Essential Reads

5 Tips for the Parents of Teens Who Make Rudeness an Art

What can parents do to encourage respect and courtesy in their teens?

5 Tips for Taming Overly Wired and Overly Rude Teens

How do you handle teens who take rudeness to a new level?

14 Tips for Parenting in Public

For the times you have felt nudged into parenting in a certain way

When Adolescents Continually Lie

Adolescents need to learn that lying is a very inefficient way to communicate

Recent Posts on Parenting

Are Parents Putting Less Work Into Their Relationships?

Relationships take an incredible amount of work. The introduction of a child, though, changes the nature of one's relationship and results in competing demands. The study reported here examined differences in relational maintenance between parents and non-parents. Click to see what really explains differences in relational maintenance...

Can a White Person Become Black?

People all over the nation were shocked to learn about the curious case of Rachel Dolezal, former head of the NAACP chapter in Spokane who self-identifies as a Black woman, even though her biological parents are White. What is the psychology behind race switching and our reaction to it?

Wednesday's Child

Wednesdays Child is a weekly feature that brings conversations about positive psychology in the classroom to life! Join us or start your own conversation today!

8 Steps to Help Your Child Develop Self Control

The brain is like a muscle -- it strengthens throughout life, depending on how it's used. Parents who are emotionally responsive, set empathic limits, model emotional regulation, and encourage children to pursue their passions will raise self-disciplined kids.

How Do Various Cortisol Levels Impact Cognitive Functioning?

Having just the right amount of cortisol in your bloodstream appears to optimize childhood cognitive functioning. What is the secret to finding the sweet spot between too much cortisol or too little cortisol?

“Daddies Are Not Mommies”

Irrelationship starts as reversed caretaking often initiated because parental resources are stretched thin. Irrelationship is less likely if parents are being taken care of—if they are taking care of each other, are able to be empathetic, intimate with each other and to share parental responsibilities. A "Direct-Care Dad" is someone who does just that: Happy Father's Day!

Ways to Honor Lost Fathers

In spite of what many think is a crisis in fatherhood, there are still some fathers out there, alive and deceased who have had a positive impact on their children's lives. It's important to stop and reflect on the teachings and wisdoms of those men. This article offers personal and universal ideas on how to do this.

What Divorced Dads Really Want for Father’s Day

By Guest Blogger on June 16, 2015 in The Guest Room
If we want authentic relationships with our children, we have to begin by being authentic ourselves.

Fathers in Prison

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on June 16, 2015 in Buddy System
Father's Day when dad is incarcerated

OCD

In and out of psychotherapy since age 14.

Father: Not Just Another Mother

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on June 16, 2015 in Once Upon a Child
Safety and security are huge concerns for today’s parents, both at home and in the wider world. So, which approach is more likely to raise a secure child?

Building With LEGO Kit Instructions Makes Kids Less Creative

By Garth Sundem on June 16, 2015 in Brain Candy
The more we complete "well-defined" problems like LEGO kits, the worse we are at solving "ill-defined problems": create something beautiful, discover something meaningful, find someone to love.

Who Shares Better, Same-Sex or Different-Sex Couples?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on June 16, 2015 in Singletons
For most heterosexual couples, the partner with the fatter paycheck does less on the home front. Not so in same-sex couples. Those of us in traditional marriages and partnerships can learn a lot from “modern families”…and feel happier and less burdened.

Increasing Physical Movement Reduces Symptoms of ADHD

New research shows that physical movement may improve cognitive control for children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

Top 3 Ways to Cope with Your Daughter's Swimsuit Drama

Summer is here and it’s time for swimsuit shopping with your daughter. To your chagrin, perhaps this will be the year when you hear: “Mom, I’m too fat to wear this!” “My stomach looks gross in this bikini!" It’s hard to know what to say and do in these moments. There are some essential words and attitudes for you to express, while there are some definite phrases to avoid:

Does It Matter If Your Child Has Self Control?

A child who can regulate his emotions can control his behavior so he's more likely to get what he wants out of life. So the question is, regardless of your child's innate ability, how can you raise a child who can manage her emotions, anxiety and impulses so that she can manage her behavior to accomplish her goals?

Why Patients with Borderline Personality Don't Get Better

People who exhibit symptoms of borderline personality disorder, despite being intelligent and showing no signs of psychosis, persist tenaciously in their troublesome, self-destructive behaviors. They will not stop no matter what other people try to do to get them to. They will not tell you about the horrifying reactions they get from family members when they act better.

Medical "Disruptors" as Adolescents

Entrepreneurs with "disruptive" business models are driven idealists and rebels, impatient with current practice. In this way they are like adolescents. Our future is in their hands, but they need guidance.

4 Steps to "Do You" in the Midst of Mommyhood

Give yourself permission to engage in more enjoyable interactions with your kids. Let go of the Mommy Guilt and learn to "do you."

When Parents Get Angry at Their Adolescent

One primary responsibility of parents is to teach their adolescent how to manage anger well through their instruction, interaction, and example in family life.

Stories of Seclusion: A Person with Major Depression

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 15, 2015 in How To Do Life
A composite story of a person compelled to be alone because of depression.

The Problem With Youth Sports?

By John Tauer Ph.D. on June 14, 2015 in Goal Posts
What has happened to the innocent world of youth sports?

Fathers and Sons

Boyhood memories of our fathers provide lessons for our own fatherhood

Top Five Social Media Lessons

There is no way around it, we have all had made social media mistakes. Either we have responded to an email out of frustration, accidentally sent something to the wrong person, or posted something we later regretted. No one is immune to acting impulsively, but doing so online can come with major consequences.

Why Do Men’s Preferences for Wives and Daughters Differ?

When asked to select from a list of ten items the two or three traits that they most valued—including different ranking of intelligence, attractiveness, sweetness, independence, and strength—men report different priorities for wives as for daughters. What does this tell us about men’s relationships to women and their attitudes regarding gender equality?

The Motherhood Safety Net

By Juli Fraga on June 13, 2015 in The Birth of Motherhood
Expanding mental health screening for maternal mental health

Fathers and Sons

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on June 12, 2015 in The Time Cure
Ciao! Phil Zimbardo here. I’d like to share some alarming new information we’ve gathered about men and boys, fathers and sons...

A Different View

By Alfie Kohn on June 11, 2015 in The Homework Myth
The opposite of self-centeredness goes way beyond the Golden Rule. It's the capacity to imagine someone else's point of view. Fortunately, there are practical strategies for helping children to acquire that skill.

Mira Hu

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 11, 2015 in Minority Report
The recent story of an Asian teenager running away after her parents dropped her off to take her SAT test should cause Asian parents to pause and ask themselves if they are contributing to unreal academic expectations for their children. Beyond the high-pressure stakes of college entrance exams, AP classes, lies the stifling cultural theme of Asian honor and shame.

Grow a Child's Empathy in 3 Easy Ways

When young people experience and act upon feelings of empathy, they are more likely to achieve greater success and emotional well-being. These 3 phases of development help young people feel good about themselves and act in ways that benefit others. In the process, it just might help them change the world!