Essential Reads

Screenagers and Technology Use

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in In Excess
There has been a lot of debate about how much time children should spend in front of screens. I argue content and context of screen time is more import than the amount of time.

Mindfulness Strategies for Anxious Children

Some children worry. Help your child become happier, calmer, and more productive with the Zorro Circle, the 20-Second Rule, or Gratitude at Bedtime.

Unattended Children, Harm, and the Nature of Moral Judgment

New research explains why people are quick to condemn those who leave their children unattended.

Talking About the Past With Your Child Builds Resilience

By inviting, validating, helping and supporting your child to construct coherent narratives, you teach skills for regulating emotions and building resilience.

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Gratitude, Authenticity, & Entrepreneurship: A Creative Round Table

By Jeffrey Davis M.A. on December 20, 2010 in Tracking Wonder
As we head toward the year's end and find ourselves in the season of gift-giving, it might be insightful to reflect on gratitude. In this imaginary round table discussion culled from e-interviews, four creatives reflect upon gratitude, authenticity, and entrepreneurship.

12 Ways to Unplug for the holidays

By Anne K Fishel Ph.D. on December 20, 2010 in The Digital Family
The holidays should be a time to reflect on times and traditions past. Parents have an opportunity over the holidays to show their kids the ways they used to play - something that may be lost on this current digital generation.

Getting Remarried? Learn from Your Mistakes

Recently, The New York Times featured a discussion titled "Why Remarry?", with professors and marriage experts commenting on varfious aspects of remarriage. To me, the most interesting contribution came from Stephanie Coontz, who shared her insights gleaned from interviews with couples who have enjoyed successful second marriages.

What’s the link between eugenics and euthanasia?

By Kristie L Miller PhD on December 19, 2010 in A Date With Socrates
How do we get from euthanasia to eugenics?

The Loneliest Night of the Year

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 19, 2010 in Love Doc
 Eyes downcast, Sari said, "I feel so sad and I don't feel like doing anything for Christmas but for Joanie's sake, I have to."

How to Have a Happy Interfaith Holiday

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on December 18, 2010 in Off the Couch
It only takes a little work to have a happy interfaith holiday. Key phrases to keep in mind are "respect each other's beliefs" and "remember what you love about one another."

Holidays or Hellidays? How Stepmothers and Stepkids Alike Can Enjoy

By Wednesday Martin Ph.D. on December 18, 2010 in Stepmonster
Holidays bring out some of our most primitive longings, and a sense of "nostalgia" for things we probably never had in the first place--a "perfect" family, an "ideal," Ozzy-and-Harriet-type marriage. The flipside of these longings is often resentment and acting out that things are not what they "should be." Helliday eggnog, anyone?

Is Incest Wrong?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on December 17, 2010 in Hidden Motives
Always? Sometimes? When? Why?Why does the law prohibit incest? Is it just another example of a deep-seated social convention or a prejudice, like the feeling some people have about gay marriage or polygamy? Who is hurt by it? 

Town Kills a Bully: Why don't we all?

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on December 17, 2010 in Because I'm the Mom

“HUMMINGBIRD PARENTS”: Seven Actions Parents Can Take To Reduce Risk And Still Get Their Kids Outside

By Richard Louv on December 17, 2010 in People in Nature
Some parents will be comfortable encouraging their kids to roam freely, but the truth is most won't. So here are seven suggestions for ways to manage our fear, reduce risk, and still get our kids outside.

Poor Man's Polygraph Part 5

The next time you purchase a product or service use the Poor Man’s Polygraph to give yourself a degree of confidence that you are not being cheated. 

The Four Hour Body - How to Not Become Superhuman

Can you become superhuman?  Or is this just another beautiful fantasy with unexpected results?

5 Steps to Making Your Relationship Work for Both of You

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on December 16, 2010 in Compassion Matters
There can be great value, practically and therapeutically, to taking an It’s not you, it’s me approach to your relationship. Rather than using this as an excuse when ending your involvement with someone, why not use it as an exercise to improve your relationship with that person?

Child Custody Battles, the Merry Holidays, and Family Violence

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on December 16, 2010 in Nurturing Resilience
The holiday season can put extra strain on divorcing families when negotiating visitation schedules. Here's three things divorced parents should keep in mind when planning holiday time with their children. How we behave in front of our children is more important than what we give them.

Now Is the Time When We Need Real Heroes

By Stuart Fischoff Ph.D. on December 16, 2010 in The Media Zone
 They inhabit our collective celluloid nightmare. Like Francis Ford Coppola/Josef Conrad's Col. Kurtz, steering and peering into the heart of our coming collective darkness, we stiffen, take stock, then mumble to ourselves and those whose ears are empathetically cocked, "the horror, the horror."

Gay Kids: Please Don't Commit Suicide!

By Michael C. LaSala Ph.D., LCSW on December 15, 2010 in Gay and Lesbian Well-Being
Because I work at Rutgers, and because I am gay and a psychotherapist, it is perhaps understandable that Tyler Clementi has been on my mind all semester. At times I indulge in rescue fantasies and consider what I would say to Tyler if he had been my client and we were lucky enough to have the opportunity to change the course of what happened on that fall day.  

Infertility and the Holidays: A "Double Dose of Hectic"

By Connie Shapiro PhD on December 15, 2010 in When You're Not Expecting
December holidays are busy for almost everyone, and those of us who grapple with infertility feel especially challenged at this time of the year.  Those challenges are both practical and psychological.  So let's see what we can do so as not to become overwhelmed by the "double dose of hectic!" 

Hard Feelings: How Empathy Escapes Us

By Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on December 15, 2010 in A Special Education
How Persecution of Gay People May Have Caused Wikileaks

How Persecution of Gay People May Have Caused Wikileaks

By Christopher Ryan Ph.D. on December 15, 2010 in Sex at Dawn
As a nation, we refused to take Bradley Manning for what he was, a very smart, earnest young guy who loved his country and happened to be gay. When will American society finally graduate from high school?

Mark Madoff: What about the children?

By Nancy Rappaport M.D. on December 15, 2010 in We Are Only Human

Talking about the past

By Charles Fernyhough PhD on December 15, 2010 in The Voices Within
Toddlers get involved in conversations about past events from an early age. These conversations about the past are initially quite heavily structured by caregivers, but children become more equal partners in them through the preschool years. The quality of these conversations seems to be important for children's later memory.

A Higher Calling: 10 Habits of Happy Mothers!

By Meg Meeker M.D. on December 15, 2010 in Family Matters

Something's Going to Happen Today at 5:00

By David D. Nowell Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in Intrinsic Motivation and Magical Unicorns
Today at five o'clock something is going to happen.
Behavior Management Coaching: Helping Parents to Step in

Behavior Management Coaching: Helping Parents to Step in

By Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in A Special Education
When nannies with supernatural powers are unavailable, behavior management coaching for parents of special needs kids can be crucial.

Autism - It's a Family Thing

By Chantal Sicile-Kira on December 13, 2010 in The Autism Advocate
Family life is all about relationships and communication: relationships between two people in love, parents and children, siblings, extended family members. Yet, autism spectrum disorders (ASDs) are all about communication challenges, misunderstanding of social cues, and lack of emotional understanding, thus affecting every relationship in the family. It has been estimated that the divorce rate is in the 80% range in families with children who have autism (Bolman, 2006). Despite high rates of marital conflict, many couples do not reach out for couples therapy.

The Badass Character in Therapy

By Carolyn Kaufman Psy.D. on December 13, 2010 in Psychology for Writers
Writers sometimes send their (anti)heroes to therapy just to prove how badass the character is -- a cliche that overlooks the ways a more realistic portrayal might up the stakes and add conflict to the story.

How America Morally Fails its Children: What Needs to Change

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in Moral Landscapes
The new UNICEF report, Children Left Behind, puts the USA near the bottom on all three of the measures they used--material, educational and health well-being. But the overall picture is much worse for kids in the USA. Why should you care? How about this---today's kids will be in charge when you are old.