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The Danger of Telling Kids "You Can Do Anything!"

Telling kids that they can do anything may have unexpected downsides. There is a better way.

When You've Been Bad, Is it Enough to Say You're Sorry?

Regret may seem like a watered down version of an apology but, according to new research, honest feelings of regret will have more lasting effects on behavior.

Walking Can Lift Your Mood, Even When You Don't Expect It To

By Linda Wasmer Andrews on August 18, 2016 in Minding the Body
Feeling bored and sluggish at work? A new study shows that walking may be good for your mood, even if you’re strolling down a drab hallway and facing a dreaded chore afterward.

Hugs and Warm Touches Benefit Health and Well-Being

By Allen R McConnell Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in The Social Self
Need a hug? Research shows positive interpersonal touching fights illness, increases happiness and well-being, and supports social connectedness with others.

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Every Stereotype of Single People, Debunked by Science

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in Living Single
Stereotypes of single people are not true. Some negative perceptions of single people are as true – or even more true – of married people as they are of single people.

The Therapeutic Value of Nature

By Dan Mager MSW on August 26, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Research suggests that spending time in nature can be extremely beneficial, leading to improvements in mood, cognition, and health.
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Stop Giving Your Power Away to Others

Take back your power with these 5 steps on dealing with difficult people! Own your reactions and actions, and shift the dynamic to lessen the sting inflicted by a negative person.

Serious Learning Happens at Summer Camp - Without Technology

For those ending a summer at camp, the transition back to home, school and screen time can be infused with lessons from June, July and August.

Dancing With the Shadow: A Conversation With Connie Zweig

By Mark Matousek on August 24, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
The pioneering Jungian analyst talks about the gifts of the shadow and the importance of bringing mindfulness, as well as compassion, to our forbidden zones.

Choosing the Mindful Path in the Woods

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on August 24, 2016 in Divorce Busting
How my self-induced attitude adjustment changed my day...and my life.

How Happy Are You?

If researchers really wanted to know how happy people are, they’d ask those people’s colleagues, neighbors, and family members, not the people themselves.

Why It Can Be So Hard to Stay Happy

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on August 21, 2016 in Out of the Ooze
Can being too content actually be bad for you?
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Tune in to Your Inner Olympians

By Margaret Moore on August 20, 2016 in Life Changes
Are you wondering how to organize inside out? Here's a new model of the human psyche, an adult version of the Pixar movie, Inside Out.

Stories of Our Good Single Lives: Thank You, Kim Calvert!

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 20, 2016 in Living Single
How a “singles expo” exposed the worst of single life and inspired Kim Calvert to create a magazine that instead shows us the best of being single.

Getting Serious About Your Marriage Is No Joke

It is a popular misconception that marriage counselors have some kind of magical powers that can fix relationships.

How to Build a Happier Brain in Two Easy Steps

By Meg Selig on August 19, 2016 in Changepower
Learn Rick Hanson's simple two-step process for "hardwiring" positive experiences into your brain so that you can feel happier, calmer, and more confident.
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News Flash: Watching TV with Your Sweetheart...

By Gretchen Rubin on August 19, 2016 in The Happiness Project
After all, after sleeping and work, watching TV is the biggest consumer of the world’s time.

Take Back Control and Reach for the Stars

By Atalanta Beaumont on August 19, 2016 in Handy Hints for Humans
How to take back control and make it work for you
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Who Are You?

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on August 18, 2016 in In Control
Angst, stress, and inner torment can arise when the goals of different mes are incompatible or even oppositional.
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The Power of Healthy Shame

While toxic shame is destructive, healthy, friendly shame can offer a path toward seeing more clearly how we are affecting others. Friendly shame can get our attention.

How Olya Viglione Stays True to Herself

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on August 18, 2016 in Brick by Brick
Throughout her life, Olya Viglione, the singer and piano player of the band Scarlet Sails, has had people telling her what to be and what to do.

Letter to Young Activists

This post is adapted from a talk recently given to young community organizers about self-care and well-being on the journey to a more compassionate and just society.

The Joys of Going Off the Map

By Melody Warnick on August 17, 2016 in This Is Where You Belong
Can you navigate from point A to point B without a GPS? Allowing yourself to get distracted might help.
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Eight Traits of People With Healthy Self-Esteem

Heightened self-esteem comes about by continuing to take those baby steps, then making small decisions and seeing small results.

Are You Single? You're Likely to Have a More Fulfilling Life

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in The New Resilience
New research finds that single people are not lonely and unhappy, as the stereotype describes. Rather, they experience greater fulfillment and personal growth than married people.

A Simple Way to Be Happier, Healthier, and More Successful

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in Making Change
Inadequate sleep may be undermining you in ways you don’t realize, or don’t take seriously. The solution is simple; if only you’d give it a try.
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Happiness Is Not Set in Stone

Your happiness might be more controllable than you think.

How Could They Have Said That?

Sometimes condolences can hurt more than help.

How We Color Our Lives With the Emotions We Desire

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on August 15, 2016 in Between Cultures
"Ideal affect" offers insights into the complexities of our emotional worlds, our preferences and our behaviors.

Can Disappointment Become an Addiction?

When disappointment and hurt have been deep and consistent, it can, paradoxically, become pleasurable.

My Mother's Best Relationship Advice in Seven Words

When I was a little girl growing up in Brooklyn, my mother taught me a lesson of great value. It took only seven words.

On a Cup of Coffee

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 13, 2016 in How To Do Life
Gratitude as an anti-sadness "medication."

Study: If You Believe in Exercise, It'll Make You Feel Good

By Christopher Bergland on August 12, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
Do you consider physical activity to be a source of joy or pure torture? If you hate to exercise, research suggests that you might be creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Why We Love Watching the Olympics

The American women Olympic gymnasts are not simply amazing athletes; their stories are inspiring reminders of how struggling through challenge empowers us all.