Divorce Essential Reads

Why Adultery Is Harmful Even Before It's Discovered

Kai Cole uses her experience of her marriage and divorce from Joss Whedon to show that the saying "what you don't know can't hurt you" is wrong.

Why Divorced People Are Key to Understanding Marriage

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 10,000 Dutch adults looked at the health of married people to see if it had anything to do with who got divorced. Did it ever.

A Simple Tool for Greater Relationship Satisfaction

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 18, 2017 in ExperiMentations
In today's hectic, sometimes lonely, day and age, proven tools to increase passion and relationship satisfaction are a sought after commodity. Research is illuminating, and useful.

How Likely Is Your Partner to Cheat on You?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 14, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Are you concerned your partner may be seeing someone else when you've agreed to be exclusive? Researchers continue to study infidelity to better understand when and how it happens.

Who’s to Blame When a Child Dies in High-Conflict Divorce?

By Linda Esposito LCSW on August 11, 2017 in From Anxiety to Zen
Filicide is the most unimaginable crime perpetrated against children. The very act defies explanation, yet opening up the dialogue may be the only hope for the lives lost.

Two Types of Relationship Aggression Identified

Is impossible for couples to avoid arguments but new research on long-term relationships suggests that some forms are more damaging than others. Here’s how to avoid the bad kind.

What Keeps Partners From Cheating?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 04, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Infidelity generally leads to pain and suffering for all involved, and is the most common factor in divorce. How do we resist temptation, making it more likely we'll stay together?

Individualism Goes Global: More Live Alone, Value Friends

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 29, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 51 years of data from 78 nations shows a rise in individualism around the globe. More people are living alone, divorcing, and valuing their friends over their family.

How to Handle a Toxic Divorce

Most divorces begin with hurt. A toxic divorce is a completely different scenario.

4 Things Guaranteed to Turn a Healthy Relationship Toxic

Coupling up and committing can bring enormous joy and wellbeing. When done poorly however, what once felt like closeness can easily turn toxic. Here are four traps to avoid.

The Truth About Marriage and Your Future

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in Living Single
In a 16-year study, more than 11,000 people were followed as they married and divorced. Here’s what happened to their health, life satisfaction, and depression.

Why So Many Unhappy Couples Stay Together

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Future expectations are a better predictor of whether a relationship will last than are current levels of satisfaction.

Can Being a Female Breadwinner Cost You Your Relationship?

By Shane Perrault Ph.D. on May 16, 2017 in It's Never Too Late
7 signs that your relationship is at risk of romantic bankruptcy.

Divorce Island

People change and act differently during divorce. I like to call it divorce island - a place where new rules apply. Learn more.

4 Ways to Bring Self-Esteem to Your Romantic Relationship

When one or both members of a romantic union feel positively about themselves romantic bliss becomes less elusive. Here are 4 ways to work on your self-esteem in your relationship.

High-Conflict Divorce: 3 Lessons Learned From the Couch

Recovery from a difficult divorce can seem unimaginable. A few mindset shifts can go a long way toward healing.
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The Divorce Decision

Are you frustrated in your marriage and not sure where to turn? Are you contemplating a divorce? Are you worried your spouse wants a divorce? Learn where to get help.

Do Half of All Marriages Really End in Divorce?

Does the thought that half of all marriages end in divorce have you afraid to tie the knot? That statistic is outdated, and knowing more about the facts can ease your fear.

Who Is Most Likely to Cheat on Their Partner?

Being able to figure out how faithful your partner will be would seem to be a worthwhile goal. New research suggests a pretty simple, “skin-deep” method.

Is Divorce Bad for Your Health?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Those who are ill-equipped for the demands of marriage won’t survive divorce very well either.

Broken Hearts and Deal Breakers: Reasons Why People Divorce

People who have divorced give a variety of reasons why, and mostly believe their ex should have done more.

How to Break Up When You Still Have to Live Together

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 06, 2017 in Ambigamy
Five simple tips for keeping it as simple as possible.

4 Sure Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If a pattern of toxic love describes your relationship, there is a way out of this spiral. Here are four signs that suggest your relationship very well may be toxic.

Men's Mental Health: A Silent Crisis

By Rob Whitley, Ph.D. on February 06, 2017 in Talking About Men
Numerous researchers state that there is a silent crisis in men’s mental health. Is this the case? What are the issues and what are the solutions to improve men's mental health?

Good Divorce Advice: Resist the Urge to Compare

By Wendy Paris on January 17, 2017 in Splitopia
It can be hard to avoid negative self-comparison, but you want to remain focused on your own path.

The Evolutionary Psychology of Divorce

Why does divorce wreak such havoc on people’s lives? For the same reason that high levels of processed foods cause health problems—divorce is not evolutionarily natural.

How to Tell Others You're Getting Divorced

By Wendy Paris on December 27, 2016 in Splitopia
Perfect your "divorce elevator speech" with these five tips.

5 Steps to Breaking Up When It Just Has to Be Done

If you have been unhappy in your relationship and if you have tried to work through your unhappiness with your partner but to no avail, allow yourself to do what needs to be done.

Holidays During Divorce, When Your Ex Has A New Partner

By Wendy Paris on December 20, 2016 in Splitopia
Our holidays and rituals always evolve. They have to, in order to stay meaningful, whatever our family structure.

4 Reasons to Stay Out of Contact With Your Ex

This is the single best way to accelerate the healing process after a break up or divorce.