Essential Reads

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

Recent Posts on Parenting

A Crime of Fashion

By Helen M Farrell M.D. on February 23, 2013 in Frontpage Forensics
Celebrity shredding of dress could be a sign of serious mental health problems.

Why Violent Media Matters

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on February 23, 2013 in Digital Altruism
Children believe what they see on television, in movies, and in video games for the same reason they believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. My son believed their was a party in every box of Ritz crackers, what does your child believe?

The Myth of the Helicopter Parent

Can a mom or dad ever shower too much love, attention, and material support on a child? If you think the answer is yes, you may be surprised that so-called “helicopter parents” (those who over-indulge their children) may help, rather than hurt, their chances for a successful life.

Learning To Live With Betrayal

By Nick Luxmoore on February 23, 2013 in Young People Up Close
The experience of betrayal changes everything. But how much is betrayal inevitable? And how much is it helpful?

Why Politics Makes Your Head Hurt

By Gregg Murray Ph.D. on February 23, 2013 in Caveman Politics
Watching politics makes my head hurt sometimes. It’s pretty clear there are times when politicians simply don’t comprehend what the other side is saying. It’s as if they are unable to mentally process what is being said by their opponents.

What Does it Mean to be American?

By Sunil Bhatia Ph.D. on February 22, 2013 in Culture On the Move
If demography is destiny, then any discussion about what it means to be American, both in contemporary and future America, needs to go beyond matters of legal citizenship. There are a large number of first-and second-generation non-white American citizens who identify with their multiple heritages and are re-defining the meaning of cultural citizenship and identity.

The Incredibly Heavy Burden of Guilt

By Travis J. Carter Ph.D. on February 22, 2013 in Make Up Your Mind
There's been a lot of work showing, incredibly, that some of the metaphors linking physical states to mental states, like physical warmth translating into social warmth, might literally be true. A new paper expands on this, showing that a sense of physical heaviness is related to feelings of guilt, but more importantly, it seems to show why.

Reflections of a Replacement Child

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on February 22, 2013 in In Flux
An interview with replacement child Judy Mandel. Here she answers questions about confronting the issues, asking the questions, and getting the answers relevant to many replacement children.

Keys to Building Hope in Children: Part 5, Spirituality

By Anthony Scioli Ph.D. on February 22, 2013 in Hope Today
Do not ignore a child's spiritual needs

Keys to Building Hope In Children: Part 4, Mastery

By Anthony Scioli Ph.D. on February 22, 2013 in Hope Today
This is what sustainable mastery looks like.

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse does not result from storms of anger; it emerges during droughts of compassion.

The Impact of What We Watch

Drug use is ubiquitously portrayed on television. This portrayal is most often simplistic and inaccurate - moving between absurd "Just say no" messages and the glamorization of drug use. Better storytelling and developing characters and plots with depth would improve the value and impact of what we learn about drug abuse from television.

I Don't Know How to Act Around My Teen Daughter

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 21, 2013 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when your teen is depressed

Taking Stock Fifty Years After Freidan's "Feminine Mystique"

By Lauren Sandler on February 21, 2013 in One and Only
Fifty years after the Feminine Mystique, women still shoulder the burden, and suffer for it.

Letters to a Young Student: Part 3

By George Atwood Ph.D. on February 21, 2013 in Strange Memories
An aging psychotherapist reflects on his experiences, in response to a young student's inquiries

A New Take on Manipulation

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 21, 2013 in Evolution of the Self
There may be times when you’re strongly motivated to assist someone who genuinely needs your help. Yet, for whatever reasons, they turn down all your straightforward attempts. Might it then be okay to “manipulate” them into compliance?—that is, for their own good?

Mind of a Rampage Killer: Avoiding Possible Roots

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on February 20, 2013 in Moral Landscapes
The PBS show mentions the importance of early experience for mental and social health but does not elaborate. Here are ways to foster positive mental health in young children.

We Never Forget the Important People in Our Lives

By Russell Friedman on February 20, 2013 in Broken Hearts
Exploring two very important questions:“Is it ever too soon to be done with grieving?” and “Are we ever really done grieving the death of our child?”

You Can Get Over Loneliness

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 20, 2013 in Open Gently
Science is now tracking what Buddhism has said for centuries: Meditation on love can measurably improve a person's ability to create moments of connection during an ordinary day and give their bodies a healthy diet of love.

Headline Today: Misleading Reports Lead to ADHD Confusion

Skewed ADHD coverage undermines care and amplifies the difficulties for parents. There is much to refine about how best to diagnose and treat ADHD, and about the potential for medication misuse. Yet we leave families hanging when we falsely suggest ADHD is an artifact of a busy society, caused by parents, or that treatment is always ineffective or unsafe.

The Four Kinds of Relational Justification Systems

By Gregg Henriques on February 20, 2013 in Theory of Knowledge
Relational justification systems are the set of propositions that define the values and legitimize the actions and roles played by people in small groups or society at large. Four kinds of relational justification systems can be identified: Power; Love; Freedom; and Achievement.

Do Mass Killers Start Out by Harming Pets?

The tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School joins a long list of mass shootings. In a now familiar scenario, a troubled teenage boy unleashes mayhem, taking down children, adults, and ultimately himself in a hail of bullets. After the shock, we are left to puzzle over the clues missed. While there are no easy answers, animal abuse may be an important early warning sign.

Sexting Gets Easier to Parental Dismay

Snapchat, the relatively new online app that allows the user to send a message or photograph and have it disappear one to ten seconds after it is opened, is now processing 60 million messages a day.

When Single Child Families Idealize What They Don't Have

By Lauren Sandler on February 20, 2013 in One and Only
How only children, and their parents, get hurt by idealizing larger families

Bad Memories? 8 Ways to Detox Yourself

By Mark Banschick M.D. on February 20, 2013 in The Intelligent Divorce
You're having trouble in relationships. You choose wrong. You anger easily or avoid confrontation at all costs. There may be trauma in your upbringing. Here's an 8 point Detox from a painful past.

Problem Child

By Peggy Drexler Ph.D. on February 20, 2013 in Our Gender, Ourselves
If your child is the troublemaker, it's important to help set him straight sooner rather than later -- ideally before he gets labeled and before he finds himself losing friends.

Angelina, Celebs Share Stories to Advance Health Awareness

Angelina Jolie gets double mastectomy. Robin Roberts. David Letterman. Whether it's cancers of the colon, breast or lung; or borderline personailty, depression and/or domestic violence, many celebrities have lent their voice to increasing awareness of illnesses that have affected them or their loved ones.

12 Tips to Reduce Your Child's Stress and Anxiety

By Amy Przeworski Ph.D. on February 19, 2013 in Don't Worry, Mom
12 Tips for reducing your child's anxiety and stress

Toddler Knows Best

By Kristina R Olson Ph.D. on February 19, 2013 in Developing Minds
New research indicates that 3-year-old children help "paternalistically"—indicating that they know better than others what's best for them. Much like Bloomberg and his soda ban or state laws requiring seat belts, children understand that sometimes you have to ignore what people say they want now in order to help them accomplish their larger goals instead.

I'm Alive, Is That Good Enough? When Careers Lead to Suicide

By Brad Waters on February 19, 2013 in Design Your Path
A look at recent headlines of career-related stress and depression leading to suicide. What will it take to change the relentless pace and pressure of our success-obsessed society?