Essential Reads

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

Single parenting causes poor health? 6 ways you were misled

The Surprising News about Children's Mental Health

New research suggest today’s kids are in pretty good psychological shape

What Happens When the Whole Family Plays with Food?

“Family therapy can be helpful; family dinner is transformative.”

Police Versus Community: Why All the Trauma?

Using a trauma-informed lens to understand the promise of community policing.

Recent Posts on Parenting

The Twin Children of Auschwitz-Birkenau: Unique Survivors

By Nancy L Segal Ph.D. on March 21, 2013 in Twofold
The special twin survivors of Auschwitz-Birkenau

Pacific Heart Book Club – 1st Beat

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on March 21, 2013 in The Pacific Heart
The PHBC will be reading Andrew Solomon’s Far From the Tree over the course of several months. Join our online forum, start your own reading club, or come to a meeting in San Francisco.

Is the Pain of Punishment Too Much to Bear?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on March 21, 2013 in The Dolphin Divide
Why bolder is better when it’s time to get tough. Most of us are used to choosing between the lesser of two evils, but when it comes to punishment, it turns out that the greater the short-term pain (within reason, of course, and definitely not physical), the greater the long-term gain is likely to be.

Steubenville: Who's to Blame? Anyone have a mirror?

Preventing another Steubenville means teaching accountability and personal responsibility.

Dealing with Criticism

By Andy Puddicombe on March 21, 2013 in Get Some Headspace
Learn how to take criticism in your stride by creating some space in your mind...

Kate's and Kim's Baby Bumps

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on March 21, 2013 in Love, Inc
Kate Middleton and Kim Kardashian's pregnancies, like their weddings, tell us a lot about who we believe deserves a happily everafter and who does not. LIke a real life fairytale, complete with the Princess and the Evil Stepsister, we can read reactions to their baby bumps as pregnant with meaning.

Saying Goodbye to Bullying, Part 1

Bullying has reached epidemic proportions in our society. In this article, I share what causes it and in part two I discuss what you can do to stamp out bullying in yourself, your immediate family and in the world around you.

Is Psychology Making Us Sick?

We all practice psychology. Whenever we are unhappy with ourselves we automatically begin a process of self-reflection. Unfortunately this is often fueled by self-criticism, bumper-sticker diagnoses, and efforts to make changes destined to fail. In short, we make ourselves "sick." What's the alternative?

Sad Reflections about Work, Meaning, and Freedom

Hard as I work to share what I know about collaboration and making work meaningful, I sometimes despair.

Our Nursing Home Parents: The Right Home? Part 1

When their mother became a nursing home escapee at two homes, they realized the diligence required in making a nursing home choice. Questions to ask about ratings, activities and atmosphere as well as cultural sensitivity, patient rights, and physician availability may seem obvious. But even with all the guides designed to help families -- getting answers is a challenge.

Picture Book Memories

The meaning of childhood picture books is reinterpreted as a person confronts new challenges and assumes new social roles through life.

Bipolar Disorder: Symptoms and Treatment Options

Bipolar disorder is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels, and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. While the rate of bipolar disorder is the same among African Americans as it is among other Americans, African Americans are less likely to receive a diagnosis and treatment.

Sexual Abuse (Incest): Right Under Our Nose

Parents can protect their children from the scary reality of incest and sexual abuse by establishing open communication and supporting confidence in their children to be in charge of their own body.

How to Help Your Child Develop Resilience to Cyberbullying

By Izzy Kalman on March 20, 2013 in Resilience to Bullying
If we are going to give our children Internet access and cell phones, we can't expect soceity to always be able to protect them from each other. They deserve to be taught how to handle the negative repercussions on their own.

Music as an Elixir for Your Brain

Musicians and arts advocates may be well intentioned when they propagate research-based articles about the benefits of music activity to the human brain. Some media reports, however, do not hold up under closer scrutiny. There are some important reasons to think twice before jumping on the neuro-bandwagon.

Do Humans Serve as a "Safe Haven" for Stressed Dogs?

Recent research based on physiological responses shows that dogs, like children, find safety and comfort in stressful situations from the mere presence of a familiar and friendly person.

Relationship Training for Ambitious 20-Something Women

By Leslie C. Bell Ph.D., LCSW on March 20, 2013 in Hard to Get
Leadership training for young women in how to get ahead in their careers? Check. Advocacy for changes in public policy and workplace culture that would support women’s (and men’s) desires for career success and family life? Check. Training in how to develop a relationship that will support young women’s (and men’s) career success? Not so much.

Why Kids Lie

In younger and older kids, don't set them up to lie. If you know a child has spilled milk on the living room rug because you saw it happen, don't ask her if she spilled milk on the rug. Instead, ask her why it happened. If you know your 16-year-old has been smoking because you found cigarettes in his car, don't ask him if he's smoking. Ask him when he started.

The Happiest Mommy on the Block?

It appears that the normal range of emotions for women following the birth of a child includes the symptoms of clinical depression.

Getting the Facts Right on Pre-K

Get the facts right on preschool and the President's pre-K proposal. In a recently released policy report, Dr. Steven Barnett of the National Institute for Early Education Research (NIEER) provides impartial and comprehensive reviews of the science behind President Obama’s call for universal preschool education.

11 Ways the World Will Be Better When Single is the Norm

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 in Living Single
Once single people are in the majority and put their stamp on things, the world will be a better place. Guest blogger Eleanore Wells points out 11 such improvements, ranging from how we live to how we shop to who counts as family and what policies will rule the land.

The Decisive Element in the Classroom

Time spent on bullying prevention is time saved on conflict, victimization, academic struggles, and alienation.

Cohabitation's Effect on Kids

Cohabiting couples in the US typically don't last past 5 years and if kids are involved, the churn can leave a lasting impact.

Dying for Acceptance: Suicide Rates in the LGBTQ Community

"Can you accept me as I am?" This is the question being asked by many in the LGBTQ community in the world today. The painful reality is that many in the LGBTQ community are being rejected and ridiculed for walking in the truth of who they are. I sit with my clients and hear the pain in their voices as they stand at the intersection of life or death.

A Culture of Mercilessness

"My intent is not to make the boys out to be villains, but to draw awareness to the cultural mindset they were raised in. A cultural mindset of merciless hyper competition, which leaves no room for compassion or empathy."

Sex Differences in Fertility Preferences

In various societies, men have higher fertility preferences than women. Why is that? Sex-specific reproductive costs and benefits can help explain the difference, and also help make sense why women may be the drivers of fertility constraint and males of fertility enhancement.

Listening To the Signs

By Andrea Fox on March 19, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
One of the hardest things about being a parent is figuring out when our kids want us to fix their problems and when they want us to simply listen and offer support.

Living With the Gun

By Eliezer Sobel on March 19, 2013 in The 99th Monkey
By Guest Blogger lj rey: "When I was a young man I had a Winchester hanging over my bedroom door. I thought the right to bare arms had something to do with Marilyn Monroe in a sleeveless dress. Guns were the building blocks of manhood."

Motivating Your Child

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 in Shyness Is Nice
Wish you could get your child do his homework without the usual hassles? Would you like your child to pitch in with some help around the house instead of acting like you're the maid. Here are some tried-and-true tips on how to motivate your child.

An Extreme Approach to Ending Temper Tantrums

Modern methods of "treating" children's behavior problems and moodiness might shock you.