Essential Reads

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

The things you can do before you marry that can change your odds of divorce

Empathy for a Child Abuser?

Empathy for the Undeserving Can Be a Useful Strategy for Changing Families

Adolescent Self-Management for a Successful Independence

Graduate your high school senior with basic skills for self-reliance

Midlife: Adult's Prime

Why middle age truly is the prime of life

Recent Posts on Parenting

8 Tips to Ease Parental Anxiety

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Singletons
Parents have cornered the market on anxiety when it comes to their children. Worry paralyzes both parent and child, making children fearful and stifling their curiosity and development. Here’s what parents can do to modulate and minimize their fears.

Waldorf Schools: Are They Way Behind the Times?

By Maureen D Healy on February 24, 2015 in Creative Development
Are computers a must-have for today's tech savvy kids?

What Do Scientists Know About Finding a Purpose in Life?

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Curious?
Providing information on the science of a purpose in life. heavy, beautiful, and of paramount importance

What Makes it Easier to Be Kind to Strangers Than Loved Ones

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on February 24, 2015 in Off the Couch
Ann and Bob have been married for five years and, after trying to get pregnant for two years, have just had their first baby. Their friends and family are all thrilled for them. And while they are both excited to be parents at last, they are also exhausted, anxious and miserable.

How Changes in Media Use Can Transform Mental Health

By Rebecca Jackson on February 24, 2015 in School of Thought
Morning grouchiness is not an uncommon complaint from parents—especially parents of teenagers. But what happens when your child's mood doesn't improve throughout the day—when your child seems to be terminally bad-tempered? This case study examines the effect of media multitasking on a teenage boy's mental health.

Ebb and Flow

By Stephen Gray Wallace on February 24, 2015 in Decisions Teens Make
Overuse of technology by young people may result in distraction, stress and impaired performance. Help them find flow!

How to Tell if Your Child Is Depressed

If you’re waiting for your child to admit to being depressed, you’re going to be waiting a long time. Maybe too long. As parents, we need to be proactive and know the signs of childhood depression.

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

By Carrie Barron M.D. on February 24, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
This blog explores Malignant Narcissism and the damaging impact that it can have on family members and others.

Personality Disorders Explained 2: Origins

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on February 24, 2015 in Feeling Our Way
Every cognitive map of the social world also defines a role for the person to play; a personality disorder implies a limited number of acceptable roles.

Kids Who Do Chores Flourish

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 24, 2015 in Open Gently
Teaching your kids to be helpful at home could make them happier adults.

Public School? Private School? Home School?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in How To Do Life
It's better to have good teachers and good kids in bad buildings than bad teachers and bad kids in good buildings.

Detecting Darkness: How to Spot Leaders Who Will Derail

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in A Sideways View
We know that leadership derail is both common and costly. We also know that there are many very good psychometric tests, which can help identify those who will derail. But so many selectors are afraid to use them. Why?

3 Speaking Tips From Oscar Winners

By Judy Carter on February 23, 2015 in Stress Is a Laughing Matter
Were the Oscars taken over by motivational speakers this year? Is John Legend the next Tony Robbins? Rather than giving mindless thank yous, this year’s winners shared MESSAGES. You can change the world in less than one minute, and speakers can definitely learn from this. Here are 3 tips for speakers from Oscar 2015.

The Most Important Word You'll Ever Use

By Tim David on February 23, 2015 in The Magic of Human Connection
What if I told you you were completely ignoring THE most important word in the English language? What if ignoring this has been causing you undue pain and stress and creating tense situations with other people that could have easily been avoided? If you're like most people, you've been missing out on a key to success in life and you don't even know it.

How to Talk to Yourself

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 23, 2015 in Turning Straw Into Gold
When the going gets rough, I often speak to myself silently or softly in a soothing and compassionate voice. If I feel let down by a friend, I might repeat silently, “I feel hurt by her behavior but I mustn’t blame myself.” When I don’t deny that I feel bad, and even acknowledge it in a self-compassionate way, I’m better able to cope with disappointment and sorrow.

Addicted to Busy: 4 Strategies to Ease the Guilt & Burnout

Keeping busy at all costs is the cultural status quo, but the drive to do more is impacting our families, our work, and our health. The result of being Addicted to Busy is not only a lack of time, but also exhaustion, anxiety, guilt, fear, social comparison, inauthenticity and physical illness.

Grow a Key Inner Strength

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Use these four questions help grow inner strengths. 1) What's the issue? 2) What psychological resource - inner strength - if it were more present in your mind, would really help with this issue? 3) How could you have experiences of this inner strength? 4) How could you help this experience of the inner strength really sink in to you?

Moody Teen? Three Strategies That Help

By Nancy Darling Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Thinking About Kids
It's not hormones that make teens volatile and moody, it's their crazy schedule and their physical needs. Teens grow as fast as toddlers and - like toddlers - will throw tantrums when they don't get what they want and need. You can't change their school days, but you can help them get what they need to stay happy and be easier to live with.

A Response to Sam Harris's Writings on Moral Truth Pt 1 of 3

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Cui Bono
In August of 2013, Sam Harris issued a challenge to refute, in 1,000 words or less, the central thesis of his book, The Moral Landscape. This thesis is that "questions of morality and values must have right and wrong answers that fall within the purview of science." In a three-part blog post, I explain why I agree with everything in his book except the central thesis.

Getting Your Defiant Teen to Cooperate With You

By Ugo Uche on February 23, 2015 in Promoting Empathy With Your Teen
The number one issue I witness between defiant teens and their parents, are power struggles. The are two reasons for this;

Love And Fear

By J. R. Bruns M.D. on February 23, 2015 in Repairing Relationships
Are you paralyzed by the thought of happiness?

Helping Adolescents Keep Agreements

With more actively and passively resistant adolescents parents must work harder to get agreements made. Getting this habit of keeping agreements in place matters for healthy relationships with parents now, and for significant relationships later on.

Live as if You’ll Die Tomorrow—Write a Will Today

By Cortney S. Warren Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Naked Truth
Writing a will is not something most of us think about. Or talk about. Or want to think or talk about. Because writing one reminds us that we are all going to die. Yet, until we find the scientific fountain of youth, death is inevitable. If you want any control over what happens to your belongings and dependents (such as your children and pets), write a will today.

What Exactly Is 'The Best Interest of the Child?', Part 2

When parents are asked about the essential needs of their children during and after parental separation, children’s emotional, psychological, social, moral and spiritual needs are seen to be of paramount importance. But what exactly are these “metaphysical” needs?

Discovering Peace of Mind

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in Beyond Good and Evil
I became the person I always wanted to be

The case FOR social media, TV, phoning, and video games

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in How To Do Life
Why parents shouldn't worry so much about their kids' electronic recreation.

8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People

All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time. How we manage our negative attitudes can make the difference between confidence versus fear, hope versus despair, mastery versus victimhood, and victory versus defeat. Here are eight negative attitudes of chronically unhappy people...

The Mind of the Authoritarian

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in A Sideways View
It was around 70 years ago that the famous book entitled THE AUTHORITARIAN PERSONALITY was published. What was the central theory and how is it considered today

What Exactly Is “The Best Interest of the Child”?

A truly child-focused approach positions children’s needs at the forefront of “best interests” considerations, along with corresponding parental and social institutional responsibilities to these needs.

Can You Trust Married People to Keep a Secret?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 21, 2015 in Living Single
If you have friends who are married, should you assume that those friends share all of your communications and conversations – both the routine ones and those told in confidence – with their spouse? What does it mean if couples see themselves only as a unit and not also as individuals?