Essential Reads

Failure to Launch: The "Wheel of Motivation"

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on January 21, 2018 in Healing and Growing
The wheel can turn either way, towards mainstream life or away from it. Each has consequences.

Three Words That Helped My 13-Year-Old Study Better

Are you a parent who is trying to figure out how to help your child study? Cognitive psychology research might help.

MLK and Michael Phelps: What's the Recipe for Success?

By Paula L. White M.A. on January 16, 2018 in Shape Parenting
No matter the field—academics, athletics, the arts or activism—some children in varied pursuits grow up to be adults who excel. Here's how parents help to make that happen.
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Meet Your Family's Future at a Family Meeting

By Brad E Sachs Ph.D. on January 16, 2018 in Emptying The Nest
Even when children approach adulthood, reflecting on your family's past and present lays the the groundwork for a richer and more satisfying family future—for both generations

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Why Young People Need Their Aggression

By Nick Luxmoore on January 07, 2018 in Young People Up Close
Instead of always giving in or always trying to crush it, we have to understand aggression as essentially defensive, as a kind of anxiety, a kind of panic.

Don’t Create What You Defend Against: Don’t Build the Wall

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on January 06, 2018 in The Freedom to Change
When we defend ourselves too strongly and without thinking about long-term outcomes, we tend to make situations worse and create the very outcomes we feared.

Combating Sexual Abuse in Youth Sports

Children of all races, ethnicities, cultures, and economic backgrounds are vulnerable to sexual abuse.

Underlying Patterns: Hard to See and Painfully Obvious

Change and letting go by choice can trigger one’s own feelings of loss and abandonment.

Why Early Experience Matters: Famous Scholars Know

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on January 05, 2018 in Moral Landscapes
We know what humans need in early life to develop well, and the effects of early experience are no longer a mystery.

8 Reasons You May Not Stand Up to Your Partner

How are you dealing with your bullying partner?

The Risk and Rewards of Becoming Internet Famous

By Sue Scheff on January 05, 2018 in Shame Nation
Do you want to become Internet famous? A new survey finds a majority of people thinking twice about becoming the next cyber-sensation.

How to Talk to Your Children About Food in a Healthy Manner

The goal is a positive, open-minded approach, while giving kids options to choose their own food and to learn the nutritious value of what they eat.
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7 Key Messages to Send to Your Young Athletes

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on January 04, 2018 in The Power of Prime
Your goal is to send these seven essential messages to your children early and often so that the messages become the healthy foundation for their athletic lives.

You Don’t Really Want to Get Better

Of course psychotherapy clients want relief from their symptoms. Yet, they are reluctant to change the defenses that would allow them to overcome their psychological maladies.

Ronan Farrow: Man on a Mission

By Joan Ullman M.A. on January 03, 2018 in Uncharted Customs
Often the first word many people learn to speak is `Daddy,' . But this young prodigy grew up with a daddy who was a baddie `- dubbed by all at home a `no goodie' sex harasser. `

Giving Girls the Attention They Deserve

By Dena Kouremetis on January 03, 2018 in The Unedited Offspring
"Differences in the extra attention given to boys are due in part to the fact that boys simply tend to demand more attention, while girls tend to be quieter and more reticent."

Why Are Fathers so Angry at Sons?

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on January 03, 2018 in Healing and Growing
Being a dad involves a lot of self-discipline. When sons show none, a father's unhelpful anger is only too natural.

"Is That Your Child?" Stories of White Moms of Biracial Kids

By Tiffany McLain LMFT on January 03, 2018 in Living Between Worlds
When Leah walked into a hardware store with her infant, she didn't expect that her maternity would be questioned, but for white mothers of biracial kids, society pulls no punches.

The Right Kind of Praise May Boost Academic Performance

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on January 03, 2018 in Singletons
Do you use person praise or process praise with your children? The distinction is important.

Home for the Holidays

By Kailey Hockridge, MA, EdM on January 02, 2018 in Finding Forward
Have a college student home for the holidays? It may be worth exploring what this break means for them.

(The Modern) Mother's Little Helper

Stressed out? There is help for anxiety.

Finding Success in Your Second Semester

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on January 02, 2018 in Social Lights
10 tips for college students and their parents.

A Case Study on Punishment

When you were punished as a child, did it work? Or did you just strategize how to get away with your behavior the next time?

Calming Upset People Fast with EAR

Statements that show Empathy, Attention and/or Respect can go a long way to connecting with anyone anywhere. It just takes practice to do it well.

8 Things Kids Can Say and Do to Stop Bullying

Are the skills of kindness and empathy any match for aggression and bullying?

Your Cat Is Bored!

If your cat had thumbs, would he be twiddling them with boredom? A few ideas can go a long way.

Why Your Child is Not One of Your 2017 Accomplishments

By Paula L. White M.A. on December 31, 2017 in Shape Parenting
Trying to tally up your accomplishments for 2017? Great! Just leave your kids out of it!

When and How to Say No to Kids

Here are seven situations when you may need to say no to your kids and some suggestions for how to do it.

Teen Slang

For decades teens have been notorious for having a unique vocabulary. Oftentimes, they cleverly create words, and other times they recycle words and give them a whole new meaning.

Mothers and Daughters and "Lady Bird"

By Susan Hooper on December 30, 2017 in Detours and Tangents
I graduated from high school decades ago. Why then does so much about the heroine of the film "Lady Bird"—a high school senior at war with her mother—seem so familiar to me?

What Can We Learn From A Year of Cyberbullying?

By Sue Scheff on December 30, 2017 in Shame Nation
After a year of cyberbullying and online shaming, how can we make 2018 a kinder and more compassionate cyber-place?

"At Least I'm Not as Bad as My Mother (or Father)"

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on December 30, 2017 in Feeling Our Way
The ends may not justify the means, but neither do the means justify the ends.

Don't Ask, They'll Tell

It's not a good idea to ask your child about their sexual orientation. Let them take the lead.

5 Great Ways to Respond to Kids' Whining

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on December 29, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
While it's easy to react to whining, deemed "the most annoying sound in the world," with frustration or anger, research provides insight into some of the most effective responses.