Essential Reads

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Causes of Students’ Emotional Fragility: Five Perspectives

Teachers, professors, employers, parents, & students explain students’ problems.

5 Tips to Help Children Cope with Threats of Terrorism

Being Resilient in Times of Threat

Why Are Kids Sexting?

The leading pundits tell us not to worry, just chill. The pundits are wrong.

Recent Posts on Parenting

11 Ways the World Will Be Better When Single is the Norm

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 Living Single
Once single people are in the majority and put their stamp on things, the world will be a better place. Guest blogger Eleanore Wells points out 11 such improvements, ranging from how we live to how we shop to who counts as family and what policies will rule the land.

The Decisive Element in the Classroom

Time spent on bullying prevention is time saved on conflict, victimization, academic struggles, and alienation.

Cohabitation's Effect on Kids

Cohabiting couples in the US typically don't last past 5 years and if kids are involved, the churn can leave a lasting impact.

Dying for Acceptance: Suicide Rates in the LGBTQ Community

"Can you accept me as I am?" This is the question being asked by many in the LGBTQ community in the world today. The painful reality is that many in the LGBTQ community are being rejected and ridiculed for walking in the truth of who they are. I sit with my clients and hear the pain in their voices as they stand at the intersection of life or death.

A Culture of Mercilessness

"My intent is not to make the boys out to be villains, but to draw awareness to the cultural mindset they were raised in. A cultural mindset of merciless hyper competition, which leaves no room for compassion or empathy."

Listening To the Signs

By Andrea Fox on March 19, 2013 Imperfect Mothers
One of the hardest things about being a parent is figuring out when our kids want us to fix their problems and when they want us to simply listen and offer support.

Living With the Gun

By Eliezer Sobel on March 19, 2013 The 99th Monkey
By Guest Blogger lj rey: "When I was a young man I had a Winchester hanging over my bedroom door. I thought the right to bare arms had something to do with Marilyn Monroe in a sleeveless dress. Guns were the building blocks of manhood."

An Extreme Approach to Ending Temper Tantrums

Modern methods of "treating" children's behavior problems and moodiness might shock you.

The Revolution in Infant and Child Development

There is a revolution occurring in infant and child development. This is having a profound impact on our understanding of the motives and behavior of human beings. There are three areas which are fueling this revolution: feelings, intelligence, and language. We will discuss the remarkable potential created when one looks at these three elements together.

Five Reasons We Impulse Buy

By Philip Graves on March 19, 2013 Consumer Behavior
Is your house full of products that you don't use? Why is it that we keep buying things we don't need? The answer lies in your unconscious mind and how retailers have learned to exploit it.

Don't Expect Me To Do What's Typical If I'm Not Neurotypical

What are you expecting your child or student with ADHD to do, right now, that’s harder than a “three out of ten?” And what strategies can you generate, right now, to make it less difficult for him or her, to increase the likelihood that he or she will demonstrate mastery?

Imitation: Not the Sincerest Form of Empathy

By Gillian Ragsdale Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 Empathy
Does empathy develop from emotional contagion – catching an emotion from someone else? Aren't you more likely to empathize with someone when you can feel as they are feeling? Well, not necessarily.

Children in Parents' Bed: A Good Idea?

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on March 19, 2013 Am I Right?
The best advice for parents is to find the middle ground where you are most comfortable. You only have so much control over what kind of person your child will become. The main thing you can do for them is to be the person yourself that you wish for them to be.

Why America Absolves the Steubenville Rapists

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on March 18, 2013 Love, Inc
The Steubenville rape case is a lesson in who matters and who doesn't in American culture. In media coverage of the case, the rapists are described as anything but criminal: young, good students, good athletes, tragic. And the victim of their violence all but disappears. That's because as a culture we confuse male athleticism with heroism.

Head in the Cloud: What's Wrong with Telecommuting?

By Colin Ellard Ph.D. on March 18, 2013 Mind Wandering
The debate about telecommuting often centers on questions about whether a worker can function well without visiting a traditional office environment. It's generally assumed that when a worker can avoid the office they are better off doing so. But is this always the case? It's possible that the unshackling of work from a workplace takes away the freedom to not work.

The Gift of ADHD Controversy

The "Gift of ADHD" is an intervention; just by finding and focusing on gifts, people change in positive, noticeable ways. They feel better because of improved confidence and motivation.

What is Technology Doing to Your Children’s Friendships?

There is one quality in particular that is perhaps most stark distinction between traditional and online friendships; the former is about the quality of relationships and the latter is often about the quantity of relationships. In real life, the goal is to have a few really good friends. With social media, the goal is to accumulate as many so-called friends as possible.

You Can't Change the Past - Why Talk About it?

This post is the 4th in a series of posts describing strategies for overcoming family avoidance strategies in order to persist in fruitful efforts to stop repetitive dysfunctional interactions. Part IV shows how family members use hopelessness and logical fallacies as reasons to stop talking to each other about solving family problems..

Become a Better Parent

How our parents related to us has a heavy influence on how we relate to our kids. Traumatic incidents from our childhood are commonly stirred up when we experience similar scenarios with our own kids. That moment when we "lose it" is often an over-reaction based on feelings that have been awakened within us from our own early life experiences.

The Art and Science of Memory

Autobiographical memories are reconstructions of past events which have a particular phenomenology: a 'what it is like' quality. To understand them fully, therefore, we need to draw on insights from the humanities as well as the sciences.

Disappointing Reason to Support Gay Rights: "My son is gay"

Although his support is welcome, Senator Portman's sudden support of same-sex marriage is selfish—it isn't for Americans, it's for his son.

Finding the Next Sheryl Sandberg

Sheryl Sandberg is not an ordinary person. She has extraordinary intelligence and organizational ability among other traits. How many people have the potential to be her? How many people want to be her?

A Rose by Any Other Name? De-constructing Sport Psychology

By taking apart the term “sport psychology”, we can learn a lot about both sport and the practice of psychology. It’s not just an academic exercise: Whether you’re on the field of play or "sidelined" as coach or parent—and especially if you’d like to be working with any of those people—being accurate is important.

Magical Thinking, Redux

One of my patients suffers from chronic constipation due to irritable bowel syndrome. During the twenty years since she was first diagnosed, her symptom pattern has remained remarkably consistent: she has perhaps 1-2 bowel movements per week, occasionally accompanied by some mild cramping. Even she admits the symptoms are more a bother than a worry. And yet, every time I

Four Common Obstacles That Interfere with Goal Setting

The first step to getting things done is to set goals carefully. Yet people often fail to do that. Here are four common obstacles that interfere with goal setting and ways to overcome them. Link your goals to your survival needs and you will achieve them.

New Research on Autism and Suicide

By Lynne Soraya on March 17, 2013 Asperger's Diary
More than two years ago, when I wrote my post on Asperger's and suicide, I googled the terms "autism and suicide" and "Asperger's and suicide." I was appalled to find how few resources there were out there. They were sparse to the point of nonexistent. Now, that appears to be changing.

Boys to Men—What the Steubenville Trial Makes Clear

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on March 17, 2013 Singletons
The two Steubenville, Ohio teenage football players tried for sexually assaulting a 16-year-old female during multiple end-of-summer parties are indicative of our male macho culture. We need a total re-education of boys who will become men.

Is there effective treatment for traumatized kids?

A recent article in the journal Pediatrics found remarkably few effective mental health treatments for children who had been exposed to school shootings, looting, war, gang violence, and the like. Those results, though, may say more about how we measure effectiveness than about what actually helps children heal.

Did Pope Francis Have a Lost Love?

By Nancy Kalish Ph.D. on March 17, 2013 Sticky Bonds
An unexpected lost love story. A young boy makes a promise, and keeps it.

“Feeling Aliveness” Through Our Body and Soul

Each parent’s dream is to place his and her children on the road to discover their unique path—on a meaningful and fulfilling journey of life, to achieve their potential and find their "self." Supporting the development of your child's true self is the natural path toward this goal.