Embarrassment Essential Reads

Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. Consider straight men who have sex with men due to childhood sexual abuse.
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Nine Ways to Fight Impostor Syndrome

Impostor Syndrome comes in many different types and flavors. Identify these and learn how to overcome this mindset.

Procrastination Is Not to Blame

The shame of defeat can challenge our potential to look with interest at what has happened and to learn from it.

How to Avoid Creeping Women Out

When it comes to looking like a creep, the bar is set a lot lower for men. Here's why, along with some advice.

Is Sexual Shame Worth Preserving?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on July 03, 2017 in Women Who Stray
Advice columnist Dan Savage shares his experiences and views of sexual shaming. Some of it will surprise you.

Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame

By Peg Streep on June 23, 2017 in Tech Support
Shame plays many roles in an unloved daughter's life, especially on the road to recovery when the cultural notion of filial obligation becomes yet another obstacle.

Why Do Man Buns Inspire Instant Vitriol?

By Gregg McBride on June 10, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
With the advent of social media, we’ve all become a little more “brave” in regard to sharing our opinions. The parallels to other life disagreements have not been lost on me.
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6 Ways to Respond to Being Ghosted

Has this happened to you? Someone you like suddenly seems to stop liking you, and you can’t figure out why.

I Thought I Was Damaged Goods!

Why don't many patients treat what they can? Why don't some doctors notice that patients feel hopeless when they shouldn't and guilty when they are aren't?

If People Only Knew

So many of us fear what we - and others - will find at our core. Why is there such an epidemic of shame in our culture?

Overcoming the Paralysis of Toxic Shame

How might toxic shame play a role in your anger?

6 Myths About Women and Addiction

While biology and circumstances affect who is at risk for addiction in both sexes, gender can shape how trauma, loss and family influence that risk.

Emotional Complexity

A few of the elements that make emotions so complicated are habituation, inhibition, constriction, and disinhibition/excitement.

Shaming Methods in Popular Psychology

By David Bedrick J.D., Dipl. PW on March 30, 2017 in Is Psychology Making Us Sick?
Shaming methods can injure and are rarely sustainable.

Can I Trust Him? The Psychology and Philosophy of Trust

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 07, 2017 in Hide and Seek
What is trust, when does it pertain, and can it ever be absolute?

The Surprising Ways that Guilt Can Help Your Relationship

Feeling guilty may or may not have a rational basis, but according to a new study, the guilt-prone may actually be better at reading other people’s emotional states.

Rhetoric, Violence, and Redemption

Social pain—rejection, shame, disrespect—resonates in the "pain center" of the brain, impairing cognitive capacities. This opens the door for violent responses to Trump's rhetoric.

"I Voted" Stickers: Are You A Good Group Member Too?

By Gregg R. Murray Ph.D. on November 08, 2016 in Caveman Politics
I’ve always been fascinated with the “I Voted” stickers poll workers give people after they vote. Who takes and wears these things and who doesn't?

Coming Out of the Mental Health Closet About My Anxiety

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on November 04, 2016 in Intentional Insights
I am coming out as a mentally ill college professor suffering from an anxiety disorder to help end the stigma around mental illness in academia
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The Downside of Having Nothing to Hide

By David Berreby on October 19, 2016 in The Outsourced Mind
Soon, we'll all know a lot more about each other's motives, in real time. And it won't be pretty.
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An Inauthentic Apology Can Be Maddening

Why is apologizing as difficult as a root canal for some people? This is how we may respond when we're protecting our image rather than sincerely apologizing.
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Do You Feel Guilty or Ashamed?

This article helps us find a language to differentiate between how we feel when we make a mistake or fall short of our ideals from the paralyzing shame of being a mistake.

The Blessings and Challenges of Having “A Protector’s Brain”

We must move young people beyond blaming themselves for having "an anger problem." Shifting their identity towards having "a protector's brain" is a start.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in In the Name of Love
Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

Different Core Vulnerabilities in Intimate Partners

Your core vulnerability is the emotional state that is most dreadful to you, in reaction to which you’ve developed the strongest defenses.

Is Parental Authority 'Bullying'?

Perhaps we model (non-physical) aggressions in our homes, even as we decry the (re)enactment of these behaviors on the playground, in the hallways, on the bus, in the cafeteria.

Porn vs. Religion

By David J Ley Ph.D. on June 08, 2016 in Women Who Stray
People are struggling over porn use—but their problems are consistently related to a conflict between their religious values and their sexual behaviors, not to porn itself.

No Stigma, No Shame: Breaking the Silence of Mental Illness

By Ruth C. White Ph.D. on May 02, 2016 in Culture in Mind
The stigma and shame of mental illness is compounded by the lack of access to mental health care. May is Mental Health Awareness Month - a time to talk about mental health.

Hinda the Hypocrite

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 23, 2016 in How To Do Life
We're often made to feel guilt and shame by people who don't walk their talk.