Embarrassment Essential Reads

How Stigma Kills Doctors

Stigma is driving suicide in some doctors. Fortunately, courageous stories of doctors living with psychiatric illness are unlocking the shame.

Soul Sadness

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in Finding True Refuge
Our soul sadness is fully revealed when we directly and mindfully contact our pain. In such moments, we discover a natural upwelling of compassion and tenderness for our own heart.

Revenge vs. Rehabilitation

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on December 18, 2017 in Shame
Is the "name and shame" campaign purely about exacting revenge against sexual harassers?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence the ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

Loneliness Is a Killer. Why Don't We Talk About It?

By Loren A. Olson M.D. on December 08, 2017 in Finally Out
We don't talk about loneliness because of a stigma: It feels like a failure in one of life's fundamental domains. But it is essential for our health that we talk about it.

Kids, Would You Please Lower Your Weapons?

With authoritarians on both the Right and the Left dominating political discourse, it's tough (and sometimes unsafe) for the sensible center to get a word in edgewise.

How Do I Ask My Grandma to Stop Being So Techy?

Using social media to connect across generations sounds like a good thing, but how do we respond when our good intentions cause embarrassment to our youth?
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Will Online Shame Prevent You From a Holiday Romance?

By Sue Scheff on November 10, 2017 in Shame Nation
A new survey reports that over half of Americans will search for information online before dating you.

The Bully Inside

If we don’t accept our imperfect selves, how much of our tendency to gather "facts," form opinions, and label others brings us to the brink of bullying?
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How to Spot Narcissistic Abuse

By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT on September 17, 2017 in Toxic Relationships
Narcissists don’t really love themselves, but are driven by shame. Their coping mechanisms are abusive and damage relationships and loved ones–hence the term, “narcissistic abuse.”

5 Ways to Heal from Online Shame and Digital Hate

By Sue Scheff on September 01, 2017 in Shame Nation
Incivility online is growing as empathy is dipping, and more adults are becoming victims of online shaming and digital hate. Learn five ways to rebound.

Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. Consider straight men who have sex with men due to childhood sexual abuse.
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Nine Ways to Fight Impostor Syndrome

Impostor Syndrome comes in many different types and flavors. Identify these and learn how to overcome this mindset.

Procrastination Is Not to Blame

The shame of defeat can challenge our potential to look with interest at what has happened and to learn from it.

How to Avoid Creeping Women Out

When it comes to looking like a creep, the bar is set a lot lower for men. Here's why, along with some advice.

Is Sexual Shame Worth Preserving?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on July 03, 2017 in Women Who Stray
Advice columnist Dan Savage shares his experiences and views of sexual shaming. Some of it will surprise you.

Why Unloved Daughters Struggle to Escape Shame

By Peg Streep on June 23, 2017 in Tech Support
Shame plays many roles in an unloved daughter's life, especially on the road to recovery when the cultural notion of filial obligation becomes yet another obstacle.

Why Do Man Buns Inspire Instant Vitriol?

By Gregg McBride on June 10, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
With the advent of social media, we’ve all become a little more “brave” in regard to sharing our opinions. The parallels to other life disagreements have not been lost on me.
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6 Ways to Deal with the Pain of Being Ghosted

Has this happened to you? Someone you like suddenly seems to stop liking you, and you can’t figure out why.

I Thought I Was Damaged Goods!

Why don't many patients treat what they can? Why don't some doctors notice that patients feel hopeless when they shouldn't and guilty when they are aren't?

If People Only Knew

By Eric S. Jannazzo Ph.D. on April 25, 2017 in The Full Spectrum
So many of us fear what we - and others - will find at our core. Why is there such an epidemic of shame in our culture?

Overcoming the Paralysis of Toxic Shame

How might toxic shame play a role in your anger?

6 Myths About Women and Addiction

While biology and circumstances affect who is at risk for addiction in both sexes, gender can shape how trauma, loss and family influence that risk.

Religious Conflict Makes Porn Bad for Relationships

By David J Ley Ph.D. on April 17, 2017 in Women Who Stray
A new research study finds more evidence that the alleged harms from porn are actually caused by religious conflict, shame, and the "porn addict" identity.

Emotional Complexity

A few of the elements that make emotions so complicated are habituation, inhibition, constriction, and disinhibition/excitement.

Shaming Methods in Popular Psychology

By David Bedrick J.D., Dipl. PW on March 30, 2017 in Is Psychology Making Us Sick?
Shaming methods can injure and are rarely sustainable.

The Surprising Ways that Guilt Can Help Your Relationship

Feeling guilty may or may not have a rational basis, but according to a new study, the guilt-prone may actually be better at reading other people’s emotional states.

Rhetoric, Violence, and Redemption

Social pain—rejection, shame, disrespect—resonates in the "pain center" of the brain, impairing cognitive capacities. This opens the door for violent responses to Trump's rhetoric.

"I Voted" Stickers: Are You A Good Group Member Too?

By Gregg R. Murray Ph.D. on November 08, 2016 in Caveman Politics
I’ve always been fascinated with the “I Voted” stickers poll workers give people after they vote. Who takes and wears these things and who doesn't?

Coming Out of the Mental Health Closet About My Anxiety

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on November 04, 2016 in Intentional Insights
I am coming out as a mentally ill college professor suffering from an anxiety disorder to help end the stigma around mental illness in academia