Essential Reads

Cancer Is My Teacher Part 2

How do you tell your children/family/teachers that you have cancer?

The LGBT Family Blender

Lesbian moms and gay dads coming out: (heterosexually) married with kids.

How Early Academic Training Retards Intellectual Development

Academic skills are best learned when a person wants them and needs them.

Miscarriages: Conception Without Birth

Observed pregnancy losses are just the tail end of massive shedding

Recent Posts on Parenting

Rhetoric and the Creation of Preferred Realities

To be perfectly honest, most writers, including myself, present a preferred reality to their readers. It is only natural for a writer to selectively choose or cherry pick outcomes in order to portray a certain image.

Three Quick Tips for Saving the Earth

According to one of UC Berkeley's cutting edge ocean researchers climate change is happening too slowly for people to care enough to change. I offer three tips to encourage your own earth-saving change.

Rolling in the Deep

By Nancy Rappaport M.D. on April 16, 2013 in We Are Only Human
How do we help troubled students and assess violence in schools? The common denominator is prevention.

A Boston Mom's Marathon Notebook

By Andrea Fox on April 16, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
When a tragedy such as the bombings at the Boston Marathon occurs, it's okay to admit to your children—and to yourself—that you don't have all the answers.

Your Helping Instincts May Be Stronger Than You Realize

Reaching out to help others in need may be one of our most basic human tendencies. Despite the attention that psychology gives to the bystander effect, or the tendency to ignore others in distress, research on small children shows that starting at a very early age, most of us are eager and willing helpers.

No Speak: The Political Charade Following Tragedies

By Stanton Peele on April 16, 2013 in Addiction in Society
Talk, talk, talk. We hear unending verbiage following a tragedy like the massacre at the Boston Marathon. But what does it tell us?

When the Unthinkable Happens

By Judy L. Mandel on April 16, 2013 in Replacement Child
How do we go on in the face of realizing that anything can happen?

Making a Living Out of Living (Off-Grid in the Wilderness)

By Brad Waters on April 16, 2013 in Design Your Path
An untold number of people quietly live in the American wilderness and few of us even know they're out there. Like a growing number of Americans, these two families living off the grid in rural Northern Michigan long ago tapped into the freedom of living a sustainable lifestyle. Fewer wants and needs means more time to enjoy what matters the most.

Perfectly Beautiful

By Elias Aboujaoude M.D. on April 16, 2013 in Compulsive Acts
Body dysmorphic disorder, or BDD, is a serious appearance-based affliction. BDD sufferers feel unbearably ugly, and little you can say can change their minds. However, when BDD affects a patient's loved one, as when a patient starts believing that a child or spouse is unbearably ugly, the diagnosis takes on a new meaning and new toll.

What Should You Look for In Your Perfect Match?

Do opposites attract, as Paula Abdul once assured us in a pop song, or do you need to be similar on twenty-nine dimensions of personality – as E-harmony suggests – to find the perfect match?

Invisible Mourners

There are many mourners when a family member or a friend dies If they are not part of the immediate family they often do not receive the attention they need. I call them "invisible mourners". We need to recognize the changes in their lives and help them deal with these as well as with their feelings not only immediately after the death but over time as well.

Don't Idealize the Dead

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on April 16, 2013 in Am I Right?
While honoring the dead means assuming some of their best qualities and enacting them, this can be done only if it is also acknowledged that the person was not perfect.

Helping Children Cope After the Boston Maraton Bombing

We all went through 9/11. More recently the horrifying shooting in Newtown. And now we are all struggling to help our kids understand the events at the Boston Marathon. While the advice is similar, we all need to keep a few things in mind.

The Boston Tragedy: One Simple Suggestion for Our Kids

By Bruce Poulsen Ph.D. on April 15, 2013 in Reality Play
Repeated exposure to upsetting and increasingly vivid images in the news is clearly not helpful to children. In the face of so much that can be difficult to control, turning off the television is something any of us can do.

Liberals and Conservatives Are Both Wrong About Teen Sex

By Michael Castleman M.A. on April 15, 2013 in All About Sex
No matter what it does or doesn't teach, school-based sex education is a waste of money.

Fear of Intimacy in Men: Cause, Relationship Problems, Tips

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on April 15, 2013 in Insight Is 20/20
Relationships, I find, are more scary for men than for women because of the different ways the two genders handle emotions.

Coping with Tragic News for Sensitive People

For years I've had a love-hate relationship with my sensitivity, but I’m finally starting to accept it. It's hard, though, when tragedies and bad news flood the airwaves. Here are some things that may help.

The Sleeper Effect

By Maggie Scarf on April 15, 2013 in The Remarriage Blueprint
Happy stepkids can suddently become conflicted about their stepparents during adolescence and start to rebel and act out. This phenomenon is known as the "sleeper effect."

The Crucial Nature of Media Literacy

Over the past few decades, we’ve seen the media permeate deeply into children’s lives. A recent Kaiser Family Foundation report sets the amount of media exposure for an average American child at eight hours per day, more time than with family or in school.

Healthy Kids Depend on Healthy Parents

By Joy Jacobs J.D., Ph.D. on April 15, 2013 in One More Bite
Forget what you read in the tabloids, strategies for a healthy body, mind and spirit post-pregnancy.

How Much of What You Believe Did You Hear From Other People?

We seem to know a lot of things we hear or read about. Sometimes it seems that most of what we believe comes from other people. Does it?

I'm Nobody's Mommy, and That's Okay

By April M. Herndon Ph.D. on April 15, 2013 in Dry Land Fish
Whenever anyone asked about whether or not I wanted babies, I replied with a firm “no.” Over the years, my commitment to being childless has been unwavering. In fact, I can’t remember a single time in my life when I actually considered having children. My choice not to have children may, in fact, be the only choice I’ve ever made that I’ve yet to reconsider.

Why Reading Blogs Makes Us Feel Like We're Failing at Home

By Emily Matchar on April 15, 2013 in Homeward Bound
Reading blogs can make our own home lives seem so...un-perfect in comparison.

Looking For Hope

I went looking for hope and found more than I expected.

Early Adolescence and Anxiety about Growing Up

For most young people, leaving childhood and entering adolescence is an anxiety producing experience. This is why adolescence is not simply a process of growth, but also an act of courage.

Male Anorexia Nervosa: Sports and Sexual Orientation

Around the time Jeremy began to question his sexual identity, he also began to focus intensively on cross-country running. Within a year, he had developed a severe case of anorexia nervosa. Jeremy’s obsession with counting calories and exercise not only distracted him from increasing panic about his sexual identity, starvation muted his developing sex drive.

Seven Ways to Evaluate your Intimate Relationship

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 14, 2013 in Rediscovering Love
Committed couples need to reevaluate their relationship on a regular basis to make sure their love and devotion are intact. Seven dimensions of interaction are the most effective targets to explore.

The Childhoods of Munchausen by Proxy Moms

Women who induce illness in their children to get attention from medical professionals seem to have some common childhood experiences.

Mental Health, Gun Violence, and Parenting

By Nancy S. Buck Ph.D. on April 14, 2013 in Peaceful Parenting
You cannot take away a person’s right to live their life free of any kind of mental health intervention any more than you can take away a person’s right to own guns.

10th Anniversary of Mapping Human Genome: What it All Means

By Robert Klitzman M.D. on April 14, 2013 in Am I My Genes?
April 14, 2013 is the 10th anniversary of the first sequencing of the human genome. Since then, we have learned much about how genes work and can affect many aspects of our lives. But they present us with countless psychological challenges - how to understand the uncertainties involved, and how genes might contribute to mental states, disorders and behaviors.