Marriage Essential Reads

Why Adultery Is Harmful Even Before It's Discovered

Kai Cole uses her experience of her marriage and divorce from Joss Whedon to show that the saying "what you don't know can't hurt you" is wrong.

Why Divorced People Are Key to Understanding Marriage

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 10,000 Dutch adults looked at the health of married people to see if it had anything to do with who got divorced. Did it ever.

A Simple Tool for Greater Relationship Satisfaction

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 18, 2017 in ExperiMentations
In today's hectic, sometimes lonely, day and age, proven tools to increase passion and relationship satisfaction are a sought after commodity. Research is illuminating, and useful.

How Men Really Feel about Sex

Sex begins in the body. While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory or emotional feelings of connection, for men, desire is physical...

A Guide for Gay Men on Both Open and Monogamous Marriage

A conversation with therapist and author Michael Dale Kimmel about open and monogamous marriage, for gay men and for us all.

What Keeps Partners From Cheating?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 04, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Infidelity generally leads to pain and suffering for all involved, and is the most common factor in divorce. How do we resist temptation, making it more likely we'll stay together?

Individualism Goes Global: More Live Alone, Value Friends

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 29, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 51 years of data from 78 nations shows a rise in individualism around the globe. More people are living alone, divorcing, and valuing their friends over their family.

10 Ways to Be Nicer to the Person You Love the Most

Do you take for granted the person you love the most? New research shows why you need to be nicer in your most important relationship. These 10 tips will help get you there.

Should We Have Children?

By Neel Burton M.D. on July 23, 2017 in Hide and Seek
This fundamental question raises profound ethical issues.

Health Benefits Unlikely Even from the Longest Marriages

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 22, 2017 in Living Single
New research looking at men and women of different ages who have been married for different lengths of time finds scant evidence that people who marry get healthier.

Husbands Watch Porn, Wives Despair—But Why?

By Marty Klein PhD on July 19, 2017 in Sexual Intelligence
When couples argue about porn, they're usually arguing about something else.

Relationship Satisfaction Entails Playing by the Rules

Alternative relationship types come under scientific scrutiny in a new study on monogamous, open, and polyamorous couples. As long as you play fair, it seems that anything goes.

The Challenges of Intimacy

By Neel Burton M.D. on July 18, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Why intimacy requires constant vigilance.
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How to Deal With Your Partner’s Jealousy

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 07, 2017 in Talking Apes
If your understand your own and your partner’s attachment style, you can effectively resolve the inevitable conflicts in your relationship.

Give Me a Sign: Recognizing Signals of Commitment

When searching for lasting love, it’s too easy to put hope in false signs of commitment. By thinking clearly about good signals of commitment, you can improve your odds.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Do the Maintenance

Like all else, relationships require maintenance to thrive. Developmental changes, evolving circumstances, and shifts in intentions and dreams are only a few of the catalysts.

Nobody Does It Better

Humor, which clashes with the intensity of romantic love, can be valuable in romance. Is humor always good in love? Is it useful for seduction? Should we tell jokes during sex?
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Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive?

Passive-aggressive try to block whatever it is you want. You feel their unspoken anger. Learn the signs and what you can do.

Can a Relationship Work When One Partner Is Much Older?

6 core questions to know if your age-gap relationship has what it takes to last.

It’s Not the Sex, But the Afterglow

By David Ludden Ph.D. on June 16, 2017 in Talking Apes
When it comes to marital happiness, frequent sex is not enough—it also has to be memorable.

Freedom in Forgiveness

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 13, 2017 in Clear Communication
Forgive and move forward.
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Choosing Children’s Surnames

Conventionally, women take their husband’s surname, as do any children. But as married women increasingly retain their birth surnames, how do couples decide on children’s surnames?
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The Truth About Abusers, Abuse, and What to Do

Abusers seek control because they're insecure, despite any outer success. Learn to spot them and what to do.

Five Keys to Good Communication During Conflict

Are you stuck in a cycle of negative communication in your relationship? A little respect can go a long way.

The Lord of the Wedding Ring: J.R.R. Tolkien’s True Love

Tolkien's new book, Beren and Luthien is coming out decades after the author’s death, but it tells a tale close to his heart.

Internet Infidelity: Today's Blind-Spot Threat to Marriage

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 01, 2017 in Clear Communication
Has your marriage or someone's marriage you know been devastated by Internet infidelity? Here's some tips with how to guard yours against going down that slippery slope.

Is Porn Use Really Harmful to Relationships?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 29, 2017 in Talking Apes
New research on porn and relationships: Despite the strident claims that scientists have proven porn use is harmful to relationships, there is in fact no such evidence.
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How to Talk to a Narcissist About Being Narcissistic

4 ways to communicate to a narcissist about narcissistic behavior.

Psychiatry and Tech: An Odd Couple, An Impending Marriage

The Engagement between Tech and Psychiatry Grows