Essential Reads

What Narcissists REALLY Want—and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

What Helicopter Parents Need to Know

Nurturing college students for success, not dependency

Adolescence and the Allure of the Internet

Parents must prepare adolescents for both offline and online life

Recent Posts on Parenting

Interview with Christopher Castellani: All This Talk of Love

By Jennifer Haupt on February 06, 2013 in One True Thing
"When you write, you create something out of nothing, constantly shining light into the void. You look hard into that void for lives to illuminate, and you try to make sure you see every side of them."

Why Do Teens Murder Parents

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 06, 2013 in The Teen Doctor
Why kids kill parents

This Valentine's Day, Decide to Skip the Kids?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 06, 2013 in Open Gently
About 20% of couples with a woman of child-bearing age are opting out of parenthood. They'd rather pursue risky careers, or focus on shared interests like travel and art. And they say they'll be happier together as a result.

Do Early Outdoor Experiences Help Build Healthier Brains?

By Richard Louv on February 06, 2013 in People in Nature
A growing body of evidence suggests that early childhood experiences in nature can soften the blow of toxic stress and stimulate learning. The impact of more natural environments could be a neglected key to developing healthy brain architecture in young children — and adults, too.

Keys to Building Hope in Children: Part One

By Anthony Scioli Ph.D. on February 06, 2013 in Hope Today
How every Parent can be a hope provider

The Silent Partners of Autism

By Joe Navarro M.A. on February 06, 2013 in Spycatcher
Body language reflects our feelings, thoughts, fears, desires, and intentions - it is no less so for those who care for autistic children or adults: A look at the nonverbals of caregivers.

A Call for Greater Social Responsibility From MTV

By Richard Taite on February 06, 2013 in Ending Addiction for Good
MTV's reality shows traumatize women and children, causing deep psychological wounds. It is time to end the exploitation of addicts for "entertainment."

Feeling Guilty About Faking Joy

By Pirkko Markula Ph.D. on February 06, 2013 in Fit Femininity
Standardized exercise classes such as Bodypump and Zumba have become very popular. They are based on pre-choreographed movements to provide good workouts and be fun as well. Why are they so popular? Can everyone enjoy them?

Music Over a Lifespan

By Rictor Noren on February 06, 2013 in Music Maker
From cradle to passing, culturally we define certain music that brings us closer to experiences and passages.

The Top 5 Things Parents Don't Want to Hear About Their Kids

By Peg Streep on February 06, 2013 in Tech Support
Even though American parents are avid consumers of advice, when it comes to technology and their children, very few parents are actually listening to what the experts say. Are they putting their kids at risk?

Planned Bilingualism: Five Questions to Consider

By Francois Grosjean Ph.D. on February 06, 2013 in Life as a Bilingual
An increasing number of families plan the bilingualism of their children. Five important questions they may want to consider are discussed here.

Parental Involvement In Education

By Alfie Kohn on February 05, 2013 in The Homework Myth
Teachers want parents to be more involved in their kids' education (but not too involved). But not all types of involvement — or goals for that involvement — are equally desirable.

Addictive Families Part 4

Children do whatever they possibly can to bring stability and consistency into their lives. They will behave in any manner if it makes it easier for them to cope and survive.

Pop-A-Pill Culture

Do 1 in 12 kids really have ADHD?

The Upside of Negative Emotions

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Compassion Matters
It turns out we expend much more energy avoiding the pains of our existence than we do when we actually face our feelings. Often, we cause ourselves much more misery through our attempts to defend against our unpleasant emotions. Going toward the pain allows us to feel it and move on. Plus, it enables us to be more emotionally adaptable.

Explaining the Unexplainable

By Abby Sher on February 04, 2013 in Amen, Amen, Amen
I'd promised my toddler we could visit my parents. Only problem: my parents are dead.

Taming Love... With Science.

What do psychologists know about the what, how, and who of passionate love? Can we use the tools of science to unpack this mysterious emotion?

The Genius of Dogs and The Hidden Life of Wolves

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Animal Emotions
These two fact-filled and engaging books are well worth reading and sharing widely. While dogs have many friends imperiled wolves need all the friends and help they can get because as I write this essay they are being ruthlessly and wantonly killed. This unnecessary and heartless slaughter breaks up families and has had huge negative effects on on-going research.

How to Raise Mindful Children in a Digital World

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in The Power of Prime
If you want your children to be truly happy, you must give them opportunities to experience mindfulness. In this crazy new world of technology, what a wonderful lifelong gift you give your children when you help them to, paraphrasing a well-known adage from the 1960s counterculture movement, to “turn off and tune in.”

Is Crying Good for You?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 04, 2013 in Open Gently
Emotional tears contain chemicals that may help us to release. And most people say they love a "good cry." But in lab tests crying makes people feel worse.

What Determines a Baby's Attachment Security?

By Charles Fernyhough PhD on February 04, 2013 in The Voices Within
Mind-mindedness is a multidimensional construct representing caregivers' willingness to take the perspective of their offspring. In a longitudinal study, different profiles of mind-mindedness predicted the quality of infant–mother attachment.

When It's Time to Cut Your Gifted Child Some Slack

By Christopher Taibbi M.A.T. on February 04, 2013 in Gifted-Ed Guru
Giftedness does not exempt that individual from going through the same behavioral developmental stages and benchmarks that any other person must inevitably go through.

When a Parent Loses a Child

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Media Spotlight
One of the greatest traumas imaginable is when parents have to deal with the death of a child. Producing greater stress than dealing with the death of a parent or spouse, a child’s death is especially traumatic because it is often unexpected as well as being in violation of the usual order of things in which the child is expected to bury the parent.

Loneliness Harms Your Health—and It's Increasing

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in The New Resilience
Research shows that loneliness harms our health, but it's important to recognize that it's fueled by our social conditioning to seek self-worth through external criteria of recognition, money and power. A hollow inner life results, setting the stage for isolation and loneliness, whether by yourself or in a crowd.

Don't Write Men Off Just Yet

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 04, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
Conventional wisdom about the decline of men ignores an important qualifier.

How Conflict Can Worsen Parent/Adolescent Communication

By example, interaction, and instruction, teaching the conduct of conflict to their adolescent is an essential part of the curriculum of family life that parents have to teach.

The Super Bowl Lesson to Parents of Siblings

The embrace between John and Jim after the Super Bowl was a testament to the power of positive parenting. Invest in your children early on and they will make you proud. Just ask the Harbaugh parents what they felt when they saw that embrace. Jack and Jackie, you earned and deserve that sense of pride. I salute you!

Sexology: Is It Research or "Me"Search?

In the professions of psychology and public health (the two I'm most familiar with), many scholars admit to engaging in "me"search once in a while to spark their research curiosity. It makes sense, as many of the topic areas can easily be applied to one's own life. Conducting "me"search when your topic of interest is sex can therefore raise a lot of eyebrows.

Why Today’s Afterschool Specials Would Be Hope Killers

By Shane J. Lopez Ph.D. on February 03, 2013 in Making Hope Happen
If fiction follows fact, modern afterschool will reflect the great hope divide between American adults and children.

Normal, Human Infant Sleep: Feeding Method and Development

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on February 03, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
Although US culture emphasizes “sleeping through the night,” this is is not biologically normal. Knowledge about normal sleep patterns can help alleviate the stress and anxiety parents feel, leading to happier times for the entire family.