Parenting Essential Reads

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on November 25, 2015 Buddy System
Are sibling relationships getting you down this time of year?

Causes of Students’ Emotional Fragility: Five Perspectives

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on November 25, 2015 Freedom to Learn
The high and apparently increasing rates of emotional disorders and problems of everyday living among college students have generated great concern on campuses throughout the nation. Here I present a sample of views expressed by K–12 teachers, professors, employers, parents, and students about the sources of students’ emotional and coping difficulties.

5 Tips to Help Children Cope with Threats of Terrorism

Our country has constantly been on alert of terror threats and many families have to find the best way to talk with their children about potential crisis.

Why Are Kids Sexting?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Sax on Sex
Why do girls and boys send sexy photos? The answers for girls are different from the answers for boys.

Family Background, Creativity, and Genius

Is the intense motivation of creative persons and geniuses, as manifested by months- or years-long devotions to a project in science, art, or other fields, due to inheritance or other family background factors? I describe a controlled empirical study of 435 Nobel laureates in science and 215 literary prizewinners.

Three Words We Must Tell Our Kids Other Than, "I Love You!"

Scoring a goal in sports, getting great grades or having a wonderful dance recital alone will not give your child a lasting sense of value!

Our Families: What's Missing?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 15, 2015 Living Single
In this guest post, sociologist Joshua Gamson takes a look at the beautifully produced Tylenol ads celebrating family diversity, and explores what's missing or hidden.

Does Fairness Depend on Kindness or Justice?

By Garth Sundem on November 11, 2015 Brain Trust
Imagine you have to split a plate of cookies. Does the person who baked the cookies get the most or do you split them evenly?

Pauline Black and the Art of Confrontation

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on November 10, 2015 Brick by Brick
Pauline Black, considered by many as the "Queen of Ska," shares her story of discrimination and advises young people to challenge and confront the world that they see.

The Label “Narcissism” is Used Too Loosely Today

Is there someone you know who is extremely boastful, self-absorbed, and is found frequently taking selfies or engaging in self-admiration? If so, do you really care? This seems to be the common understanding of narcissism that many people discuss. But, it’s not defining the real problem with narcissism.

The Dark Side of Parenting: The Cause of Bitter Parents

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on November 06, 2015 Insight Is 20/20
Parenting for some is a pleasant and heartwarming experience overall. For other parents, however, parenting has caused them to feel overwhelmed and bitter. What causes bitterness in parents? A few simple factors make a major difference.

Family-based Programs for Substance Abusing Teen Girls

For those who are concerned about substance abuse in young girls

Reveling in the Grandmother Hypothesis

By Robin Marantz Henig on October 29, 2015 Cusp
If the trend is real that grandparents are moving cross-country to help their Millennial children raise the grandkids, there might be a biological explanation for it. Anthropologists call it the Grandmother Effect.

Divorcing Differently: End a Marriage, Save the Relationship

Often, divorce probably will be ugly as it seems to inevitably signify the end of fighting for each other and the beginning of fighting against each other. But what if sometimes it didn’t? What if sometimes we are able to keep fighting for each other in the midst of the change? What if we chose to divorce differently? A "differently divorced" woman shares her experiences.

Helicopter Parenting & College Students’ Increased Neediness

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on October 23, 2015 Freedom to Learn
College counseling services report increases in emotional fragility and decreases in self-efficacy in college students over recent years. What is the evidence that these changes may be the result of a rise in over-protective, over-controlling, intrusive (helicopter) parenting?

How to Talk to Children About Divorce

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on October 22, 2015 All Grown Up
Dreading talking to your children about divorce? Here are some general guidelines and scripts on how to approach this sensitive topic, listen, and give children the reassurance that they need.

Using the Science of Gratitude to Raise Grateful Children

By Sara Konrath Ph.D. on October 22, 2015 The Empathy Gap
Gratitude is not just for Thanksgiving.

The Case for Transgender-Affirming School Policies

How can we make schools more inclusive of transgender students? Why policies matter.

The Death of Munchausen by Proxy

It's time for the term Munchausen by proxy to die a timely death in terms of its use in medical child abuse allegations and for investigators to focus on the impact on the child rather than the intent of the parent.

A Workover: She Has a Smart but Unfocused Adult Son

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 20, 2015 How To Do Life
What, if anything, should a parent do when her young adult child is a dabbler?

Violent Media Creates Couch Potatoes, Not Violent Youth

How many times have readers read stories about how violent video games and movies are causing more youth violence? Youth violence has in fact fallen as media has become more violent. Many studies only measure short-term aggressive thoughts after watching these things, not actions. In fact, most kids who watch a lot of violent media are couch potatoes, not gang bangers.

When Your College Freshman Gets Homesick

That first step in the last stage of adolescence, Trial Independence (18-13), moving out from home for job or college, can be harder to take than the young person anticipated. The separation feels hard because the familiarity and comforts of home are sincerely missed.

Have A Difficult Partner or Parent? Learn this One Technique

Stop confronting that difficult person, and stay on course with this important rule.

Where Did Colleges Go Wrong?

By Hara Estroff Marano on October 14, 2015 Nation of Wimps
'Puppy days' and trigger warnings exemplify how colleges are increasingly in the business of infantilizing students rather than developing them.

Bang, Bang, You're Alive

By Bernard L. De Koven on October 14, 2015 On Having Fun
Playing dead they learn how long death really is. Shooting toy guns, they begin to understand the ultimate fiction of power.

Authentic Kindness in Work and in Life

By John Sean Doyle on October 13, 2015 Luminous Things
As I watched my child struggle, I was pulling my hair out searching for a way to take this research into happiness and meaning and goodness and find ways to use it in the tough spots in life.

Is the American Academy of Pediatrics Copping Out on Screens

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on October 13, 2015 The Power of Prime
Increasing the limits allowed for kids’ screen time or not offering time limits at all, either of which seem to be directions that the AAP is considering, flies in face of the fact that kids these days are already way out of balance in their use of technology.

Coming Out and Taking In

As righteous, thrilling, and important as coming out is--and it is!--it is equally important to take in. Taking in is when we recognize the potential others see in us and let ourselves make meaning out of it.

Suicide as a Form of Homicide

There are as many reasons for killing oneself as there are for killing other people.

"Is Adolescence Really Necessary?"

In their disenchantment with some early adolescent changes in their child, parents wonder if this transformation really need be? The answer is: Yes, so the process of redefinition for growing up can get underway.