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How Stigma Kills Doctors

Stigma is driving suicide in some doctors. Fortunately, courageous stories of doctors living with psychiatric illness are unlocking the shame.

Soul Sadness

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in Finding True Refuge
Our soul sadness is fully revealed when we directly and mindfully contact our pain. In such moments, we discover a natural upwelling of compassion and tenderness for our own heart.

Revenge vs. Rehabilitation

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on December 18, 2017 in Shame
Is the "name and shame" campaign purely about exacting revenge against sexual harassers?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence the ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

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The Coolest Monkey in the Jungle: Children, Pain, and Shame

By Paula L. White M.A. on January 10, 2018 in Shape Parenting
Worried about the impact of negative stereotypes on your child? These three concrete strategies can help.
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Does Your Hearing Loss Ever Make You Want to Scream?

By Shari Eberts on January 09, 2018 in Life With Hearing Loss
Does your hearing loss ever make you so frustrated you could just scream? Try these tips to help you survive these inevitable bouts of vexation.

Unspoken Legacy

By The Book Brigade on January 04, 2018 in The Author Speaks
Addiction affects the whole family, and it often has multi-generational roots that go unrecognized and unaddressed, even by therapists.

A Warning Sign That He May Not Be the Best Lover

By Donna Barstow on December 31, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
He's giving you clues even before the first kiss.

9 Tips for Awkward Silences in Therapy

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on December 29, 2017 in In Therapy
All the good stuff has already been covered (or so it seems). Where should you go from here? What should you talk about in therapy? Awkward.
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Embracing Masculine Vulnerability: A Q&A with Lewis Howes

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in How to Be Yourself
Why men have trouble letting themselves be vulnerable, and why it is so important that they try.

Accept Your Self-Doubt To Diminish Your Anger

How often is your anger a go-to reaction to discomfort with underlying self-doubt? Distinguish between destructive and positive self-doubt to help you curtail anger arousal.


By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on December 03, 2017 in Ambigamy
Fear of coming across as a jerk keeps many, but not all men in line.

Why the Embarrassment?

Too busy fixating on your "flaws" this holiday season?

18 Key Ingredients of a Happy Life

By John Kim, LMFT on November 30, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
These are some important life questions to think about.
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Love, Sex, and Romance with Different Abilities

By Elizabeth Young on November 27, 2017 in Adaptations
Hal says, "When you’ve got intimacy, and you add touching, you’ve got really good sex.” 

What Happens When You Run into Your Therapist on the Street?

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on November 21, 2017 in I Hear You
Have you ever had the unnerving experience of running into your therapist when you're not at all ready to see him or her? How will it likely play out and why?

Shame as a Barrier to Addiction Treatment

The largest barrier to alcoholics getting treatment is shame. This is ironic because getting help and getting sober should be an action that alcoholics feel proud of.

Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred

By Miki Kashtan Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in Acquired Spontaneity
The practice of nonviolence begins precisely when our actions, words, or thoughts are not aligning with our commitment. Because our capacity often lags behind our commitment.

Why Don't Victims of Sexual Harassment Come Forward Sooner?

No wonder victims of sexual harassment keep quiet. It is time we supported them, rather than questioning them.

The Flavors of Everyday Anxiety

The blending of fear with other emotions produces the variety of ways in which anxiety is felt.

What Does It Mean to Be a Spiritual Grown Up?

When we shame ourselves... how to stop.

Do You Have Adult ADHD and Feel Stuck?

Do you often know exactly the "what" and "how" of what you need to do, but can't execute?

Think You’re Not a Virgin? Consider This

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 02, 2017 in Living Single
People with no romantic relationship experience often feel shame. They shouldn’t. In other times and places, they probably wouldn’t.
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7 Ways to Respond When Someone Shames You

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 29, 2017 in Off the Couch
Everyone feels humiliated at some time or another. These 7 steps will help you deal.

The Normalcy of Sexting Among Teens

By Sue Scheff on October 29, 2017 in Shame Nation
Research says peer pressure is linked to growing sexting concerns with teens.

Do Minorities Have Equal Access to All Emotions?

Where a person lies in the hierarchy set by society determines which emotions to express and which to suppress.

6 Things an Addict Will Never Tell You

By Amy Dresner on October 25, 2017 in Coming Clean
Want to know what active addicts aren't telling you? Here are 6 things they're probably lying about.

How Workplace Bullying is Impacting LGBT Employees

By Sue Scheff on October 19, 2017 in Shame Nation
Forty-one percent of LGBT workers who have been bullied at work have left a job because they have felt bullied.

What Is the Sexiest Emotion for Women to Display?

By Alec Beall, Ph.D. on October 18, 2017 in Aesthetics 101
Emotion research may provide happy women with yet another reason to smile.

How To Approach Anxiety with Cleverness, Part 2

By Reid Wilson Ph.D. on October 06, 2017 in All about Anxiety
We “act as though” all day long—that the coffee we purchased is uncontaminated, and that gravity will keep our feet planted to the ground. When stuck, let it help you take action.

The Secret to Changing Eating Behavior, for Good

By Kari Anderson DBH, CEDS on October 03, 2017 in #BeHerNow
Whether you can successfully change your eating habits depends on why you want to change them.

How Recognizing Shame Can Help Us Grow

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on September 27, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Shame can be used to attack and try to control others, but voluntarily dealing with the aftermath of shaming experiences can sometimes help us to move forward.

My Son Came Home From College and I'm Ashamed

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 27, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when your child takes a break from college.

Asian Shame & Perfectionism

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on September 23, 2017 in Minority Report
Asian shame can impact perfectionism. Whether it's the drive to succeed academically, vocationally, or relationally...the deeper fear with Asian perfectionism is being rejected...