Essential Reads

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

What Helicopter Parents Need to Know

Nurturing college students for success, not dependency

Recent Posts on Parenting

Fear, Obligation, and Guilt (FOG) in Relationships

By Randi Kreger on February 11, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten, directly or indirectly, to punish us if we don’t do what they want. The main tool of the trade is FOG: fear, obligation, and guilt.

The Risks of Sleep-Disordered Breathing in Children

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Sleep Newzzz
Does your child snore? Does he breathe through his mouth when he sleeps? Do you ever notice pauses in your child’s breathing while she’s asleep? If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, your child may be suffering from sleep-disordered breathing.

Was Your Dad a Narcissist?

By Mark Banschick M.D. on February 11, 2013 in The Intelligent Divorce
Do you work too hard for Dad's approval? Was he great, but there was something missing? Do you end up with charming partners who don't meet your needs? Your father may have been narcissistic. Here's a check list that can help you out.

Helping Psychologically Wounded Children Heal

Victimization and life injuries create trauma, suffering and psychological wounds. Some avenues to healing are engagement with experience, which can be created through reading and writing stories in schools; warmth, affection and support by parents, teachers and peers; and gaining meaning out of one's suffering by becoming active bystanders to prevent others' suffering.

Snooze Alert, Snooze Alert: Sleep-Deprived Fathers Ahead

By Peter B. Gray Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in The Evolving Father
Fatherhood can alter men's sleep patterns, as a large, new U.S. study shows. Fathers also face a variety of sleeping arrangements, adjustments with work, and even decreases in testosterone.

Keys to Building Hope in Children: Part 2 Self–Regulation

By Anthony Scioli Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Hope Today
What Children Need to Have Hope

Is Technology Changing the Way Kids Develop Relationships?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in The Power of Prime
Do you want your children to learn about the meaning of love from The Bachelorette, about families from Keeping Up with the Kardashians, or friendship from Gossip Girls? Do you want your children to have 100 Facebook “friends,” learn about sex from pornography web sites, or experience cyberbullying though text messages? I hope not.

No Romance, No Marriage, Just a Baby, Please

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Singletons
They hardly know each other, they may or may not end up living together, but he and she want a biological baby. These newly formed baby-making partnerships will be questioned, but there is logic to them.

Your Life Is Like a Three Ring Circus

It took me three years to master the art of watching a three ring circus. Now you can do it in under five minutes and use the skills you learn to manage your career.

The Psychology of Studying Your Children

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
“The Birth of a Word,” MIT researcher Deb Roy talks about a phenomenal experiment he launched in which he recorded almost 250,000 hours of audio and video from the day he and his wife brought their infant son home from the hospital until the boy was 3 years old.

When Parents and Adolescent Are Very Different People

When there are basic differences between parent and adolescent in temperament, functioning, interests, capacity, or personality, it can be tempting to encourage the teenager to change and become more similar to the adult, rather than accepting and nurturing the young person's human nature and inherent strengths.

Parenting Fads, Publishers, and Bad Advice

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on February 11, 2013 in Nurturing Resilience
Parenting advice can be as faddish as diets. Publishers love the next big idea, but parents beware: trying to fix our children’s complex problems with simple solutions avoids what the research tells us about children, parents, and their very odd interactions.

Sensory Sensitivity and Problem Behavior

By Lynne Soraya on February 10, 2013 in Asperger's Diary
In many circles, there's a strong bias toward eliminating problem behaviors. Is there a problem with this approach?

How Can Romantic Love Transform Into Long-Term Intimacy?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 10, 2013 in Rediscovering Love
Most new lovers believe that their relationship will last forever. Sadly, that is rarely true. Unless they learn how to turn that magical lust/fusion relationship into intimacy from the beginning. It is possible if they learn what to do early on.

Obama’s 2nd Term: Expanding the Liberal Imagination

By George Davis on February 10, 2013 in Modern Melting Pot
The predominant liberal, conservative and African American narratives keep African Americans at the bottom of the Drama Triangle.

What Genes Tells Us About Worrying

By Stanton Peele on February 10, 2013 in Addiction in Society
You can always gain attention for a purported genetic explanation for a behavior that deeply concerns us. Making sense of the explanation is another matter.

Is Self-Care Selfish?

Remember the old cliché? “Take care of yourself first or you will have nothing left to give others.” Or, “ we can’t give what we don’t have.” But what is self-care really? Why is it so difficult and why do we feel guilty about doing it?

Normal Infant Sleep: Changing Patterns

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on February 10, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
“My child wakes up at 2am and is up for 1-2 hours!” One of us remembers very clearly the first time her daughter ended up doing this....

Catfishing: Hook, Line and Sinker

Catfishing has received a lot of media attention lately and I'm not talking about traditional fishing. This one's got a definition all of its own, and I am still in a quandary over the name...

Who's Really Seeking the Trophy?

Are your kids desires to achieve driven by their blood, sweat, and tears for their accomplishments or yours? Many parents openly admit to support their kids, but few recognize when they are vicariously living through their kids' achievements. How about you? Have you examined your role in your child’s choices?

Three Easy Ways to Raise Your Child's Emotional Intelligence

Use these three strategies to raise your child's emotional intelligence.

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

By Miki Kashtan Ph.D. on February 09, 2013 in Acquired Spontaneity
As a manager, deciding things on your own can be stressful, while including the people whose futures you are making decisions about can be surprisingly productive.

Valentines for Couples: Friendship with another couple

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on February 09, 2013 in Buddy System
On Valentine's Day, hanging out with another couple can be instructive

The Power of Sacred Self-Promises

By Jonathan Fields on February 08, 2013 in Awake at the Wheel
Every Sunday, young Vernon Bush and his family would pile into the car and drive 150 miles to the church where his dad would preach. Like most churches of that time, there was a small gospel choir that Vernon dutifully blended into.

I Have Faith That I’m Not So Different From Everyone Else

By Gretchen Rubin on February 08, 2013 in The Happiness Project
I first heard about journalist and author Pamela Druckerman when her book Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting came out–it really struck a chord with many parents.

What’s “Wall-Socket Sex”?!

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 08, 2013 in Evolution of the Self
I first encountered this intriguingly provocative term in reading the eminent sex/relationship therapist David Schnarch’s *Passionate Marriage*. But what, exactly, does “wall-socket sex” refer to? And assuming that you yourself might aspire to such electrically charged eroticism, just how might you go about achieving it? . . .

5 Tips for a Better Valentine's Day and Beyond

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 08, 2013 in Compassion Matters
Valentine's Day is an occasion to exercise patience, humor, passion, and kindness. But why limit these actions to just one day? How can we learn to express love on a daily basis in a way that is uniquely sensitive to our partner? What patterns should we avoid that take away from our romantic feelings?

Blowing Up Weight-Loss Myths, Part 2

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on February 08, 2013 in A Million Meals
For the first time in memory, a major media outlet is admitting that too many of what are presented as “scientifically proven facts” on weight loss—and concurrently, the effect of exercise, diets, and so forth—are actually unsubstantiated by any scientific standard.

The Synesthetic Sommelier

By Maureen Seaberg on February 07, 2013 in Sensorium
Reislings are long and yellow-green; Barolo Piedmont is knot-shaped and purple and brown...

More Than Sex: 11 Meaningful Facts About Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 07, 2013 in Living Single
A recent survey of single people asked mostly about dating, sex, and online profiles. The real lives of single people are about much more than that. Here are 11 meaningful facts about single people.