Essential Reads

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

What Helicopter Parents Need to Know

Nurturing college students for success, not dependency

Recent Posts on Parenting

In the Early Morning Rain

Like a lot of young transgender people, I reached a moment when I thought of ending my life. On a cliff in Nova Scotia, instead, I found the way home.

Grade Grudge or What Ever Happened to the Honestly Earned C?

By Dana S Dunn Ph.D. on February 19, 2013 in Head of the Class
The psychology of the problematic C grade: What does it mean? Can the grade still be useful rather than stigmatized?

Downton Abbey for Sale

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in A Swim in Denial
At a time of torturous confusion in American & British culture, "Downton Abbey" is soothing syrup.

The Challenges of Being a Medically Ill Parent

It is rare that a film can capture, in such a concrete way, dynamics between parents and children that often go unspoken

Relationships: A Gateway to Emotional Freedom?

A reflection on how important relationships enrich our lives and further our spiritual growth

Our Low Birth Rate Is About Liberation

By Lauren Sandler on February 18, 2013 in One and Only
Our low birth rate is about liberation, not just economics.

Giftedness: What Are We Testing?

By Tracy P Alloway Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Keep It in Mind
A recent article in the NYT on testing for giftedness suggests that the test scores let in the well-prepared students rather than those who are “gifted”. This made me wonder: What are we testing when we test for "giftedness"? Test taking skills or an ability to think creatively and innovatively?

Strategies To End Cyberbullying

By Stephanie Newman Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Apologies To Freud
Want to beat a cyber bully at his or her own game? Here's how.

Young Adults and the Affordable Care Act

Premiums for the young are expected to increase disproportionately.

Why You Aren't Married Yet

By Jen Kim on February 18, 2013 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Valley Girl investigates why marriage is on the decline and why men don't want to get married.

Why do people deny violent media effects?

By Brad J. Bushman Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Get Psyched!
Most of us don’t like to admit that the things we enjoy doing might also be bad for us, whether that be playing violent video games or eating chocolate. Although playing a violent video game probably will not turn you into a murderer, research has consistently shown that violent media affect males and females of all ages.

Are You Oblivious to Clutter, Or Know Someone Who Is?

By Gretchen Rubin on February 18, 2013 in The Happiness Project
One of the things that surprises me most about happiness is the degree to which, for most people, outer order contributes to inner calm. More, really, than it should.

The “Cost” of a Visit from the Tooth Fairy

By John T. Chirban Ph.D, Th.D. on February 18, 2013 in Alive Inside!
Openness to embracing understandings of others, though different from our own, can expand our relationships and deepen our appreciation of our deepest values.

Taking the Birth Order Quiz

By E E Smith on February 18, 2013 in Not Born Yesterday
Of America's first 23 astronauts in space, how many were first-born children? Give up?

They Call That Dancing?!

High school students no longer dance; they "grind." Is there anything adults can do about it?

Teaching Your Adolescent About Anger

How the adolescents learn, from parental instruction and example and interaction, how to manage anger growing up has a formative affect on how they manage anger in caring relationships when they become adults.

Without Unmarried Equality, Gender Equality Is Not Enough

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 18, 2013 in Living Single
Gender equality is not just about husbands and wives sharing equally in paid work, care work, and housework.

What To Do About Fear, Obligation and Guilt

By Randi Kreger on February 17, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
FOG (fear, obligation, and guilt) can keep you stuck and unhappy in a relationship. In this post, I'll list several exercises that can help you deFOG your life.

The Positive Psychology of Kindness

Kindness in words creates confidence." Lao Tzu. Tomorrow is random kindness day. However, kindness should be explicitly taught every day and it should be taught systematically and purposefully consistent with the neuroscience.

Youth Violence is a Family Affair

By Marilyn Wedge Ph.D. on February 17, 2013 in Suffer the Children
Typically, when a child or teenager is behaving violently, two things are occurring in his family. First, the young person’s parents are fighting or disagreeing and, second, the family hierarchy is unbalanced.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

Adult children of narcissistic parents commonly grow up with this nagging feeling that they flunked childhood and it’s all their fault. They internalize the message they are not good enough no matter how hard they try.

Your Six Year-Old and the Sex Talk

Little kids express sexual curiosity and interest during their earliest activities and in social play. Parents are in a pivotal position to support healthy and positive feelings to help their children feel positive about their sexuality and aid and create their healthy sexual self-confidence.

Are Parents More or Less Susceptible to Catching Colds?

Are parents more prone to catch cold because they are exposed to more viruses from their children, or are they more cold-resistant. Recent research suggests that parents may have a distinct advantage in terms of their health, and here is the explanation.

Why Hasn't a Man Snatched You Up Yet?

By Melissa Kirk on February 16, 2013 in Test Case
I've had a wonderful life and lots of great adventures in love. And I'm ready for an LTR. Now.

When Your Relationship Ends, You Need to Save Face

The end of a long-term relationship is one of life's most painful experiences.It feels terrible to be left and almost just as bad to be the one initiating the break-up. Particularly painful is the blow that you take to your identity. You and your ex can ease the damage through "saving face." You won’t restore the break but you can restore your sense of self.

The Toilet Function of Friendship

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on February 16, 2013 in Shame
Some people treat friendship as a "dumping" ground for their pain.

Scientific American Misses on the Cause of Depression

A depressive collapse can leave you feeling powerless, self-critical and discouraged. What popped your inner self-confidence balloon however can feel like a mystery.

Truth, Beauty, and Goodness in the Digital Age

By Michael W Austin on February 15, 2013 in Ethics for Everyone
Digital media can help us cultivate a sense of beauty, aid us in learning how to treat others well both here and across the globe, and assist us in the slow and steady march towards truth.

Lessons Learned From Reading The Anti-Romantic Child

The Anti-Romantic Child is a spectacular story aimed at parents to be sure, yet I could see so clearly as I lost myself in those pages, how powerfully Priscilla Gilman's messages would resonate with educators, therapists, and medical professionals. I invited Priscilla to chat with me as part of my series Conversations. I’m delighted she agreed to an interview.

Julie Kibler: Life's Not Fair...So Now What?

By Jennifer Haupt on February 15, 2013 in One True Thing
"...imagine if everything was fair. What if all the platitudes were true? What would the world look like? Wouldn’t we still wonder what the purpose was? Would we wonder even more?"