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Four Ways Healthy Love Can Turn Toxic

Coupling up and committing can bring enormous joy and wellbeing. When done poorly however, what once felt like closeness can easily turn toxic. Here are four traps to avoid.

16-Year Study: Surprising Findings about Marriage and Health

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in Living Single
In a 16-year study, more than 11,000 people were followed as they married and divorced. Here’s what happened to their health, life satisfaction, and depression.

Why Do Unhappy Couples Stay Together?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Future expectations are a better predictor of whether a relationship will last than are current levels of satisfaction.

Can Being a Female Breadwinner Cost You Your Relationship?

7 signs that your relationship is at risk of romantic bankruptcy.

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Unable to Bury a Dead Love

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on June 27, 2017 in Obesely Speaking
Pretending to be happy is easier than actually being happy sometimes.

Understanding Children’s Best Interests in Divorce

“Shared parenting now has enough evidence...[that] the burden of proof should now fall to those who oppose it rather than those who promote it.”
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Can Marriage Survive When Your Child Dies Under Your Watch?

Marriage can survive the tragic loss of a child. Having these tools in place helps.
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The Number One Reason Marriages Fail

The sad reality is that most people who marry never really have a WE-dding.

Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

By Wendy Paris on June 15, 2017 in Splitopia
Increasingly, people are seeking a way to honor their marriage, even as they end it.

What to Do About Deep Loneliness Post-Divorce

Are you feeling like your social life has disappeared since your divorce? Here are three simple steps you can take to feel less lonely and make new friends.

Divorced Dads and Their Daughters

By Jesse Marczyk Ph.D. on June 14, 2017 in Pop Psych
A new study claims that the relationships between dads and daughters are important for shaping daughters' future sexual behavior. The evidence doesn't seem that clear to me.

After an Affair, How Innocent Partners Rebuild the Marriage

Surviving an affair involves active strategies of recovery. One of the most powerful is a faithful partner actively demonstrating forgiveness through acts of grace and kindness.

The Rise and Fall of Divorce

By Neel Burton M.D. on June 10, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Why did divorce rise, and why is it now falling?

Co-Parenting Tips If You Have Asperger's/Autism

I’m currently working with a wonderful father who has Asperger’s, and he’s been doing a wonderful job navigation the co-parenting situation.

Marriage: How We Got It So Wrong for So Long

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 03, 2017 in Living Single
If you wanted to answer the question, “If you get married, will you get healthier or happier,” how would you do it? The best studies are challenging our longstanding beliefs.

Don't Let Emotion Choose You

Advisors should work diligently to help their clients keep their emotions from getting the better of them.
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Marriage Begins with Irreconcilable Differences

This 1-minute marriage test will rock your world.

Are Illusory Agreements The New Trend?

Navigating the treacherous waters created by attorneys for whom the practice of law is nothing more than a game to be won is no easy feat.

The Number One Reason Relationships Fail

By Darcy Sterling Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Ask Dr. Darcy
There is one indicator that can predict, with amazing accuracy, the ending of your relationship story. It has to with how you fight.

The Rules of Disengagement

Even though No Contact is hard after a breakup, it's a necessary step to healing.

Child Custody in Polyamorous Families Part 5

This fifth and final blog in the series on children in polyamorous families examines the trends in custody of these children, from the best interests standard to recent changes.

Forget Co-Parenting With a Narcissist, Round 2

Establishing peace of mind and parenting rules, despite a toxic ex, is possible. Here are five additional tips.

Narrative Expressive Journaling Could Help Your Vagus Nerve

A new study found that "narrative expressive journaling" (in which you create a storyline with self-distancing) reduces stress better than extremely emotional "expressive writing."

The Choices We Make Create History, So Choose Wisely

One of the infinite number of choices we make is how we deal with conflicts and disputes.

4 Ways People Sabotage Their Breakups

Healthfully letting go brings self-knowledge and psychological wellbeing. Here are a few common ways that people inadvertently sabotage their breakups and divorces.

Digital Abuse in Relationships: What You Need to Know

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on May 17, 2017 in Connected
Learn how, and how often, digital technology is being used by domestic abusers to victimize their partners.

10 Ways to Have an Easier Relationship With Your In-Laws

In-law relationships can be very complicated.

7 Ways to Co-Parent Peacefully After a High-Conflict Divorce

Recovering from the circus-like atmosphere of a contentious divorce means taking care of your mind, body and spirit in order to parent with peace of mind. These 7 tips can help.

Fast Friends or Friends Fast

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 14, 2017 in Ambigamy
Clinging to old friends for fear of being stranded alone? There's another way. Get faster at turning new acquaintances into easy cozy friends.

You Think You’re Helping, Do You?

Considering that psychology is the study of the mind and behavior, shouldn't psychologists understand how things impact the mind and behavior?

Who Initiates Divorce More Often?

By Joanne Bagshaw Ph.D. on May 09, 2017 in The Third Wave
In heterosexual marriages, are women or men more likely to initiate divorce?

Be Positive. Be Neutral. Which Is It?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 05, 2017 in Ambigamy
Six practical tips for managing your loyalties and doubts, your positive certainty and your neutral receptivity, your open-mindedness and your closed-mindedness.

When Hiring a Lawyer or Mediator, Buyer Beware

Who is responsible when the public fails to understand the different dispute resolution processes and types of attorneys and mediators available, even after they retain someone?