Essential Reads

Does Your Face Communicate How You Truly Feel?

"Resting Bitch Face" theory and what it means for your relationships

5 New Insights on Anger

Number 3 will blow your freaking mind.

Life’s Endings and How We Make Sense out of Them

At life transition points, it’s your sense of self that counts in the end

How to Get the Most Out of Your Vacation

Vacations shouldn't be stressful.

Recent Posts on Happiness

Does Your Face Communicate How You Truly Feel?

The phenomenon of “Resting Bitch Face (RBF)” is a new take on an old problem; namely, that women need to smile to be seen favorably. This raises the question of how we communicate our feelings through our faces and what we can, or cannot, change about how we’re perceived.

Happiness and Your Enneagram Type

By Elizabeth Wagele on August 04, 2015 in The Career Within You
Jan Conlon, a One, says happiness to her means "seeing the perfection in absolutely everything. Finding the humor and gifts of growth in mistakes.”

Blathering, the Game

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 04, 2015 in On Having Fun
We could blather about issues disturbingly profound and teasingly inane, free associating with what- and whomever whilst we freely associate.

Why We Need Work

As much as we might like to inhabit another vision – perhaps lounging on the deck of our new home as we gaze at the ocean across an unpopulated beach – it would be our undoing. What work teaches, and what the Puritans emphasized, is the value of charting a trajectory for one’s life and of maintaining that trajectory.

Inviting Mara to Tea

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Finding True Refuge
One of my favorite stories of the Buddha shows the power of a wakeful and friendly heart.

Sharing Is Important, Not Easy

More adult sons and daughters are returning to the family nest to live; which complicates life for both them and their parents.

Soliloquest

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 03, 2015 in On Having Fun
Talking to yourself is sometimes very, very fun.

My College Roommate Sent Me a Sketch of Myself

By Gretchen Rubin on August 03, 2015 in The Happiness Project
It’s funny, though, what can unleash a memory.

5 New Insights on Anger

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Curious?
Here I present "in press" research for the first time on what we learned by examining 2342 episodes of intense anger in everyday life. What we found introduces new insights into this complex emotional experience.

Single Life—Now Even Couples Want a Piece of It

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Living Single
After decades in which living single has been stereotyped and stigmatized, is it now becoming something that even couples want a piece of?

10 Anger Quotes That Will Transform Your Life

By Steven Laurent on August 03, 2015 in Chill Pill
Number three is genius!

What Does Your Body Say About You?

Your body may be trying to tell you something - are you listening? How will you respond?

Take Action – Now!

Nothing, absolutely nothing, will change without doing what's necessary to bring it about. Wishing won't, hoping won't, even praying won't. Only doing will. In this blog through the magical ACT formula, bring more pleasure, satisfaction, and happiness into your life.

The Zen Of Happy Motherhood

Happy mothers-what does it take? We have one of the most demanding jobs in the world, yet when it comes to recuperation, you'd be surprised how little we actually need....

Life’s Endings and How We Make Sense out of Them

When something important in your life comes to an end, whether your career or your relationship, the process may be more difficult to cope with than you might realize. Ultimately, it’s your identity, and the sense you make of that ending, which will determine how you emerge from life’s transition points.

5 Ways that "Good Enough" is Better than "Best"

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on August 01, 2015 in Off the Couch
A mom I know was trying to arrange a birthday party for her child. “I want it to be the best party ever!” she said. “I want her to have memories of this party for the rest of her life.” What's wrong here?

Hey, You—Get Out of the Water!

Doctors should pay attention not just to what is wrong with the patient's body, but to what other people are saying about it.

How to Get the Most Out of Your Vacation

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on July 31, 2015 in In Love and War
Vacation time is precious, and most people don’t get nearly enough of it. So how can you make the most of the time you do have? Research suggests that these eight strategies may help.

Taking Egoism Out of Consumerism

In a two part series, we invite readers to find the egoism in their consumerism and push it aside to make room for solidarity and a new kind of consumer society rooted in sustainability--of healthy conditions in the world's workplaces, fun spaces, and ecosystems. In this column we look at how inward-looking consumerism offers no way out of our stress filled digital lives.

What Can Anger Do for Me?

How to use anger wisely and keep yourself safe.

Henry David Thoreau: “Simplify, Simplify”

We’re probably not going to do what Henry David Thoreau did and live at a lake to make our lives simple. But we could move in that direction.

Out-of-the-Box Activities to Push You Off Autopilot

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 31, 2015 in How To Do Life
Many of us become victims of habit. These activities may disrupt that.

Shortcut to Understanding Others

Speed Dating With Speed Testing

The Value of Sadness

We tend to pass on the message that sadness is bad and should be avoided. Yet, research has shown that sadness can be an adaptive emotion with real benefits. Sadness can make us feel more vital and centered within ourselves. So, why is it that we are so afraid to feel sad?

How to Stop Beating Yourself Up

How to stop being your own worst bully.

Warts and All: Why We Prefer People Who Aren't Perfect

For all those who live in fear of making a mistake, take heart. According to research, making mistakes makes us more, not less, likable.

Bliss on Two Wheels

By Susan Hooper on July 30, 2015 in Detours and Tangents
It took me forever to learn to ride a bicycle as a child, and as an adult I went for years without putting foot to pedal. Now I am making up for lost time, convinced that bicycling benefits the body and the soul.

Be Yourself, Act Yourself, and Be a Hero

By Ran Zilca on July 30, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
The first step on this “heroic journey”, to be a hero for your children, spouse, friends, or coworkers, is simply to know who you are.

Punk Music Isn't "Bad"

New research explores whether extreme music (e.g. heavy metal and punk) makes you angrier, or helps you process and regulate your anger.

How Do You Feel About Gifts?

By Gretchen Rubin on July 29, 2015 in The Happiness Project
How about you? How do you feel about gifts?