Essential Reads

The Wisdom of "It's Not My Fault"

When we are not caught in self-blame, we are free to love this life. Opening to the possibility of "It’s not my fault" creates space for deep inner freedom.
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Survival of the Scaredest

Why are we more afraid of insects than guns? Our emotions and perceptions are evolutionary products, and we can blame genetics for our infested minds.

Can Envy Ever Be a Positive Emotion?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 12, 2017 in Talking Apes
Envy lets us know about our rank in the pecking order. But how we respond determines whether the outcome will be destructive or help us become better people.

Developing Drive

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 03, 2017 in How To Do Life
The best approach to increasing motivation depends on what’s suppressing it.

More Posts on Fear

Can Videogames Prevent Elderly Falls?

By Toby Ellmers on April 08, 2017 in Aging Brain, Aging Body
Are videogames the key for preventing falls in the elderly? Research reveals the hidden benefits of gaming.

Is Fear of Vaccines Culturally Determined?

What does cultural background have to do with risk perception and fear of vaccines?

MIT Scientists Identify Brain Circuits of Memory Formation

MIT neuroscientists have discovered previously unknown brain circuitry necessary for memory formation. These revolutionary findings defy traditional memory consolidation models.

The Gift

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 06, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story on sacrifice.

These Are Strange Days in Which to Be an Ex-Bulimarexic

By Anneli Rufus on April 04, 2017 in Stuck
Eating disorders, unlike most other disorders, have an endgame, a vision of victory. Will traces of that yearning haunt us every time we butter toast or watch you slicing pie?
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Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud?

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on March 30, 2017 in In Flux
People sometimes feel that who they appear to be doesn't truly reflect who they are. In essence, they feel as if they are fooling people and that one day they will be found out.

When Disastrous Thoughts Start Playing Games With Us

“My disastrous thinking is already playing games with me. My mind wanders to the scariest thoughts possible about what could happen on the flight."
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A Thought-Free Life

If bad thoughts are bad for us, and even good thoughts are bad for us, what options do we have?

How Strength Training Helps Keep Anxiety at Bay

By Linda Wasmer Andrews on March 29, 2017 in Minding the Body
Resistance training may help you resist excessive worry and anxiety. Here's what the latest research shows.

Sticks and Stones Just Break My Bones

Colleges can either give in to "Brittle Self Disorder" or empower students to get past the discomfort of confronting objectionable ideas and teach them to think critically.

Friends in Violent Places

Research says children in violent neighborhoods approach friendship cautiously, with the goal of staying safe. Here are their resourceful–and heart-breaking–strategies.

Trigger Warnings and Mental Health: Where Is the Evidence?

By Rob Whitley, Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in Talking About Men
Recently, there has been a growing push for the use of "trigger warnings" on college campuses. But are they beneficial for mental health? And can they have unintended consequences?

Dealing With Feelings

"Minimize affect inhibition... Maximize positive affects… Minimize negative affects.” — Silvan Tomkins

Radical Self-Honesty

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 20, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
We can see in our society how dishonesty poisons our world with cynicism and mistrust. This suffering calls for a deepening commitment to being real with ourselves and each other.

A Profound Experience With the Toilet

By Reid Wilson Ph.D. on March 19, 2017 in All about Anxiety
In any distressing situation, we have only two choices: Accept or resist. You have to find a way to willingly welcome your uncertainty and distress.
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Are We Doomed to Repeat Our Relationship Patterns?

Do the attachment styles we develop in childhood inevitably shape our adult relationships? And if so, can they be changed?

Do You Worry?

Worry is an ordinary part of human experience: a protection from danger, a sign that we care, and a struggle to face the inevitable uncertainties of life.

Here's Your Brain on Trauma

Have you suffered a trauma and wonder why you feel so anxious and out of control? The answers are in your brain. Learn how trauma affects the brain, and how you can take action.
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Why We Shouldn’t Fear Failure

Why We Shouldn’t Fear Failure. Sometimes success requires not getting it right the first time. By Philip J. Rosenbaum, Ph.D.

War of the Worlds: Common Enemies

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 12, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Orson Wells galvanized America with the alternate truth that we were being invaded by Martians. But do we still need a common enemy to feel united?

Poetry Lights Up Your Brain Like a Favorite Song, fMRI Shows

New research on the link between happy or scary musical cues—and the difference between reading poetry or prose—offer new clues about how the brain responds to music and poetry.

Should you trust your gut?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on March 11, 2017 in Wander Woman
Steps and techniques for listening to both your gut and head to calculate your next best move.

Does "Sully" Reveal How To Cope With Anxiety?

The flight recording of the final 2.5 minutes of Flight 1549 are extraordinary for the coolness and business-like words of its pilot.

What If Your Child Chooses to Do Wrong?

Punishment drives the feelings underground and makes the bad behavior worse. Healing the feelings that are driving the behavior is what prevents a repeat of the misbehavior.

How to Cope With the Trauma of Online Harassment

Have you experienced online harassment? You may be suffering from symptoms of trauma and not even know it.

The Psychology of Hate

Who you hate says a lot about you.

How to Stop the Break Up-Make Up Cycle

The pain of ending a meaningful relationship can be so great that many go back again and again to the same partner. Here are four ways to stop the break up-make up cycle.

Fear-of-Falling... Or Falling-From-Fear?

By Toby Ellmers on March 08, 2017 in Aging Brain, Aging Body
How can modifying our behavior to prevent a fall from occurring actually increase the likelihood of falling?

Avoidant Personality Disorder

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 08, 2017 in A Sideways View
How can you best help and understand those with Avoidant Personality Disorder?

Has Disney Lost Its Direction by "Normalizing" Gay People?

There is more than enough conflict in the world. Maybe it's time that people start boycotting fear and hate mongers, rather than peacemakers.