Essential Reads

14 Tips for Parenting in Public

For the times you have felt nudged into parenting in a certain way

When Adolescents Continually Lie

Adolescents need to learn that lying is a very inefficient way to communicate

It Is Time to Legalize and Accept Same-Sex Marriage

Research supports the growing majority of public opinion on same-sex marriage.

Creating a Home Alone, After Divorce

Four tips for feeling rooted in your space

Recent Posts on Parenting

Overinvolved Parent of the Week: P Diddy

By John Tauer Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 in Goal Posts
Sean "Diddy" Combs allegedly attacks UCLA football coach after son's practice

Delight, Cruelty and Young People

By Nick Luxmoore on June 23, 2015 in Young People Up Close
How can anyone delight in young people capable of doing terrible things?

The Secret to a Fulfilling Life Is Not What You Might Think

The secret to a fulfilling life is not what you might think.

The Psychological Effects of Shaming Children

Public shaming videos seem to be on an uptick, and the recent story of a teen girl’s apparent suicide after a public shaming incident is an extreme example. Whether or not this particular case was a one of a parent shaming his child, there are lessons for all parents on the psychological risks of using shame to change your child or teen's behavior.

Is the Rachel Dolezal Controversy Much Ado About Nothing?

In lieu of the Dolezal controversy, can we have an informative dialogue about racial identity in America?

Play, Common Core, and Early Reading Untangled

In a raging debate, leading researchers in reading education are speaking out in favor of keeping Common Core Kindergarten Literacy Standards. Their message? It’s perfectly fine for five year olds to play AND learn to read in school!

Love for a Killer: "A Very Evil Kid”

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
When Adam Lanza massacred school children, people asked about his genes. But that was the wrong question. Genes are inert without experience. Families of victims of Dylann Roof’s gun rampage forgave him. It’s a show of love that he probably needed much earlier in his life.

Protecting Our Kids From Future Sex-Associated Cancers

By Peter Edelstein M.D. on June 22, 2015 in Patient Power
As parents, we may hate to think about our little princesses and tiny spidermen ever becoming sexually active. But if we are to protect our children today from several dangerous cancers tomorrow, we have to understand the relationship between sex and cancer.

Finding a Life Partner, Part One

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Can evolutionary psychology help explain why it seems so hard to have a successful intimate relationship? A new article published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences investigates the enigma of human mating choices and the evolutionary forces shaping us today.

The Simple Exercise That Will Lead You Toward Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on June 21, 2015 in Finding Love
The path to love is never simple. When we decide to pursue our longing for love, we’re led down a path with challenges we might never have dreamed of. For me, the decision to become a father—as a forty-something, single gay man---is what changed everything. In this post, I’d like to offer a potent exercise for following your own call to love—and share my personal story.

Practical Tips for Men Distressed by Their Circumcision

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on June 21, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
“I am deeply troubled by having been circumcised as an infant. It causes me distress on a daily basis and interferes with my ability to enjoy life. Can you suggest a professional who can help me?”

“Two-ness:” the Mind’s Binary Code

The earliest roots of what is recognized as “envy” in later life emerge from the normal sense of “two-ness.” In Envy Theory, this "two-ness" is the mind's innate binary code: envy’s mode of operating. Modulating “two-ness” early in life decreases emotional dysregulation. From the healthy maturation of envy, admiration, emulation, gratitude, and empathy are born.

Study Confirms: IVF DOES Drive People Crazy

By Marty Klein PhD on June 20, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
Who defines "infertility"? And who's protecting the sex lives of infertility patients?

Seven Ways to Reduce The Urge To Yell At Your Child

Many parents tearfully come to my office regretting the damage their yelling does to their relationships with their children, Here is how to change from being a "yeller" to calmer parent.

Powerful Way to Raise Kids Focuses on the Strong

By Jason Powers M.D. on June 20, 2015 in Beyond Abstinence
Strength-based parenting is a powerful way to raise children. It involves identifying and fostering their positive personality traits, which provides them with the inner resources to deal with the stress of everyday life. The field of positive psychology calls these “signature strengths.”

What "My Child Won't Cooperate!" Really Means

We often hear parents say, "My child won't do what I ask! He just won't cooperate!" Maybe it's because we are lying to ourselves about what we really want.

How to Be Grateful for Not-So-Great Dads

With Father's Day approaching and blogs abuzz about what makes the quintessential dad, or top ‘pop’ gifts, what about those who have not-so-great dads? Is it possible for them to appreciate a holiday dedicated to fathers? Let’s get real and accept that mediocre or “bad” dads exist and consider this for a second: can one be thankful for a terrible father?

Talking With Mom or Dad About Driving

Most of us will have to talk with our parents about their driving at some point. Let's discuss how not to fall into some common traps.

Parenting Without Punishment: A Humanist Perspective, Part 1

However exasperating a child’s behavior may be, it’s still—in most instances—age-appropriate. So when kids misbehave (according, that is, to grown-up standards), they’re prompted to do so primarily because of powerful forces in them they lack the cognitive development to control.

Sibling Incest in the News

Having worked in the child sexual abuse field for 30 some years, I am continually struck with a sense of sadness when yet another family comes forward with admissions of sibling sexual abuse. Rather than judgment it is important to be aware of treatment and healing options. Jumping to quick labeling without understanding the help needed is dangerous.

Which of Us Has Looked Into His Father's Heart?

By Pythia Peay on June 19, 2015 in America On The Couch
A man of his time, Joe Carroll had been shaped by previous eras as much as his era had shaped my own. Like one of those Chinese nesting boxes, his psyche had been formed by the psyches of each of his own parents, who had in turn been shaped by events of their time—and so on back through generations.

Movie on Bipolar Disorder Speaks To Any Challenged Family

By Tina Traster on June 19, 2015 in Against All Odds
New movie on bi-polar disorder shows nuances of family life

How to Plan Your Child's Summer "Work Week"

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on June 19, 2015 in Worry Wise
The radical (to your child) idea is that you can do some work in the summer—whether that be pitching in around the house, or reviewing math facts— and still have a great summer. Don’t want to be the bearer of bad news? You’re not. You didn’t invent this. It’s called life. And it’s actually good for them—and you.

Stories of Seclusion: Running Away from the Pressure

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 19, 2015 in How To Do Life
An installment in a series on people who spend much time alone.

What Will Your Children Remember About You?

Raising a child can be daunting. In the midst of the hectic effort to meet all our children’s needs, we might wonder what will make the most important difference in their lives. What will they remember best about their childhood experiences with us?

Parents Beware

An obsession with ensuring our kids are happy could, paradoxically, create very lonely and depressed adults.

Igniting a Renaissance

How can parents best bring out their child’s gifts? How can we help the gifted child who is more introverted? How can we spur a renaissance in gifted education? How can we persuade the public to care about helping our most talented kids reach their full potential?

Fatherhood has Changed, Father's Day Needs an Upgrade

Shoppers complain that they’re stumped with it comes to finding special gifts for their fathers. Given the elevated emotional stature and broader roles of fathers, here are four ideas to delight your dad on Father’s Day.

Peace in a World of Chaos

How do we find peace and live it when so many innocents are the victims? How do we keep anger from setting into our lives because of the unjust actions of others? Now more than ever we need to find peace in our nation—in our world. We need to help our troubled youth find peace amidst chaos.

Are Parents Putting Less Work Into Their Relationships?

Relationships take an incredible amount of work. The introduction of a child, though, changes the nature of one's relationship and results in competing demands. The study reported here examined differences in relational maintenance between parents and non-parents. Click to see what really explains differences in relational maintenance...