Essential Reads

How to Neutralize Your Partner’s Defenses

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
Unlike courtship, once couples enter into a presumably lasting commitment, they both—however unconsciously—focus more on what they never really liked about each other.

How Do New Babies Affect Parent and Sibling Relationships?

Many couples expect a new child to strengthen their union, but distress first-born children. Research suggests that these expectations are unfounded.

5 Traits of Positive Narcissism and Their Downfalls

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on November 12, 2017 in Communication Success
Narcissism is toxic. Some aspects of narcissism might be positive in the short-term and in limited ways.

Relationship Happiness May Be a Matter of Reconditioning

Over time, even the best of relationships can become stale. New research shows how you can recondition yourself to restore the freshness of yours.

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The Situation Is Urgent

There is usually one in the pair that can process information more rapidly than the other...

Testamentary Restraints on Marriage

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on November 16, 2017 in So Sue Me
Many parents have a lot to say about their children's love interests and relationship decisions. Some parents want to have the last word, even after they die.

Are More Men “Marrying Up” Today?

Literature is filled with stories of economically disadvantaged women looking to find a mate who was financially able to provide for her; do men do this more often now?

Sexual Variety

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in The Human Beast
There is an astonishing amount of variation in sexual behavior around the globe and over time. Many of these differences can be explained as adaptive responses to the environment.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust X: Breaking the Silence

I know of no relationship that improved without conversation.

Really Getting Real! Part 2

What follows is an example of what such a self- characterization can sound like when it is delivered at the beginning of a relationship with the intention...
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One Question That May Determine Whether Your Love Will Last

The one question that may determine whether your love will last

How Are We Connected to Our Partner?

Similar attachment styles make for better marriages. Different attachment styles cab cause major problems.

The Problem with Anger

How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?

Thinking About Non-Monogamy?

By Samantha Joel on November 13, 2017 in Dating Decisions
Emerging research suggests that non-monogamous relationships can be just as satisfying as monogamous ones.

Really Getting Real! Part 1

Being clear about our intention, regarding a future relationship is a crucial factor in the process of finding a suitable and appropriate partner...

The Myth of the Self-Made Individual

We should be wary of those who claim to be self-made, who tout themselves as the emblems of accomplishment. These prominent people simply disregard the support they’ve had.

How to Love Someone Again After Infidelity

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on November 08, 2017 in SexualityToday
Couples that stay together after infidelity fall into three categories: sufferers, builders, and explorers.
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How can we strengthen our relationships in a "snap?"

Welcome to the relationship gym where regular workouts can build your emotional muscles.

Ordinary Magic

Intimacy is so often contained in the ordinary moments: a lingering gaze, a brief touch, a hug, a gentle word of encouragement.

Top Ten Tips to Re-Ignite Romance

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on November 05, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
There are many ways to re-light the romantic torch, it make take a little energy, and you may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but these tips are some of the best.

No Search and Destroy: Part 3

Here is a good example of a couple that has been doing Shadow work, by interrupting a downward spiral and turning a breakdown into a valuable conversation.

No Search and Destroy Part 2

We may find it helpful to befriend our shadow when we discover that these figures aren’t completely bad as we might at first have assumed.

No Search and Destroy Part 1

The process of discovering our hidden parts is not about “search and destroy.” Search and befriend is probably a better way to put it...

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Imagine Talking to Yourself

Are you stumped about how to act or respond? Try an interior monologue to help you expose unconscious beliefs, pause, accept responsibility, and move on in a loving manner.

Learning to Manage Your Arguments

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on October 28, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
Couples argue for many reasons, none of them good or excusable, but it’s just part of being in a relationship, right? Not necessarily, and here's why.

What's Love Got to Do With It

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on October 27, 2017 in Mind Games
Coercive abuse is rarely constant.

How Long Should You Date Before Getting Married?

Consider these points before you make the move towards marriage.
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Love Without a Future

What if we spent our effort getting to know, deeply, who this other person is and what their life is about, and love was about supporting that, even if it takes them away from us?

A Brief History of Masturbation

By Neel Burton M.D. on October 25, 2017 in Hide and Seek
7 reasons to masturbate.

Couples: Do You Argue About “A” When the Real Issue is “B”?

When couples enter therapy to work on what they see as their main difficulty, there's generally a more fundamental, underlying problem not yet recognized by them.

Let's Talk About Orgasms

By Holly Parker, Ph.D. on October 25, 2017 in Your Future Self
People can place enormous pressure on themselves when it comes to sex and orgasms. It’s easy for the Big O to become a Big Pain when climaxing turns into a must-have goal.
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Why "Happily Ever After" Doesn't Just Happen

What would happen if we put a fraction of the work into our relationships that we do into other domains of our lives?
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The Survival Guide for Living With a Narcissist

Wondering how to make your relationship with your narcissistic mate run smoother? This article tells you what you need to know.

One Simple Trick for Attracting Your Perfect Partner

By Kira Asatryan on October 23, 2017 in The Art of Closeness
A simple envisioning exercise can help you find someone who wants you to be more yourself.