Essential Reads

A Quick, Easy Technique to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Changing your perspective can change your behavior in parenting power struggles

Yet Another Reason Why It’s Good to Be a First-Born Child

Research finds that eldest siblings are better at picking up second languages

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

Recent Posts on Parenting

Profile of a Rampage Killer

By Polly Palumbo Ph.D. on December 21, 2012 in Momma Data
We crave answers in the aftermath of the Newtown massacre. Guns, video games and mental illness have all been targeted as explanations for the school shootings. The research literature offers answers but they might surprise you.

The Mid-Life Crisis Does and Doesn’t Exist

By Ian Stuart-Hamilton Ph.D. on December 21, 2012 in The Gift of Aging
The mid-life crisis is a term that gets bandied around, but the symptoms are not universal amongst the population and many behavioural changes attributed to the MLC are explicable in other ways. But the serious psychiatric changes associated with MLC should not be dismissed - nor should people assume that a crisis is only for middle aged people.

How to Ruin a Perfectly Good Relationship

Like all avoidance strategies, stonewalling only proves that we are inadequate and unlovable, or else we wouldn’t need to do it. Thus the more we do it, the more it seems that we need to do it.

Naughty or Nice?

By Stephen Gray Wallace on December 21, 2012 in Decisions Teens Make
Are teenagers acting strange? Maybe, but by developmental design.

Can science shed light on “Proof of Heaven”?

By Michael Chorost Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in World Wide Mind
In his book "Proof of Heaven," the neurosurgeon Eben Alexander tells a vivid story of life after death, and of an omniscient and loving God. How much of it can a rationalist believe?

Daughters Too Benefit from Influence of Good Dads

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in Our Gender, Ourselves
When my daughter went to work with my husband at his clothing retailer I saw how it transformed her.

Mass Shooters Aren't Inherently Mentally Ill

By Azadeh Aalai Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in The First Impression
Distortion of mental illness in the wake of the school shooting serves to reinforce mental illness stigma in our culture.

Was Adam Lanza an Undiagnosed Schizophrenic?

By Jamie Turndorf Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in We Can Work It Out
Many psychiatrists are unaware of research linking autism and schizophrenia. Current diagnostic hierarchy treats these two conditions as distinct, and the majority of professionals are unaware they can co-exist. Since schizophrenia can be linked to violent behavior, mental health professionals need to be informed. Early detection is vital to averting a similar tragedy.

Bittersweet Holidays

Nostalgic memories can be comforting during holidays that bring stress, joy and sadness.

Ten Tips For Raising Moral Children

By Vivian Diller Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in Face It
Is there anything we can do now to avoid tragedies like Sandy Hook Elementary in the future? As a psychologist and a parent, I believe there is. We can understand the role we must play in the moral development of our children. We can acknowledge when they fail to follow this developmental track and seek counsel when they — or we — need help to get back on course.

ADHD and Women: A Vastly Under-Recognized Condition

By Tim Bilkey M.D. on December 20, 2012 in Fast Minds
On her Brownie overnight camping trip, instead of a teddy bear, she brought a six-pack and a flare gun. Zoe was a very busy little girl.

Sandy Hooks Us Together

By Rachel Clark on December 20, 2012 in Marry, Divorce, Reconcile
On America’s high-water mark and the end of the world (as we know it).

Why You Don't Want to "Sleep Like A Baby"

By Dennis Rosen M.D. on December 20, 2012 in Sleeping Angels
A reader writes about struggling with her baby's sleep (or lack thereof).

5 Big Discoveries About Parenting In 2012

By David Rock on December 20, 2012 in Your Brain at Work
Search Amazon for ‘parenting’ and you’ll find 120,000 books. Parents, myself included, clearly have a lot of questions. New research is providing fresh answers every year – though perhaps there are so many studies now it can be all a bit overwhelming. Here’s my summary of what seemed to be the bigger findings to emerge about ‘bringing up baby’ in 2012...

Joys (and Frustrations) of Teaching Babies to Read

A parent in Scotland shows parents how she taught her baby to read and responds to the criticisms of skeptics.

If Mother Says No, (Don't) Go Ask Grandma

By Tristan Gorrindo M.D. on December 20, 2012 in The Digital Family
Gone are the days when mom and dad could proofread (and edit) Christmas letters before they were sent over the river and through the woods.

Why No Photos of the Slaughtered Newtown Children?

By Stuart Fischoff Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in The Media Zone
“A picture is worth a thousand words and rouses passions that are necessary to do politically what has to be done—like get angry and direct that anger into sustained political action.”

I Hate High School PE Class

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in The Teen Doctor
I may not graduate because of gym class.

Shame On Us For Mass Shootings

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on December 20, 2012 in Millennial Media
Since the devastating school shooting in Newton, Connecticut, blame has been cast about. Some point fingers at the infrastructure of mental health services, others lack of gun control regulations. However, the truth is that we are all to blame. A nation that waits for its children to be taken before it rises to action is simply shameful.

May the Force Be With Us

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on December 19, 2012 in Digital Altruism
Can Star Wars teach us something about the recent tragedy at Sandy Hook elementary? This blog post explores an infamous scene from Star Wars as a means to confront the unimaginable nightmare that unfolded in Newtown, CT.

The Roots of Evil and Violence

By Pat Shipman Ph.D. on December 19, 2012 in The Animal Connection
What caused Adam Lanza to murder 26 people in Newtown? Was he simply evil? Or was it something more subtle and more fundamental?

Let’s Bench The Elf on the Shelf

By David Kyle Johnson Ph.D. on December 19, 2012 in Plato on Pop
The Elf on the Shelf is Santa's newest helper. Is he simply harmless fun, or is there reason for real concern?

Healing Hurts Can Help

By Neal H. Mayerson Ph.D. on December 19, 2012 in Quite a Character
Everyone is different—let's appreciate differences and focus on strengths.

Is Your Child a Limit Tester?

Do you have a child who follows the letter of the law, but violates its spirit entirely? How do you respond when your little one defends her defiance with thinly-veiled justifications and argues with the cleverness of a courtroom attorney?

Should I Stress Out or Let It Go?

By Mark Banschick M.D. on December 19, 2012 in The Intelligent Divorce
There's value to finding useful perspective in the midst of mind-numbing tragedies.

We Have It All Wrong!

By Michael F. Kay on December 19, 2012 in Financial Life Focus
Our society operates on a skewed sense of values. What do we truly care about, and what are we willing to do to change?

Massacre for the Media

By Robert L Leahy Ph.D. on December 19, 2012 in Anxiety Files
The rates of homicide have been declining for the last twenty years and Newtown, Connecticut was one of the safest small cities in America. But whether it is Columbine, Littleton, or Newtown, the killer is someone who is looking for fame, for media coverage, to get back at the symbols of his own exclusion.

Are Children a Source of Misery or Joy?

In recent years, we have heard a great deal about the stresses and strains of parenting, but we also hear about the joys of parenting. So, are children a source of misery or joy for parents? Here are the results of a series of studies.

School Shootings: Calming Kids Naturally

Natural medicines can help when kids are so traumatized that talking is not enough - when they can't sleep, have nightmares, or won't go to school. These medicines are safe, easily available, FDA-approved for kids, and best of all, kids like taking them.

Self-Parenting 101

How would you treat yourself if you were someone you loved? It is not only instinctive to take good care of someone you love, but also to take good care of yourself. Unfortunately, we are trained to un-learn our loving instincts when it comes to ourselves.