Essential Reads

Choice in Consensual Non-Monogamy

How consent, personal responsibility, and mutual reliance enable polyamorous people to construct designer relationships.

14 Questions to Ask About the Quality of Your Relationship

Considering the many factors involved in relationships, it might seem impossible to narrow them down to a reasonable number. New research shows which are the 14 common elements.

A Snapshot of America in 2017

A new poll about Americans' attitudes about race suggests cause for concern and raises some tough questions.

6 Facts and Myths About Masturbation

While it may feel shameful to admit, everybody does it at some point in their lives.

More Posts on Marriage

Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Lots of people waver on whether they should take the plunge and see a couple's therapist. Might it be time for you and your partner? Here are some clues.

Who’s Cleaning the House?

It’s not just physical labor. It’s about expectations, perceptions of fairness, and various emotions.
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The Key to Healthier Relationships

How partners can help one another change their attachment styles and deepen their relationship.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 4

To consider death and loss helps to keep us awake, for we don’t have forever to show those we love how we feel about them. We don’t have a moment to lose.

What Turns a Man On? For Some, It's Feeling Desired

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on September 18, 2017 in SexualityToday
A man whose deepest need is to feel desired may be analogous to one who gets excited by wearing women’s clothing. Best to just chalk it up to sexual diversity and accept it.

I Should Never Have Trusted Him (or Her)

If you have been deceived for years, you may have this same reaction. But should you?

Looking for the G-Spot? 6 Things to Know

Is the G-spot real? Does every woman have it? How do I know if I'm touching the right spot?

Maybe You Should Get Married

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Clear Communication
Before you make a copy of your house key, read this before cohabitating.

Different Ways to Say “I Love You”

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
We all know that people experience love in different ways. Some people want affection, others need praise, and for others, actions speak louder than words.
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Warning: You or Your Spouse May Be Addicted to Criticism

Can people be addicted to criticism in the same way they can be addicted to alcohol?

Beyond Self-Love: What Marrying Yourself is Really All About

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in Living Single
I used to think marrying yourself was a bad idea because it borrows the wedding template. Now I think that template makes a statement about single people that needs to be heard.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 3

The taking of vows: In a transformative relationship, there is a lot of change. Each individual changes over time, and the needs of the relationship change.

The Kind of Support That Will Nourish a Lasting Marriage

By Meg Selig on September 14, 2017 in Changepower
When one member of a couple encourages the other in this specific way, it can make for long-lasting magic within their relationship.

Revisiting Berne's Theory of Sexual Frigidity

Are you living in a sexless marriage?

Online Romantics

By Yair Amichai-Hamburger Ph.D. on September 11, 2017 in The Social Net
Do more romantic options lead to better decisions?

Why Luann de Lesseps is Now Luann de Divorce

Why she should have seen her divorce coming from a mile away.

A Strategy for Dating

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on September 10, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Contrary to popular opinion, it is possible, with a proper strategy, to enjoy dating.

Do You Have Trouble with Intimacy?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on September 09, 2017 in Wander Woman
This post won’t help you feel comfortable with your naked body; it can teach you how to share deep thoughts and feelings to build trust, relationships, and results.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice Part 2

Practices of sacred partnership are numerous, but here are some that we have found to be tremendously helpful. Please don’t be confined to these offerings of practices.

Are You Being "Gaslighted" by the Narcissist in Your Life?

Does your level of self-doubt and confusion rise when you are with your partner? This article gives you 7 questions to ask to help you determine if you are being "Gaslighted."

Caught Between Two Loves?

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on September 01, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Love is messy and sometimes it pulls our hearts in two directions at once. A couples therapist offers three questions you can use to resolve your love triangle.

15 Reasons to Be Wary About Falling in Love

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 01, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
No matter how it turned out, most people would agree that falling in love was the most euphoric, even ecstatic, experience of their life.

I’m in a Sexless Marriage

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on August 31, 2017 in Minority Report
What does it mean when you're in a sexless marriage or relationship? Is something wrong with the relationship and is there any hope?

Relationship as Spiritual Practice, Part 1

Most people think of spiritual practice as going to church or temple, prayer, singing of hymns, chanting, ritual, and meditation rather than daily interactions with other human.

The Gay Revolution

By Neel Burton M.D. on August 30, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Attitudes to homosexuality have undergone nothing short of a revolution in the past five decades.

Alternative Facts in Intimate Relationships

By Holly Parker, Ph.D. on August 30, 2017 in Your Future Self
Generally speaking, the practice of lying to a romantic partner to promote the relationship, spare feelings, and ease personal discomfort commonly occurs. But does it work?

I Still Don't Feel Loved/Connected/Cared About!

One of the biggest issues to plague couples I see in my practice is the tension between what is happening and what is wanted. How do we turn this into an opportunity for intimacy?

The Ridiculousness of Unconditional Love

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 30, 2017 in How To Do Life
The key to a good relationship is realizing that love must be earned every day.

Second Wedding Bridal Shower: Pictures from the Past

This is what women look like when we're really laughing, I thought. This was me, and us, all those years ago. This is me, and us, still. What a luxury.

How Women Really Feel About Sex

Sex begins in her mind. For her, it’s the fantasizing, remembering, and imagining hot sex that revs her engine. Sex researcher Meredith Chivers says “being desired is the orgasm.”