Happiness Essential Reads

Six Ways to Get What You Want without Whining

We tend to associate whining with the behavior of toddlers, but there are plenty of adults who could equal the whininess of any two-year-old. These 6 tips will help you turn your complaints into effective strategies to get others to gladly give you what you want.

7 Ways to Mitigate Self-Doubt

Are you struggling with self-confidence? Learn how to overcome negative thinking and live to your fullest potential. Here are seven tips to mitigate self-doubt and create a new path to renewed confidence.

The No-Vacation Nation

By Shimi Kang M.D. on July 01, 2015 in The Dolphin Way
Who killed summer vacation? That’s the million dollar question - literally. We’ve all seen it. Most of us have even been this person at one point or another: You know, the one who sits poolside at a resort glued to their smartphone or laptop, and whose entire holiday itinerary revolves around whether or not WiFi will be readily available.

How the Ownership of Something Increases Our Valuations

When we own something we begin to value it more than other people do.

5 "Flaws" That Make You More Lovable

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in In Love and War
You may think that people love you despite your flaws, not because of them. But some of the traits that you see as flaws may be more attractive than you realize.

The Compassionate Way to End a Relationship

Ending a relationship involves pain for both partners, regardless of who initiates the breakup. Although the well-known song proclaims there are 50 ways to leave your lover, the literature identifies 47. People high in compassionate love will be the most likely to use the least painful of these breakup strategies.

3 Reasons Not to Spend Your Money on Things

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on June 30, 2015 in Between You and Me
The other weekend I went to the mall in search of new running shoes. When I arrived, the parking lot was so full that I had to circle around before I found a spot. The stores were equally crowded inside. Apparently none of these shoppers had read Leaf Van Boven's 2005 review article highlighting the benefits of spending money on experiences over material goods.

Happiness With Life 10: Practice Curiosity

Contrary to popular wisdom, curiosity enriches the cat, not kills it. Learn the benefits to your happiness in being curious and the five strategies to incorporate it into your daily routine.

Humanism: To Think Is to Act

Humanism: Moving towards pre-frontal cortex functioning and moving away from reptilian brain functioning

3 Reasons to Seek Awe (and Ways to Spur the Feeling)

Whether it comes from looking up at the night sky or wrapping your mind around quantum theory, awe has the power to change your life—and maybe make the world a better place.

Embracing Hardship, a Surprising Secret to Happiness

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Feeling It
We try to avoid pain and difficulty. Research shows that embracing it will help.

The Cure for Fear, Grief, and Death

When Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s infant son was kidnapped and murdered, only this story helped her.

How to Stop Re-Creating Your Past and Finally Break Free

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on June 28, 2015 in Living Forward
If no matter how hard you try you keep ending up in the same place, it may be that you don’t realize you are creating your life by recreating the past over and over again because the brain works on the principle of anticipation. Learn how to break free of the cycle that is keeping you trapped.

Is High Self-Esteem Bad for You?

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on June 28, 2015 in A Sideways View
Research suggests that the belief that bolstering self-esteem leads to many positive psychological and behavioural consequences may be misguided. Indeed it could have seriously unintended consequences and make matters worse

Surprising Links Between Gratefulness, Money and Happiness

Research finds unexpected ways in which your level of happiness and materialism are effected by your experience of gratitude in life.

A Little Good News for a Change

Many studies have shown that couples who enjoy long-term, fulfilling relationships, also tend to experience enhanced self-esteem, clarity of life purpose, a tendency to view things optimistically, and generally, better health.

Supreme Court Upholds Marriage Ideology

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in Love, Inc
We can celebrate the Supreme Court decision on marriage equality without swallowing the Supreme Court's marriage ideology.

Are You Numb to Pleasure? How to See Life with New Eyes

We can have the most amazing life, if we live in the present moment without being attached or focused on the future; not being stuck in the past, just living in the now and seeing everything with those beginner eyes.

A Surprising Influence on Your Emotions

By Guest Blogger on June 24, 2015 in Brainstorm
Recent research has found that group members actually become more similar in their expressions of anger and gratitude over time.

Creating a Home Alone, After Divorce

By Wendy Paris on June 23, 2015 in Splitopia
While it can seem sad and overwhelming to create a home alone after co-habitating with a spouse or partner, it’s also a chance to choose new décor, a new abode or even a new city that better supports and reflects you.

9 Ways to Handle Nosy People

Some questions are just too personal, but you’re worried that if you don’t answer them, you’ll seem rude. These 9 tips will give you a graceful way to duck the question and help you protect you from future, similar, assaults on your privacy. You'll also gain important insight into yourself and your sensitivities in the process.

The Secret to a Fulfilling Life Is Not What You Might Think

The secret to a fulfilling life is not what you might think.

The Simple Exercise That Will Lead You Toward Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on June 21, 2015 in Finding Love
The path to love is never simple. When we decide to pursue our longing for love, we’re led down a path with challenges we might never have dreamed of. For me, the decision to become a father—as a forty-something, single gay man---is what changed everything. In this post, I’d like to offer a potent exercise for following your own call to love—and share my personal story.

How to Be Grateful for Not-So-Great Dads

With Father's Day approaching and blogs abuzz about what makes the quintessential dad, or top ‘pop’ gifts, what about those who have not-so-great dads? Is it possible for them to appreciate a holiday dedicated to fathers? Let’s get real and accept that mediocre or “bad” dads exist and consider this for a second: can one be thankful for a terrible father?

This May Be the Secret to Happiness in Relationships

You may think the best way to deepen your relationship is to have serious, deep discussions about your thoughts and feelings. However, it may be that sharing a smile rather than deep feelings can be as good, if not better, for your relationship’s long-term health.

Why It's Good to Go Alone

By Polly Campbell on June 11, 2015 in Imperfect Spirituality
Worries about what others will think can keep us couch bound. But you may be surprised what happens when you head out for some fun on your own.

Are We Doomed to Fail in Love?

Hedonic adaptation and feeling dissatisfied are two major tendencies that prevent us from being too happy. Do they also prevent us from being too much in love? Are we doomed to fail in love, just as we are generally fated not to be very happy?

What Makes You So Special? It's Time You Found Out.

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on June 10, 2015 in Think, Act, Be
Why do we treat ourselves worse than we'd treat an enemy? We can learn to be more compassionate with ourselves.

Weight Loss Motivation: Secrets to Staying on Track, Part 1

A recent meta-analysis study in the Journal of the American Medical Association looked at different weight loss plans and found no significant difference between the success of one program versus another. It came down to the individual’s motivation to stay with the program that made all the difference.

When Should You Trust Your Intuition?

It may make you nervous to trust your intuition, especially in an important life decision. However, if we redefine intuition as insight, it’s possible to see the process of listening to your “gut” as having many potential benefits.