips to win a fast inheritance. But what do we think about college students entertaining sugar daddies who help cover their tuition?

What to Do With Kids Over Spring Break: Absolutely Nothing

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
Self-sufficiency isn't something most kids are born with. They need to be taught how to be with themselves -- what that means and what it looks like -- deliberately and repeatedly.

It’s Never Just About the Food!

It’s Never Just About the Food! Puberty, Eating Disorders and the Self. By Jacqueline Ferraro, D.M.H. At puberty, unsettling feelings can be expressed in the language of food, calories, and control of weight. This is the 2nd of 3 posts from the Eating Disorders, Compulsions and Addictions Service (EDCAS) of the William Alanson White Institute.

3 Ways to Get What You Want From Life

By Christina Curtis on February 26, 2013 in Stop Dreaming, Start Doing
Get in action around the things you care about most.

Are You Missing Out by Not Having Kids?

By Ellen Walker Ph.D. on February 26, 2013 in Complete Without Kids
Are there actually some positives to not being a parent?

Facebook, Emotions, and Parenthood

Are we who we say we are on Facebook? And why should it matter?

Behavioral Health: Cheaper Than Disease

By Nathan W Gates LCPC on February 26, 2013 in Wellness In Action
Steven Brill's recent Time special report shows the impossible costs of healthcare for many American families. It's impossible to eliminate risk and prevent all need for expensive medical care, but there are things you can do to minimize your risk of being caught up in an expensive and painful medical merry-go-round. It starts with behavior.

Jack Andraka Is Not An Ordinary Kid

In America we enjoy hearing that everyone can do whatever they put their mind to and focus their heart on. But is it really true?

The Power of Translation

The Power of Translation: Before an infant can talk, translation comes into play as a parent tries to decipher the meanings—or feelings—behind an infant’s use of facial expressions and vocalizations. These feelings are expressed through facial expressions, bodily gestures, and vocalizations.