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Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive?

Passive-aggressive try to block whatever it is you want. You feel their unspoken anger. Learn the signs and what you can do.

How Does Your Age Difference Affect Your Relationship?

6 core questions to know if your age-gap relationship has what it takes to last.

It’s Not the Sex, But the Afterglow

By David Ludden Ph.D. on June 16, 2017 in Talking Apes
When it comes to marital happiness, frequent sex is not enough—it also has to be memorable.

Freedom in Forgiveness

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 13, 2017 in Clear Communication
Forgive and move forward.

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Men Masturbate to Make Up the Difference—But Women Don't

By Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA on May 31, 2017 in Sex Matters
More data shows that men and women may masturbate for different reasons. Less sexually satisfied men masturbate more—but not women.

Is It Ever Okay to Lie to Your Lover?

Healthy relationships are built upon a foundation of trust. However, it is surprisingly easy to be deceptive in an intimate relationship. Can you be honest and still be kind?

Do You Talk to Win, Persuade, or Collaborate?

Foss and Griffin’s invitational rhetoric describes a foundation for therapy and what ought to be a foundation for marital spats and diversity dialogues.

Just Having Sex: The Key to a Lasting Relationship?

New research finds that just having sex sustains relationship happiness. But sexual connection emerges from an energized, overall relationship, which grows from three key parts.
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Marriage Begins with Irreconcilable Differences

This 1-minute marriage test will rock your world.

Are Illusory Agreements The New Trend?

Navigating the treacherous waters created by attorneys for whom the practice of law is nothing more than a game to be won is no easy feat.

Straight Life Cycle/Queer Life

A psychotherapy vignette about navigating traditional milestones as a gay man.

Marriage Can Heal Old Wounds From the Family

Sometimes, the greatest lessons that we learn in our family of origin have more to do with what we don’t want than what we do.

The Number One Reason Relationships Fail

By Darcy Sterling Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Ask Dr. Darcy
There is one indicator that can predict, with amazing accuracy, the ending of your relationship story. It has to with how you fight.

The Best Preparation for Marriage

Great relationships aren’t discovered; they are created.

“Do You Take This…”

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 20, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about the decision to marry.

Will You Be Less Depressed If You Get Married? Two Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 19, 2017 in Living Single
When single people marry, do they get less depressed? Are married people less depressed than people who are cohabiting or dating or single with no romantic partner?

Do You Trust Your Partner?

Trust is one of the keystones of any relationship—without it two people cannot be comfortable with each other and the relationship lacks stability.

Interracial Marriages: What Has (and Hasn't) Changed

How many marriages are interracial today versus 60 years ago? Where are interracial marriages most common?

A Simple Way to Improve Communication with Your Partner

By Yael Schonbrun Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in Moderating
Learn about a simple idea that can help you improve your communication with your partner.

Find Out What Really Happens in Couples Therapy

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
Until now, the only way to find out what really happens in a couples therapy session is to go to couples therapy with your partner. That is about to change.

10 Ways to Have an Easier Relationship With Your In-Laws

In-law relationships can be very complicated.

Couples Therapy: 15 Essentials That the Best Therapists Do

If you are a therapist, to what extent do you follow these guidelines? If you are choosing a therapist, or evaluating whether to stay with one you've been with, here's help.
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Want to Live Longer? Have Sex Regularly

Independent of health, maintaining an active, regular sex life appears to extend longevity. Sex put life into your years and years into your life.

What You Should Be Thinking When You Argue With Your Partner

Do you argue with your partner often? A little self-awareness can go a long way.

Premature Ejaculation: Learn Control

By Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA on May 15, 2017 in Sex Matters
Lots of men worry about climaxing too quickly, but those who do can learn to slow things down--and to give their partner a great time without one.

20 Ways to Get Closer

Happy couples are skilled in the art of attentive listening. They allow themselves to be penetrated by each other’s words and feelings.

Doubt

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 14, 2017 in How To Do Life
19 issues we shouldn't be so sure about.

The Stories We Tell About Single People Aren't True

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 13, 2017 in Living Single
In many important ways, single people are thriving. How is that possible, when they don’t have the support of a spouse, and they are stereotyped and stigmatized?

Who Initiates Divorce More Often?

By Joanne Bagshaw Ph.D. on May 09, 2017 in The Third Wave
In heterosexual marriages, are women or men more likely to initiate divorce?

3 Questions You Should Be Asking Yourself After His Affair

Learn how to avoid common mistakes after discovering your spouse's sexual betrayal.

Good Times Together and Marital Happiness

Quit faking it. Making fun happen in your marriage means finding things you both enjoy doing — together. You don't need to do everything together, but find something that works.

Forgiveness Part 1

Beginning at the age of ten, Monica was frequently sexually assaulted for a period of more than six years. The assailant was her father.

“I Went to See About a Girl”

Are you trying to make a choice between what's best for your love life and what's best for your career?

Dual-Income Couples

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 07, 2017 in How To Do Life
Competition, dividing chores, long-distance relationships, time for each other.