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For the Sake of the Children

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What We Like About Stories

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The Life-Changing Magic of Helping Kids Get Organized

Five ways to create stability in divorce

What Does It Take to Succeed in Life?

A new study takes a comprehensive look at the American Dream.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Are You Oblivious to Clutter, Or Know Someone Who Is?

By Gretchen Rubin on February 18, 2013 in The Happiness Project
One of the things that surprises me most about happiness is the degree to which, for most people, outer order contributes to inner calm. More, really, than it should.

The “Cost” of a Visit from the Tooth Fairy

By John T. Chirban Ph.D, Th.D. on February 18, 2013 in Alive Inside!
Openness to embracing understandings of others, though different from our own, can expand our relationships and deepen our appreciation of our deepest values.

Taking the Birth Order Quiz

By E E Smith on February 18, 2013 in Not Born Yesterday
Of America's first 23 astronauts in space, how many were first-born children? Give up?

They Call That Dancing?!

High school students no longer dance; they "grind." Is there anything adults can do about it?

Teaching Your Adolescent About Anger

How the adolescents learn, from parental instruction and example and interaction, how to manage anger growing up has a formative affect on how they manage anger in caring relationships when they become adults.

Without Unmarried Equality, Gender Equality Is Not Enough

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Living Single
Gender equality is not just about husbands and wives sharing equally in paid work, care work, and housework.

What To Do About Fear, Obligation and Guilt

By Randi Kreger on February 17, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
FOG (fear, obligation, and guilt) can keep you stuck and unhappy in a relationship. In this post, I'll list several exercises that can help you deFOG your life.

The Positive Psychology of Kindness

Kindness in words creates confidence." Lao Tzu. Tomorrow is random kindness day. However, kindness should be explicitly taught every day and it should be taught systematically and purposefully consistent with the neuroscience.

Youth Violence is a Family Affair

By Marilyn Wedge Ph.D. on February 17, 2013 in Suffer the Children
Typically, when a child or teenager is behaving violently, two things are occurring in his family. First, the young person’s parents are fighting or disagreeing and, second, the family hierarchy is unbalanced.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

Adult children of narcissistic parents commonly grow up with this nagging feeling that they flunked childhood and it’s all their fault. They internalize the message they are not good enough no matter how hard they try.

Your Six Year-Old and the Sex Talk

Little kids express sexual curiosity and interest during their earliest activities and in social play. Parents are in a pivotal position to support healthy and positive feelings to help their children feel positive about their sexuality and aid and create their healthy sexual self-confidence.

Are Parents More or Less Susceptible to Catching Colds?

Are parents more prone to catch cold because they are exposed to more viruses from their children, or are they more cold-resistant. Recent research suggests that parents may have a distinct advantage in terms of their health, and here is the explanation.

Why Hasn't a Man Snatched You Up Yet?

By Melissa Kirk on February 16, 2013 in Test Case
I've had a wonderful life and lots of great adventures in love. And I'm ready for an LTR. Now.

When Your Relationship Ends, You Need to Save Face

The end of a long-term relationship is one of life's most painful experiences.It feels terrible to be left and almost just as bad to be the one initiating the break-up. Particularly painful is the blow that you take to your identity. You and your ex can ease the damage through "saving face." You won’t restore the break but you can restore your sense of self.

The Toilet Function of Friendship

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on February 16, 2013 in Shame
Some people treat friendship as a "dumping" ground for their pain.

Scientific American Misses on the Cause of Depression

A depressive collapse can leave you feeling powerless, self-critical and discouraged. What popped your inner self-confidence balloon however can feel like a mystery.

Truth, Beauty, and Goodness in the Digital Age

By Michael W Austin on February 15, 2013 in Ethics for Everyone
Digital media can help us cultivate a sense of beauty, aid us in learning how to treat others well both here and across the globe, and assist us in the slow and steady march towards truth.

Lessons Learned From Reading The Anti-Romantic Child

The Anti-Romantic Child is a spectacular story aimed at parents to be sure, yet I could see so clearly as I lost myself in those pages, how powerfully Priscilla Gilman's messages would resonate with educators, therapists, and medical professionals. I invited Priscilla to chat with me as part of my series Conversations. I’m delighted she agreed to an interview.

Julie Kibler: Life's Not Fair...So Now What?

By Jennifer Haupt on February 15, 2013 in One True Thing
"...imagine if everything was fair. What if all the platitudes were true? What would the world look like? Wouldn’t we still wonder what the purpose was? Would we wonder even more?"

Keys to Building Hope in Children: Part 3, Problem-Solving

By Anthony Scioli Ph.D. on February 15, 2013 in Hope Today
How to Teach Children to Cope with Hope

It's Time to Bring Mental Illness Out of the Shadows

Kathleen Sebalius, Secretary of Health & Human Services says, "...we are still a country that frequently confines conversations about mental health to the far edges of our discourse...This is a culture we all contribute to. And it's one that all of us ... need to help change if we want to reduce to reduce the tragic burden of untreated mental health conditions."

10 Steps to Stop Yelling

Most parents want to stop yelling, but just can't stop themselves when they get triggered. But yelling is a choice — one that trains kids to not to "listen" until we yell, and to yell back. These ten steps show you how to "emotion coach" yourself to stop yelling, start connecting, and raise a child who "listens" the first time you ask.

Time Rules Weight

When you eat may matter as much as what you eat.

The New Taboo

By Leslie C. Bell Ph.D., LCSW on February 14, 2013 in Hard to Get
If we are to believe popular portrayals of twenty-somethings, they’re checking hookup apps rather than their mailboxes for Valentine cards. If so, my research suggests that the turn to casual sex, for young women at least, is not because they’re masters of their own destiny but because they face a new taboo. It’s not about sex or money or power. It's about relationships.

Valentine's Day: Call Me a Hopeless Romantic

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on February 14, 2013 in The Friendship Doctor
Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or the Día del amor y la Amistad (Day of Love and Friendship)—as do many Latin Americans—February 14th offers a perfect opportunity to show affection for close friends, who add so much to our lives.

The Crisis in Squishy Science and Trouble for Journalists

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 14, 2013 in Living Single
There’s lots of angst these days about the state of the squishy sciences. What does it mean when different studies produce conflicting findings? What if one point of view has more emotion and more resources behind it? What can journalists do to write more accurate stories?

Expand Your View of Love This Valentine’s Day

Consider being more expansive this Valentine’s Day. Ask yourself who and what do you love and both celebrate and share that love as you wish. After all, more love is better than less love and the more loving we are the better world we'll have to enjoy.

Lovestruck, Lovesick, Lovelock

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on February 13, 2013 in Beyond Good and Evil
“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” Eden Ahez (1908-1995)

Adolescent Abusing Drugs?: The 7 C’s of Leverage

By J. Wesley Boyd M.D., Ph.D. on February 13, 2013 in Almost Addicted
The seven C's of leverage. What you can do to try to leverage your child into better decisions about drugs and alcohol.

Randy Susan Meyers: How I Stopped Lying

By Jennifer Haupt on February 13, 2013 in One True Thing
"I went from fear of facing my mother’s wrath, to fear of facing a spouse’s wrath, to fear of facing boyfriend-employer-friend-sister-everyone-in-the-world’s wrath. My dread of conflict was so deep that I’d lie about any situation if it kept the peace."