Essential Reads

The Real Reason Religion Is Declining In America

Why the U.S. will eventually resemble Europe

How to Foster More Adaptive Thinking

Are your cognitions working for you or against you?

The Perfect Graduation Gift: A Coat for All Seasons!

Give your son or daughter life's ultimate edge!

Room Rights in Adolescence

When disagreeing about room-care, respect the importance of the teenage room

Recent Posts on Parenting

Vaporized! What to Do With Electronic Cigarettes

Electronic cigarettes are spreading wildly. Are they bane or boon?

Some Funny Things About Kids in America

By Stanton Peele on April 18, 2013 in Addiction in Society
American kids rank among the worst-off in the economically advanced world despite our feverish efforts to protect our children. What the hell's going on?

Spectacular Tragedy in a Just World: The Power of "Why?"

Spectacular tragedy does not require a spectacular explanation—a loner with a grudge really can kill a President, shoot up a schoolyard, or leave bombs sitting in backpacks—and yet we feel like it should. We want cause to transcend effect. A simple truth can leave us feeling cheated. We need to believe in the existence of answers and purpose more powerful than our pain.

Turning On (and Off!) the Athlete Self

By Kristi Pikiewicz PhD on April 17, 2013 in Meaningful You
Parents, coaches, athletes and sports psychologists tend to focus on training the athlete self without mentioning it can be a dark and powerful magic. Just as turning it on allows us to compete, turning off the athlete self allows us to exist outside competition.

Why Do Young Gay Men Try to Be the Best?

Recent research reveals why the phrase "the best little boy in the world" aptly describes so many young gay and bisexual men. This guest blog is by researchers who studied why so many gay men strive for perfection and the associated psychological costs.

Family Matters: Trends in Family Media Use

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on April 17, 2013 in Connected
Do you know what percentage of youth know how to get around or disable the blocking software on their home computers? This percent and more were determined in a national study from The Center for Innovative Public Health Research that measured trends in household rules for media use by youth.

The Power of Talking to Kids: The Talk and The Evidence

By Polly Palumbo Ph.D. on April 17, 2013 in Momma Data
Parents should talk to their kids, a lot. Duh. It seems sensible that talking to babies and young children is crucial for their proper development. But have we gone too far in thinking the mere amount of words kids hear from mom or dad makes all the difference?

Parenting and Children’s Sociosexual Behavior

One of the most sensitive issues a father (or mother) faces in raising kids is how to view their children's sexual curiosity and expression. Here is some evolutionary and cross-cultural context to children's sexuality.

Tell Us Who You Are

By Mindy Greenstein Ph.D. on April 17, 2013 in The Flip Side
After embarking on a whirlwind tour of six colleges in six days with my 11th grade son, I diagnosed myself with a new psychiatric condition —CAMP, or College Application Meshugas Psychosis.

Does Genetics Determine a Dog's Personality?

Studies that have looked at systematic crossbreeding of dog breeds have shown that the first generation offspring show a blend of their parents personality characteristics. However subsequent generations become much more unpredictable which has implications for the so-called "designer breeds".

How To Talk with Your Child about the Tragedy in Boston

When a tragedy like this shakes our faith in our own sense of safety in the world, it's tough to talk with our kids about it.

Raw Milk and Unregulated Homeschools: Should We Allow Them?

By Emily Matchar on April 16, 2013 in Homeward Bound
How far should government regulation go in things like homeschooling and food?

Can Your Sexual Debut Predict Your Future?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on April 16, 2013 in Insight Therapy
Most of us don’t remember every time we had sex, but we remember the first time…

Learn How to Intuitively Make Smart Decisions

By Judith Orloff M.D. on April 16, 2013 in Emotional Freedom
Intuition offers a direct line to your life force, and also, as I experience it, to a divine intelligence. We can’t afford to remain deaf to intuition’s messages. Discover how your intuition can help you make decisions in your life.

Rhetoric and the Creation of Preferred Realities

To be perfectly honest, most writers, including myself, present a preferred reality to their readers. It is only natural for a writer to selectively choose or cherry pick outcomes in order to portray a certain image.

Three Quick Tips for Saving the Earth

According to one of UC Berkeley's cutting edge ocean researchers climate change is happening too slowly for people to care enough to change. I offer three tips to encourage your own earth-saving change.

Rolling in the Deep

By Nancy Rappaport M.D. on April 16, 2013 in We Are Only Human
How do we help troubled students and assess violence in schools? The common denominator is prevention.

A Boston Mom's Marathon Notebook

By Andrea Fox on April 16, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
When a tragedy such as the bombings at the Boston Marathon occurs, it's okay to admit to your children—and to yourself—that you don't have all the answers.

Your Helping Instincts May Be Stronger Than You Realize

Reaching out to help others in need may be one of our most basic human tendencies. Despite the attention that psychology gives to the bystander effect, or the tendency to ignore others in distress, research on small children shows that starting at a very early age, most of us are eager and willing helpers.

No Speak: The Political Charade Following Tragedies

By Stanton Peele on April 16, 2013 in Addiction in Society
Talk, talk, talk. We hear unending verbiage following a tragedy like the massacre at the Boston Marathon. But what does it tell us?

When the Unthinkable Happens

By Judy L. Mandel on April 16, 2013 in Replacement Child
How do we go on in the face of realizing that anything can happen?

Making a Living Out of Living (Off-Grid in the Wilderness)

By Brad Waters on April 16, 2013 in Design Your Path
An untold number of people quietly live in the American wilderness and few of us even know they're out there. Like a growing number of Americans, these two families living off the grid in rural Northern Michigan long ago tapped into the freedom of living a sustainable lifestyle. Fewer wants and needs means more time to enjoy what matters the most.

Perfectly Beautiful

By Elias Aboujaoude M.D. on April 16, 2013 in Compulsive Acts
Body dysmorphic disorder, or BDD, is a serious appearance-based affliction. BDD sufferers feel unbearably ugly, and little you can say can change their minds. However, when BDD affects a patient's loved one, as when a patient starts believing that a child or spouse is unbearably ugly, the diagnosis takes on a new meaning and new toll.

What Should You Look for In Your Perfect Match?

Do opposites attract, as Paula Abdul once assured us in a pop song, or do you need to be similar on twenty-nine dimensions of personality – as E-harmony suggests – to find the perfect match?

Invisible Mourners

There are many mourners when a family member or a friend dies If they are not part of the immediate family they often do not receive the attention they need. I call them "invisible mourners". We need to recognize the changes in their lives and help them deal with these as well as with their feelings not only immediately after the death but over time as well.

Don't Idealize the Dead

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on April 16, 2013 in Am I Right?
While honoring the dead means assuming some of their best qualities and enacting them, this can be done only if it is also acknowledged that the person was not perfect.

Helping Children Cope After the Boston Maraton Bombing

We all went through 9/11. More recently the horrifying shooting in Newtown. And now we are all struggling to help our kids understand the events at the Boston Marathon. While the advice is similar, we all need to keep a few things in mind.

The Boston Tragedy: One Simple Suggestion for Our Kids

By Bruce Poulsen Ph.D. on April 15, 2013 in Reality Play
Repeated exposure to upsetting and increasingly vivid images in the news is clearly not helpful to children. In the face of so much that can be difficult to control, turning off the television is something any of us can do.

Liberals and Conservatives Are Both Wrong About Teen Sex

By Michael Castleman M.A. on April 15, 2013 in All About Sex
No matter what it does or doesn't teach, school-based sex education is a waste of money.

Fear of Intimacy in Men: Cause, Relationship Problems, Tips

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on April 15, 2013 in Insight Is 20/20
Relationships, I find, are more scary for men than for women because of the different ways the two genders handle emotions.