Essential Reads

Honey, I've Optimized the Kids

By Hara Estroff Marano on December 05, 2016 in Nation of Wimps
Turning out OK is no longer an outcome acceptable to parents. Today children must be optimized. And that may be why failure-to-launch is a growing problem among young adults.

Why Kids Believe in Santa Claus (And Why That's Okay)

By Vanessa LoBue, Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in The Baby Scientist
Some scientists and parents believe it can be harmful to lie to children, even if it's about something harmless like Santa Claus. Research suggests Santa might be okay after all.

A Step-Child's Guide to Step-Parenting

Each family has its own story with its own peculiar complexities, but most have a moment in which the new boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a parent...

How Parents Raise Children to Fit In

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in The Human Beast
There is a lot of skepticism about whether parents truly affect their children. Comparing kids in different societies finds links between parenting and outcomes.

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8 Movies to Watch with Your Teen

Movies are not just entertainment. When characters connect at deep psychological levels, movies can quite literally shape young people’s lives!
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What Parents Have Trouble Admitting About College Admissions

By Brad E Sachs Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in Emptying The Nest
Are you becoming overly preoccupied with your high school senior's college plans? Paying close attention to the underlying issues may help you and your child survive and thrive.

When Autism Parents Are Hesitant to Share the Diagnosis

By Darren Sush Psy.D., BCBA-D on December 05, 2016 in All the Pieces
How inappropriate speculation related to Donald Trump’s son, highlights the concerns of many parents of children with autism about how and when to share their child’s diagnosis.

Special-Needs Parenting and the Lowerarchy: Part Two

By Barb Cohen on December 04, 2016 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
The lowerarchy is more than a boundary; it is an edifice of alternating comfort and despair, always at the expense of other people and their children.

Love and Separation Throughout the Life Cycle

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on December 03, 2016 in Life After 50
Do you wish your adult children needed you more?

Strangers and Danger

Your child's curiosity can bring him to walk away with a stranger.

New Fun Ways to Share Art with Kids

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Creating in Flow
Most kids love to fool around with diverse art materials. Go a step further by helping them appreciate great art while encouraging their own creativity. It's surprisingly easy.

When Your Child Snarls at You, Could You Just Offer Love?

No, you’re not teaching your child that she can get away with being rude. You’re teaching her that you’re a safe haven and she never needs or wants to lash out at you like that.

Celebrating Your Child's ADHD Gifts

By Dena Kouremetis on December 01, 2016 in The Unedited Offspring
Distractibility, disorganization, impulsivity. These are things the ADHD child learns to navigate, making them uniquely positioned to succeed as adults in many instances....

Use Holidays to Boost Your Relationship, Not Stress It Out

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Joyful Parenting
Here are some research-based ways people can not just protect a partnership from holiday stress, but also use the holidays to make it even stronger.

Where Does Happiness Come from, Mommy?

Here are 7 ideas for helping your child find more smiles and laughter in their life, and experience year-round the happiness, wonder, and magic we associate with this time of year.

Overprotective Parenting and Symbolic Rejection

The problem with helicoptering is that, like being physically absent as a parent, being hyper-present can harm children.

Failure to Launch Syndrome

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on November 30, 2016 in Healing and Growing
There are many "causes," but one real reason stands out to explain today's epidemic of young adults who remain stuck in life.

Post-Election Stress: Tips for Easing Children’s Anxiety

With the influx of social media, it is inevitable that children and adults will be exposed to political topics over the next few weeks. Here are some times for talking with kids.

Vanishing Grandmothers and the Decline of Empathy

Find out why empathy is declining, why grandmothers matter, and why disappearing cultures can show us a unique recipe to nurture compassionate children and happy people.

Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

By Wendy Paris on November 29, 2016 in Splitopia
Not shopping for Black Friday deals, or Saturday or Sunday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family.

An Experiment: Your Child, Thriving, in 30 Days.

When you see what's getting in the way for your child, you can give her the support she needs to feel, and act, better.

Feeling Shame About Shame

Is it shame or guilt you're feeling about having an LGBT child? Learn the difference so you can resolve the conflict.

Circle of Support: A Message for Teens About Friendship

We all need friends to help us get through life’s good and bad times.

Is My Son Being Abused By His Girlfriend?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when you don't like your child's partner

The Power of Curiosity

Might one consider eliciting the child's interests, rather than imposing interests upon the child?

Power Imbalance During Divorce

Divorce may lead parents to forfeit their leadership roles and empower children inappropriately for their age, resulting in damaging consequences.
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The Lowerarchy of Special-Needs Parenting

By Barb Cohen on November 27, 2016 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
Instead of using the rhetoric of “better than,” we shift to “not as bad-off as,” as in “my kid is not as bad-off as yours. "We’ve created a lowerarchy.

Along With Rights Come Responsibilities

A great many conflicts and issues stem from the irresponsible exercise of our rights.

You Don't Really Know Yourself

By Robert Firestone Ph.D. on November 26, 2016 in The Human Experience
For the most part, people are unaware that their lives are controlled and regulated by negative attitudes toward themselves that represent a basic aspect of their identity

Help! My College Kid Is Driving Me Crazy

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on November 26, 2016 in Social Lights
How do we know when our kids are back at home?

Test Anxiety? Want to Get Better Grades? Take More Tests.

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on November 25, 2016 in Cravings
Do you or your children suffer from test anxiety? One study technique appears to help more than others.

Is Your Past Controlling Your Life?

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on November 25, 2016 in Compassion Matters
Many patterns we develop in our past shape how we act and react in the present. So, what are the ways we get stuck in the past and relive rather than live our lives?

Parents Cut Off by Adult Children: Clueless? Part 2

By David M. Allen M.D. on November 25, 2016 in A Matter of Personality
In a previous post I opined that most parents whose adult children have cut them off know the real reason. That is not always the case. This post describes one common issue.
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Interfaith Holidays and Conflict Resolution

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on November 25, 2016 in Off the Couch
A rise in interfaith marriages has led to greater confusion about how to celebrate the holidays, and greater family tensions than ever before. How can you manage the differences?