Essential Reads

A Quick, Easy Technique to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Changing your perspective can change your behavior in parenting power struggles

Yet Another Reason Why It’s Good to Be a First-Born Child

Research finds that eldest siblings are better at picking up second languages

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

Confederate flag and genetic testing issues are more alike than one might think

Recent Posts on Parenting

Helicopter Parenting Isn’t Killing Millennials, But This Is

By Linda Esposito LCSW on August 02, 2015 in From Anxiety to Zen
Doing this could save your kid's sanity (and maybe even his life).

WOSPs, the Amalfi Coast, and Unstructured Play in Children

By John Tauer Ph.D. on August 02, 2015 in Goal Posts
Why Can't Kids Play on Their Own?

The Baby and the Butterfly

How do you fight the urge to solve the kinds of challenges that are necessary for your child’s healthy emotional growth?

The Zen Of Happy Motherhood

Happy mothers-what does it take? We have one of the most demanding jobs in the world, yet when it comes to recuperation, you'd be surprised how little we actually need....

When Parents Date Someone New, What's Best for the Kids?

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on August 01, 2015 in Nurturing Resilience
Though parents are moving in and out of romantic relationships more often, there are things they can do to make these transitions easier for their children.

5 Ways that "Good Enough" is Better than "Best"

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on August 01, 2015 in Off the Couch
A mom I know was trying to arrange a birthday party for her child. “I want it to be the best party ever!” she said. “I want her to have memories of this party for the rest of her life.” What's wrong here?

A Quick, Easy Technique to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

If your kids have you climbing the walls, don't despair--just head for the ceiling to stop the yelling, power struggles, and drama. Here is how to do it!

I Used to Be Such a Good Teacher...

Delivering a lecture is easy. Teaching is hard.

Yet Another Reason Why It’s Good to Be a First-Born Child

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 31, 2015 in Social Instincts
New research finds that eldest siblings are better at picking up second languages.

No, No, No, I Love YOU

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 31, 2015 in On Having Fun
A word game that sometimes takes you both beyond words into something very much like deep, loving, intimate glee.

Can't Stand Your Self-Absorbed Parent?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on July 30, 2015 in Creating in Flow
Got an aging parent or in-law who's a narcissist? They're arrogant, have a sense of entitlement, are always ready to instill guilt, they insist rules don't apply to them, and they fly into a rage if challenged. There's help for you.

Depression and Suicide in Black Youth

Depression is a serious mental health issue that significantly impacts the lives of many youth. Among Black youth 3.2% report suicidal thoughts and 1.4% report attempting suicide. Given the serious risk, it is important to learn early warning signs.

7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You Parent

Attachment research tells us that the biggest predictor of how we will be as parents is how much we’ve been able to make sense out of our own past. So, while the last place we may be looking when we become parents is at our own childhood, that’s exactly what we should be doing if we want to be better present-day parents to our children.

Affects, Language, and Cognition

For many months, we have been exploring the three pillars of human development: Affects (Feelings), Language, and Cognition. We have tried to make the case that there is a revolution in our understanding of human development. I have suggested that this revolution has tremendous potential for enhancing development.

Book Review: "Drop the Worry Ball"

When children experience fearful situations, they have the opportunity to cope with challenges, which increases their long term resilience.

Liar, Liar, Working Memory on Fire

Working Memory can make you a better liar, research shows

Post-Baby Mental Health, For Dads

If you’re about to become a father, there’s little likelihood anyone will talk with you about how these experiences will change your life.

5 Strategies to Reduce Gender Bias Against Girls As Leaders

These 5 stategies for reducing gender bias were recently developed by researchers at Harvard University. These 5 easy tips have the potential to close the gender gap in leadership for teenage girls in the future.

Stars, Bars, and Embryos

By Elliot Hosman J.D. on July 28, 2015 in Genetic Crossroads
The ideas of "choice" and "intent" have arisen in debates about both the confederate flag and prenatal genetic testing. But are these concepts insufficiently nuanced for these tough topics?

Why I Tossed the Gummy Vitamins

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on July 28, 2015 in A Million Meals
Parents make most, if not all, food and health choices for our young children: the pressure of that constant decision-making, plus our primal drive to ensure they survive and thrive, creates a potent stew of emotions that makes us particularly vulnerable both to magical thinking about food and to those who exploit it.

Does Your Child Need To See A Psychologist?

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in Digital Pandemic
The idea that all children are pretty much the same is a great American Myth. Teachers need to discover their students' learning styles and personalities.

What Narcissists REALLY Want, and Can Never Get

Among other things, narcissists typically come across as arrogant, manipulative, entitled, and woefully lacking in empathy. But if these defining features are understood at a deeper level—as powerful psychological defenses to protect them from experiencing a truly frightening vulnerability—a quite different picture of them emerges. . . .

We Succeed by Our Failures

When we reflect on our childhood we tend to recall the tough times -- times when we as kids screwed up, or when our parents failed. It turns out that the dance between love and hate, doing right and doing wrong, and above all making amends is critical for secure attachments. We learn to trust other, indeed, we learn to be moral as part of a normal developmental process.

Inside Out Movie Focuses on the Importance of Emotions

By Kate Roberts Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Savvy Parenting
Disney's Pixar Inside Out movie teaches through entertainment, the importance of processing and understanding a child's emotions.

Rx Pain Meds and Teens – A Troubling Combination

Do you know about the dangers lurking in your medicine cabinet? Chances are, like many of us, you have one or more unused prescription bottles sitting in your medicine cabinet right now. For parents with teens, this can be a very dangerous scenario.

Do “Autism Parents” Face Increased Stigma for Mental Health?

Despite the fact that mental health is centrally tied to our overall well-being, parents of children with autism may find themselves not only combating the general public’s shared stigma related to mental illness and therapeutic services, but must also contend with additional challenges in overcoming the stigmatization of supporting their own psychological needs.

A Second Look at Helicopter Parenting

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on July 27, 2015 in Once Upon a Child
When I first heard the term ‘helicopter parenting’ some 30 years ago, I thought ‘hmm- clever, but ouch’, and filed it under ‘probably not helpful’ in my memory.

What Helicopter Parents Need to Know

How can concerned parents help today's college students become healthier, more successful young adults?

I Hate Multiple Choice

What do multiple choice tests measure? Is that what we want to know?

Adolescence and the Allure of the Internet

Today's parents must raise children in two worlds, offline and online, and for adolescents freedom on the Internet has a powerful allure.