Essential Reads

How Early Academic Training Retards Intellectual Development

Academic skills are best learned when a person wants them and needs them.

Miscarriages: Conception Without Birth

Observed pregnancy losses are just the tail end of massive shedding

What Adolescents Can Learn From Parental Conflict

How parents conduct marital conflict teaches the teenager by their example

The Real Reason Religion Is Declining In America

Why the U.S. will eventually resemble Europe

Recent Posts on Parenting

Leaving Your Childhood Behind to Become a Better Parent

As parents, it’s incredibly important not to project our own negative life experiences onto our children. How can we recognize our kids as the independent individuals they are and resist repeating hurtful patterns from our past?

How to Be Resilient

By Scott Haas on March 06, 2013 in Shrink in the Kitchen
Resiliencies are what we bring our patients. How do we do it?

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life

By Carl Alasko Ph.D. on March 06, 2013 in Beyond Blame
Facing how our beliefs limit us

PTSD and Eating Disorders

Studies have demonstrated statistically significant links between patients who suffered abuse and the later development of an eating disorder. One of the primary purposes of eating disorder symptomatology is to avoid and cope with painful, disquieting or uncomfortable feelings or affect. The eating disorder serves both to distance oneself from these feelings or states as

Can vitamins help prevent the next Newtown?

By Peter Bongiorno ND, LAc on March 05, 2013 in Inner Source
Can good nutrition and vitamins help prevent the next Newtown-type shooting? There is some compelling research that suggests we should start dumping the chicken nuggets and fries and start looking more at good nutrition and possibly supplements to help raise happy and balanced kids.

Can Parents Afford to Make Mistakes?

Why is that kids sometimes hold on to flip comments that parents make? Are we, as parents, given any leeway? Can’t parents get frustrated, or are we to be held accountable for every word that flows from our lips?

"My Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder" (Part 2)

By Randi Kreger on March 05, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
In the second of a two-part post, "Dan" explains how he started coming to terms with the way his mother's disorder affected his life. Included is an update with how he's doing now.

Mommy, Chill Out

By Amy Przeworski Ph.D. on March 05, 2013 in Don't Worry, Mom
My mom always told me that she hoped that I had a child just like me one day. Turns out that her wish came true...

Joe Kennedy's (JFK's Dad's) Good Affair

By Stanton Peele on March 05, 2013 in Addiction in Society
How did straight-edged Catholic Joseph Patrick Kennedy conduct for years a positive affair with such a prominent figure as Clare Boothe Luce?

Is Technology Preventing Two Keys to Kids’ Relationships?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on March 05, 2013 in The Power of Prime
Children are faced with a “double whammy” against their learning how to develop positive relationships. First, they’re being bombarded with messages that teach them to be narcissistic and uncaring. Second, they have inadequate exposure to messages and experiences that convey selflessness and empathy which would support their development of healthy relationships.

Creativity, Education, Delaying College or Not Going At All

By Carrie Barron M.D. on March 05, 2013 in The Creativity Cure
Anxiety about college admissions is taking a toll on children and families. But college may not be the best investment in the current culture. There are great alternatives which can lead to contentment, security and success.

Why Some People Can't Stop Bragging

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on March 05, 2013 in Singletons
Science helps to explain why we brag so much. Or, is it just human nature to brag about ourselves or our children?

The Numbing Effect of Media Violence

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on March 05, 2013 in Am I Right?
Cultural change takes place when people say enough. And evidence shows that we’ve had more than enough of violence. It is making us coarser, harsher and less humane.

Will the Bachelor Finally Find "The One"?

ABC's hit reality show "The Bachelor" gives one man a chance to find the love of his life amount 25 women. If it's such a good formula, how come less than twenty percent of those matches work out? And what can it teach us about being happy with the one you picked!

The Scarlet Letter S: Getting Branded For Being Single

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in Living Single
Amidst all of the discussion of the official forms of discrimination against singles, there is, suggests guest blogger Diane Torre, an under-appreciation of varieties of singlism that plague singles in everyday life. Hurtful comments and unkind assumptions about people who are single are rampant, and perpetrators are not self-conscious about acting in these cruel ways.

What Do You Really Want?

By Michael F. Kay on March 04, 2013 in Financial Life Focus
What could be better than a good night's sleep?

Crazy About Gun Control

While trying to address the issue of gun control is no easy task, it doesn’t mean progressives have to bask unconsciously in their own projections and mini-psychoses. It’s time for less logic and more “psycho-logic.”

How Contempt Destroys Relationships

What is it about snide remarks and dismissive listening that make them so potently destructive? What causes their impact on loved ones such as a spouse or children, and even on work associates, to be so relationship-shattering?

Escaping Parental Control

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in The Human Beast
A century ago, most parents dictated who their children socialized with, supervised their meetings with romantic companions, prevented premarital intercourse, and ensured that the young people married suitable individuals. Matters are very different today. Children are less pliant, less empathic, more independent.

What Not to Say to Grieving Friends

Whenever I write about how to be a friend to a friend who’s sick, my definition of illness also includes people who are “sick at heart,” especially those grieving the loss of a loved one.

Put Away Your iPhone!

By Susan Engel Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in Young Minds
iphones are replacing invaluable parent child interactions.

How to Respond to Verbal Bullying

"Assertiveness and compassion is a tough combination to master if you believe that others are supposed to be nice to you, the combination is even next to impossible to master if you further believe that those who are not nice to you should get in trouble. The mentality to master is one of humility."

Can Sesame Street Create Kinder Kids?

By Polly Palumbo Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in Momma Data
Parents can't help but encounter regular reminders about the perils of television, especially the ill effects of programming that isn't exactly educational. In my house I limit screen time of every sort every day but still I can't help but question yet another study claiming to show how television harms my family.

Why Your Fears Shape So Much Of Your Life

Fears underlie most life conflicts, and can remain unconscious drivers of actions and decisions. But research shows that it's possible to "evolve" your emotional life and awareness in ways that transform fears into positive actions and new growth.

Adolescence and the Agony of Decision Making

Decision making can be a very complicated part of human life, for adolescents and adults too. It help for parents to explain this complexity to their teenager.

The Sweet Spot Between Hubris and Humility

When Robert Noyce, the founder of Intel, was asked how he felt about being known as the “Father of Silicon Valley” he responded, “You know it makes me a little bit proud, and a little bit humble.” There is a sweet spot between hubris and humility that is the key to greatness.

In Praise of Frustration

By Bruce Poulsen Ph.D. on March 03, 2013 in Reality Play
Much has been said about how we praise children when they succeed. Recent research supports the view that praising a child's inherent qualities, rather than effort, may ultimately backfire. What about when children fail? Children may also need more experience with failure and greater fluency for talking about frustration.

The 10 Things Your Kids Learn About Life While Texting

By Marcia Eckerd Ph.D. on March 03, 2013 in People Skills
What messages do our kids absorb about life values when they text all the time? They're not great. There are things a parent can do.

Protecting Your Psychological Rights

We've championed civil rights, women's rights, gay rights ... shouldn't we also champion our inalienable psychological rights?

Emotional Eating II

Weight loss goals are likely to stimulate guilt and feelings of inadequacy and thus set you up to fail.