Essential Reads

Makings of a Child

Assisted Reproductive Technologies (ART) expand the basis of a baby.

Adolescence and Honoring Agreements

Why adolescents can make more agreements with a parent than they tend to keep

One More Reason to Unplug Before Bedtime

Reading a bedtime story improves a child's brain function and mental imagery.

10 Ways to Stay Connected with Your Adolescent

The challenge of parenting a teenager is staying connected as you grow apart

Recent Posts on Parenting

Behind Every Complaint There’s a Vision

There's a skill to hearing complaints, which often reflect a feeling of powerlessness in the complainer, and then to going deeper to help the complainer find their vision.

Crowdfunding Embodied Cognition Research

By Hans IJzerman Ph.D. on April 04, 2013 in Body, Meet Mind
In a previous post, I talked about the importance of warmth in social relations. But how far can we extend this? Does warmth even confer positive effects in operative contexts? Read this post and you (may) find out!

Doctor-Patient Communication: Part V

The continuum of our discussion on communication between doctor and patient has thus far dealt with the importance of that state and what actually constitutes the ideal. Today's blog is more an attempt to explain what influences the doctor ability to lead and help develop the relationship so important to the cancer experience.

Know You're a Good Person

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on April 04, 2013 in Your Wise Brain
Try to take in the good of feeling cared about; recognize goodness in your acts of thought, word, and deed; sense the goodness at the core of your being; see the goodness in others; give yourself over to goodness. Enjoy this beautiful goodness, so real and so true.

Listening Is a Ministry and Discipline

To listen to another asks that we create a safe place; hold their truth; and behold their highest nature.

Abusive Coaching is Not About Anger, It’s About Approach

The video that went viral of Rutgers Men's Basketball Coach Mike Rice abusing his players was, unfortunately, not an isolated incident. The line between intense and abusive coaching may be blurry to some, but society and athletics need to make it clear that going over that line won't be tolerated. Fear and intimidation are not at the core of effective coaching.

To Compromise or Not to Compromise

Many popular psychologists preach that compromise is the key to resolving relationship conflict. But when people compromise too readily it leads to unsustainable resolutions and more difficult relationship problems to resolve in the future. Relationship conflicts are not merely problems to resolve; like arrows, they point to the next step on the paths of relationships.

Improving Motivation to Learn

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on April 03, 2013 in Memory Medic
When it comes to learning, motivation is way ahead of whatever is in second place.

Will Princeton Replace Match.Com and eHarmony?

Patton's advice to marry early is directed towards girls only because “It's amazing how forgiving men can be about a woman's lack of erudition, if she is exceptionally pretty." The implication, of course, is “Honey, with your IQ we all know you ain’t exceptionally pretty. If you were pretty, you wouldn’t have had to go to college. You'd have been married in high school."

Enslaved by the Past

By Anneli Rufus on April 03, 2013 in Stuck
Raised by a parent who almost certainly had Borderline Personality Disorder, I have lived my life wearing the chains of fear and self-loathing that were given me as a family legacy. Passover is a holiday about the sweetness of freedom and the bitterness of slavery: Is it finally time to break free?

Just Say "Bye, Bye" Before You Say "I Do"

Jerome Kern wrote, "When you're in love, smoke gets in your eyes." And that smoke can quickly turn into a smokescreen that you are unable to see through to see if your love relationship has any chance of lasting.

Dogs That Bite and People That Don't Listen

Since dogs are often viewed as being part of a family, it is not surprising that, in the same way that we deny and try to explain away misbehavior in our children, people often do the same for dogs that act aggressively. This appears to be particularly the case for those attempting to deny the aggressive tendencies of the pit bulls breeds.

Replace Head Start With Re-form Schools?

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on April 03, 2013 in Digital Pandemic
The Head Start Program needs re-evaluation in order to be successful.

The Bible and Psychology – Adam’s Sweat

By Matthew Shanahan M.Sc. on April 03, 2013 in Living It
The punishment assigned to Adam was that he would earn his living "by the sweat of his brow". This valuable lesson applies to the descendants of Adam, too (us). Have you been to the gym yet today?

Teachers Who Fall in Love with Students

By Nick Luxmoore on April 03, 2013 in Young People Up Close
Once the possibility of intimacy between students and teachers has become a taboo subject, the experience becomes shameful with teachers obliged to hide and hate their feelings. But if those feelings can be acknowledged and talked about as inevitabilities rather than as signs of weakness or perversity then teachers are less likely to end up crossing any boundaries.

Role Models and Choices

We make choices sometimes in spite of our role models

Stimulants Safer Than Aspirin?

Is it necessary to apologize for prescribing stimulants for ADHD?

Our Nursing Home Parents: MDs, Meds, Cultural Issues, Part 2

Finding a facility in which one is confident that a family member is being properly cared is sometimes a rare gift. The Right Nursing Home? Part 1 focused on ratings, activities, and atmosphere. But in the nursing home search there is also the question of illness, the role of physicians, medication, cultural sensitivity, and what you do if change is needed.

Can Moms Make Art?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on April 02, 2013 in Creating in Flow
Lost in Living is a powerful documentary that delves into the emotions felt and the life choices made by mothers who are also writers or artists.

Parenting with an Eating Disorder

As more adults are diagnosed with eating disorders, they are trying to break the cycle so their kids don't suffer as well

Moments of Joy with Alzheimer's!

By Eliezer Sobel on April 02, 2013 in The 99th Monkey
I’ll never forget playing “Tangerine Poker,” a card game my niece Julie and I made up as we went along: I would pick a card, and put the tangerine next to the salt shaker. Julie would put a card on top of mine, and peel the tangerine. My mother would study her hand carefully, look down at the table, and eat the tangerine.

Free Will Hunting: A Review of David Sheff's "Clean"

David Sheff's "Clean: Overcoming Addiction and Ending America's Greatest Tragedy" is the best book on substance abuse and addiction in years. Its claims about the role of choice, however, raise far more questions than they answer.

Are Kids Racist?

Do you remember a time your child made a racist comment and you shrunk away in horror? Or do you believe your child is unaware of race, a true product of Dr. King’s dream? Most White parents tend to fall into these two camps and most of these parents deal with race, by not dealing—they avoid talking about it. Recent research has much to say about this current trend.

Understanding and Helping Toddler Sleep--Preparing Success

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on April 02, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
Practical, tested ways to help your toddler sleep...

Jennie Shortridge: When A Mind Breaks

By Jennifer Haupt on April 01, 2013 in One True Thing
"My mission as a child was to figure out my mother's brain: what made her happy and loving on some days, and what made her withdraw or become mean? What made her vacuum at two in the morning, then sleep until well after we arrived home from school the next day? What made her want to terrify us with suicide attempts or acts of violence against us?"

6 Things That Could Be Done Now to Help Autism Families

By Kymberly Grosso on April 01, 2013 in Autism in Real Life
Our autistic children need help. Many autistic adults need help. But what can schools and legislators do right now to start helping?

From Origins of Breastfeeding to Lactose Intolerance

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on April 01, 2013 in How We Do It
To say that humans are mammals is not simply an arcane statement about classifying us in the biological scheme of things. The message is far more profound: We have all of the key biological features that set mammals apart from other animals. Two of them, hair and suckling, are plainly evident. What is not so obvious is that hair and suckling are linked.

What's Behind the 53 Percent Rise in ADHD Diagnoses?

None of the medical doctors interviewed in today's Times article argue that the increasing number of ADHD diagnoses actually represent the spreading of a disease.

10 Assumptions We Make about Teens and Media

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on April 01, 2013 in Connected
Does every teen have a Facebook? What are the best ways to reach out to teens? How are teens using media? The facts about 10 common assumptions made about teens' use of media.

What Do Men Want?

By David J. Powell Ph.D. on April 01, 2013 in Game Plan
Men don't ask for help. So, what do men want? How can services best be delivered to men? is your office environment male-friendly, and what does that even mean? How comfortable would a male be walking into your clinic, most likely pushed in the door by someone else, a friend, partner, or employer.