Essential Reads

Miscarriages: Conception Without Birth

Observed pregnancy losses are just the tail end of massive shedding

What Adolescents Can Learn From Parental Conflict

How parents conduct marital conflict teaches the teenager by their example

The Real Reason Religion Is Declining In America

Why the U.S. will eventually resemble Europe

How to Foster More Adaptive Thinking

Are your cognitions working for you or against you?

Recent Posts on Parenting

Can the Divorce Be the Best Part of Your Marriage?

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on April 22, 2013 in Because I'm the Mom
A Great Divorce? If you two simply were not meant to be married anymore and you are both people of good will, trying to be decent to each other, putting the children first, here are 10 ways to protect and insulate your fragile peace, and nurture your emerging new relationship

Why Do the Boston Marathon Bombings Make Me Feel Guilty?

By Sam Sommers on April 22, 2013 in Science Of Small Talk
Today marks the one-week anniversary of the start of a heartwrenchingly sad series of events here in Boston. Each in our own way, those of us who live in and around the city have bounced from sadness to fear to anger and back again. And as the one-week marks hits today, I’ve also found myself confronting a more surprising emotion: guilt.

Low GPAs May Increase Social Media Use

Recent research findings suggest that high social media use was correlated with lower GPAs among female college freshmen. What's getting traction? Headlines warning that social media use may tank your kid’s grades. Sorry to disappoint if you were hoping for a quick fix, but that’s not exactly what the study results mean.

Mom's Midlife Makeover: What I Learned from My 6th Grader

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on April 22, 2013 in Because I'm the Mom
Like so many hardworking, midlife mom, taking care of myself is very low on my list. I decided to try to get my post-divorce, midlife self together. When you must force yourself to think about hair, fashion, foundation, boys(?) who you gonna call? A team of brutally honest middle school girls! Can my daughter's posse turn me from awkward to awesome?

Eating Disorders? 'Diet Mom' Is Back

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on April 22, 2013 in Because I'm the Mom
Diet Mom is back, having recently published a book, called, of course "The Heavy." She doesn't regret one bit putting her 7-year-old daughter on a strict diet, keeping her starving, begging for food, snatching food away from her and reprimanding her in public. The 'obese' kid lost 16 pounds. You can read about it here if you can stomach it...

Cancer: Best Advice from a Doctor-Turned-Patient (Part II)

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on April 22, 2013 in Because I'm the Mom
Top tips and advice from a doctor/mother/breast cancer survivor for surviving and thriving during and after a medical crisis

Saints and Terrorists

By Joseph Nowinski Ph.D. on April 22, 2013 in The New Grief
One Person's Saint Can Be Another Person's Terrorist

Love in a Time of Climate Change (and Guns)

By Rachel Clark on April 22, 2013 in Marry, Divorce, Reconcile
Let's make our children proud by giving them grace instead of garbage.

The Neuroscience of Calming a Baby

Neuroscientists have discovered the brain system that calms babies down when they are being carried. Interestingly, it is the same brain system that gives people athletic prowess and grace under pressure.

Teenage Kicks

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on April 22, 2013 in In Excess
Teenage gambling has become a topic of increasing research interest and most studies show that the youth gambling is a highly prevalent activity with problem gambling rates higher in adolescence than adulthood. But should we be concerned?

Infertility: Recognizing National Infertility Awareness Week

Infertility: In recognition of National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) This post is in recognition of National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), April 21-27. Infertility may cause psychological stress, but also provides an opportunity for growth By Anne Malavé, Ph.D.

Beyond Good and Evil

By Neel Burton M.D. on April 22, 2013 in Hide and Seek
Painting the world in black and white is to lose its color. So why do we do it?

Attachment and Detachment Parenting of Adolescents

It often feel more natural for parents to hold on to a child than it does to let an adolescent go.

10 Essential Emotion Skills to Look For in a Partner

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on April 22, 2013 in In Practice
These are ten emotion regulation skills to consider when you're deciding if someone will make a good long-term partner.

E-Mail Is Not the Problem: It’s Our Need to Task Switch

We must learn how to focus ... at least for short bursts of time.

Do It My Way: Women Telling Women How to Live

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 21, 2013 in Living Single
Lots of women are getting tons of attention for the unsolicited advice they are heaping on other women. The content of this how-to-live genre is varied, but the bottom line is not. All of these presumptuous dispensers of life lessons are saying that their way is the only good and noble way to live. That’s not progress.

Dating Over 40: Post-Divorce Midlife Dating - How Bad Is It?

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on April 21, 2013 in Because I'm the Mom
We've had it all: careers, marriage, kids, divorce. Now what? Are you ready to dive into dating over 40? How bad can it be, right?

Finding Love, Again: A Midlife Woman's Guide

By Pamela Cytrynbaum on April 21, 2013 in Because I'm the Mom
The secret to finding true love? 'Know thyself.' And make a list. All good love stories start with a list.

Five Days of Tragedy and Trauma

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on April 21, 2013 in The Time Cure
In a five day period, our nation has been rocked by devastation, terrorism and trauma. If you are reading this column, you are likely in the field of mental health, a student taking psychology courses, or someone who has been affected in some way by the shocking events of this week and are seeking some help.

Suggestions for Dealing With Disobedient Children

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on April 21, 2013 in Fighting Fear
Some accounts of ineffective—and effective—ways of dealing with disobedient children

Gratitude

By Nancy Rappaport M.D. on April 21, 2013 in We Are Only Human
Despite the horrific events of this week and the lockdown, I am still filled with gratitude.

Unhealthy Religion - Can We Do Better?

Does religious fundamentalism scare you? It should. Are you fed up with religious leaders who betray their sacred calling? I hope so. Religion can be healthy and it's worth fighting for.

Teased About Your Looks?

By Vivian Diller Ph.D. on April 21, 2013 in Face It
How do we distinguish the angst and insecurities felt by most teenagers from the pain resulting from bullying? Does all teasing between kids warrant prohibition, or is there room for some joking and fooling around? When things clearly go too far, who should intervene -- the bullied, bystanders, parents, school administrators, state or federal governments?

Boston Marathon Bombers: The Dark Side of Sibling Support

An important dimension to this tragic story which can help clarify some of the personal aspects of this event is the sibling relationship dynamics that produced this catastrophic outcome.

What Acceptance Means to Me

By Lynne Soraya on April 20, 2013 in Asperger's Diary
Since the 1970s, April has been known as Autism Awareness Month. Some groups are now saying that awareness isn't enough…that it needs to go further. That is why they are pushing for April to become known as Autism Acceptance Month.

Four Helpful Thoughts for Kids & Teens to Build Self-Esteem

Help your child or teen have better self-esteem.

Who’s More Open-minded, You or Them?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 20, 2013 in Ambigamy
At impasses, our debates typically turn into fights over who is closed- and open-minded. Can we tell? We think we can, but the most popular tests we employ are fundamentally flawed. Here then are eight popular but flawed tests of open-mindedness and one reliable alternative test.

The Cyber-bully vs. The Cyber-hero

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on April 20, 2013 in Digital Altruism
Heroes are some of the best role models our children have. What, we might ask, would the world be like without them? A world populated solely by bullies? To answer this question we need travel no further than the online world of our tweens and teens. What we find there is an epidemic of cyberbullying.

Watching Us Watching Watertown

Many of us couldn't stop watching on friday as events unfolded in the manhunt for the terror suspect in the Boston Marathon bombing. Was our need to watch voyeurism or something more positive?

Signaling Singleness

Is being single attractive? One day a year, in Korea, the answer may well be yes!