Essential Reads

Why We Get Such Dumb Advice about Love, Money & Health

How to recognize the smart advice and snub the dregs

Why I Can't..... or Why Can't I?

The beliefs we carry write the script of our life.

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

Simple steps to get to a better place.

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

Why prior experience does not always lead to empathy

Recent Posts on Happiness

Life Is Not A Premortality Condition

By Allen J Frances M.D. on April 21, 2015 in Saving Normal
Western medical science has changed life into a premortality condition and death into a failure of treatment.

The Real Deal about Deal Breakers

One of the most frequently asked questions that we get from our readers and students is “What are the deal-breakers in relationships?” “Deal-breakers” are those behaviors or conditions that one partner is unable or unwilling to tolerate in a relationship.

Why We Get Such Dumb Advice about Love, Money & Health

Does not every teenager already know you should comb your hair and look for a kind, suitable partner? What kind of dumb advice is this?

How to Get Your Swagger Back

By Polly Campbell on April 20, 2015 in Imperfect Spirituality
The daily routine can leave us feeling stalled on the fast-track. But there are plenty of ways to get unstuck and feel greater satisfaction in life.

Backward America

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on April 20, 2015 in Hidden Motives
Do we just take it for granted that the U.S. is the best at everything? We don’t seem to notice how bad things really are or how much better off other countries are in ways we used to excel.

You Can't Fix Everything

I’m much more at peace since I stopped trying to fix everyone’s life, including my own. It’s making it easier to take those unfixable moments in stride and to appreciate happiness and joy when they happen to come my way.

Why I Can't..... or Why Can't I?

Our beliefs and thoughts impact our lives more than any relationship.It would be wise to evaluate how we came to them and whether they truly serve us.

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

How do you recover from one of the most painful life experiences?

Don't Overthink!

By Temma Ehrenfeld on April 20, 2015 in Open Gently
Be compassionate to yourself during writing exercises.

As A Nation, How Can We Best Empower Our Gifted Kids?

Should your child move ahead to that advanced math class? Should they skip a grade? Should they enter college early? What impact will that have on their educational and social/emotional trajectory? What does the research evidence tell us?

Routine, Grit, and Vision

Establishing simple, repeatable, and mundane routines set you up for a life of adventure in everything. Small steps, big rewards.

Lovely Me

Amy loses weight by squarely facing her emotional eating patterns and envisions living the life in the body of her choice.

3 Simple Steps to Control Anger and Frustration with Others

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on April 19, 2015 in Living Forward
The majority of anger and frustration in life, no matter what the situation, has at it’s basis one simple thought….It shouldn’t be this way. Learn what to do when other people don't play by our rules.

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 19, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
When you want to reach out after an emotionally distressing event, which person is more likely to be compassionate and supportive, someone who has been through a similar experience or someone who has not? Read on to find out...

10 Tips to Change From Reactive to Proactive in Situations

All of us encounter experiences in life when we may be temporally overwhelmed by a negative emotion, be it anger, pressure, nervousness, despair, or confusion. In these situations, how we choose to “master the moment” can make the difference between proactive versus reactive, and confidence versus insecurity. Here are ten ways to be less reactive in difficult situations...

A Psychologist’s Guide to People Watching

The art of people watching most likely dates back to earliest civilization. Putting psychology’s knowledge about nonverbal behavior to use can help you become a pro at this basic human pastime.

Identifying with the “No-Self”

If we can live one moment at a time, we’ll free ourselves like a young child and we’ll discover life can be beautiful. The small changes add up and make a difference.

What Causes You Inner Turmoil?

Being in heated conflict not with others but with yourself can—let’s face it—be agonizing. To be split down the middle, to endlessly waver between two (and sometimes more) options, can at its worst be almost unimaginably distressing. Obsessive to an extreme, it can lead to a paralysis of will (not to mention, much lost sleep). . . .

The Art of Friendships: Lessons from David and Goliath

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on April 17, 2015 in Curious?
I have been thinking deeply about the importance of friendships. This is not the first post I have written on the topic. Here are some thoughts, extending the story laid out in Malcolm Gladwell's last book, David and Goliath....

The Voice Inside Your Head

We all carry a voice inside our head. What if your internal voice is doing you no good; how do you change it?

Putting the Happiness Back in “Young and Happy”

By Ran Zilca on April 17, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
Happiness is a by-product of the pursuit of success, rather than successful accomplishments. Individuals who are actively engaged in the pursuit of goals that are meaningful to them, experience a range of positive emotions and become happier.

Jennie Garth: Can You "Win" the Breakup?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in Shrink Wrap
Endings or beginnings?

Can You Really Calm Disturbing Feelings With Just One Word?

By Meg Selig on April 16, 2015 in Changepower
Can one word calm your agitated feelings? Yes! Try this simple and effective word magic and ease your distress in a nanosecond.

Feeling Financially Overwhelmed?

By Michael F. Kay on April 16, 2015 in Financial Life Focus
Life is busy and maybe even overwhelming at times.

Does Your Baby Like Music?

Do you know what music your baby likes best? Can you even find out? We invented a way to let our babies choose music for themselves and it even helped them sleep better.

If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them

By Allison Carmen on April 16, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
"If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them." Mother Teresa Our judgments interfere with many of our relationships. Often we get so consumed with everything our spouse, child, friend or co-worker is not doing right, that we often forget to see what is special and wonderful about them.

Wired for Perfect Health

Your unconscious mind knows exactly what you need to be healthy. So why aren’t you?

Finding Home with Jesse Malin

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on April 15, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Jesse Malin shares how he has used music and creativity to create community.

Why Cuddling Is So Crucial

By Michael Castleman M.A. on April 15, 2015 in All About Sex
As post-sex cuddling increases, so does sexual and relationship satisfaction.