Essential Reads

We Project Onto Romantic Partners Our Own Desires to Cheat

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on October 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We are often convinced that mistrust of our romantic partners is well-founded. Sometimes it is but research suggests that suspicion also comes from our own attraction to others.

Four Ways to Build a Stronger and Longer Relationship

Good relationships aren’t just born, but have to mature over time. The newest research reveals that the relationships which are most successful involve shared mutual goals.

The 4 Main Reasons Why People Stay Friends With Their Exes

Will a friendship with your ex-romantic partner work out? It depends on your motives.

Don't Be Jealous!

What is jealousy? Can we escape from it? Are you a jealous person?

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Can You Remain Friends With Your Ex?

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on September 27, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Are all your major exes still in your life and would you like them to be?

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.

5 Common Reasons We Hold Grudges

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Learn what causes people to hold on to grudges.

How to Deal When a Friend's Success Leaves You in the Dust

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on August 28, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Most of us want to be happy for our friend's successes. But when they hit us where it hurts, weathering the disruption can be tough. Here's how to handle it.

Are you Generating Instagram Envy? How to Post, Not Boast

Although starstruck Instagram followers enjoy living vicariously, posters are most likely to generate goodwill through showcasing a life of love, not luxury.

12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist

Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.

The Problem with Assuming Others Are Perfect

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 07, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Assuming others live perfect lives is problematic.

Should You Worry About Your Partner´s Attractive "Friends?"

How many of you have felt anxious upon meeting a new paramour´s gorgeous "good friend?" Friendship attraction is a relational complication that is a blessing and a curse.

Are Not Emotions Persons?

“The only question left to be settled now is: Are women persons? And I hardly believe any of our opponents will have the hardihood to say they are not." —Susan B. Anthony

What’s “Emotional Reasoning”—And Why Is It Such a Problem?

One of the most baffling psychological problems is to acutely feel the reality of something without its having any basis in fact. Here are some examples...
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My Best Advice for Graduates: 12 Tips for a Happy Life

What advice would you give to a graduate?

How Does a Narcissist Think?

Here is how narcissistic behavior is dangerous and harmful to others.

Is Monogamy Really the Key to Happiness?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 28, 2017 in Talking Apes
The common wisdom is that open relationships are less satisfying and more prone to jealousy than conventional matrimony. But the data say otherwise.

Toppling the Boss

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 12, 2017 in How To Do Life
Learn ethical ways to oust the bad and to protect yourself if you're the good.

Do Narcissists Make Their Partners Jealous on Purpose?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on April 03, 2017 in ExperiMentations
What motivates narcissistic people to make others jealous? Research sheds light on why some narcissists do it on purpose, and others out of insecurity.

What Toxic Jealousy Reveals

A wound that never heals repeatedly gets re-injured, leaving a person to feel entirely powerless. Ask yourself these 3 questions to begin escaping the toxic jealousy spiral.

The Science of Schadenfreude

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 27, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Sometimes we laugh at someone else’s misfortune. We’ve all done it, even if we aren't proud of it. But once we know why we do what we do, we can choose to do something else.

Mental Health and the Effects of Social Media

Facebook got you down? A shift in perspective may be the answer.

Do Cleaner Shrimp Get Jealous?

By Peter Toohey Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Annals of the Emotions
The jealous triangle is usually reckoned to be one on one, with the prize, say, a lover. But it’s not all sex, it’s not all one on one, and it’s not all humans.

My Daughter Has Been Rejecting Me for Years

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 09, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
How to deal with rejection from your young adult daughter.
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Kristen and Dax: Can You Cheat Jealousy?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on February 06, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
A united front?

Are Thoughts of Your Ex's Past Lovers Still Haunting You?

Why is it so painful to think about your ex's sexual encounters, when you won them back in the end? Read along for five possible reasons that your heart is still aching.

Talking About the Affair

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on January 30, 2017 in Divorce Busting
If the betrayed spouse has endless questions about what happened, should he or she ask?

Who Killed JonBenet?

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on January 18, 2017 in Evil Deeds
What can forensic psychology tell us about the still unsolved JonBenet Ramsey case?

The Danger of Ignoring Your Partner

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on January 11, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Smartphones provide a way for people to stay closely connected with family and friends, but what impact do they have on romantic partners and relationships?

My Divorced Father Is Dating & I Am Jealous

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on January 03, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Handling Jealousy About A Parent's Dating

Recovery from Betrayal and Infidelity Part I

We’ve lost count of the number of times that we have heard from those who have been unfaithful in their partnerships, that “if I’d known then what I know now..."

When Love Becomes Infiltrated by Hate

Passionate love and hate are obsessive emotions, whereas indifference is a a kind of numbness that likely sparks an absence of action as opposed to reaction.

Infidelity, Open Relationships, and Polyamory

Some romantic partners are convinced that they can provide everything the other person needs. Not so.

Why We Hate Our Exes

Your craving for a dopamine fix that only your ex can provide can also make you angry and hateful toward the one person who is withholding your "drug" from you: your ex.