Essential Reads

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

Why you should take the time to capture the mundane in your everyday life

Teenagers Are From Earth

Pathologizing adolescence doesn't do us any favors.

Work-Life Balance is Dead

Here's why we should aim for work-life integration instead

A Tipping Point: We've Finally Noticed Boys' Struggles

Parents and grandparents of boys, take heart: Their time has come.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Sweethearts-in-Training: 15 Valentine Tips

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 05, 2013 in Singletons
Valentine’s Day is about much more than flowers and candy in heart-shaped boxes, especially if you have children. How you treat your partner on Valentine’s Day speaks loudly to your children.

Pop-A-Pill Culture

Do 1 in 12 kids really have ADHD?

The Upside of Negative Emotions

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Compassion Matters
It turns out we expend much more energy avoiding the pains of our existence than we do when we actually face our feelings. Often, we cause ourselves much more misery through our attempts to defend against our unpleasant emotions. Going toward the pain allows us to feel it and move on. Plus, it enables us to be more emotionally adaptable.

Explaining the Unexplainable

By Abby Sher on February 04, 2013 in Amen, Amen, Amen
I'd promised my toddler we could visit my parents. Only problem: my parents are dead.

Taming Love... With Science.

What do psychologists know about the what, how, and who of passionate love? Can we use the tools of science to unpack this mysterious emotion?

The Genius of Dogs and The Hidden Life of Wolves

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Animal Emotions
These two fact-filled and engaging books are well worth reading and sharing widely. While dogs have many friends imperiled wolves need all the friends and help they can get because as I write this essay they are being ruthlessly and wantonly killed. This unnecessary and heartless slaughter breaks up families and has had huge negative effects on on-going research.

How to Raise Mindful Children in a Digital World

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in The Power of Prime
If you want your children to be truly happy, you must give them opportunities to experience mindfulness. In this crazy new world of technology, what a wonderful lifelong gift you give your children when you help them to, paraphrasing a well-known adage from the 1960s counterculture movement, to “turn off and tune in.”

Is Crying Good for You?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 04, 2013 in Open Gently
Emotional tears contain chemicals that may help us to release. And most people say they love a "good cry." But in lab tests crying makes people feel worse.

What Determines a Baby's Attachment Security?

By Charles Fernyhough PhD on February 04, 2013 in The Voices Within
Mind-mindedness is a multidimensional construct representing caregivers' willingness to take the perspective of their offspring. In a longitudinal study, different profiles of mind-mindedness predicted the quality of infant–mother attachment.

When It's Time to Cut Your Gifted Child Some Slack

By Christopher Taibbi M.A.T. on February 04, 2013 in Gifted-Ed Guru
Giftedness does not exempt that individual from going through the same behavioral developmental stages and benchmarks that any other person must inevitably go through.

Raising Self-Esteem and Teaching New Coping Mechanisms

By Nancy Matsumoto on February 04, 2013 in Eating Disorders News
Teach your child to understand to identify his feelings, and understand that even those that are unpleasant or painful are legitimate.

When a Parent Loses a Child

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Media Spotlight
One of the greatest traumas imaginable is when parents have to deal with the death of a child. Producing greater stress than dealing with the death of a parent or spouse, a child’s death is especially traumatic because it is often unexpected as well as being in violation of the usual order of things in which the child is expected to bury the parent.

Loneliness Harms Your Health—and It's Increasing

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in The New Resilience
Research shows that loneliness harms our health, but it's important to recognize that it's fueled by our social conditioning to seek self-worth through external criteria of recognition, money and power. A hollow inner life results, setting the stage for isolation and loneliness, whether by yourself or in a crowd.

Don't Write Men Off Just Yet

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
Conventional wisdom about the decline of men ignores an important qualifier.

How Conflict Can Worsen Parent/Adolescent Communication

By example, interaction, and instruction, teaching the conduct of conflict to their adolescent is an essential part of the curriculum of family life that parents have to teach.

The Super Bowl Lesson to Parents of Siblings

The embrace between John and Jim after the Super Bowl was a testament to the power of positive parenting. Invest in your children early on and they will make you proud. Just ask the Harbaugh parents what they felt when they saw that embrace. Jack and Jackie, you earned and deserve that sense of pride. I salute you!

Sexology: Is It Research or "Me"Search?

In the professions of psychology and public health (the two I'm most familiar with), many scholars admit to engaging in "me"search once in a while to spark their research curiosity. It makes sense, as many of the topic areas can easily be applied to one's own life. Conducting "me"search when your topic of interest is sex can therefore raise a lot of eyebrows.

Why Today’s Afterschool Specials Would Be Hope Killers

By Shane J. Lopez Ph.D. on February 03, 2013 in Making Hope Happen
If fiction follows fact, modern afterschool will reflect the great hope divide between American adults and children.

Normal, Human Infant Sleep: Feeding Method and Development

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on February 03, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
Although US culture emphasizes “sleeping through the night,” this is is not biologically normal. Knowledge about normal sleep patterns can help alleviate the stress and anxiety parents feel, leading to happier times for the entire family.

Some Peculiarities of the Delusional State

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on February 03, 2013 in Fighting Fear
Although delusional thinking is by definition peculiar, certain aspects of that cognitive dysfunction are especially remarkable and should be understood separately.

4 Lessons From the Mother of a Chronically Ill Child

By Leana Wen M.D. on February 02, 2013 in The Doctor Is Listening
How a mother of a chronically ill child became a patient advocate--and the 4 lessons she wants to share with doctors, nurses, and health providers.

The Five Happiness Power Principles

By Russell Grieger Ph.D. on February 02, 2013 in Happiness on Purpose
Principles precede practices. All the best of intentions will be for naught if not supported by the right principles. The Five Happiness Power Principles prompt one to sustain the actions necessary to create a life you love to life.

Helping Your Kids to Get the Most Out of Dating

Is anyone good enough to date your child? The uncertainties of dating often stir more anxiety for parents than kids. Effectively supporting your children through this important threshold will deepen your relationship with your kids and prepare your children to feel confident for this important experience in relationships.

Helping a Community Understand the Complexity of Grief

Grief is not an illness. Mourners have emotional reactions to the death of someone close to them. In additon they need to understand how the death changes their lives and learn to deal with these changes. Mourners need the support of friends, family and others in their community. To help we all need to see grief as a life cycle event. We need to educate our community.

When Grief and Love are Unspoken

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on February 02, 2013 in Freedom to Grieve
My heart, broken, Holding love, unspoken.

How A Laundry Detergent Commercial Saved the World

By Stuart Fischoff Ph.D. on February 02, 2013 in The Media Zone
Is there something in the cultural zeitgeist that birthed these Tide commercials? Legalized gay marriage, gay adoptions, jump in house husbands, or is it women as primary or equal wage earners in nuclear families?

8 Strategies for Helping Kids Adjust to a Divorce

Children can emerge from a divorce in good shape if parents work hard to create a stable environment.

Varieties of Love and Loss

The nature of a loss experience will depend complexly on the forms or dimensions of love that had constituted the lost relationship. If you, or someone you care about, ever experience a traumatic loss, never think or utter the words, “You have to let it go and move on.” Do not turn away.

Valentine Special: The Origins of Love

By Neel Burton M.D. on February 01, 2013 in Hide and Seek
Plato's most beautiful myth.

Think Your Way Thin

There are all kinds of conditions that prevent any of us from being the weight we desire and feeling in good health as a result. Much of weight has to do with the way our minds have been programmed since we were children.