Essential Reads

For the Sake of the Children

Divorce isn’t failure; living in unhappiness is failure

What We Like About Stories

Both adults and children appreciate elements of surprise and predicability.

The Life-Changing Magic of Helping Kids Get Organized

Five ways to create stability in divorce

What Does It Take to Succeed in Life?

A new study takes a comprehensive look at the American Dream.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Personality In the Bedroom

The personality you bring into the bedroom reflects a lifetime of experiences that have shaped your attitudes not only toward sex, but toward yourself and all close relationships. A review of 20 years of research highlights how your attachment style relates to people's reasons for having sex, sexual dysfunction, frequency, and satisfaction.

The Achievement Gap Between Privileged and Poor

By Elizabeth Wagele on January 29, 2013 in The Career Within You
Children whose prefrontal cortexes are stressed by poverty, highly dysfunctional environments, or major abuse have trouble regulating their thoughts and mediating their behavior. This was shown in a program where poor youth were given special attention and sent to an excellent high school. They got into college but few graduated.

Is Wanting a Pink Tutu Hardwired?

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on January 29, 2013 in Love, Inc
Liberals used to believe that biology was not destiny. Now they embrace biological determinism to explain everything from homosexuality to why little girls dress up like princesses. Where did this bad romance between liberals and biology come from and isn't it time to break them up?

Even Barbie Has a Tattoo—So Why Do They Still Shock?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on January 29, 2013 in Open Gently
Body art has gone mainstream--a form of self-expression with less and less potential to shock. The desire to alter the body goes back to the first forms of art.

Mentoring Youth Matters

What does it take to positively influence the life of one young person? Actually, no super human qualities are necessary -- just time, caring, and the right kind of support. Learn what teens say about their best mentors and why adults matter.

Karen Dionne: Faith and a Box Full of Clock Parts

By Jennifer Haupt on January 28, 2013 in One True Thing
"Faith in yourself and your abilities is not the same as self-confidence. There’s not a writer on the planet who doesn’t suffer from massive insecurity and self-doubt. And yet we are compelled to push forward..."

Sex, Murder, and the Meaning of Life: A Must-Read

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on January 28, 2013 in Homo Consumericus
A compelling aspect of evolutionary psychology is its ability to explain endless phenomena in our daily lives from the most mundane to the most profound. Doug Kenrick’s recently released paperback “Sex, Murder, and the Meaning of Life” strikes the perfect balance in explaining deep evolutionary principles in an engaging and highly entertaining style.

The Perils of BMI Screening

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on January 28, 2013 in A Million Meals
Some twenty states require BMI or similar screening, and nine recommend either BMI screening or a formal fitness assessment that includes a body composition component. This decision may appear as innocuous as the principle of “healthy eating,” but it can be equally damaging.

The 10 Best Security Tools for School Violence Prevention

By Steve Albrecht DBA on January 28, 2013 in The Act of Violence
It takes a team to run our schools and districts; it will take a team to respond to the school violence issue.

Adolescence and Self-Dissatisfaction

Adolescents have multiple causes for self-dissatisfaction, and when statement of this kind are expressed, parents should pay attention. There might be issues at stake that are more serious than just a passing complaint.

6 Lessons We Can Learn From Eastern Chinese Medicine

By Leana Wen M.D. on January 27, 2013 in The Doctor Is Listening
A Harvard emergency physician visits China and is astounded by what she learns about Eastern medicine--and the lessons it has for patient care in the U.S.

Simple Ways to Calm a Crying Baby

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on January 27, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
“My baby is only happy in my arms, the minute I put her down she cries.”

How to Strengthen Your Bonds With Your Kids

Bonding with our kids is something that most recognize as essential. However, how do you really know that you're bonding with your kids? What are the essential markers of bonding--and what is the take-away that your kids need to gain from you? Check out whether you are conveying the four messages that strengthen and confirm your bond with your children.

Applying Kinsey's Sexual Orientation Model to Families

When you talk to your partner about the possibility of having children, unless you are both strongly in favor of having children or strongly opposed to having children, consider discarding the question “Do we want to have children or not?”

What Have We Done For the Autism Community Lately?

What have we done for the autism community? Angry parents direct that question at the IACC, the CDC, NIH and Autism Speaks every day. They say we’ve spent hundreds of millions in research, and talked about all our great accomplishments in research, yet the lives of the autistic people around them are not one bit better. How come?

Teen Binge Drinking: All Too Common

One of the most widely available drugs on the market, alcohol, is making headline news again as the Center for Disease Control (CDC) releases a report that one in five high school girls engage in binge drinking.

Managing Your Tendency Toward Doom and Zoom Thinking

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on January 25, 2013 in Ambigamy
Doom and Zoom: Persistent doubts within a campaign that seem doomed to stay unresolved can often cause us to zoom out to larger doubts about the campaign and even about the campaigner--dreaded self-doubt if it's your campaign. Here are some suggestions for managing the tendency toward Doom and Zoom thinking.

Stop Focusing on Your Performance

By Peter Bregman on January 25, 2013 in How We Work
living life as a performance is not only a recipe for stress and unhappiness; it also leads to mediocre performance.

The Four Agreements

In his best-selling book The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz discusses some basic self-limiting beliefs that deprive us of joy and create unnecessary suffering.

Language and the Power of Speech

We all know that – as the poet said – ‘the times they are a-changing’.

Receive Generosity

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on January 25, 2013 in Your Wise Brain
Focus on what others communicate, and try to receive that as a valuable offering. Open your mind to the good that is implicit or down deep in the other person, even if you don’t like the way it has come out.

What is Your Teen Doing Right?

By Nancy Darling Ph.D. on January 25, 2013 in Thinking About Kids
Writing a list of the things your teen is doing right may help you get out of the 'parenting' mindset and help you parent more effectively.

Thinking About the Actions of People and Groups

By Art Markman Ph.D. on January 25, 2013 in Ulterior Motives
We often make generalizations about the behavior of groups of people. We might say that college students are prone to binge drink or that older people tend to go to sleep early. Do our beliefs about the individuals who come from these groups match our beliefs about the group as a whole?

Where Adam Lanza Might Have Found Compassion

By Katherine Ellison on January 24, 2013 in Pay Attention
“A child needs your love most when he deserves it the least,” wrote the columnist Erma Bombeck, yet I was curious how she might have reacted to a Mendota inmate I’ll call Brandon: a plump, freckled, red-haired sex-offender of 14, with pale-lashed, narrow blue eyes. He wound up at Mendota with a long rap sheet, including charges that he’d assaulted an employee at school...

Whatever Happened to the Debate About Aspirin And Reye’s?

Aspirin has been associated with a fatal disease known as Reye's Syndrome. Many still believe that aspirin-containing drugs should be marked with a safety warning. The question still remains, however, whether aspirin was ever a contributing factor to Reye's Syndrome.

5 Things Your Child Should Know About Gay Marriage

News stories frequently mention the debate about marriage equality, often trickling down to kids' ears. How should you talk to your kids about gay marriage in ways they can understand? The key is to use concrete language and remind children this affects real families. With two million children being raised by gay or lesbian parents, this debate hits home.

Trusting Leaders

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on January 24, 2013 in One Among Many
If you want people to trust you, you have to trust them. It is more easily said than done, particularly if there is a power differential.

Top 10 Odes to Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on January 24, 2013 in Living Single
From a wide-ranging media landscape, from scholars and pundits and a Supreme Court justice, there is a newly-popular theme in the discussion of single life. It is a respectful and even celebratory theme, which acknowledges the strengths, joys, meaningfulness, and advantages of single life.

Successful Communication with Minorities and Women

By George Davis on January 24, 2013 in Modern Melting Pot
One of the beautiful things about America is the racial/cultural differences of its people! And gender differences are more beautiful than that!