Essential Reads

Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame

By Peg Streep on June 23, 2017 in Tech Support
Shame plays many roles in an unloved daughter's life, especially on the road to recovery when the cultural notion of filial obligation becomes yet another obstacle.

Why Do Man Buns Inspire Instant Vitriol?

By Gregg McBride on June 10, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
With the advent of social media, we’ve all become a little more “brave” in regard to sharing our opinions. The parallels to other life disagreements have not been lost on me.
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Ghosted? 6 Ways to Make the Bad Feelings Disappear

Has this happened to you? Someone you like suddenly seems to stop liking you, and you can’t figure out why.

I Thought I Was Damaged Goods!

Why don't many patients treat what they can? Why don't some doctors notice that patients feel hopeless when they shouldn't and guilty when they are aren't?

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The Doctor Is In: New Web Series Explores the World of Kink

A new web series provides insight, humor and education about BDSM.

The Vitamin Cocktail of Courage

Choosing to take even tiny courageous actions can be a powerful antidote to toxic shame and a vitamin cocktail for our Zesty Selves. Drink up.

Is Teaching Tolerance the Solution or the Problem?

Tolerance is part of discrimination, which explains why we have intolerance. Acceptance is the answer, not tolerance.

Overcoming Sex Addiction: A Self-help Guide

By The Book Brigade on June 08, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Compulsive sexual behavior typically conceals negative feelings about oneself—feelings that are readily treatable.

Five Embarrassing Things That Therapy Can Help With

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 07, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Many people believe that therapy is just for specific mental health disorders. But many everyday concerns—including those rarely spoken about—can be helped by it as well.

The End of Guilt

Has shame taken over from guilt as the marker of American culture? Or was guilt never very important in the first place?
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Sex Work IS Work: a Documentarian Gives Sex Workers a Voice

A documentary filmmaker dispels myths about sex workers through their own words.

The Asian Christian Sex Addict

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 05, 2017 in Minority Report
If you're an Asian, Christian, sex addict, is there a difference in your issues compared to other addicts? I would say definitely so since there are three distinct parts.

Why Shaming Doesn't Work

Many people consider shaming an acceptable way of changing behavior. Is shaming effective? Research reveals that shame is a complex emotion.
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Quiz: Self Care for the Sensitive

How narcissistically vulnerable are you? Take this quiz and learn how to protect the narcissistically vulnerable parts of yourself.

Facebook Banned Another Political Activist - Myself!

Facebook Banned Another Political Activist - Myself!
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Body Shame Is Not a Diet Plan

By Renee Engeln Ph.D. on May 14, 2017 in Beauty Sick
Fostering body shame is not an effective way to get healthy. Shame makes you want to withdraw from important activities and meaningful connections with others. Shame can be a threa

Should Therapists Self-Disclose?

To self-disclose or not to self-disclose: that is the controversial question.

How to Break the Cycle of Shame With Your Child

The more empathic you are as you set the limit, the more your child will accept the limit, and WANT to shift gears to channel his impulses into more acceptable behavior.

Religious Conflict Makes Porn Bad for Relationships

By David J Ley Ph.D. on April 17, 2017 in Women Who Stray
A new research study finds more evidence that the alleged harms from porn are actually caused by religious conflict, shame, and the "porn addict" identity.
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Emotions as Our Mother Tongue

We strive for competency. We want a better quality of life. To achieve this, our second language, thought, not only needs but demands its mother language—emotion.
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The Feelings That Underlie Our Criticisms

The tendency to be critical is very human, yet it often has destructive effects in our relationships. Uncovering our truer, more vulnerable feelings is a powerful way to connect.

When Your Boss Is a Ruthless Monster

When Your Boss is a Ruthless Monster How to reduce your daily stress and maintain your sanity

When and What Do I Tell My New Boyfriend About My ADD?

“How do I explain my ADD to my new boyfriend?” the transfer student asks. Our conversation captures the tension of self-disclosure.

Collective Moral Injury: A Burden We Share

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on April 03, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Moral injury is a concept mainly applied to combat veterans. How does it apply on a collective level, given the state of the world today? Here's a detailed discussion...

Why Men Trophy Hunt: Showing Off and the Psychology of Shame

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on March 28, 2017 in Animal Emotions
If the "hunting for status" hypothesis is correct, then shaming could be an effective strategy for those opposed because shaming tends to erode the status that trophy hunters seek.

Soul Recovery

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 28, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
When the path is illuminated by loving awareness, even the most broken heart will find its way home.

The Science of Schadenfreude

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 27, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Sometimes we laugh at someone else’s misfortune. We’ve all done it, even if we aren't proud of it. But once we know why we do what we do, we can choose to do something else.

Dealing With Feelings

"Minimize affect inhibition... Maximize positive affects… Minimize negative affects.” — Silvan Tomkins

Family Dysfunction: How Therapists Get the Whole Story

Therapists have several useful techniques for getting shameful, protective, or guilty patients to open up and tell the whole story regarding dysfunction in their families.

What's the Difference Between Guilt and Shame?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 16, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Shame and guilt often go hand in hand, which is why they are readily confused.

Call Children’s Private Body Parts What They Are

Children who know the correct names for their genitals feel better about their bodies, and have an important protection against molesters.

The Shakedown Of The American Psyche

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on February 24, 2017 in ExperiMentations
There's a diagnostic feeding frenzy about the President, and every possible perspective weighing in on the debate. How about our collective psyche, though? What's up with that?

Sex Addiction 101

By The Book Brigade on February 23, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Despite the debate whether sex addiction is a “real” disorder, many people struggle with problematic sexual behavior. There are ways to break free of compulsive sexual behavior.