Essential Reads

5 Tips for the Parents of Teens Who Make Rudeness an Art

What can parents do to encourage respect and courtesy in their teens?

5 Tips for Taming Overly Wired and Overly Rude Teens

How do you handle teens who take rudeness to a new level?

14 Tips for Parenting in Public

For the times you have felt nudged into parenting in a certain way

Moms: What Will Your Body Image Legacy Be?

Top five strategies for promoting positive body image in your daughter

Recent Posts on Parenting

Loss, Grief and the Way Out

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on December 16, 2012 in The Pacific Heart
In the wake of the Connecticut school tragedy, we feel grief for the loss of so many young, innocent lives. This essay touches on our vulnerability, and suggests ways to heal.

Some Counsel Following the Tragedy

By Gregg Henriques on December 16, 2012 in Theory of Knowledge
Some psychologists with expertise on crisis situations offer some guidance following the school shooting tragedy.

Deciding to be Adults

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on December 16, 2012 in Media Spotlight
How early should adolescents start thinking about taking up adult roles? While that awkward stage known as adolescence can be uncomfortable, being halfway between childhood and adulthood means making choices about when to become an adult. How soon should they become sexually active? Or finish school? Or become parents?

Gun Control and the Slaughter of Innocents

Our ability to protect those we love from tragedies like mass killings is severely limited. We must be able pursue gun control without embarking upon a “War on Guns” to evade traumatic feelings and vulnerabilities that we need to own and face.

Helping Kids Cope with Traumatic Events

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in Shyness Is Nice
When confronted with traumatic events, parents face the twin tasks of coping with their own reactions as well as their children's. Here are tips from A-Z on how to help your kids cope.

7 Tips: When Every Millisecond Matters

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in Creating in Flow
Reptiles freeze when threatened, while mammals run. As humans, there are times when both impulses war within our brains. Our choices are often made in tiny fractions of a second. Seven insights to consider.

Thinking in Scale

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in A Swim in Denial
We have difficulty thinking about things larger and smaller than we're used to, especially when conflict and denial further fuzz the picture. Here's another look at "Beating up Baby."

Protecting Children From Psychological Trauma

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on December 15, 2012 in Fighting Fear
A description of some of the pitfalls of dealing with the aftermath of traumatizing events. Particular suggestions for helping the survivors of the tragedy at Newton, Conn.

The Massacre At Sandy Hook Elementary School

By Peter Langman Ph.D. on December 15, 2012 in Keeping Kids Safe
Other shooters have killed family members, and other shooters have been adults who attacked elementary schools, but no previous shooter has done both. In that way, Lanza’s attack appears to be unique.

Keeping a Diary

Having children write down what they remember about the deceased and sharing it in regular family meetings is one way of following these changes and helping children understand that what they are experiencing is appropriate.

Coping With the Recent School Shooting

Many of the surviving children will have witnessed bloodshed and others around the nation may see images and videos of it on television. Here are some guidelines for parents struggling with the issue of how to help their children and families.

Pornography:The New Sex Ed For Kids

Is your kid learning about sex through porn?

What You Need to Know about Borderline Personality Disorder

Many of us, without knowing it, enter into close relationships with people who fit the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. The findings from a new study can help you (or someone you know) cope with this challenging condition.

Talking to Children About the School Shooting

An anxious child may be asking for reassuring words, but may be most comforted by a cuddle on your lap, a game of Monopoly or a warm and loving family dinner. At times like these, we all are restored by the normal routines and simple activities that nourish our hearts and spirits. Take time, make time for the things that bring you and your children quiet comfort.

Violence and Shame: The Attack Other Response

When it comes to violence against others, the affect of shame is present.

Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World

When tragedy strikes, whether it’s personal or related to a news event, children may feel very frightened. Here’s one way you can reassure your child without offering false promises.

How to Get Straight A's in Life

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on December 14, 2012 in BrainSnacks
Let's teach our kids that the key attitudes for success in life start with "A."

Talking With Children About Disaster

Children are magnets for emotion, so they’re likely to pick up on adults’ fear, sadness, horror, and anger about tragic events in the news, even if they don’t fully understand what’s going on.

Who Shoots Children?

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on December 14, 2012 in Shadow Boxing
Shooting at children in an elementary school is unthinkable to most people, but the incident at Sandy Hook Elementary School is not the first time this has happened.

Upon the Murder of 20 Children and 6 Adults in Connecticut

Perhaps it is time for many of us to wake up, to put away a more childish vision—one that can’t bear witness to the darkness.

Horror in Newtown

By Eric Newhouse on December 14, 2012 in Invisible Wounds
Survivors of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting -- particularly the children -- are likely to be traumatized, and parents should look for signs of PTSD in the days or even the weeks to come.

Anxious? 4 Examples of Anxiety Treatments that Calm Nerves

What therapy options are out there if you are struggling with anxiety? Is the goal to get rid of the anxious feelings, or to address the problems triggering your worries?

New Sensitivity Gene Discovered

By Scott Barry Kaufman Ph.D. on December 14, 2012 in Beautiful Minds
Some of the very same genes that under certain environmental conditions are associated with some of the lowest lows of humanity, are associated with the highest highs of human flourishing under supportive conditions.

Porning Too Much?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on December 14, 2012 in Fixing Families
It's easy for porn to take control. But it's often a bad solution to other problems. It's time to break the cycle.

Christmas Gifts That Unwrap the Giftedness of ADHD

Tips for Buying Christmas Gifts that Help Transform Attention Deficits into Assets.

Can You Measure an Education? Can You Define Life’s Meaning?

By Peter Gray on December 14, 2012 in Freedom to Learn
First "education" (as occurs in schools) was about obedience training; then it was about learning a bunch of subjects; now it's about passing standardized tests. These are all measurable. But what really IS education, or what should it be, and is it measurable?

3-D Parenting

Can you assume a parental role, which means getting comfortable with the fact that you cannot and should not make a perfect life your child? That you can expect more from him and give him more responsibility for solving his own problems, with you as a sounding board, not as the solver? Can you square your shoulders and pour some steel in your spine?

Does Tiger Parenting Work?

A new study suggests tiger parenting—extremely demanding parenting by Chinese-Americans—is not what it's cracked up to be, in more ways than one.

Gifts That Can Help Parents Parent Their Children

Children are wonderful, but parenting can be hard work. This year give your favorite parents gifts that will help them to become better parents, enjoy their children more, and take heart.