Essential Reads

Is Pregnancy Contagious? How About Marriage or Divorce?

Our friends influence us in surprising ways.

Is Friendship in Decline?

Does social media spell the end of intimate friendship?

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

The things you can do before you marry that can change your odds of divorce

Empathy for a Child Abuser?

Empathy for the Undeserving Can Be a Useful Strategy for Changing Families

Recent Posts on Parenting

The Right Time For Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Bedtime sex is only one possibility. There are others, in case you forgot.

Is Pregnancy Contagious? How About Marriage or Divorce?

We think our relationship decisions are decisions we make: but are we being influenced by our friends?

42 Signs that You are a Narcissist

Discover your degree of self-centeredness with these 42 signs indicating narcissism.

Family Storytelling: Good for Children (and Parents)

Increasing bonding and resilience as well as lowering behavioural and emotional difficulties are among the many benefits.

Adulthood's Dirty Secret

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 05, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Social class' impact on education and family life.

The Big Mistakes of Religion and Secularism

People have a choice about religion and spirituality: to conform more or less rigidly to accepted teaching, or to think and act independently. Both bring problems, but the issues resolve spontaneously as we grow more mature and find a true set of values to follow

Who Says Wanting Control is a Bad Thing?

Yet, when it comes to our bodies, wanting to feel in charge is completely normal. But as we age it becomes less likely that we can control our bodies.

4 Shocking Lies About Weight: Part 2

Does obesity take years off your life?

Why Group Projects Fail

By Rebecca Jackson on March 04, 2015 in School of Thought
Although the benefits can be substantial for students, careful planning and instruction on the part of the teacher is essential for group projects. It’s empowering for students to be given choices and freedom when it comes to learning; but it’s hard for kids to accept responsibility when things don’t work out.

An International Adoptee's Need to Connect to Her Roots

An adult adoptee from India seeks funding for a documentary film about a search for her cultural roots.

Are You Strong Enough to Unplug for 24 Hours?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in Singletons
Everyone from your boss to your child’s teachers expects you to be connected and be reachable 24/7. What a relief it can be to unplug for one day and not be at the mercy of your “screens.” What happens when you unplug for a whole day?

Why Cleanliness Is Not Always Next To Godliness

By Dennis Rosen M.D. on March 04, 2015 in Sleeping Angels
A study published this week in Pediatrics found that children in households in which dishes are washed by hand—rather than by dishwasher—are much less likely to suffer from allergies

You Just Found Your Kid’s Drug Stash - Now What?

Don’t delay in talking to your child. Take a little time to get educated about commonly abused drugs and adolescent substance use trends so you can better assess your child’s risks.

Why is Mary Such a Bitch to Edith?

Beautiful, stylish, powerful Mary should really be secure enough in her own identity that she doesn’t need to diminish poor struggling Edith in order to confirm her superiority, yet she does. This sub-plot mirrors the truth about what goes on in many families, where often an older sister is ruthless in her need to keep her rival’s head below water so she can shine.

The Logical Genealogy of Mr. Spock

By Matthew Shanahan M.Sc. on March 04, 2015 in Living It
A method of logically synthesizing parent values as a key to children's identity choices

Love the Child, Not the Gift

For all parents of gifted children, be sure you communicate unconditional love for your child throughout his/her development. Love the child, not the gift. Reward your child for effort, dedication, and discipline, not their gifts. Be there for them throughout their development. Listen to their struggles and support their dreams.

My Wife Drove My Son to Suicide

What to do when your wife hates your son

Is Friendship in Decline?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Face-to-face conversations extending over decades is indeed evaporating.

Long-Term Look at Rett Syndrome

Australian researchers complete 20-year longitudinal study on neurodevelopmental disorder Rett syndrome

Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors

By The Book Brigade on March 03, 2015 in The Author Speaks
The millions of teens and adults who engage in self-destructive behavior do so because they never learned more constructive ways of soothing themselves in moments of distress. Many have engaged in such behaviors for so long that they can't envision a way out. But it's possible to replace self-destructive acts with kinder means of coping.

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

Many singles are interested in marriage but fear divorce. You can do things before marriage to increase your odds of lasting love in marriage.

When Boys Feel Like Girls and Girls Feel Like Boys

By Elizabeth Wagele on March 03, 2015 in The Career Within You
“I told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids.”

Helping Your Anxious Child Overcome Bedtime Fears

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on March 03, 2015 in Worry Wise
It’s not their bed, or the house, or the dolls—it’s what their mind, and specifically their “worry brain” is telling them about those things that is making them so frightened. So while you’re tempted to just reassure your child that everything’s fine, chances are you already know—that doesn’t work.Instead, teach your child to be the boss and not get tricked by their worry!

Who Is an Adult?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in The Prime of Life
What does it mean to be a 21st century adult?

The Color Yellow

By Greg O'Brien on March 02, 2015 in On Pluto
Yellow is also a color of angels, and in scripture it symbolizes a change for the better. My mom, who died of Alzheimer’s in a bruising battle with the disease, believed in angels. So do I, in the wake of my own diagnosis five years ago of Early Onset Alzheimer’s. Yellow—derived from the ancient Latin “Angelus,” translated “messenger” or “envoys”— resonates with peace.

The Borderline Mother II

A borderline mother can you hurt a child (even an adult child) in the blink of an eye. Here's what happens and how you can respond.

4 Rituals to Create a “Green Family”

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on March 02, 2015 in The Power of Prime
One of the best ways to communicate any message to your children is through regular rituals that are woven into the fabric of your family’s lives. The consistency of intention and action help ingrain the messages you want your children to get most. The use of rituals is very effective in teaching your children about nature and environmental stewardship.

Empathy for a Child Abuser?

Empathy for a child abuser? For a child molester? How can anyone be empathic with someone who has done something so terrible? Why would they want to? Do the perpetrators possibly deserve such a thing? For a judge or prosecutor, of course not. For stopping repetitive dysfunctional family interactions that trigger someone's self-destructive behavior? Necessary.

Parenthood and Resilience

By Michael W Austin on March 02, 2015 in Ethics for Everyone
Resilience is a crucial but often neglected trait that parents should try to build in their children.

Why Do So Many Middle Aged Men Feel Lost?

Is the future of men "neutered uselessness"?