Essential Reads

Inverse Relationship Between GPA and Innovative Orientation

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on April 30, 2016 in Freedom to Learn
Ironically and tragically, rather than adapt our educational system to the needs of our modern times we have doubled down on the old system, so it is ...

Baby Names, and What's Really Behind a Parent's Choice

Your name was, in all likelihood, selected by your parents and you, in turn, will select names for the kids you decide to have. Here's what might influence that decision

Parenting a Parent Toward Life’s End

By Julie K. Hersh on April 27, 2016 in Struck By Living
How do you manage end of life care for your parent? There is no handbook but here is one story.

The Benefits and Dangers of Highly Empathic Parenting

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on April 26, 2016 in Feeling It
Children of Empathic Parents Thrive. Parents Don't. Here's What You Can Do.

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The Arbitrariness of Blame (Part 2 of 3)

 Is Blaming Warranted--Ever?"To understand everything is to forgive everything."  (French expression)Going beyond pragmatic objections to blaming (i.e., it really isn't very effective), I'd argue that the entire concept of blame and blaming is suspect. . . .

Communicating with People with Mental Illness: The Public's Guide

By David F. Swink on October 19, 2010 Threat Management
Popular media fuel stereotypes about mental illness and dangerousness, because that is how they generally are portrayed on the screen. Our fear of mentally ill people also stems from our own inability to communicate with them and our lack of knowledge about mental illness. Learn how to better communicate with people who may have a mental illness.

But His Is Bigger! A Sad Story of Irrational Social Comparison

The other day I bought my 6 year old son an unexpected Lego kit.  Although he had done nothing to deserve it, it made him cry!  Why, because his nephew got a bigger one. We adults are sometimes guilty of the same irrational comparisons. 

Dealing with a Trashy Dressing Daughter

Before you react too quickly when your daughter starts dressing trashy, it's a good idea to get inside her head prior to jumping inside her closet.

Is Non-Parental Daycare Bad for Children?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on October 17, 2010 Insight Therapy
Is non-parental daycare bad for children? Developmental science has been wrestling with this question for decades without reaching a conclusion. The problem is, studies continually come up with inconsistent, conflicting results.

Why Intelligent People Smoke More Cigarettes

The consumption of tobacco is of even more recent historical origin than the consumption of alcohol, so the Hypothesis would predict that more intelligent individuals are more likely to smoke tobacco than less intelligent individuals.

Going Graphic

By Evan Marshall on October 17, 2010 The Literary Life
Most people have heard the term "graphic novel," but many don't really know what it means. Is it the same as a comic book? In some ways, yes. Both comic books and graphic novels tell a story by means of "sequential art"-a combination of text and pictures within panels. However, whereas a comic book tells its tale in roughly thirty pages, a graphic novel can run as long as several hundred pages. With this increased popularity has come a wave of graphic novels for a more "upscale" reader.

UFO's, Close Encounters, and the Cry for Meaning

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on October 17, 2010 Evil Deeds
In 1958, the year Swiss psychiatrist and depth psychologist C.G. Jung celebrated his 83rd birthday three years before his death, he published a highly controversial work about UFO's, at that time popularly referred to as "flying saucers." Later titled Flying Saucers: A Modern Myth of Things Seen in the Sky (Princeton University Press, 1979), Jung's concern was less whether or not these UFO's objectively, physically or materially exist than with their subjective, phenomenological inner reality, psychological meaning and spiritual significance. 

Self-Advocacy is a Needed Life Skill for Students on the Autism Spectrum Headed to College

All students on the autism  spectrum need to learn self-advocacy skills, but those heading to college need to learn them before they graduate.

Be here now. Find out how to like yourself just the way you are!

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 16, 2010 Off the Couch
In our busy, goal-oriented world we can get so focused on what we want to be,where we want to go and what we need to accomplish that we forget to take pleasure in the present moment. Here are some ideas about how to enjoy your life -- right now! 

GPS Tracking Kids is not the Same as Monitoring Them

GPS tracking our kids can harm them. But monitoring our children closely can help them. The two are not the same thing. Children who are well monitored are likely to engage better at school, which means they'll get into far less trouble and stay in school longer. It doesn't mean, though, that they'll get higher grades.

The Looming Reading Disaster: How Abandoning Children’s Picture Books Will Stifle Creative Imagination

The New York Times reports that children's book publishers are releasing fewer picture books for young readers because parents are pushing their kids into advanced text-only books at ever younger ages. We're appalled. Find out why. 

What Do They Call the Person Who Graduates Last in Medical School?

The answer is, "Doctor" but are you ready for a mediocre physician to do your brain surgery? 

Parenting: Take the Offensive Against Popular Culture

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on October 14, 2010 The Power of Prime
Popular culture may be the most powerful (and destructive) force in our society today. Whether through the media of television, movies, music, the Internet, radio, or magazines, popular culture is omnipresent, intense, and unrelenting. So who can protect your children from its Sirens' call?

Save One Life. . . and Save the World

By Jeffrey A. Kottler Ph.D. on October 14, 2010 Change
There is a saying from the Talmud that by saving one life, you save the whole world. It is through acts of altruism and service that we not only help to make the world (and our communities) a better place, but also redeem ourselves in the process. What does it take to make a difference, even on a small scale?

Why Can't I Wake Up?

They couldn't make me sleep.  Now they can't wake me.

Infertility: My Best Friend Is Pregnant!

If you have been trying for months (or years) to get pregnant, the news of anyone you know having achieved this triumph can be a real bummer.  But when the news comes that your best friend is the mother-to-be, there are lots of emotional issues for both of you.  Was hers a planned pregnancy?  Did you hear the news from her directly?  How open have you been with her about your struggles with infertility?  Is she sensitive to your emotions upon hearing her news? 

Alliances and Loyalty – Kids and Divorced Parents

I got an email the other day from a woman who writes about her frustration that her teenaged daughter wants to spend Thanksgiving with her father rather than her. The mom went on to say, "Why, when it was HIM who betrayed me and broke up the family, is she so defensive of him, and I'm cast as the bad person trying to keep them apart?" 

What babies can teach you about happiness!

By Karen Salmansohn on October 13, 2010 Bouncing Back
Want to be happier, more connected to others, and a better problem-solver? Think like a baby!

Hope for Teens with Anorexia

By Harriet Brown on October 13, 2010 Brave Girl Eating
Most eating disorders treatments are not evidence-based. Finally, there's one for teenage anorexia that is.

Emotions of Fiction

To say that fiction is all about the emotions is probably an exaggeration, but not much of one. When we see a movie, we want to be excited, or amused, or to get out our Kleenex. When we read a novel, we want to be moved. Why should this be?