Essential Reads

Facing Your Depression

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Talking Apes
Researchers are working on a new treatment for depression you can put on your mobile device—but a self-help version is already available.

The 1 Skill College Students Wish Their Parents Taught Them

We invest a lot of time in teaching young people to be academically prepared for the future, but we often overlook the skills they really need to succeed.

The Psychology of First Impressions

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 08, 2017 in Talking Apes
Researchers identify four facial features that drive our first impressions of others.

Two Types of Relationship Aggression Identified

Is impossible for couples to avoid arguments but new research on long-term relationships suggests that some forms are more damaging than others. Here’s how to avoid the bad kind.

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Are Older People Wiser?

By Lawrence R Samuel Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Boomers 3.0
Memory worsens as we get older, but research also suggests that our strategy for the way that we process thoughts and information changes for the better.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Responding to Silences

Identifying a silence's meaning and responding according to its underlying intent can be a powerful way to show love. Matching the response to the meaning reflects intimacy.

A Good Marriage Is Better Than Therapy

A loving marriage can heal old emotional wounds more effectively than the best therapy. At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship.
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The Hero's Journey

Can you take the pain out of painful relationships?
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The Ecstasy that Comes with Balance

My husband and I have interviewed is that one of the reasons they are enjoying their relationship so thoroughly is because they are fluid, experimental, and creative....

The Secret Life of Procrastinators and the Stigma of Delay

Rather than shame procrastinators for the way they get things done, instead let's understand motivational style differences.

How to Manage Your Emotions

By Rob Kendall on August 14, 2017 in Blamestorming
In the heat of the moment, our emotions can get the better of us. This raises a serious question: Am I in charge of my emotions, or are they in charge of me?

Why Technology Makes it Hard to Raise Mentally Strong Kids

While our digital devices make many aspects of life easier, electronics makes it tougher than ever to raise resilient kids.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Identify the Meanings of Silence

Silence between people who share a close relationship can have multiple meanings. Decoding them accurately is an act of love of great magnitude, permitting a loving response.

The Bandwagon Effect

The bandwagon effect is a psychological phenomenon whereby people do something primarily because others are doing it, regardless of their own beliefs.

Who's More Emotionally Intelligent, and Does Gender Matter?

Are women really poorly suited for careers in tech? One Google engineer’s claims got him fired. The facts based on personality research prove that Google made the right decision.

5 Ways to Turn Mistakes Into Valuable Life Lessons

You can gain a lot of wisdom from your mistakes. Here's how to learn the most from your blunders.

Seven Studies Show That Virtue Truly Is Its Own Reward

By Meg Selig on August 09, 2017 in Changepower
Is virtue really its own reward? These seven studies suggest that good actions actually do bring a surprising wealth of benefits to those who help others.

Awe as an Antidote to the Polarized Mind

By Kirk J. Schneider Ph.D. on August 08, 2017 in Awakening to Awe
Awe-based tips for healing the social divides.

Cornering a Slippery Child

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 06, 2017 in Ambigamy
After decades with an inherently slippery child, I was able to distill his many excuses to three. If I could go back, here's how I would have tried to block each of them.

In the Eyes of the Beholder

Many of us toss around the notion of "the truth" as though there is an incontestable, objective "reality" and that we know what it is...

How to Deal With a Workplace Psychopath

Science has identified what it means to be a 'successful psychopath.' Here's how to stay mentally strong when you have to deal with a psychopath in the workplace.

30 Practices to Boost Well Being

There is a strong element of choice in our level of happiness. Indeed we do decide to be happy, but that’s only for starters. Then we are challenged to cultivate happiness.
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For, Not Against

By Matt James Ph.D. on August 02, 2017 in Focus on Forgiveness
Tired of all the negativity and contentiousness? Learn how to use "toward" motivation to be healthier and achieve your goals.

Living, Dying and the Taste of a Good Falafel

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 02, 2017 in On Having Fun
Do you think what thinking about dying (and dying in general) does for you is emphasize how much better living turns out to be?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Expand the Circle

Others may feel threatened when you form a new love relationship. With perspective and integrity, do what you can to include them in your life, now that you are part of a couple.

Can Technology Make Us More Human?

Do the advances in social media, artificial intelligence, robotics, and other technology threaten our basic nature as humans, or will technology enhance our humanness?

Is Wonder Women an Expression of Androgynous Power?

For a woman, using power can be tricky. She risks being perceived as pushy and aggressive—after all, power is openly expected to be excised by men.

Help, I Married My Father

Why do so many women end up unhappily in relationships with males who remind them of their father? How can we stop this painful habit?

7 Myths About Emotions That Will Rob You of Mental Strength

Before you can understand how your feelings influence your thoughts and behavior, you need to know the truth about emotions.

Feeling Lost? Part 3

When you begin to master the tasks of the wanderer, caregiver, warrior, and orphan, you move into the intimacy stage. All along we have had unpredictable episodes of intimacy.

Stop Saying These Phrases To Improve Your Life

Change the language you use everyday and you can change your life for the better. Words matter.

Our Answers Find Us In The Quiet We Create

By Brad Waters on July 24, 2017 in Design Your Path
What happens when we have all the information we need yet still can't seem to make a difficult decision?

Coping With Your Partner’s Annoying Behaviors

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 22, 2017 in Talking Apes
If we’re mindful about the true source of the minor irritations in our life, we can more fully appreciate the good things our partner does for us each day.

Feeling Lost?: Part 1

The path of a committed relationship is challenging and rewarding. It helps to have a map of the terrain so that we can find our way.