Essential Reads

How I'm Using Science to Help My Daughter Keep Liking Math

Priming studies show uphill battle for girls and math, and how to help

The Grass Moment

We Need to Help Kids Become "Reflective Rebels"

Are Babies Contagious?

Why parenthood spreads through social networks.

Do the “Eyes” Have It?

If People Are Not Looking at You Do They Know What You Are Saying and Feeling?

Recent Posts on Parenting

Shame on Rutgers — Shame on Us

Rutgers basketball coach Mike Rice was fired for mistreating his players. But will it change the practice of shaming athletes to fight harder for the win? We are all responsible for the culture of youth sports. It's time to improve the game by stopping the shame.

Born Both Ways?

Given women’s flexible sexual responsiveness to both sexes, a growing notion among relationship researchers is that women’s sexuality is fluid. But why would sexual selection have fashioned motivational mechanisms to engage in sexual behaviors with members of the same sex?

The Dangers of Narcissistic Parents

Most of us can relate, on some level, to ways our parents over-connected or lived through us, as a reflection of them. But when dealing with a narcissistic parent day in and day out throughout one’s childhood, the impact can be devastating.

Magical Thinking is a Refuge for Child of Borderline Mother

By Randi Kreger on April 09, 2013 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
As a child, I coped with magical thinking, As an adult today, I can permit myself to do what I need to do for an emotionally healthy life, even if that means becoming the adult to our mom’s "child" and setting boundaries and consequences.

Seven Key Cultural Dimensions of the Model Minority Myth

By Sunil Bhatia Ph.D. on April 09, 2013 in Culture On the Move
This blog highlights seven important cultural dimensions of being a model minority in America. The model minority myth perpetuates the idea that many Asian Americans, irrespective of their individual aptitude and social class origins, have it in their cultural DNA to be passive, smart, attend ivy league schools and become highly accomplished doctors and mathematicians

Autism Prevalence: Can It Be 1 in 50?

What does the latest autism prevalence report mean to us? What now?

How to Break "Bad" Money Habits

By Kate Levinson Ph.D. on April 09, 2013 in Emotional Currency
Tax season is the time when money is most on our minds, and a good time to make improvements in our relationship with money. There are some simple steps to follow to change our ways with money, familiar steps that we use when we want to change other behaviors.

The Makings of a Good Girl

The more women focus on appearing perfectly physically pleasing and good, the more disconnected they become from their own experience. Fostering healthy, sexually fulfilling and emotionally intimate relationships with men means giving up raising or being a “good girl” in favor of helping girls and women to act in accordance with who they really are.

How to Choose the Right Career

Knowing your dominant motivational focus - promotion or prevention - you can now evaluate how well-suited you are motivationally to different kinds of careers, or different positions in your organization.

Living Words and Actions: Our Messages about Sex

Take this self-assessment about the messages that you convey (often unconsciously) to your kids about sexuality and determine if you are communicating effectively the messages that you state through your words and actions.

Is Gen Y Becoming the New "Lost Generation?"

By Ray Williams on April 08, 2013 in Wired for Success
Is today's youth, or Gen Y or millennials as they are sometimes referred to, becoming the new "Lost Generation," with high hopes and little prospects?

Do You and Your Spouse Argue Over Drinking?

The connection between marital conflict and drinking.

The Ideal Therapist

Instead of playing the role of expert, the ideal therapist would strive to be an authentic person.He or she would serve as a role model for the client, demonstrating through his or her responses and behavior, how to struggle against destructive forces within the personality and how to live less defensively.

End the Self-Sabotage to Make Good on Your Dreams

By Polly Campbell on April 08, 2013 in Imperfect Spirituality
We often get in the way of our own success, but you can change that by noticing a few of the more subtle ways we sabotage ourselves.

Why Not Just Put All the Kids on Medication?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on April 08, 2013 in Sax on Sex
The latest data from the CDC shows that 1 in 5 high school boys, and 1 in 10 high school girls, is now diagnosed with ADHD. But there are two clues in the data which have gone unnoticed: and those two clues may be the keys to helping you make sure that your kid isn't the next to be put on medication unnecessarily.

Diagnosis Disorder

"Diagnosis Disorder" reveals an essential error of diagnostic evaluation, which confuses a diagnosis with being an actual thing in and of itself. This article maintains that the startling increase in ADHD diagnoses are due to clinicians' misconceptions and further explains the sociocultural phenomenon of ADHD, reframing our consideration of the challenge along the way.

Choose Your Words

Your seven year old runs out of the bathroom leaving a pile of his dirty clothes on the floor for the millionth time. You want to scream.

Is Natural Better?

A new book sheds light on the question of whether natural approaches to diet, childbirth, healing and the environment really keep us healthier and happier.

Are You a Tortoise or a Hare? About Work

By Gretchen Rubin on April 08, 2013 in The Happiness Project
I love paradoxes, parables, koans, aphorisms, fables, and teaching stories of all kinds. Lately I’ve been thinking of the Fable of the Tortoise and the Hare.

Your Spouse's Secret Mission

A newlywed hates to visit his or her parents because of family discord. A recently divorced and remarried man avoids his children because he can't deal with his ex. Neither has the guts to tell the truth about his or her feelings. Spouses of such folks may come to the rescue by acting as if they are villains who keep them away from their family.

Should We Sometimes Pray to Our Mother in Heaven?

By George Davis on April 08, 2013 in Modern Melting Pot
“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”

Is Arguing Really Bad for the Children?

We believe that parents should not quarrel in front of the children. Is this protectiveness or deprivation?

The Bible and Psychology -- Joseph's Workshop

By Matthew Shanahan M.Sc. on April 07, 2013 in Living It
The story of Joseph the Carpenter tells of a man deeply committed to God's plan -- and capable and willing to carry it out. The most important job in history? Raising a child to say his prayers, do good work, be kind to his mother, and take responsibility.

Mood Management and Emotional Resilience for Adolescents

Although the origin of a bad mood can be mysterious, there are strategies an adolescent can use to reduce their likelihood and to recover well-being when they occur.

Wound Collectors

By Joe Navarro M.A. on April 07, 2013 in Spycatcher
There are people who intentionally look for and collect social slights for their personal benefit. Who are these Wound Collectors and what can we expect?

What to Expect From Psychotherapy for Bipolar Disorder

A discussion of the different elements of psychotherapy for those diagnosed with bipolar disorder: clinical assessment, acceptance of the disorder, symptom reduction/stabilization, supportive psychotherapy, brief treatment for relapses, couples therapy and bipolar support group.

Your Social Life: Are You a Fox or a Hedgehog?

By Pamela Haag Ph.D. on April 07, 2013 in Marriage 3.0
Is Facebook and other social media selecting for the fox social life over the hedgehog?

What Men Talk About When They Talk About Love (and Marriage)

Love and marriage in an era of disappearing signposts is confusing, or is it?

Understanding Our Children’s Dreams

By Dennis Rosen M.D. on April 07, 2013 in Sleeping Angels
We all dream during sleep. While we may not always pay attention to the content of our dreams, they can be extremely vivid, and associated with a wide range of emotions (sadness, fear, elation) that carries over into wakefulness. This is as true for adults as it is for children: in fact, many adults can recall in great detail dreams that they had decades earlier.

The Great College Hoax

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on April 07, 2013 in Off the Couch
My office was filled with tears and virtual (and some real) hair-pulling this past week as not just high school seniors, but their parents struggled to cope with letters telling them that their dream of getting into a top tier college was not going to coming true.