Essential Reads

How to Neutralize Your Partner’s Defenses

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
Unlike courtship, once couples enter into a presumably lasting commitment, they both—however unconsciously—focus more on what they never really liked about each other.

How Do New Babies Affect Parent and Sibling Relationships?

Many couples expect a new child to strengthen their union, but distress first-born children. Research suggests that these expectations are unfounded.

5 Traits of Positive Narcissism and Their Downfalls

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on November 12, 2017 in Communication Success
Narcissism is toxic. Some aspects of narcissism might be positive in the short-term and in limited ways.

Relationship Happiness May Be a Matter of Reconditioning

Over time, even the best of relationships can become stale. New research shows how you can recondition yourself to restore the freshness of yours.

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5 Ways to Communicate to Achieve Better Sex and More Orgasms

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on October 23, 2017 in ExperiMentations
New research shows how sexual and relationship satisfaction are distinct yet interrelated, describing ways to enhance both by communicating differently about each.

The #1 Life-Changing Communication Rule

I confess to still finding it very difficult to follow my own advice on this.

Consumed by Anger Long After the Marriage Ends

Abandoned wives say that they hate feeling angry all the time but they can't stop. They seek revenge and wish they could make their ex-husbands suffer what they have suffered.

Is Monogamy Still a Thing?

Sexual fidelity and emotional fidelity have typically held different meanings and values for romantic partners based on gender. Is this still true today?

100 Practices for Great Relationships

This list will assist you in identifying where your work is still required to become eligible for a great relationship.

Taming the Wild Beasts

In learning to live in integrity with the truth of our experience rather than from a commitment to protection, we begin to cultivate the kinds of qualities...

When Your Spouse Is Addicted

How do you cope if your spouse is struggling with addiction? Learn how to be honest, but not enabling.

Listening Patience

On several occasions, I have observed patients who seemed to be listening when I was talking to them, but left me doubtful about just how much they actually heard.

7 Infidelity Preventatives Your Marriage Needs Today

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Clear Communication
The best defense is a good...defense.

My Daughter Found Out About My Affair

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Should you tell the truth about an affair?

Are Same-Sex or Heterosexual Relationships More Stable?

As Americans become more accepting of sexual minorities, differences between same-sex and different-sex relationships are smaller than ever.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust VI: The Break: Independence

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

How to De-Escalate a Fight with a Narcissist

These strategies can help you end those ugly, pointless fights with the Narcissist in your life.

Even Happy People Get the Blues

Regardless of what we do, life will at some point bring us losses, disappointments, and instances of physical and emotional pain. Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

12 Common Failures of Passive-Aggressive People

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on October 08, 2017 in Communication Success
D. Hall-Flavin describes passive-aggression as “a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them." Here are the major negative consequences.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Address the Conflicts

Addressing conflicts in a relationship is essential to maintaining trust that love can endure, emotion can flow freely, challenges can and will be addressed.

Managing Relationship Conflict: Letting Go of Being Right

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on October 07, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Tired of having arguments that end with you and your partner insisting that you both are right about long ago events? Learn to let go of being right and find strategies that work.

The Best Wedding Trend Is the Freedom to Not Follow Trends

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on October 07, 2017 in Quite Queerly
Just as same sex couples have done for decades, we can all—yes, straight people too—create our own events, rituals, and celebrations, completely on our own terms.

A New Way to Test Your Relationship's Health

Staying in a close relationship is always a matter of balancing its pros and cons. This new rating scale will help you pin down what’s working, or not, in yours.

When Partners Disagree About Taboos

Though it’s still taboo for many, there’s been a cultural shift when it comes to heterosexual anal sex. Do women enjoy it? What if he wants it and she doesn't?

The Second Marriage: What You Need to Know

Five necessary conversations before saying "I do" for the second time.

Longing for Redemption

When we feel ourselves to be incomplete or lacking a sense of wholeness, we often seek out others to fill our emptiness...

5 Tips on Getting Your Aspie/Autie Husband to Talk More

By Eva A. Mendes LMHC on October 04, 2017 in The Heart of Autism
Especially after marriage, a husband with Asperger's Syndrome might relax and be more himself. He will behave more like he does when he’s alone, which can mean being silent.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

People expect their partner to be faithful, married or not. But what are the odds that once a cheater, always a cheater? A new study gives an answer.

Love, Sex, and Marriage in Ancient Egypt

By Neel Burton M.D. on October 03, 2017 in Hide and Seek
This oldest of civilizations could be surprisingly liberal.

6 Ways To Tell If Love Is True

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on October 03, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
Talk about all of this with the one you love. It will help you know one another on a much deeper level, and isn’t that what true love is all about?

Changing Roles, Changing Boundaries

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in Between the Lines
Do you feel excluded from your kids' married lives? Why that's a good thing and why it's about them, not you.

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

Here are the two most healing words in the English language--and why.


When we imagine the depths that we can move to if we live a life without inner conflict, our motivation to practice harmlessness with others and ourselves increases....

This One Exercise Can Improve Your Relationship Today

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on October 01, 2017 in Living Forward
Do you wonder what happened to the parter you once adored? See how learning to shift your attention can bring back the loving feelings in your relationship.