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Dealing with Disappointment

By Tara Well Ph.D. on June 25, 2017 in The Clarity
Disappointment can be an opportunity to get clarity on what you really want -- get it!

Do You Have to Be Self-Centered to Be Self-Actualized?

What would you do to reach your highest potential? A new series of studies raises doubts about the classical view of self-actualization.

You Are More Than Your Emotional Pain: You Are a Person

When you are in emotional pain, do your best to resist defining yourself primarily by that pain which you carry within. You are a person of great worth. Try to see this.

8 Ways to Ask Questions and Improve Your Relationships

Knowing how to ask the right questions is a fundamental skill to relationship-building. Based on new research, these 8 tips will help you get the answers you need.

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How to Give to Others Without Burning Out

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on June 26, 2017 in Feeling It
Many of us feel burned out. Taking care of others seems like one more burden. Here are science-backed ways you can give to others, reap the benefits, and feel nourished too!

Are You Getting Rope Burn?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on June 26, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
As you cling less, it becomes natural for one to lighten up, stay out of quarrels, have more compassion, and forgive. You'll feel more fed by the richness inherent in the present.

Driving Me Wild

I'd like to remain detached when cheaters cut in and just let aggressive drivers have their way. Instead, I go wild. I get agitated and yell expletives.

The Most Powerful Word For Promoting Love And Intimacy Is...

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on June 24, 2017 in Think Well
There is one simple word that has incredible power when it comes to promoting love, closeness and good feelings in meaningful relationships. It may surprise you to know what it is

The U.S. Is Not Doing Well Socially

By Christopher Lane Ph.D. on June 24, 2017 in Side Effects
The U.S. shows growing signs of being an unhappy, divided country, according to a string of indexes measuring national happiness and well-being.

Are Not Emotions Persons?

“The only question left to be settled now is: Are women persons? And I hardly believe any of our opponents will have the hardihood to say they are not." —Susan B. Anthony

Making Peace with Your Adult Children

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in Complicated Love
Want to enjoy better health as you age? Improving a certain relationship may be the key!

One-Hit Wonder

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about a has-been, who feels his best days are behind him.

A Diverse Spectrum of Positive Emotions Reduces Inflammation

Experiencing a wide range of daily positive emotions such as being calm, cheerful, enthusiastic, excited, inspired, etc. can reduce systemic inflammation, according to a new study.

Seven Steps to Money Success

By Michael F. Kay on June 22, 2017 in Financial Life Focus
We all desire a self-defined level of financial comfort. For some, this might mean having the ability to pay the bills and have no debt. For others, it's elaborate mansions.

The Loneliness Epidemic and What We Can Do About It

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in Feeling It
Our need to feel special is may be feeding a loneliness crisis. Here's what we can do!
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Why We Share Our Private Stories

By Barb Cohen on June 22, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
How do we find our place in the world? By standing up and telling the stories in which we play the starring role.

Why Flowers Make Us Happy

Flowers trigger the dopamine of excitement and the oxytocin of social trust. A wildflower hike triggers all the happy brain chemicals at once!

Must We Delay Gratification? Maybe Not

By Lydia Denworth on June 21, 2017 in Brain Waves
Intuition tells us to work first so we'll enjoy playing more later. But new research says we don't have to wait to savor some fun and give ourselves a break.

Seven Ways to Uplift a Friend (And Yourself) in Crisis

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Feeling It
How many times do we find ourselves with a friend who is going through a breakup, a loss, or another difficult life transition and find ourselves at a loss for what to do?

To Age Well, You Need Friends

By Temma Ehrenfeld on June 19, 2017 in Open Gently
New research suggests that the importance of friendship increases with age. This works both ways—quarrels with friends, it suggests, is tied to chronic health problems.

First Date

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in In It Together
Are you missing the important signs of a match on first dates? Here are some characteristics of a healthy, happy match.

Making Romance Last: Part 1

Enlarging our comfort zone is good for us as individuals and terrific for us as a couple. Our life becomes more interesting and creative.

Is Your Mind Wandering?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Controlling your attention, by pulling it away from what's bothersome or pointless (such as mental grumbling or self-criticism) is the foundation for changing your brain.

Designing for Diet Season

Tweak the design of your home to live a healthier life.
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Finding Their Way Home: Posttraumatic Growth in Veterans

The same skills forged in battle can be leveraged to thrive at home.

Learning Is a Key Component in Increasing Confidence

Empowering female artisans abroad increases confidence and decreases anxiety.

Hunger

By Emily T. Troscianko on June 15, 2017 in A Hunger Artist
Reliving a small insight.
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What’s Your Relationship With Your Life?

We have a relationship with our lives and a story that we've created that shapes its outcome. You have the power to nurture the relationship and change the story.
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Looking out for Number One

Consider these steps if you are a giver and need to start taking more, that is, taking care of yourself!
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Gen Z: A Strong Generation. New Data on Why

New insights and approaches in connecting with Gen Z. You'll want to thank the next Gen Z person you meet.

The Three Types of Complaining

There are three types of complainers. Which are you?

How to Gain Confidence in Your Life and Loves

By Sheila Kohler on June 13, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
To maintain absolute truths with great conviction, often expresses the opposite: a basic insecurity. Doubt cannot be envisaged or the whole edifice would crumble.

Falling in Love…again

When you are with someone who has your back, whatever the world throws at you can be handled. It’s amazing how much power there is in a loving relationship.
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Some Thoughts on My Daughter’s High School Graduation

By Gretchen Rubin on June 13, 2017 in The Happiness Project
What I want most for my daughter and all these kids is for them to go forth unafraid, strong with love and strong with learning.