Essential Reads

The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault"

When we are not caught in self-blame, we are free to love this life. Opening to the possibility of "It’s not my fault" creates space for deep inner freedom.
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Seligman on Tour

Is "prospection" the newest and holiest of grails in psychology? Seligman: "Yes." We: "No."

Why Do Unhappy Couples Stay Together?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Future expectations are a better predictor of whether a relationship will last than are current levels of satisfaction.

Should You Set Clear Work-Home Boundaries?

Here are five tips for striking the right balance between your job and personal life.

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The Best Preparation for Marriage

Great relationships aren’t discovered; they are created.

Take a Walk!

Want to feel—and be—better mentally and physically? Dig out your sneakers and go for a stroll.

Are You Hard On Yourself?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on May 22, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Inner criticism tears you down. Commit to skillful corrections. Take a big breath and very deliberately name to yourself three strengths or virtues you have and let them sink in.

Measuring Happiness: How Can We Measure It?

Can positive psychology researchers really measure happiness? Here are five ways they try—and some of the surprising and interesting findings that come from measuring happiness.

Millennial Duck Syndrome

By Caroline Beaton on May 20, 2017 in The Gen-Y Guide
When entrepreneurship wasn't as effortless as I first thought, I felt like I'd failed.

Will You Be Less Depressed If You Get Married? Two Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 19, 2017 in Living Single
When single people marry, do they get less depressed? Are married people less depressed than people who are cohabiting or dating or single with no romantic partner?

5 Tools to Heal Your Ability to Love Unconditionally

Before we can experience unconditional love from outside, or give it to our children, we need to give it to ourselves.

Find Out What Really Happens in Couples Therapy

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
Until now, the only way to find out what really happens in a couples therapy session is to go to couples therapy with your partner. That is about to change.

Old Friends: Some of the Best Stuff of Life

Long term, close friendships enhance the substance and quality of our lives, and are important in times of celebration and sorrow: Appreciate them, nurture them, cherish them.

Real Love: A Conversation With Sharon Salzberg

By Mark Matousek on May 17, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
Meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg talks about the real meaning of love, and how to bring sanity—and compassion—to the turbulent landscape of our times.
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The Unexpected Costs of Extraordinary Experiences

By Gus Cooney on May 17, 2017 in Real Talk
How talking about extraordinary experiences can spoil our conversations
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How to Slow Down Time

Do you feel that time seems to be going more quickly as you get older? If yes, there are a few things you can do to slow down time. Most of the suggestions focus on mindfulness.
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How to Deal with Boring or Mundane Tasks

We know that using character strengths can give a boost to well-being and a leg up on stress, so why not use them for dealing with those in-between moments - the mundane or boring.

Happy and Resilient: Balancing Yourself & Your Relationships

Being happy in yourself and your relationships demands that you balance attending to them both.

Want to Live Longer? Have Sex Regularly

Independent of health, maintaining an active, regular sex life appears to extend longevity. Sex put life into your years and years into your life.

3 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now

Sometimes, it's good to conform to social norms. Other times, it's bad for your health and happiness.

What Are You Fighting?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on May 15, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Conflicts with others are a normal part of life. But if we do this while swept away by anger, that's not good for us or others.

Black Belt Listening

Happy couples are skilled in the art of attentive listening. They allow themselves to be penetrated by each other’s words and feelings.

Can You Know Your True Self?

How do you access your True Self? How is the True Self defined and does it have significance in your life?

Want Greater Health and Well-Being? Try Showing Gratitude!

You might think it's "good" to feel grateful towards others' acts of kindness, but did you know that doing so increases your physical and psychological health

What Might You Be Telling Yourself That's Holding You Back?

By Gregg McBride on May 13, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
What we say to and about ourselves matters. We hear it. We feel it. We embody it. It becomes part of our psychological makeup on every level.

The Stories We Tell About Single People Aren't True

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 13, 2017 in Living Single
In many important ways, single people are thriving. How is that possible, when they don’t have the support of a spouse, and they are stereotyped and stigmatized?

Ethical Love

Love or Luck?Would you like to be betrayed, forgotten, or abandoned for other younger and more divine bodies?

Think Positive? The Pressure to Be Happy

Happiness isn’t just a feeling; it’s a way of being in the world.

Why the Happiness Chase Is Making You Unhappy

Tired of chasing happiness? Here is why you should drop the chase and welcome in the fulfilment instead.

The Best Way to Satisfy a Narcissist's Need for Pride

Pride is one of those double-edged emotional swords that can go before your downfall or help you achieve your goals. New research shows when it’s most likely to help, not hurt.

Why You Might Have Low Self-Esteem and How to Cure That

When you believe the lie from others that you are worth less than the rest, then you sometimes believe it. Don’t.

Good Times Together and Marital Happiness

Quit faking it. Making fun happen in your marriage means finding things you both enjoy doing — together. You don't need to do everything together, but find something that works.
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Republican or Democrat, We Are All Stressed Out

As stress levels increase, what are the best strategies? We need new approaches to help cope as challenges arise. That's where strengths come in.