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Do Generations Exist?

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Anti-Vaxxers Love Their Children Too

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Recent Posts on Parenting

Is Technology Preventing Two Keys to Kids’ Relationships?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on March 05, 2013 in The Power of Prime
Children are faced with a “double whammy” against their learning how to develop positive relationships. First, they’re being bombarded with messages that teach them to be narcissistic and uncaring. Second, they have inadequate exposure to messages and experiences that convey selflessness and empathy which would support their development of healthy relationships.

Creativity, Education, Delaying College or Not Going At All

By Carrie Barron M.D. on March 05, 2013 in The Creativity Cure
Anxiety about college admissions is taking a toll on children and families. But college may not be the best investment in the current culture. There are great alternatives which can lead to contentment, security and success.

Why Some People Can't Stop Bragging

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on March 05, 2013 in Singletons
Science helps to explain why we brag so much. Or, is it just human nature to brag about ourselves or our children?

The Numbing Effect of Media Violence

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on March 05, 2013 in Am I Right?
Cultural change takes place when people say enough. And evidence shows that we’ve had more than enough of violence. It is making us coarser, harsher and less humane.

Turning to the Positive: Personal Growth After Trauma

Research shows that many people report psychological growth and positive psychological changes resulting from highly stressful events. This growth does not “undo” the negative effects, but may co-exist with them, or my be the result of therapeutic or spiritual work. Learn what this growth looks like and how to tap into it.

Will the Bachelor Finally Find "The One"?

ABC's hit reality show "The Bachelor" gives one man a chance to find the love of his life amount 25 women. If it's such a good formula, how come less than twenty percent of those matches work out? And what can it teach us about being happy with the one you picked!

The Scarlet Letter S: Getting Branded For Being Single

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in Living Single
Amidst all of the discussion of the official forms of discrimination against singles, there is, suggests guest blogger Diane Torre, an under-appreciation of varieties of singlism that plague singles in everyday life. Hurtful comments and unkind assumptions about people who are single are rampant, and perpetrators are not self-conscious about acting in these cruel ways.

What Do You Really Want?

By Michael F. Kay on March 04, 2013 in Financial Life Focus
What could be better than a good night's sleep?

Crazy About Gun Control

While trying to address the issue of gun control is no easy task, it doesn’t mean progressives have to bask unconsciously in their own projections and mini-psychoses. It’s time for less logic and more “psycho-logic.”

How Contempt Destroys Relationships

What is it about snide remarks and dismissive listening that make them so potently destructive? What causes their impact on loved ones such as a spouse or children, and even on work associates, to be so relationship-shattering?

Escaping Parental Control

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in The Human Beast
A century ago, most parents dictated who their children socialized with, supervised their meetings with romantic companions, prevented premarital intercourse, and ensured that the young people married suitable individuals. Matters are very different today. Children are less pliant, less empathic, more independent.

What Not to Say to Grieving Friends

Whenever I write about how to be a friend to a friend who’s sick, my definition of illness also includes people who are “sick at heart,” especially those grieving the loss of a loved one.

Put Away Your iPhone!

By Susan Engel Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in Young Minds
iphones are replacing invaluable parent child interactions.

How to Respond to Verbal Bullying

"Assertiveness and compassion is a tough combination to master if you believe that others are supposed to be nice to you, the combination is even next to impossible to master if you further believe that those who are not nice to you should get in trouble. The mentality to master is one of humility."

Can Sesame Street Create Kinder Kids?

By Polly Palumbo Ph.D. on March 04, 2013 in Momma Data
Parents can't help but encounter regular reminders about the perils of television, especially the ill effects of programming that isn't exactly educational. In my house I limit screen time of every sort every day but still I can't help but question yet another study claiming to show how television harms my family.

Why Your Fears Shape So Much Of Your Life

Fears underlie most life conflicts, and can remain unconscious drivers of actions and decisions. But research shows that it's possible to "evolve" your emotional life and awareness in ways that transform fears into positive actions and new growth.

Adolescence and the Agony of Decision Making

Decision making can be a very complicated part of human life, for adolescents and adults too. It help for parents to explain this complexity to their teenager.

The Sweet Spot Between Hubris and Humility

When Robert Noyce, the founder of Intel, was asked how he felt about being known as the “Father of Silicon Valley” he responded, “You know it makes me a little bit proud, and a little bit humble.” There is a sweet spot between hubris and humility that is the key to greatness.

In Praise of Frustration

By Bruce Poulsen Ph.D. on March 03, 2013 in Reality Play
Much has been said about how we praise children when they succeed. Recent research supports the view that praising a child's inherent qualities, rather than effort, may ultimately backfire. What about when children fail? Children may also need more experience with failure and greater fluency for talking about frustration.

The 10 Things Your Kids Learn About Life While Texting

By Marcia Eckerd Ph.D. on March 03, 2013 in People Skills
What messages do our kids absorb about life values when they text all the time? They're not great. There are things a parent can do.

Protecting Your Psychological Rights

We've championed civil rights, women's rights, gay rights ... shouldn't we also champion our inalienable psychological rights?

Emotional Eating II

Weight loss goals are likely to stimulate guilt and feelings of inadequacy and thus set you up to fail.

Hearing Aids and Health Insurance

By Katherine Bouton on March 03, 2013 in What I Hear
Health insurance agencies consider the use of hearing aids "discretionary" and cover little or none of the cost. This is a public health travesty.

The #1 Predictor of Divorce (and How to Prevent It)

Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington, a foremost expert on couple studies, concluded after over twenty years of research that the single, best predictor of divorce is...

Just an Innocent Instagram?

Instagram may have come around just in time to save us from being bombarded by images of lattes and lunches on our Facebook newsfeeds. But it also came around when children and teens have access to camera phones, WiFi, and little understanding of online self-exploitation. Needless to say, the photo of that cute bunny may not be all your child is seeing or posting about.

The Reality of the Replacement Child

By Judy L. Mandel on March 02, 2013 in Replacement Child
What does it mean to be a replacement child?

Too Much TV May Make Your Child Anti-Social

By Dennis Rosen M.D. on March 02, 2013 in Sleeping Angels
New study finds that greater television viewing in childhood and adolescence linked to anti-social behavior in early adulthood.

Bringing Up Puppy

In the get-ahead pressure cooker that is modern childhood, how do children learn about being kind, caring, and nurturing? Caring for a pet responsibly may be an important training ground for children, especially boys, to gain skills in care-giving that will carry into adulthood.

Caring for Someone?

By Meika Loe Ph.D. on March 02, 2013 in Aging Our Way
Most of us have a hard time with dependency in a culture that values the opposite. And that’s just the tension that exists in Russo’s tale – a mom who is a die-hard stubborn independent continues this performance for some time, despite functional potential to the contrary. How does a caregiver honor that constant push for autonomy while at the same time being genuine?

Paper, Stone and Scissors: How a Game Explains Relationships

What can a children's game teach us about sustaining positive relationships and being a winner in life?