Essential Reads

Does It Really Matter Where You Go to College?

Frank Bruni may be wrong about elite schools

The Adjustment of Adoptees

Studying the behavior and adjustment of adopted children

7 Ways to Combat Facebook Jealousy

Envy on social media is real and depressing; here's how to fight it.

Socioeconomic Factors Impact a Child's Brain Structure

Family income and parental education are linked to a child's brain development.

Recent Posts on Parenting

The Decisive Element in the Classroom

Time spent on bullying prevention is time saved on conflict, victimization, academic struggles, and alienation.

Cohabitation's Effect on Kids

Cohabiting couples in the US typically don't last past 5 years and if kids are involved, the churn can leave a lasting impact.

Dying for Acceptance: Suicide Rates in the LGBTQ Community

"Can you accept me as I am?" This is the question being asked by many in the LGBTQ community in the world today. The painful reality is that many in the LGBTQ community are being rejected and ridiculed for walking in the truth of who they are. I sit with my clients and hear the pain in their voices as they stand at the intersection of life or death.

A Culture of Mercilessness

"My intent is not to make the boys out to be villains, but to draw awareness to the cultural mindset they were raised in. A cultural mindset of merciless hyper competition, which leaves no room for compassion or empathy."

Dealing with Negative People

By Raj Raghunathan Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 in Sapient Nature
The single biggest determinant of how we feel is how others around us--especially those to whom we feel close--treat us. And when these close-others are negative--pessmistic, anxious or distrustful--it can hurt. The article suggests ways to deal with negative people.

Sex Differences in Fertility Preferences

In various societies, men have higher fertility preferences than women. Why is that? Sex-specific reproductive costs and benefits can help explain the difference, and also help make sense why women may be the drivers of fertility constraint and males of fertility enhancement.

Listening To the Signs

By Andrea Fox on March 19, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
One of the hardest things about being a parent is figuring out when our kids want us to fix their problems and when they want us to simply listen and offer support.

Living With the Gun

By Eliezer Sobel on March 19, 2013 in The 99th Monkey
By Guest Blogger lj rey: "When I was a young man I had a Winchester hanging over my bedroom door. I thought the right to bare arms had something to do with Marilyn Monroe in a sleeveless dress. Guns were the building blocks of manhood."

Motivating Your Child

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 in Shyness Is Nice
Wish you could get your child do his homework without the usual hassles? Would you like your child to pitch in with some help around the house instead of acting like you're the maid. Here are some tried-and-true tips on how to motivate your child.

An Extreme Approach to Ending Temper Tantrums

Modern methods of "treating" children's behavior problems and moodiness might shock you.

The Revolution in Infant and Child Development

There is a revolution occurring in infant and child development. This is having a profound impact on our understanding of the motives and behavior of human beings. There are three areas which are fueling this revolution: feelings, intelligence, and language. We will discuss the remarkable potential created when one looks at these three elements together.

Stopping Problem Behaviors Before They Take Hold

When a child acts out to escape a frustrating situation, building the right skills can reduce problem behaviors.

Five Reasons We Impulse Buy

By Philip Graves on March 19, 2013 in Consumer Behavior
Is your house full of products that you don't use? Why is it that we keep buying things we don't need? The answer lies in your unconscious mind and how retailers have learned to exploit it.

Don't Expect Me To Do What's Typical If I'm Not Neurotypical

What are you expecting your child or student with ADHD to do, right now, that’s harder than a “three out of ten?” And what strategies can you generate, right now, to make it less difficult for him or her, to increase the likelihood that he or she will demonstrate mastery?

Date Rape and Dieting: What It Means to be a Girl Today

In our society, it is socially acceptable, and even profitable, to sexually objectify and dehumanize women. Boys, who voraciously consume these images, view women as sexual objects for their pleasure, making rape seem justified. Girls, half of whom diet to be more attractive, are also victims to this mindset, dangerously objectifying themselves along the way.

Imitation: Not the Sincerest Form of Empathy

By Gillian Ragsdale Ph.D. on March 19, 2013 in Empathy
Does empathy develop from emotional contagion – catching an emotion from someone else? Aren't you more likely to empathize with someone when you can feel as they are feeling? Well, not necessarily.

Children in Parents' Bed: A Good Idea?

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on March 19, 2013 in Am I Right?
The best advice for parents is to find the middle ground where you are most comfortable. You only have so much control over what kind of person your child will become. The main thing you can do for them is to be the person yourself that you wish for them to be.

Why America Absolves the Steubenville Rapists

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on March 18, 2013 in Love, Inc
The Steubenville rape case is a lesson in who matters and who doesn't in American culture. In media coverage of the case, the rapists are described as anything but criminal: young, good students, good athletes, tragic. And the victim of their violence all but disappears. That's because as a culture we confuse male athleticism with heroism.

Head in the Cloud: What's Wrong with Telecommuting?

By Dr. Colin Ellard Ph.D. on March 18, 2013 in Mind Wandering
The debate about telecommuting often centers on questions about whether a worker can function well without visiting a traditional office environment. It's generally assumed that when a worker can avoid the office they are better off doing so. But is this always the case? It's possible that the unshackling of work from a workplace takes away the freedom to not work.

The Gift of ADHD Controversy

By Lara Honos-Webb Ph.D. on March 18, 2013 in The Gift of ADHD
The "Gift of ADHD" is an intervention; just by finding and focusing on gifts, people change in positive, noticeable ways. They feel better because of improved confidence and motivation.

What is Technology Doing to Your Children’s Friendships?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on March 18, 2013 in The Power of Prime
There is one quality in particular that is perhaps most stark distinction between traditional and online friendships; the former is about the quality of relationships and the latter is often about the quantity of relationships. In real life, the goal is to have a few really good friends. With social media, the goal is to accumulate as many so-called friends as possible.

You Can't Change the Past - Why Talk About it?

This post is the 4th in a series of posts describing strategies for overcoming family avoidance strategies in order to persist in fruitful efforts to stop repetitive dysfunctional interactions. Part IV shows how family members use hopelessness and logical fallacies as reasons to stop talking to each other about solving family problems..

Become a Better Parent

How our parents related to us has a heavy influence on how we relate to our kids. Traumatic incidents from our childhood are commonly stirred up when we experience similar scenarios with our own kids. That moment when we "lose it" is often an over-reaction based on feelings that have been awakened within us from our own early life experiences.

Marriage Problems? Here's an 8-Step Rescue Plan

What if you look back on your marriage and remember the early good times, but now your marriage is hitting bumps and feels hopeless? This self-help version of couples counseling can put you on smoother and more solid ground.

The Art and Science of Memory

Autobiographical memories are reconstructions of past events which have a particular phenomenology: a 'what it is like' quality. To understand them fully, therefore, we need to draw on insights from the humanities as well as the sciences.

Disappointing Reason to Support Gay Rights: "My son is gay"

By Marty Klein PhD on March 18, 2013 in Sexual Intelligence
Although his support is welcome, Senator Portman's sudden support of same-sex marriage is selfish—it isn't for Americans, it's for his son.

Finding the Next Sheryl Sandberg

Sheryl Sandberg is not an ordinary person. She has extraordinary intelligence and organizational ability among other traits. How many people have the potential to be her? How many people want to be her?

A Rose by Any Other Name? De-constructing Sport Psychology

By taking apart the term “sport psychology”, we can learn a lot about both sport and the practice of psychology. It’s not just an academic exercise: Whether you’re on the field of play or "sidelined" as coach or parent—and especially if you’d like to be working with any of those people—being accurate is important.

Magical Thinking, Redux

One of my patients suffers from chronic constipation due to irritable bowel syndrome. During the twenty years since she was first diagnosed, her symptom pattern has remained remarkably consistent: she has perhaps 1-2 bowel movements per week, occasionally accompanied by some mild cramping. Even she admits the symptoms are more a bother than a worry. And yet, every time I

Four Common Obstacles That Interfere with Goal Setting

The first step to getting things done is to set goals carefully. Yet people often fail to do that. Here are four common obstacles that interfere with goal setting and ways to overcome them. Link your goals to your survival needs and you will achieve them.