Essential Reads

What Seinfeld Understood About Motivation and Psychology

Jerry Seinfeld's amazing advice on motivation and productivity.

Why I Can't..... or Why Can't I?

The beliefs we carry write the script of our life.

Developmental Dislike of Parents During Early Adolescence

Come adolescence, there is more to dislike about parents, and there needs to be

I'm Having An Impossible Time With A Break-Up

Break-Ups Are Harder In The Age of Social Media

Recent Posts on Parenting

I Don't Know How to Act Around My Teen Daughter

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 21, 2013 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when your teen is depressed

Taking Stock Fifty Years After Freidan's "Feminine Mystique"

By Lauren Sandler on February 21, 2013 in One and Only
Fifty years after the Feminine Mystique, women still shoulder the burden, and suffer for it.

Letters to a Young Student: Part 3

By George Atwood Ph.D. on February 21, 2013 in Strange Memories
An aging psychotherapist reflects on his experiences, in response to a young student's inquiries

A New Take on Manipulation

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 21, 2013 in Evolution of the Self
There may be times when you’re strongly motivated to assist someone who genuinely needs your help. Yet, for whatever reasons, they turn down all your straightforward attempts. Might it then be okay to “manipulate” them into compliance?—that is, for their own good?

Mind of a Rampage Killer: Avoiding Possible Roots

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on February 20, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
The PBS show mentions the importance of early experience for mental and social health but does not elaborate. Here are ways to foster positive mental health in young children.

We Never Forget the Important People in Our Lives

By Russell Friedman on February 20, 2013 in Broken Hearts
Exploring two very important questions:“Is it ever too soon to be done with grieving?” and “Are we ever really done grieving the death of our child?”

You Can Get Over Loneliness

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 20, 2013 in Open Gently
Science is now tracking what Buddhism has said for centuries: Meditation on love can measurably improve a person's ability to create moments of connection during an ordinary day and give their bodies a healthy diet of love.

Headline Today: Misleading Reports Lead to ADHD Confusion

Skewed ADHD coverage undermines care and amplifies the difficulties for parents. There is much to refine about how best to diagnose and treat ADHD, and about the potential for medication misuse. Yet we leave families hanging when we falsely suggest ADHD is an artifact of a busy society, caused by parents, or that treatment is always ineffective or unsafe.

The Four Kinds of Relational Justification Systems

By Gregg Henriques on February 20, 2013 in Theory of Knowledge
Relational justification systems are the set of propositions that define the values and legitimize the actions and roles played by people in small groups or society at large. Four kinds of relational justification systems can be identified: Power; Love; Freedom; and Achievement.

Do Mass Killers Start Out by Harming Pets?

The tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School joins a long list of mass shootings. In a now familiar scenario, a troubled teenage boy unleashes mayhem, taking down children, adults, and ultimately himself in a hail of bullets. After the shock, we are left to puzzle over the clues missed. While there are no easy answers, animal abuse may be an important early warning sign.

Sexting Gets Easier to Parental Dismay

Snapchat, the relatively new online app that allows the user to send a message or photograph and have it disappear one to ten seconds after it is opened, is now processing 60 million messages a day.

Three Surprising Truths about Teens

By Christine L Carter Ph.D. on February 20, 2013 in Raising Happiness
A scientific expert on adolescence answers our burning questions.

How to Survive 50 Common Marital Pet Peeves

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on February 20, 2013 in The Squeaky Wheel
Pet peeves run the gamut from slightly annoying to incredibly irritating—here’s how to survive them.

When Single Child Families Idealize What They Don't Have

By Lauren Sandler on February 20, 2013 in One and Only
How only children, and their parents, get hurt by idealizing larger families

Bad Memories? 8 Ways to Detox Yourself

By Mark Banschick M.D. on February 20, 2013 in The Intelligent Divorce
You're having trouble in relationships. You choose wrong. You anger easily or avoid confrontation at all costs. There may be trauma in your upbringing. Here's an 8 point Detox from a painful past.

Problem Child

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 20, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
If your child is the troublemaker, it's important to help set him straight sooner rather than later -- ideally before he gets labeled and before he finds himself losing friends.

Angelina, Celebs Share Stories to Advance Health Awareness

Angelina Jolie gets double mastectomy. Robin Roberts. David Letterman. Whether it's cancers of the colon, breast or lung; or borderline personailty, depression and/or domestic violence, many celebrities have lent their voice to increasing awareness of illnesses that have affected them or their loved ones.

12 Tips to Reduce Your Child's Stress and Anxiety

By Amy Przeworski Ph.D. on February 19, 2013 in Don't Worry, Mom
12 Tips for reducing your child's anxiety and stress

Toddler Knows Best

By Kristina R Olson Ph.D. on February 19, 2013 in Developing Minds
New research indicates that 3-year-old children help "paternalistically"—indicating that they know better than others what's best for them. Much like Bloomberg and his soda ban or state laws requiring seat belts, children understand that sometimes you have to ignore what people say they want now in order to help them accomplish their larger goals instead.

I'm Alive, Is That Good Enough? When Careers Lead to Suicide

By Brad Waters on February 19, 2013 in Design Your Path
A look at recent headlines of career-related stress and depression leading to suicide. What will it take to change the relentless pace and pressure of our success-obsessed society?

Addictive Families: Part 5

In order for children to trust, they must feel safe. They need to be able to depend on their parents for friendly help, concern and guidance in response to their physical and emotional needs.

Food, Fuel, and Teen Girls

By Ana Homayoun on February 19, 2013 in The Myth of the Perfect Girl
Encouraging teen girls to become proactively engaged in making better nutrition choices for improved health, vitality, and wellness.

In the Early Morning Rain

Like a lot of young transgender people, I reached a moment when I thought of ending my life. On a cliff in Nova Scotia, instead, I found the way home.

Grade Grudge or What Ever Happened to the Honestly Earned C?

By Dana S Dunn Ph.D. on February 19, 2013 in Head of the Class
The psychology of the problematic C grade: What does it mean? Can the grade still be useful rather than stigmatized?

Downton Abbey for Sale

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in A Swim in Denial
At a time of torturous confusion in American & British culture, "Downton Abbey" is soothing syrup.

The Challenges of Being a Medically Ill Parent

It is rare that a film can capture, in such a concrete way, dynamics between parents and children that often go unspoken

Relationships: A Gateway to Emotional Freedom?

A reflection on how important relationships enrich our lives and further our spiritual growth

Why Do Humans Have to Cut Their Hair?

By Gwen Dewar Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Making Humans
Humans have a hair problem. It never stops growing. Why did our ancestors evolve such high-maintenance heads?

Our Low Birth Rate Is About Liberation

By Lauren Sandler on February 18, 2013 in One and Only
Our low birth rate is about liberation, not just economics.

Giftedness: What Are We Testing?

By Tracy P Alloway Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Keep It in Mind
A recent article in the NYT on testing for giftedness suggests that the test scores let in the well-prepared students rather than those who are “gifted”. This made me wonder: What are we testing when we test for "giftedness"? Test taking skills or an ability to think creatively and innovatively?