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The Relationship Benefits of Going “Facebook Official”

On Facebook, one of the secrets of relational success is publicly disclosing relational status. This digital promise ring reflects stronger, more committed relationships.

Four Ways Healthy Love Can Turn Toxic

Coupling up and committing can bring enormous joy and wellbeing. When done poorly however, what once felt like closeness can easily turn toxic. Here are four traps to avoid.

Can Envy Ever Be a Positive Emotion?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 12, 2017 in Talking Apes
Envy lets us know about our rank in the pecking order. But how we respond determines whether the outcome will be destructive or help us become better people.

Animal Envy, by Ralph Nader: A Review

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on April 17, 2017 in Animal Emotions
Ralph Nader's visionary fable, Animal Envy, was motivated by his mostly unknown but obviously longstanding concern for animals. The core message: Animals and humans need one other.

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Why You and Your Partner Need to Celebrate Each Other

It's a bonding experience when our partner helps celebrate our successes and is not envious of our good fortune.

Mentally Strong People Don't Resent Other People's Success

Seeing people have what you want can be hard. But resenting their success will rob you of mental strength.
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When You're in Love, Should You Watch Out for Rivals?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on August 31, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
New research shows that we keep a closer eye on our love rivals if our partner is hotter than us.
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What "Make America Great Again" Means

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on August 27, 2016 in Full Living
In this political climate, and with this upcoming election, judging/mocking/shaming/hating/spewing isn’t going to get us an America that embraces and supports all its citizenry.

Cheating and Consensual Non-Monogamy

People can cheat before, during, and after consensual non-monogamous relationships. This cheating can be emotional and/or physical, involving lying or broken safer sex agreements.

Competing for Love

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 in Life After 50
Is competition for your adult children's love making you miserable? Managing competitive feelings without acting on them can be a major challenge.

Are you Facebook Official?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on July 17, 2016 in Love, Digitally
Social networking has increased the propensity for jealousy. Females desire a degree of approval from others and tend to define themselves in terms of others.

Does Jealousy Help or Hurt Your Relationship?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Talking Apes
An expression of jealousy can either increase or decrease your partner’s relationship satisfaction, depending on the circumstances.

Other People's Great Vacations Don't Have to Get to You

When you’re stuck at home or in the office while others flaunt their fabulous journeys around the world, it can be tough. This will help you get over your case of vacation envy.

5 Ways to Tell If Your Relationship Is Built to Last

Are you riddled with angst over whether or not all is well and secure in your romantic partnership? Here are five ways to help determine if you need to let this relationship go.

Myth: My Jealousy Shows How Much I Love My Partner

You have betrayed me. You have ruined our beautiful world.
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Sibling Rivals and Murder Games

A unique case in the annals of serial murder will finally get a broader audience.

Got Loyalty?

Demonstrating loyalty in all the possible ways we can think of is a direct and mighty way to strengthen the bond.

Polyamorous Relationships and Their Obstacles

Two of the main challenges in poly relationships are exactly those ideals that these groups strive toward: equality and feeling joy knowing your beloved has sex with someone else

Why Would Anybody Engage in Polyamory?

Does polyamory seem confusing and weird? Well, you'll be surprised at what the research shows about it!

Should You Date 'Out of Your League'?

Want to be in a relationship that lasts? You may want to consider a partner close to your own level of attractiveness. Here's why.
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What It Means When You Have a Bad Dream About Your Partner

By Michelle Carr on May 31, 2016 in Dream Factory
Dreaming of infidelity and jealousy can increase conflict and decrease intimacy with your partner the following day.
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10 Disturbing Behaviors in Any Relationship

By Ryan P. Brown Ph.D. on May 31, 2016 in Honor Bound
Have you experienced any of these troubling behaviors in your relationship? Don't let culture increase the odds and camouflage the danger.

Sexual Jealousy or Emotional Jealousy?

Women and men both produce testosterone. Is there a difference in production levels when a romantic rival enters the picture?

Should You Ever Check Your Partner's Texts?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on May 17, 2016 in Love, Digitally
Checking the messages on your partner's phone is going to make you jealous.
Sagarin, B. J., Martin, A. L., Coutinho, S. A., Edlund, J. E., Patel, L., Skowronski, J. J., & Zengel, B. (2012). Sex differences in jealousy: A meta-analytic examination. Evolution and Human Behavior, 33, 595-614.

Sex Differences in Romantic Jealousy: Evolved or Illusory?

Sex differences in jealousy: Evolved or illusory?

Professional Jealousy

By Eliezer Sobel on May 03, 2016 in The 99th Monkey
I know I speak for hordes of writers when I say, “What am I, the chopped liver of our generation?”

Sigmund Freud Had Penis Envy

By Rebecca Coffey on May 02, 2016 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
May 6th is Sigmund Freud's 160th birthday. Let's start the celebration with some secrets. Freud had plenty.

3 Tools to Dissolve Sibling Jealousy

Since all "misbehavior" is driven by upset feelings or unmet needs, the real work here is helping the child resolve feelings that are triggering his aggression.

Victimology: The New Way to Play the Blame Game

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on March 29, 2016 in Memory Medic
The need to walk on eggshells in social interactions makes us isolate ourselves into enclaves of like-minded people.

Open? Poly? Beyond Affairs and Cheating

By Marty Klein PhD on March 28, 2016 in Sexual Intelligence
"Open" and "poly" relationship arrangements have a lot to offer--and they're complicated.

Five Strategies to Manage Jealousy

This blog presents five strategies for dealing with jealousy, from the three D's to sources to get support.

Confronting Jealousy

In the first of a two part blog, this blog looks at jealousy in polyamorous and monogamous relationships.
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The Rich Chinese

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on February 16, 2016 in Minority Report
Are you aware of China's prosperity and the impact it could be having on your psyche?

When You Love Someone Who Doesn't Love You Back

By Jared DeFife Ph.D. on January 27, 2016 in The Shrink Tank
How far would you go to pursue someone who didn't love you back? Author and NYTimes Modern Love column contributor Lisa A. Phillips shares her own story of romantic obsession.