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Ghosted? 6 Ways to Make the Bad Feelings Disappear

Has this happened to you? Someone you like suddenly seems to stop liking you, and you can’t figure out why.

I Thought I Was Damaged Goods!

Why don't many patients treat what they can? Why don't some doctors notice that patients feel hopeless when they shouldn't and guilty when they are aren't?

If People Only Knew

So many of us fear what we - and others - will find at our core. Why is there such an epidemic of shame in our culture?

Overcoming the Paralysis of Toxic Shame

How might toxic shame play a role in your anger?

6 Myths About Women and Addiction

While biology and circumstances affect who is at risk for addiction in both sexes, gender can shape how trauma, loss and family influence that risk.

Emotional Complexity

A few of the elements that make emotions so complicated are habituation, inhibition, constriction, and disinhibition/excitement.

Shaming Methods in Popular Psychology

Shaming methods can injure and are rarely sustainable.

Can I Trust Him? The Psychology and Philosophy of Trust

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 07, 2017 in Hide and Seek
What is trust, when does it pertain, and can it ever be absolute?

The Surprising Ways that Guilt Can Help Your Relationship

Feeling guilty may or may not have a rational basis, but according to a new study, the guilt-prone may actually be better at reading other people’s emotional states.

Rhetoric, Violence, and Redemption

Social pain—rejection, shame, disrespect—resonates in the "pain center" of the brain, impairing cognitive capacities. This opens the door for violent responses to Trump's rhetoric.

"I Voted" Stickers: Are You A Good Group Member Too?

By Gregg R. Murray Ph.D. on November 08, 2016 in Caveman Politics
I’ve always been fascinated with the “I Voted” stickers poll workers give people after they vote. Who takes and wears these things and who doesn't?

Coming Out of the Mental Health Closet About My Anxiety

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on November 04, 2016 in Intentional Insights
I am coming out as a mentally ill college professor suffering from an anxiety disorder to help end the stigma around mental illness in academia
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The Downside of Having Nothing to Hide

By David Berreby on October 19, 2016 in The Outsourced Mind
Soon, we'll all know a lot more about each other's motives, in real time. And it won't be pretty.
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An Inauthentic Apology Can Be Maddening

Why is apologizing as difficult as a root canal for some people? This is how we may respond when we're protecting our image rather than sincerely apologizing.
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Do You Feel Guilty or Ashamed?

This article helps us find a language to differentiate between how we feel when we make a mistake or fall short of our ideals from the paralyzing shame of being a mistake.

The Blessings and Challenges of Having “A Protector’s Brain”

We must move young people beyond blaming themselves for having "an anger problem." Shifting their identity towards having "a protector's brain" is a start.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in In the Name of Love
Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

Different Core Vulnerabilities in Intimate Partners

Your core vulnerability is the emotional state that is most dreadful to you, in reaction to which you’ve developed the strongest defenses.

Is Parental Authority 'Bullying'?

Perhaps we model (non-physical) aggressions in our homes, even as we decry the (re)enactment of these behaviors on the playground, in the hallways, on the bus, in the cafeteria.

Porn vs. Religion

By David J Ley Ph.D. on June 08, 2016 in Women Who Stray
People are struggling over porn use—but their problems are consistently related to a conflict between their religious values and their sexual behaviors, not to porn itself.

No Stigma, No Shame: Breaking the Silence of Mental Illness

The stigma and shame of mental illness is compounded by the lack of access to mental health care. May is Mental Health Awareness Month - a time to talk about mental health.

Hinda the Hypocrite

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 23, 2016 in How To Do Life
We're often made to feel guilt and shame by people who don't walk their talk.

Shame On You for Getting a Divorce!

“Imagine a world where empathy and support trump our old-fashioned concepts.”

Why Our Partners Embarrass Us

Have you ever felt embarrassed by your romantic partner? If so, it turns out you’re not alone. New studies have uncovered what researchers call the “vicarious spotlight effect."

How Not to Worry About What Others Think of You

By Raj Raghunathan Ph.D. on March 03, 2016 in Sapient Nature
Most of us worry a little too much about what others think of us. Here are three practices that can help us overcome this tendency.

Fear of Embarrassment, and Other Nested Emotions

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on February 26, 2016 in Hot Thought
People experience nested emotions such as hope for forgiveness, love of honor, longing for love, fear of fear itself, lust for glory, and dread of shame.

Fear and Shame on New Year's Day

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on January 01, 2016 in Don't Delay
The Roman god Janus, for whom January is named, had two faces. One looked back to the past; the other looked forward. As we do this today, let's talk about how this makes us feel.

Laughing at Mental Illness?

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on December 17, 2015 in Talking About Trauma
Who is making the joke and why? Comedy helps people cope with mental illness.

3 Good Reasons Not to Give Kids Too Many Presents

Buying too many gifts for your kids during the holiday? Here's why you want to stop.