Essential Reads

Envy and Your Facebook Feed

By Susan Biali M.D. on December 16, 2017 in Prescriptions for Life
Do you feel envious when scrolling through Facebook? Might others feel envious when looking at what you post? Here's why both matter.

Power: Five Non-Traditional Views

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on October 30, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
Is your basic life-orientation to seek power over others or to use what power you have to be in service to others? Five ideas are presented to help you self-examine power.

We Project Onto Romantic Partners Our Own Desires to Cheat

We are often convinced that mistrust of our romantic partners is well-founded. Sometimes it is, but research suggests that suspicion also comes from our own attraction to others.

The Surprising Secret to a Relationship That Lasts

Good relationships aren’t just born, but have to mature over time. The newest research reveals that the relationships which are most successful involve shared mutual goals.

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Adoption and Sibling Relationships

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on December 06, 2017 in Cravings
What role does adoption play in the development of bonds between brothers and sisters? Researchers are looking for answers.
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How to Cope When You’re Envious of a Friend

By Miriam Kirmayer on November 28, 2017 in Casual to Close
As we move through life, the more our paths diverge from those of our friends, and the more important it becomes to learn how to manage feelings of envy.

Why Undergo Cosmetic Surgery?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Attraction, Evolved
Two new studies investigate why women decide to undergo cosmetic surgery. How influential are partners and the culture we live in?

Some People Truly Don’t Feel Jealousy

Some people in long-term polyamorous relationships initially report that they do not feel jealousy, but over time many of them encounter jealousy triggers in their relationships.

52 Ways: What Motivates Others Who Threaten a Relationship?

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 12, 2017 in Life, Refracted
A couple's relationship can be threatened by others. To minimize potential damage, explore conscious or unconscious motives that a third party might have.

Avoiding the Comparison Trap

By Atalanta Beaumont on November 08, 2017 in Handy Hints for Humans
How to celebrate the uniqueness of you.

My Mother Has Too Many Boyfriends

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on November 07, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
How To Deal With Your Mother's Boyfriend Choices.

Male Monkeys Show Neural and Hormonal Correlates of Jealousy

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on November 01, 2017 in Animal Emotions
Male titi monkeys who form strong pair bonds with their mates show neural and hormonal changes indicating jealousy when their partner is observed close to a strange male.

The Neurobiology of Jealousy

By Christopher Bergland on October 23, 2017 in The Athlete's Way
A first-of-its-kind study on the neurobiology of jealousy in monogamous monkeys sheds light on how male jealousy operates in humans, too.

Feeling Like a Phony, an Imposter, and a Fake? You Can Stop.

It doesn't go away, but if you work at it, usually with a good therapist, feelings of being a fake come less often, pass more swiftly, and do less damage.

Can You Remain Friends With Your Ex?

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on September 27, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Are all your major exes still in your life and would you like them to be?

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.

5 Common Reasons We Hold Grudges

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Learn what causes people to hold on to grudges.

How to Deal When a Friend's Success Leaves You in the Dust

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on August 28, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Most of us want to be happy for our friend's successes. But when they hit us where it hurts, weathering the disruption can be tough. Here's how to handle it.

Are you Generating Instagram Envy? How to Post, Not Boast

Although starstruck Instagram followers enjoy living vicariously, posters are most likely to generate goodwill through showcasing a life of love, not luxury.

12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist

By Meredith Resnick L.C.S.W. on August 15, 2017 in More Than Caregiving
Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.

The Problem with Assuming Others Are Perfect

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 07, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Assuming others live perfect lives is problematic.

Should You Worry About Your Partner´s Attractive "Friends?"

How many of you have felt anxious upon meeting a new paramour´s gorgeous "good friend?" Friendship attraction is a relational complication that is a blessing and a curse.

Are Not Emotions Persons?

“The only question left to be settled now is: Are women persons? And I hardly believe any of our opponents will have the hardihood to say they are not." —Susan B. Anthony

What’s “Emotional Reasoning”—And Why Is It Such a Problem?

One of the most baffling psychological problems is to acutely feel the reality of something without its having any basis in fact. Here are some examples...
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My Best Advice for Graduates: 12 Tips for a Happy Life

By Gretchen Rubin on May 24, 2017 in The Happiness Project
What advice would you give to a graduate?

How Does a Narcissist Think?

Here is how narcissistic behavior is dangerous and harmful to others.

Is Monogamy Really the Key to Happiness?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 28, 2017 in Talking Apes
The common wisdom is that open relationships are less satisfying and more prone to jealousy than conventional matrimony. But the data say otherwise.

Toppling the Boss

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 12, 2017 in How To Do Life
Learn ethical ways to oust the bad and to protect yourself if you're the good.

Do Narcissists Make Their Partners Jealous on Purpose?

What motivates narcissistic people to make others jealous? Research sheds light on why some narcissists do it on purpose, and others out of insecurity.

What Toxic Jealousy Reveals

A wound that never heals repeatedly gets re-injured, leaving a person to feel entirely powerless. Ask yourself these 3 questions to begin escaping the toxic jealousy spiral.

The Science of Schadenfreude

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 27, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Sometimes we laugh at someone else’s misfortune. We’ve all done it, even if we aren't proud of it. But once we know why we do what we do, we can choose to do something else.

Mental Health and the Effects of Social Media

Facebook got you down? A shift in perspective may be the answer.

Do Cleaner Shrimp Get Jealous?

By Peter Toohey Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Annals of the Emotions
The jealous triangle is usually reckoned to be one on one, with the prize, say, a lover. But it’s not all sex, it’s not all one on one, and it’s not all humans.