Essential Reads

Waving Sadly and Yet Joyfully Goodbye

First Day of School Reflections from a Recovering Mr. Mom Newbie

What If the Diagnosis of Autism Is Wrong?

There are several reasons why children may be misdiagnosed as autistic.

For the Sake of the Children

Divorce isn’t failure; living in unhappiness is failure

What We Like About Stories

Both adults and children appreciate elements of surprise and predicability.

Recent Posts on Parenting

Paper, Stone and Scissors: How a Game Explains Relationships

What can a children's game teach us about sustaining positive relationships and being a winner in life?

"I Just Learned My Mom Has Borderline Personality Disorder"

By Randi Kreger on March 02, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
"I had gone 'no contact' with my family--especially my mother--and I badly needed to talk to someone. I called my aunt. When she told me my mom has borderline personality disorder, it was the most significant thing anyone said to me in my whole life."

Why You Should Not Always Do What You Do Best

If something is worth doing, then it's worth doing, right? Doing well, doing weirdly, and doing wrong might also be the outcomes of trying something new. But that doesn't mean it wasn't worth doing. That's the very definition of learning.

That Delicate Work-Family Balance, and How to Have it All

Can women have it all? We’ve all heard this question a million times, at least. Research on work-family enrichment, on both men and women, shows that it’s possible. It just takes some flexibility and support from a boss, and it becomes a win-win situation for all. Learn how to cope with your stress at home, and on the job, and improve your overall well-being.

What is Consciousness?

By Kristian Marlow on March 01, 2013 in The Superhuman Mind
We casually talk about our experiences all the time. But how can we explain why we have these experiences in the first place? Learn about the philosophy behind the mind.

3 More Ways to Stop Screaming at Your Kids

Do these three behaviors to avoid yelling at your kids.

Screen Time Recommendations Are Not Easy to Do

By Lara Honos-Webb Ph.D. on March 01, 2013 in The Gift of ADHD
You may not feel like listening to your teenager whine when you take away his cell phone and laptop at 9:00 pm. But screen time disrupts sleep.

Sleep Loss Affects Children’s Ability to Process Speech

New research shows that even one hour of sleep loss can have important consequences for children's learning. After restricting sleep of 6 year olds, electrical activity in the brain was different from children in a control group, and processing of speech sounds was slower.

Autism Spectrum Disorders: Racial Disparities and Treatment

About 1 in 88 children are identified with an autism spectrum disorder. Autism is reported to occur in all racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic groups. However, the research consistently notes that children of African American, Hispanic, and Asian decent are more likely to be identified later. This may result in further disparities in treatment.

A Time Too Short

Young people benefit from adult guidance in handling personal loss and grief.

The Danger of Workplace Suicide Lawsuits

By Izzy Kalman on February 28, 2013 in Resilience to Bullying
Trying to reduce workplace suicides through lawsuits is likely to have the opposite effect.

Children & Praise: Why Certain Types of Praise May Backfire

Common sense suggests that praising children is certainly better than withholding it. But new research suggests that not all praise is created equal. In fact, certain types of praise may actually undermine the self-esteem of some children, especially those whose self-image is already fragile.

Who Helps the Caregivers?

She faithfully loads her husband's wheelchair into the car, but who attends to her needs? Some skills make you a good caregiver, but which ones let you survive it?

Gifted Children: Skipping Grades

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Attention Training
Hana, age eight enrolled in the NYS public school system was first identified as a high ability learner when she was four.

A Child of a Single Parent Asks, Why the Hurtful Digs?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Living Single
Some of the people in public and private life who say, essentially, that the children of single parents are doomed to a lesser life, really believe that’s what the science says. They are wrong.

What Type of Thinker Are You?

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 28, 2013 in Turning Straw Into Gold
“Convergent” and “divergent” thinking represent two different ways of looking at the world. A convergent thinker sees a limited, predetermined number of options. By contrast, a divergent thinker is always looking for more options. Many of us get stuck in convergent thinking and, as a result, don’t see the many possibilities available to us.

The Myth of the "Other Mother"

By Andrea Fox on February 28, 2013 in Imperfect Mothers
Moms often have a difficult time admitting just how hard parenting can be, especially when we are faced with the realities of motherhood versus our pre-children idyllic expectations. Assuming that other moms are doing it better, faster, easier, and in really good shoes, can lead us to feel pretty down on ourselves. Unless and until we realize that no one is perfect.

How Close is Too Close in Mother-Daughter Relationships?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Singletons
Most mothers want to be close to their daughters, but how close is too close? Is being a “Best Friend Forever” with a daughter a positive thing or a slippery slope that could compromise her development?

The Younger Generation Is Always Right

By Robin Marantz Henig on February 28, 2013 in Cusp
My daughter Samantha and I did another bit of publicity for our book Twentysomething yesterday: a taping of an upcoming episode of Katie Couric's new afternoon talk show, "Katie." But when Katie asked me what I thought of the Millennials, I gave the wrong answer. Here's what I should have said instead.

Bipolar Bad, Ritalin Good

By Nassir Ghaemi M.D., M.P.H. on February 28, 2013 in Mood Swings
Hating bipolar disorder and loving Ritalin doesn't make sense scientifically.

Mornings in High School—A Total Loss!

By Ian McMahan Ph.D. on February 28, 2013 in Chronotherapy
You’re bleary-eyed and dead to the world—so what’s the purpose? Is it your fault, or the system’s? You guessed it: it’s the System. Which must be tweaked a bit. Parents, teachers, and school boards: Take note!

Latest News about Teen Marijuana Use

By Vivian Diller Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Face It
While recent studies show some good news regarding the decline in teenage cigarette smoking and alcohol abuse, the bad news is that more are using marijuana and doing so more regularly than ever before. Studies also reveal a growing perception that marijuana use is harmless—a confluence of trends that could lead to an entirely new health crisis among teenagers today.

Giftedness Not Unwrapped—We All Lose

By Judy Willis M.D., M.Ed. on February 27, 2013 in Radical Teaching
If giftedness is not carefully nurtured it may not blossom. Failing to identify and support children’s gifts can limit their access to future careers in scientific, artistic, or other academic pursuits that could give them great joy. Discovering and developing gifted children is not only critical for them, but also vital for society.

Cinematherapy: A Useful Tool in Group Therapy

By Jeremy Clyman Psy.D on February 27, 2013 in Reel Therapy
If you've heard of the term, cinematherapy, but want to actually know what it looks and feels like in action and how it can be beneficial....then you've come to the right blog post.

When All Else Fails,Try Reverse Psychology!

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Evolution of the Self
Many years ago I wrote a text for therapists on employing paradoxical therapeutic techniques—for the most part, more intricate and refined versions of reverse (or negative) psychology. The book,*Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy*, was primarily about motivating (though deviously!) highly resistant clients and families to change dysfunctional behaviors.

Are Online Relationships Healthy For Young People?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in The Power of Prime
Virtual relationships have all the appearances of real relationships, for example, connectedness, communication, and sharing. Yet, these relationships are missing essential elements that distinguish them from flesh-and-blood relationships, namely, three dimensionality, facial expressions, voice inflection, clear emotional messages, gestures, and body language.

Why The Boobs Song at the Oscars Missed the Mark

By Carrie Goldman on February 27, 2013 in Modern Day Parenting
A breakdown of why the "We Saw Your Boobs Song" at the Oscars was sexist and harmful.

Eating Disorders: Fighting Stigma with Science

In honor of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, it is time to replace myths about eating disorders with truths.

Your Child's Path

By Susan Engel Ph.D. on February 27, 2013 in Young Minds
What can and cannot change about your child.

How Important Is Your Date's Wallet?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 27, 2013 in Open Gently
The term "gold-digger" summons up an image of 22 year olds kissing ancient lips to win a fast inheritance. But what do we think about college students entertaining sugar daddies who help cover their tuition?