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Happiness versus Success

In Silicon Valley, happiness & success are regrettably too often in opposition.

What's The Most Important Decision You’ve Ever Made?

A 10-item quiz to test how your life choices reflect, and affect, your identity

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

One thing most distinguishes romantic love from a more mature, adult love.

Smart, Successful, and Yet Not Happy?

Why aren't the smart-and-the-successful as happy as they could—or should—be?

Recent Posts on Happiness

Give Me a Break!

Why aren't more Americans taking their vacations? What benefits can come from vacationing more frequently for American workers?

5 Things to Do Today to Save Your Relationship

Because the only person we can control or change in a relationship is ourselves, it’s almost always worth it to do what we can to develop ourselves before we throw in the towel with our partner. Here are five things that can help any couple reignite their feelings of love.

What's Missing?

If you know what's missing from your life, maybe you can find it.

The Lion’s Roar

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Finding True Refuge
We typically think of our happiness as dependent on certain good things happening. In the Buddhist tradition, the word sukha is used to describe the deepest type of happiness that is independent of what is happening.

Can May-December Romances Work?

How To Handle Feelings Toward An Older Man

How to Use Your Strengths to Overcome Your Weaknesses

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in In Practice
A simple, practical system for turning weaknesses into strengths.

Happiness versus Success

Over the decades - as both a psychiatrist practicing in Silicon Valley and a civilian living here locally - I have witnessed so much success and yet so little happiness. In our valley of material riches and natural beauty, the two are regrettably too often in opposition.

The Art Therapy + Happiness Project

Artistic creativity is primarily a force of health and well-being rather than a mirror of dysfunction or disorder. Therefore the real purpose of art therapy and expressive arts therapy is to facilitate individuals’ creative exploration and self-expression to find both the “pleasant life” as well as the “meaningful life.”

Happiness With Life 9: Making Friends With Death

Death can be your friend or your enemy. If you fear your death, you will create for yourself anguish and dread. If you embrace it as something you are inevitably moving toward, you use it to spur yourself to exult in each day as if it were your last.

8 Mindful Ways to Slow Down Time

How many times have you wished you had more time in the day? Here are 8 simple ways to shift your perception of time and increase your productivity.

Mommy Cliques: 7 Ways to Beat Being Outside the 'In' Group

When my son was a toddler I signed him up for a “gymnastics” group, hoping not only to use up some of his energy, but to find some friends for myself. Instead, I found that there was an "in" group of moms and kids -- and we were definitely on the outside. I felt like a third grader again. If you've ever been in this situation, you'll like these psychologically savvy ideas.

What's The Most Important Decision You’ve Ever Made?

Life is full of choices and although we may not ponder each decision we make, some can turn out to have surprisingly important effects on our happiness. Use this 10-item quiz to take stock of the ones you’ve made and ask yourself which have had the greatest impact on the direction your life has taken.

Dr. Louis CK

By Christa Smith Psy.D. on May 29, 2015 in Shift
What a comedian can teach us about growing up

New Ways to Happiness with Strengths

Need a happiness boost? Looking for more meaning in life? Trying to reach a goal? A new pathway to reach these benefits is to identify your signature strengths (your best personality characteristics) and use them in a new way each day. Research on strengths has repeatedly found this intervention...

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

In the idyllic state of romantic love, you typically attempt to secure the object of your passion by putting their wants and needs ahead of your own. It’s as though you’re saying to yourself: “So I can make you mine, I’ll make fulfilling your desires more important than my own.” But that relational stance yet includes a crucial contingency clause. . . .

Is Technoference Wrecking Your Love Life?

Confronting technoference in your relationship: The risks involved in developing an addictive relationship with technology and encouragement to take steps to become less compulsive.

Don’t Worry. Make an Expansive Move, and Be Happy.

By Steve Sisgold on May 29, 2015 in Life in a Body
Create more happiness and less stress through being aware of our body movements..

How Can Letting Go Make Us Stronger?

By Allison Carmen on May 29, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
It can be tough to let go of expectations and attachments when the unexpected happens. Yet, if we can find a mantra or a tool to help us let go of our thoughts about what might have been, we often make room to embrace whatever we are experiencing. We can come to the moment with an open heart and avail ourselves to all that is possible.

Throwing Bullets on the Fire

By John Sean Doyle on May 28, 2015 in Luminous Things
We look at the mindless and senseless things people do and it is easy to blame. How can they be so stupid? Didn’t they think for a moment? But as long as there is no ricochet or crash, we are allowed to forget that we too are irresponsible and thoughtless. Every one of us is negligent. But to be negligent and unlucky? That is a crime no one can ever shake off.

3 Steps to Get Any Relationship Back on Track

Expert advice on how to repair or strengthen any relationship

Stop Numbing Out and Awaken to Your Life

Do you frequently numb out with food, television, social media or drama? Escapist habits quietly cheat us of the life that we're meant to live and prevent the healing that wants to take place in our hearts.

Lessons on Safari: Putting Humans in Their Place

An African photo safari provides the pathway to internalize the power of animal life in our world.

Smart, Successful, and Yet Not Happy?

Why aren't the smart-and-the-successful as happy as they could--or should--be? In this article, I attempt to provide a broad answer to this question.

Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Learn simple ways to support yourself and others for better mental health.

Psychiatry's Six Happiness/HealthTraits with 12 Tips

Six personal qualities are considered "mature defenses" and can contribute to a happier and healthier life. This blog outlines these traits and some suggestions for how to develop them.

4 Morning Success Rituals to Start Your Day Off Right

Tips to ensure a calm, productive morning.

Reconnecting with Nature

Listening to and communing with nature affects our health, both physical and psychological. Whether is is taking a walk or listening to the sounds of other species, creating a sense of connection with the natural world is beneficial, restorative, and necessary for our well-being.

Why Patience is Power

By Neel Burton M.D. on May 23, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Life is too short to wait, but it is not too short for patience.

Three Simple Steps to Heal Conflict and Strengthen Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on May 23, 2015 in Finding Love
This simple technique is designed to deepen all of your intimate relationships, including your relationship with yourself. Each of its three steps leads to a deeper state of authenticity, a gentle, skillful “overthrow” of the inner and outer voices which hold us back from deeper love.

How to See Yourself More Clearly

Writing can help you see yourself more clearly