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The Perfect Graduation Gift: A Coat for All Seasons!

Give your son or daughter life's ultimate edge!

Room Rights in Adolescence

When disagreeing about room-care, respect the importance of the teenage room

Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Who is minding the children when both parents work?

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

Single parenting causes poor health? 6 ways you were misled

Recent Posts on Parenting

Come Here-Go Away; the Dynamics of Fearful Attachment

Adults “fearful” attachment styles feel lonely and want closeness in relationships; at the same time, they are avoid close relationships because of possible rejection or emotional injury. Learn how understanding this style can free you of the tyranny of your emotions so that you can live with intent. You can also learn to love and help your loved ones with this style.

High Stakes Testing in America

“Thank God it’s over.” That’s what my high school educator friend in Florida says. The fattening-the-pig-by-weighing-it, over-the-top testing, happened almost every day from March to mid-May and impacted every student in his school. Everyone’s overwrought with this mess, most likely including the guy who started it, Jeb Bush.

Mom Humiliates Daughter via Facebook: Discipline or Abuse?

Have you ever seen what emotional abuse looks like? Here's a live example from a story that broke just this past week. What would you do if you saw someone doing this to a teenager?

The Perfect Graduation Gift: A Coat for All Seasons!

What is the one gift that can help your kids to succeed? The best part about it --- it's free!

Why Do You Have to Tell Them Five Times?

It's a good question: Why don't kids just do what we say the first time we say it?! And there's a good answer. Several, in fact. The good news is that following the practices in this article consistently not only raises a self-disciplined child, it raises a child who knows you'll follow through, so he doesn't need to be asked five times to do something.

Room Rights in Adolescence

Parents need to respect the adolescent room for many personal functions it can provide; and the adolescent needs to respect parental needs for that room to fit into what they want in a family home. This is the accommodation that must be made.

How to Parent Kids Who Simply Don't Get Along

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 25, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
If you have kids who simply don't get along, focus on separating them and encouraging solo play. It's a lot harder to parent kids who don't get along than those who have the usual sibling spats, so don't add stress to your life by telling yourself they should get along better. Parents already deal with enough 'shoulds.'

Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Today both men and women worry about short-changing their children because of their both working, and their own parents often feed their guilt. The result is an epidemic of over- and under-parenting in which the needs of the children take precedence over the need of the parents, leading to out of control children who have trouble becoming responsible adutls.

The Inconvenience of Tackling and Eliminating Defiance

Parenting can be an inconvenience that every parent has to come to terms with. The parenting relationship is not one that money alone can solve, or one that can be tackled remotely.

Conversation with a Mother about Sleep Training her Baby

Dear Dr., I need help! I have a lovely 11 month old baby girl and my husband and I both work full-time… I resorted to sleep coaching recently… I am afraid that we have already done irreparable damage to our sweet baby.

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 23, 2015 in Living Single
A much-publicized study claimed that single mothers are at risk for poor health. Here's a less credulous analysis, starting with the fact that in many countries, there is no difference whatsoever between the health of the single and married mothers, and continuing with the actual factors that make a difference.

The Surprising News about Children's Mental Health

How mentally healthy are today’s children and teens? A comprehensive new survey shows that the current generation of young people are in better shape than we’ve realized. However, trends in medication use continue to draw concern by mental health experts.

What Really Motivates Kids

What really motivates kids (and adults for that matter)? Not rewards. Not punishments. Not even intrinsic motivation! My goodness -- what's left?

Balancing a Japanese and Irish Heritage

I have learned to balance my parents' lessons in living.

8 Tips for Letting Go of Your College Grad’s Job Hunt

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in Singletons
More and more young college grads find themselves jobless or underpaid, living with their parents again and job hunting. The situation can feel like a minefield. Discover when to step in and when to back off as your young adult looks for employment.

How to Give Your Child a Rich Life

We all want to raise kids who know how to work hard to create what they want in the world. Nobody wants to raise a child who thinks the world owes him, who feels like he’s entitled to take whatever he wants. We also DO want to raise a child who feels deserving of the blessings of abundance. How do we raise a child we feels deserving - but not "entitled"?

Self-Learner in Your Home?

By David Palmer Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in Gifted Kids
Self-Learner in your home? Free and low cost resources available!

The Truth About Children of Working Mothers

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Good Thinking
The results of a meta-analysis of sixty-nine studies indicated that the impact of early daycare on child development was different for single-parent, low income families and dual-parent, high income families. The age at which daycare starts also mattered.

Friendships Help Kids Cope With Divorce

By Wendy Paris on May 19, 2015 in Splitopia
Your children's friendships can be disrupted by divorce, either because you move or because everyone is too busy and preoccupied to help maintain them. Eileen Kennedy-Moore answers four questions on the impact of divorce on childhood friendships, and gives advice for how parents can foster strong community.

Let’s Release Our Youth From the College Anxiety Epidemic

I have clients in 2nd grade telling me they going to Stanford or UC Berkeley. I listen to high school students who have GPAs of 4.2 or 4.6 tell me how stressed, anxious, and depressed they are and weary of their future. I talk to parents daily about their worries that their child is not going to get into a "good” school. There is a place—or several—for every student.

What Happens When the Whole Family Plays with Food?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Singletons
What to make for dinner? What will the kids eat? How to get everyone to the table for dinner in spite of packed schedules? Challenges worth meeting. Family therapy can be helpful, but family dinner is transformative.

Cannabis Addiction Is Linked to Higher Levels of Cortisol

Heavy marijuana use may trigger a stress response that increases cortisol levels.

Police Versus Community: Why All the Trauma?

The power of trauma is that it compels us to protect ourselves from threats both real and imagined. How do you help police and community members filter threats that deserve our attention from those that don't?

Mentoring: The Missing Link for Highly Sensitive Children

Ever wonder if your sensitive child needs a mentor?

How To Love Unconditionally When You're Angry

Loving unconditionally when you're furious isn't easy. In fact, it's such heavy lifting of the heart that it builds real love muscle. But nothing changes your child's behavior quite as quickly.

Is There Ever Just One Side To A Story?

By Allison Carmen on May 18, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
Sometimes it's hard to imagine how someone else could have another perspective when we feel so right about how we perceive a situation. But if we are willing to pause and think about why the other person feels the way that they do, we might open our hearts a bit and realize MAYBE there is more to the situation than meets the eye.

To Screen or Not To Screen?

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on May 18, 2015 in In Therapy
Should we keep screens away from kids? Or give them full access and let them work it out? Is there a middle ground?

Are Teenagers Getting Enough Sleep?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Media Spotlight
A new review study outlines much of the research looking at the different consequences of sleep loss in adolescents and why parents need to take this more seriously. The consequences of young people going without sleep can be far worse than you might think.

What It Takes for High School In-Love Relationships to Last

Young people who fall in-love and work to turn it into lasting love can learn some mature communication skills that will benefit them later on, in this relationship if it holds, or in another if it does not.

ADHD

Questions about ADHD for parents to ask psychiatrists, psychologists, and therapists