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5 Tips for the Parents of Teens Who Make Rudeness an Art

The topic of teens' social behaviors never seem to lose their popularity, but many recent reports suggest that teen rudeness is increasing. What can parents do to bring their adolescents' behavior back in line?

5 Tips for Taming Overly Wired and Overly Rude Teens

Rude teenagers may be simply practicing the skills their parents have allowed to take root. If a child grows up interacting in a private, virtual world more often than interacting one-on-one with family, a whole slew of social skills and social learning will be missed.

14 Tips for Parenting in Public

Kids don't always behave as we'd like when we're out and about. And when children are at family gatherings, they're often off their schedules and especially excited, so their behavior can be particularly challenging. Here's how to help your child become the kind of person who understands what behavior is appropriate, and who wants to behave that way!

Moms: What Will Your Body Image Legacy Be?

Here is the reality: It can be damaging to our daughters if we are critical of our own appearance. I know this is a sobering thought for all moms. One of the best predictors of whether a girl will have negative body image is if her mother has negative body image...

When Adolescents Continually Lie

Continually lying to parents needs to prove counter-productive for the adolescent.

It Is Time to Legalize and Accept Same-Sex Marriage

Researchers, the majority of the American public, and even advertisers are calling for acceptance of same-sex marriage—isn’t it time the Supreme Court and our legal system followed suit?

Creating a Home Alone, After Divorce

By Wendy Paris on June 23, 2015 in Splitopia
While it can seem sad and overwhelming to create a home alone after co-habitating with a spouse or partner, it’s also a chance to choose new décor, a new abode or even a new city that better supports and reflects you.

The Secret to a Fulfilling Life Is Not What You Might Think

The secret to a fulfilling life is not what you might think.

Play, Common Core, and Early Reading Untangled

In a raging debate, leading researchers in reading education are speaking out in favor of keeping Common Core Kindergarten Literacy Standards. Their message? It’s perfectly fine for five year olds to play AND learn to read in school!

Love for a Killer: "A Very Evil Kid”

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
When Adam Lanza massacred school children, people asked about his genes. But that was the wrong question. Genes are inert without experience. Families of victims of Dylann Roof’s gun rampage forgave him. It’s a show of love that he probably needed much earlier in his life.

The Simple Exercise That Will Lead You Toward Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on June 21, 2015 in Finding Love
The path to love is never simple. When we decide to pursue our longing for love, we’re led down a path with challenges we might never have dreamed of. For me, the decision to become a father—as a forty-something, single gay man---is what changed everything. In this post, I’d like to offer a potent exercise for following your own call to love—and share my personal story.

“Two-ness:” the Mind’s Binary Code

The earliest roots of what is recognized as “envy” in later life emerge from the normal sense of “two-ness.” In Envy Theory, this "two-ness" is the mind's innate binary code: envy’s mode of operating. Modulating “two-ness” early in life decreases emotional dysregulation. From the healthy maturation of envy, admiration, emulation, gratitude, and empathy are born.

How to Be Grateful for Not-So-Great Dads

With Father's Day approaching and blogs abuzz about what makes the quintessential dad, or top ‘pop’ gifts, what about those who have not-so-great dads? Is it possible for them to appreciate a holiday dedicated to fathers? Let’s get real and accept that mediocre or “bad” dads exist and consider this for a second: can one be thankful for a terrible father?

Sibling Incest in the News

Having worked in the child sexual abuse field for 30 some years, I am continually struck with a sense of sadness when yet another family comes forward with admissions of sibling sexual abuse. Rather than judgment it is important to be aware of treatment and healing options. Jumping to quick labeling without understanding the help needed is dangerous.

What Will Your Children Remember About You?

Raising a child can be daunting. In the midst of the hectic effort to meet all our children’s needs, we might wonder what will make the most important difference in their lives. What will they remember best about their childhood experiences with us?

What Divorced Dads Really Want for Father’s Day

By Guest Blogger on June 16, 2015 in The Guest Room
If we want authentic relationships with our children, we have to begin by being authentic ourselves.

Building With LEGO Kit Instructions Makes Kids Less Creative

By Garth Sundem on June 16, 2015 in Brain Candy
The more we complete "well-defined" problems like LEGO kits, the worse we are at solving "ill-defined problems": create something beautiful, discover something meaningful, find someone to love.

Why Patients with Borderline Personality Don't Get Better

People who exhibit symptoms of borderline personality disorder, despite being intelligent and showing no signs of psychosis, persist tenaciously in their troublesome, self-destructive behaviors. They will not stop no matter what other people try to do to get them to. They will not tell you about the horrifying reactions they get from family members when they act better.

When Parents Get Angry at Their Adolescent

One primary responsibility of parents is to teach their adolescent how to manage anger well through their instruction, interaction, and example in family life.

The Problem With Youth Sports?

By John Tauer Ph.D. on June 14, 2015 in Goal Posts
What has happened to the innocent world of youth sports?

Why Do Men’s Preferences for Wives and Daughters Differ?

When asked to select from a list of ten items the two or three traits that they most valued—including different ranking of intelligence, attractiveness, sweetness, independence, and strength—men report different priorities for wives as for daughters. What does this tell us about men’s relationships to women and their attitudes regarding gender equality?

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Do Warning Signs Apply to Parents of Kids With Autism?

Many parents of children with autism find themselves becoming accustomed to routine discomfort, and, as a result, may not acknowledge typical warning signs as an indication to seek outside support.

Unloved Daughters and Their Siblings: Five Common Patterns

By Peg Streep on June 10, 2015 in Tech Support
The lack of maternal love shapes a daughter in myriad ways but it alters the dynamic of the family as well. Taking a close look at what happens between and among brothers and sisters when a mother is unloving...

Must Judges Follow Children’s Wishes Over Their Custody?

Giving children a voice in family law conflicts.

Teach Kids the Wisdom of Failure Long Before Graduation

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on June 09, 2015 in Worry Wise
Our job is to not wait for graduation to talk about failure and success. It’s a little late then. Rather, we need to be rolling out the red carpet for our kids throughout their education. Making saying “I don’t know” or making mistakes safe. Making “I don’t know for sure” a noble and defendable position.

How 4th Grade Predicts Your Future

By Mitch Prinstein Ph.D. on June 07, 2015 in The Modern Teen
Recent research reveals remarkably strong links between the way you got along with your peers in elementary school and a wide range of outcomes in adulthood. Can your health, your happiness, your salary, your insecurities, and your relationships all be traced back to what happened to you on the playground in grade school?

Teachers Should Reward Questions, Not Just Answers

By Hal Gregersen on June 05, 2015 in The Curiosity Deficit
How encouraging children to ask questions can increase their capability to innovate.

What Trolls Don't Know About Children's Mental Illness

By Liza Long on June 04, 2015 in The Accidental Advocate
The Internet has made experts of all of us. But when your child is suffering from a mental illness, the "obvious" causes aren't always so obvious. Let’s all stop to think, just for a minute, before making a potentially hateful and hurtful comment about an issue that might be more complex than it appears at first glance.

Cancer Is My Teacher Part 2

By Lucy O'Donnell on June 03, 2015 in Cancer Is a Teacher
Have you just had a cancer diagnosis? How do you tell your children, spouse or partner. Better still, how do you tell friends, schools and co-workers? At the same time as dealing with this roller-coaster of emotions you have to remember about others close to you. They will be suffering too.