Essential Reads

Holiday Bullies: The Dangers of Overindulging Your Kids

3 Kinds of Kids Parents Should Never Reward with Gifts

What’s the Best Way to React to an Insult?

... and why it matters who it comes from, in what form, and in what context.

Will an Optimist Win the Election?

Classic study shows that optimistic presidential candidates tend to prevail.

Playfulness Is a Spiritual Practice

Playfulness is a reverse martial art. A peaceful art, the art of peace itself.

Recent Posts on Happiness

Considering the Negative Consequences of a “Bikini Body”

From "#thinsperation" to the "Bikini Body," there is an abundance of "products" that are endorsed by celebrities and "experts" who perpetuate the "thin body ideal." The impact of this message on society is troubling, ranging from body image problems to serious eating disorders. One nutrition and health psychology expert shares an open letter about this disturbing reality.

These Words Will Take You a Long Way

One of the characteristics that sets the blue ribbon relationships apart from the rest of the pack is the tendency for both partners to live in a state of appreciation for all the ways they enhance each other’s lives.

Understanding Dreams About Inner and Outer Criticism

Creatures with sharp eyes and red pens watch our thoughts, feelings, and actions and invariably conclude we have erred or that we are simply unworthy. Exploring our dreams, we can study their habits and learn how to deal with them. Here are 3 dreams that illuminate the dynamics of inner and outer criticism.

Have You Ever Lost Your Love for Something?

By Gretchen Rubin on November 30, 2015 The Happiness Project
Have you ever left behind one activity or subject you loved?

The Scientific Truth about Giving Thanks: Just Do It!

Karen did not intend to be physically and emotionally abused by her husband, but life had other plans. Being coerced into dressing up in provocative outfits and posting her photo on the Internet shamed her sense of decency and deeply disturbed her values of fidelity and modesty. As a result she fled the marriage, using all available funds to pay an attorney.

Ridding Happiness Comtaminants 4: Catastrophizing Depression

No one is exempt from hardships and hassles. It is when we catastrophize about these vicissitudes that we create depression. Learn how not to do this and lead a depression-free life.

Are You Holding Onto Feeling Wronged?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 30, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Appreciate the value of forgiveness. Ask yourself: what does my grievance, my resentment, cost me? What does it cost others I care about? What would it be like to lay those burdens down?

83 Definitions of Play

By Bernard L. De Koven on November 30, 2015 On Having Fun
Maybe play is everything we imagine it to be. Everything we name when we say it.

No, Single People: Your Lives Are Not Second Rate

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 30, 2015 Living Single
No, single people, your lives are not second rate. That's not what the science shows. Claims about the superiority of marriage are often based on massively flawed studies, and ignore research showing something else entirely.

Why Speech Anxiety is a Sign of Integrity

Why speech anxiety is a sign of fundamental integrity.

Reader Roundup 2015

By Sharon Praissman on November 29, 2015 Beyond the Egg Timer
From Law of Attraction to the scientific method, from coping with infertility to finding jeans that actually fit while pregnant with twins, these books will inform, inspire, and entertain you!

As Easy as Apple Pie

By Susan Hooper on November 29, 2015 Detours and Tangents
After a bad experience with a pie crust, I learned the value of keeping it simple, trusting my instincts and using common sense. I also discovered you can learn a lot about life from making a pie.

Holiday Bullies: The Dangers of Overindulging Your Kids

Buying too many gifts for your kids during the holiday? Here's why you want to stop.

The Holidays and Cognitive Dissonance

Merry shmerry. Six Ways To Survive Until January 2nd.

Self Awareness

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 A Sideways View
Much of counselling and coaching, as well as education and therapy is about increasing self awareness. It is argued that self awareness and understanding is essential for happiness, health and well being. So how do you acquire it or increase it?

Patients with Misophonia Require Help and Understanding

Sufferers cannot tolerate certain sounds, and avoidance leads to social isolation.

Graduate School and Mental Illness: Is There a Link?

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on November 25, 2015 In Love and War
Few people go to graduate school thinking it will be a walk in the park. But many find that it involves a lot more stress than they bargained for, and this can take a toll on mental health.

Another Frantic Holiday Season?

Is the holiday season wearing you down? How to find more flow and less stress.

Stay In or Go Out? A Bigger Question Than You Might Think

Life often requires us to choose between the familiar and the unknown, and no one wants to look back with regret. How much security is enough, and what might it be costing you?

Choose Gratitude Your Own Way for Good

The holiday season can seem like both the best of times and the worst of times. Don't just cope effectively with holiday stress, take advantage of the season to achieve your best life by choosing gratitude today and everyday and doing it in your own way.

5 Ways Mentally Strong People Overcome Rejection

Learning how to bounce back after rejection could be the key to reaching your greatest potential.

Seven Simple Ways to Fight the Holiday Blues

By Jennifer Haupt on November 25, 2015 One True Thing
During this season of giving, it's often the small gifts and everyday gestures of kindness that matter most. Here are 7 low or no-cost ways to help you find your holiday spirit.

The Daily Gratitude List

By William Irwin Ph.D. on November 25, 2015 It’s Your Choice
My gratitude list started for me as a cure for self-pity, but it has now become a matter of prevention for all kind of negative thoughts and feelings.

4 New and Helpful Insights on Gratitude

Gratitude is easy to apply and brings nice benefits. If you relate to gratitude practice then you'll want to see these 4 new findings. If you don't relate to gratitude, check out what you can prioritize instead.

What Do You Need This Holiday Season?

The holidays don't have to be stressful. A few mindset shifts can go a long way.

Assessing Your Work and Life Balance

By Steve Sisgold on November 24, 2015 Life in a Body
Nothing is as close to us as our body, ...about which we know so little.

6 Tips for Avoiding Family Drama

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Friendship 2.0
The holidays are upon us—and every year, family tensions can cause more indigestion than that lumpy gravy. Here are six concrete steps to take in preparation for holiday drama, to help you banish stress and increase your enjoyment of the day.

What’s the Best Way to React to an Insult?

Insults live at the bottom of the scale of socially appropriate behavior. Because our first tendency is to be polite, especially with people we don’t know very well, it’s not always clear whether to respond in kind or turn the other cheek. Here’s some guidance for how to handle these confusing situations.

I Can Barely Say a Word

By Gretchen Rubin on November 24, 2015 The Happiness Project
Have you ever lost your voice? How did the silence and the listening affect you?

What Do Others Give You?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Say Thanks - it's a small moment with big ripples: a confirmation of a wonderful truth - that we are all joined in a web of innumerable acts of giving.