Divorce Essential Reads

Four Ways Healthy Love Can Turn Toxic

Coupling up and committing can bring enormous joy and wellbeing. When done poorly however, what once felt like closeness can easily turn toxic. Here are four traps to avoid.

16-Year Study: Surprising Findings about Marriage and Health

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in Living Single
In a 16-year study, more than 11,000 people were followed as they married and divorced. Here’s what happened to their health, life satisfaction, and depression.

Why Do Unhappy Couples Stay Together?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Future expectations are a better predictor of whether a relationship will last than are current levels of satisfaction.

Can Being a Female Breadwinner Cost You Your Relationship?

7 signs that your relationship is at risk of romantic bankruptcy.

Divorce Island

People change and act differently during divorce. I like to call it divorce island - a place where new rules apply. Learn more.

4 Ways to Bring Self-Esteem to Your Romantic Relationship

When one or both members of a romantic union feel positively about themselves romantic bliss becomes less elusive. Here are 4 ways to work on your self-esteem in your relationship.

High-Conflict Divorce: 3 Lessons Learned From the Couch

Recovery from a difficult divorce can seem unimaginable. A few mindset shifts can go a long way toward healing.
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The Divorce Decision

Are you frustrated in your marriage and not sure where to turn? Are you contemplating a divorce? Are you worried your spouse wants a divorce? Learn where to get help.

Do Half of All Marriages Really End in Divorce?

Does the thought that half of all marriages end in divorce have you afraid to tie the knot? That statistic is outdated, and knowing more about the facts can ease your fear.

A New Way to Predict Whether Your Partner Will Be Unfaithful

Being able to figure out how faithful your partner will be would seem to be a worthwhile goal. New research suggests a pretty simple, “skin-deep” method.

Is Divorce Bad for Your Health?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Those who are ill-equipped for the demands of marriage won’t survive divorce very well either.

Broken Hearts and Deal Breakers: Reasons Why People Divorce

People who have divorced give a variety of reasons why, and mostly believe their ex should have done more.

How to Break Up When You Still Have to Live Together

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 06, 2017 in Ambigamy
Five simple tips for keeping it as simple as possible.

4 Sure Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If a pattern of toxic love describes your relationship, there is a way out of this spiral. Here are four signs that suggest your relationship very well may be toxic.

Men's Mental Health: A Silent Crisis

By Rob Whitley, Ph.D. on February 06, 2017 in Talking About Men
Numerous researchers state that there is a silent crisis in men’s mental health. Is this the case? What are the issues and what are the solutions to improve men's mental health?

Good Divorce Advice: Resist the Urge to Compare

By Wendy Paris on January 17, 2017 in Splitopia
It can be hard to avoid negative self-comparison, but you want to remain focused on your own path.

The Evolutionary Psychology of Divorce

Why does divorce wreak such havoc on people’s lives? For the same reason that high levels of processed foods cause health problems—divorce is not evolutionarily natural.

How to Tell Others You're Getting Divorced

By Wendy Paris on December 27, 2016 in Splitopia
Perfect your "divorce elevator speech" with these five tips.

5 Steps to Breaking Up When It Just Has to Be Done

If you have been unhappy in your relationship and if you have tried to work through your unhappiness with your partner but to no avail, allow yourself to do what needs to be done.

Holidays During Divorce, When Your Ex Has A New Partner

By Wendy Paris on December 20, 2016 in Splitopia
Our holidays and rituals always evolve. They have to, in order to stay meaningful, whatever our family structure.

4 Reasons You Should Stay Out of Contact With an Ex

This is the single best way to accelerate the healing process after a break up or divorce.

A Step-Child's Guide to Step-Parenting

Each family has its own story with its own peculiar complexities, but most have a moment in which the new boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a parent...

A Young Feminist's Compassionate View of Men

The Red Pill is the story of a young feminist who did something few feminists have done: She listened as non-judgmentally as possible to men and women in the men's rights movement.

Why Taking Ownership Is Key to Divorce Recovery

By Wendy Paris on November 22, 2016 in Splitopia
I created seven Principles of Parting while going through my own divorce and writing a book about it. The Principles are guideposts that keep us stay on course during trying times.

7 Questions You Have to Ask Each Other Before You Commit

Marriage is a big deal. Before you commit, test your relationship with these seven questions to sure you're making a good decision.

6 Steps to Setting Limits as a Solo Parent

By Wendy Paris on November 15, 2016 in Splitopia
Setting and keeping limits can be extra hard when you're the only adult in the house. Clinical psychologist Stephanie O'Leary gives easy success strategies.

5 Reasons People Stay in Unhappy Relationships

Why do people choose to remain in a unsatisfying relationships—even when they know it's not the right thing to do?

Should We Wait for Our Kids to Graduate Before We Divorce?

By Wendy Paris on November 01, 2016 in Splitopia
Many parents worry that they're divorcing at the worst possible age for their children, but other factors that are largely under our control matter more to a child's well-being.

Trust for Children of Divorce

Trust is part of developmental learning. Divorce jeopardizes children's trust and brings child confidence in others to a screeching halt. Here's how to recalibrate this?

Why We Get Stuck on People Who Just Aren't That Into Us

Defining yourself partly in terms of your past relationship is unhealthy and unnecessary. To get on with your life, you need to free yourself from this aspect of your past life.