Jealousy Essential Reads

The Relationship Benefits of Going “Facebook Official”

On Facebook, one of the secrets of relational success is publicly disclosing relational status. This digital promise ring reflects stronger, more committed relationships.

Four Ways Healthy Love Can Turn Toxic

Coupling up and committing can bring enormous joy and wellbeing. When done poorly however, what once felt like closeness can easily turn toxic. Here are four traps to avoid.

Can Envy Ever Be a Positive Emotion?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 12, 2017 in Talking Apes
Envy lets us know about our rank in the pecking order. But how we respond determines whether the outcome will be destructive or help us become better people.

Animal Envy, by Ralph Nader: A Review

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on April 17, 2017 in Animal Emotions
Ralph Nader's visionary fable, Animal Envy, was motivated by his mostly unknown but obviously longstanding concern for animals. The core message: Animals and humans need one other.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Recognizing Mistakes

We can hurt our loved one when we fail to keep our word, lie, cause harm or havoc, are hurtful, and sometimes just fail to think. Acknowledging our miss-steps shows love.

4 Sure Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If a pattern of toxic love describes your relationship, there is a way out of this spiral. Here are four signs that suggest your relationship very well may be toxic.

Good Divorce Advice: Resist the Urge to Compare

By Wendy Paris on January 17, 2017 in Splitopia
It can be hard to avoid negative self-comparison, but you want to remain focused on your own path.

10 Reasons Why We Never Forget Our Childhood Bullies

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 17, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What we all remember about our childhood bullies.

10 Essential Tips for Long-Term Love

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 18, 2016 in Life, Refracted
Strategies that will help you transform the initial feelings of love into a life-long relationship.

Jealousy as a Narcissistic Wound

A psychological state that feels like jealousy to one person may not feel like jealousy to another.

Feeling Happy for Others Can Make You Happy

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on November 02, 2016 in Turning Straw Into Gold
Here’s my recipe letting other people’s joy make you happy. The true wonder of this is that the more you’re able to feel happy for others, the happier you’ll feel yourself.

5 Ways Money Issues Can Ruin Relationships

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Issues surrounding money are one of the most common conflicts within relationships, even where there is plenty of love. Here are five ways that money damages partnerships.

The Antidote to Envy

Envy tells us that someone, somewhere has it all—but it just isn’t true. The best we can do is be thankful for what we have and try to do something useful with it.

What's Going on When You Stay in Touch With Your Ex

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on September 18, 2016 in Close Encounters
New research shows having contact with an ex could harm a new relationship; whether it does depends on the motives for staying in touch.

Sibling Rivalry

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 in Life After 50
Is sibling rivalry inevitable? What can parents do to minimize it?

The Opposite of Jealousy

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on August 03, 2016 in Sex & Sociability
Is jealousy a natural part of a romantic or sexual relationship? It doesn't have to be.

10 Tips to Protect Yourself From Cyberstalking

Cyberstalking is a quickly escalating problem that’s more likely to occur in an addictive personality. It's important to be careful with how you conduct your romantic life online.

Why Women Can't Accept Compliments

By Jen Kim on March 29, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Don't know how to say 'thank you' when someone says something nice? Here's why.

Schadenfreude: The Joy in Seeing Others Fail

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 19, 2016 in A Sideways View
Some people experience more pleasure from seeing others fail than themselves succeeding. Is it healthy? Is this just envy and jealousy?

Harbaugh's Coaching Genius Strikes Again

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on March 06, 2016 in Obesely Speaking
Jim Harbaugh is thinking outside of the box, while the rest of college football is just realizing there is a box.

Should You Ever Have Sex With Your Ex?

By Wendy Paris on February 23, 2016 in Splitopia
About one-third of divorced couples find themselves turning to each other for physical intimacy. While the reasons may be many, it carries risks to consider.

Lessons from Will Ferrell and Mark Wahlberg's New Film

If you want some insights into human evolved psychology and don’t mind laughing your head off, then "Daddy’s Home," featuring Will Farrell and Mark Wahlberg, is for you!

Does Narcissism Drive Your Urge to Compete?

The competitive urge can strike in otherwise friendly situations to douse your good feelings about someone close to you. Here’s how to understand and cope with one-upmanship.

The Real Reason Using Facebook Makes You Feel Bad

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on December 03, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Why does using Facebook make some people feel bad and what can you do about it? Read on to find out.

What to Do When Social Media Make You Miserable

Social networks can often stimulate the unpleasant emotions of shame and envy. Here's how to shrug off those posts that peeve you.
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Coping With Your Envy: Turning Envy on Its Head

By Robert L. Leahy Ph.D. on November 07, 2015 in Anxiety Files
Envy can lead to depression and hostility and can undermine you at work and with your friends. Here are a few ideas of how to turn envy around.

Is Online Infidelity Really Infidelity?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on September 16, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Online liaisons are not necessarily considered to be unfaithful behaviour. Sexual infidelity online is no threat to a male’s certainty of paternity

Mental Illness Does Not Equal Dangerous, Mostly

By Carrie Barron M.D. on September 14, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
There are many different kinds of mental illness and most people with these conditions are not dangerous. However a certain mix of psychological ailments combined with other known risk factors can be a set up for violent crime. If we can clear up the misunderstandings we will be in a better position to predict and protect.

Venus v. Serena Williams: Reflecting on Sibling Relationship

By Peg Streep on September 08, 2015 in Tech Support
What a tennis competition between sisters can teach us all about this most extended of family relationships...

The Archeology of Misbehavior

Archeology is the study of human activity in the past. The archeology of misbehavior is studying current behavior to uncover hidden sources. The “ruins” of misdeeds are built upon personality architecture and cultural landscapes.