Essential Reads

When Adult Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Causes of Students’ Emotional Fragility: Five Perspectives

Teachers, professors, employers, parents, & students explain students’ problems.

5 Tips to Help Children Cope with Threats of Terrorism

Being Resilient in Times of Threat

Why Are Kids Sexting?

The leading pundits tell us not to worry, just chill. The pundits are wrong.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Crazy About Gun Control

While trying to address the issue of gun control is no easy task, it doesn’t mean progressives have to bask unconsciously in their own projections and mini-psychoses. It’s time for less logic and more “psycho-logic.”

How Contempt Destroys Relationships

What is it about snide remarks and dismissive listening that make them so potently destructive? What causes their impact on loved ones such as a spouse or children, and even on work associates, to be so relationship-shattering?

Escaping Parental Control

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 The Human Beast
A century ago, most parents dictated who their children socialized with, supervised their meetings with romantic companions, prevented premarital intercourse, and ensured that the young people married suitable individuals. Matters are very different today. Children are less pliant, less empathic, more independent.

What Not to Say to Grieving Friends

Whenever I write about how to be a friend to a friend who’s sick, my definition of illness also includes people who are “sick at heart,” especially those grieving the loss of a loved one.

Put Away Your iPhone!

By Susan Engel Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 Young Minds
iphones are replacing invaluable parent child interactions.

How to Respond to Verbal Bullying

"Assertiveness and compassion is a tough combination to master if you believe that others are supposed to be nice to you, the combination is even next to impossible to master if you further believe that those who are not nice to you should get in trouble. The mentality to master is one of humility."

Can Sesame Street Create Kinder Kids?

By Polly Palumbo Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 Momma Data
Parents can't help but encounter regular reminders about the perils of television, especially the ill effects of programming that isn't exactly educational. In my house I limit screen time of every sort every day but still I can't help but question yet another study claiming to show how television harms my family.

Why Your Fears Shape So Much Of Your Life

Fears underlie most life conflicts, and can remain unconscious drivers of actions and decisions. But research shows that it's possible to "evolve" your emotional life and awareness in ways that transform fears into positive actions and new growth.

Adolescence and the Agony of Decision Making

Decision making can be a very complicated part of human life, for adolescents and adults too. It help for parents to explain this complexity to their teenager.

The Sweet Spot Between Hubris and Humility

When Robert Noyce, the founder of Intel, was asked how he felt about being known as the “Father of Silicon Valley” he responded, “You know it makes me a little bit proud, and a little bit humble.” There is a sweet spot between hubris and humility that is the key to greatness.

In Praise of Frustration

By Bruce Poulsen Ph.D. on March 03, 2013 Reality Play
Much has been said about how we praise children when they succeed. Recent research supports the view that praising a child's inherent qualities, rather than effort, may ultimately backfire. What about when children fail? Children may also need more experience with failure and greater fluency for talking about frustration.

The 10 Things Your Kids Learn About Life While Texting

By Marcia Eckerd Ph.D. on March 03, 2013 People Skills
What messages do our kids absorb about life values when they text all the time? They're not great. There are things a parent can do.

Protecting Your Psychological Rights

We've championed civil rights, women's rights, gay rights ... shouldn't we also champion our inalienable psychological rights?

Emotional Eating II

Weight loss goals are likely to stimulate guilt and feelings of inadequacy and thus set you up to fail.

Hearing Aids and Health Insurance

By Katherine Bouton on March 03, 2013 What I Hear
Health insurance agencies consider the use of hearing aids "discretionary" and cover little or none of the cost. This is a public health travesty.

The Reality of the Replacement Child

By Judy L. Mandel on March 02, 2013 Replacement Child
What does it mean to be a replacement child?

Bringing Up Puppy

In the get-ahead pressure cooker that is modern childhood, how do children learn about being kind, caring, and nurturing? Caring for a pet responsibly may be an important training ground for children, especially boys, to gain skills in care-giving that will carry into adulthood.

Caring for Someone?

By Meika Loe Ph.D. on March 02, 2013 Aging Our Way
Most of us have a hard time with dependency in a culture that values the opposite. And that’s just the tension that exists in Russo’s tale – a mom who is a die-hard stubborn independent continues this performance for some time, despite functional potential to the contrary. How does a caregiver honor that constant push for autonomy while at the same time being genuine?

Paper, Stone and Scissors: How a Game Explains Relationships

What can a children's game teach us about sustaining positive relationships and being a winner in life?

"I Just Learned My Mom Has Borderline Personality Disorder"

"I had gone 'no contact' with my family--especially my mother--and I badly needed to talk to someone. I called my aunt. When she told me my mom has borderline personality disorder, it was the most significant thing anyone said to me in my whole life."

Why You Should Not Always Do What You Do Best

If something is worth doing, then it's worth doing, right? Doing well, doing weirdly, and doing wrong might also be the outcomes of trying something new. But that doesn't mean it wasn't worth doing. That's the very definition of learning.

That Delicate Work-Family Balance, and How to Have it All

Can women have it all? We’ve all heard this question a million times, at least. Research on work-family enrichment, on both men and women, shows that it’s possible. It just takes some flexibility and support from a boss, and it becomes a win-win situation for all. Learn how to cope with your stress at home, and on the job, and improve your overall well-being.

What is Consciousness?

We casually talk about our experiences all the time. But how can we explain why we have these experiences in the first place? Learn about the philosophy behind the mind.

3 More Ways to Stop Screaming at Your Kids

Do these three behaviors to avoid yelling at your kids.

Screen Time Recommendations Are Not Easy to Do

You may not feel like listening to your teenager whine when you take away his cell phone and laptop at 9:00 pm. But screen time disrupts sleep.

Sleep Loss Affects Children’s Ability to Process Speech

New research shows that even one hour of sleep loss can have important consequences for children's learning. After restricting sleep of 6 year olds, electrical activity in the brain was different from children in a control group, and processing of speech sounds was slower.

Autism Spectrum Disorders: Racial Disparities and Treatment

About 1 in 88 children are identified with an autism spectrum disorder. Autism is reported to occur in all racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic groups. However, the research consistently notes that children of African American, Hispanic, and Asian decent are more likely to be identified later. This may result in further disparities in treatment.

A Time Too Short

Young people benefit from adult guidance in handling personal loss and grief.

The Danger of Workplace Suicide Lawsuits

By Izzy Kalman on February 28, 2013 Resilience to Bullying
Trying to reduce workplace suicides through lawsuits is likely to have the opposite effect.

Children & Praise: Why Certain Types of Praise May Backfire

Common sense suggests that praising children is certainly better than withholding it. But new research suggests that not all praise is created equal. In fact, certain types of praise may actually undermine the self-esteem of some children, especially those whose self-image is already fragile.