Essential Reads

Unnaturally Good: The Plight of the Goody Two-Shoes

Don’t be fooled—not all virtue is the same.

Should You Make Choices for Your Kids?

Tuning in—or being tuned out

The Bourgeois Revolution

Our fantasies and expectations about family life arose two centuries ago

Whatever Doesn't Kill You, Will Only Make You Stronger?

Rethinking what it means to be resilient

Recent Posts on Child Development

High School and Beyond

As a parent, you understand the desire to help your child succeed in the world and have the best future possible. Many parents dream their child will be successful, obtain postsecondary education, excel academically and most of all: find a career that is rewarding and satisfying. After all, isn't that the American dream?

Different Is Good

By Maureen D Healy on March 30, 2015 in Creative Development
Are you raising a cookie cutter child?

Leaving our Legacies Mindfully

By Thelma Duffey Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in Works in Progress
We have choice to make when it comes to leaving an impact on others. It is important to live life and invest in those who care about you, while keeping in mind the legacy we want to leave.

Ice Breakers: How to Warm Up a Training Group

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in A Sideways View
There are some really interesting psychological games and exercises which can help you get any group going? Here, four of the best are described

Changes in the Family: Impact on Sexual Development

In modern times, the family unit has been dramatically reconstructed. Regardless of the family’s formation, the behaviors observed by children of both single and two-parent families significantly impact children’s sexual development.

Misdiagnosis of Bipolar Disorder, Part II

A case study illustrating comorbidity and distinctions between bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder and attention deficit disorder.

Posttraumatic Growth in Northern Ireland

Little is known about post traumatic growth in conflict situations

My Daughter and I Are Both Depressed

Yes, depression is contagious

No Limits: Relationships in Cyberspace

Virtual relationships can foster a sense of bonding and belonging, but psychological distancing can increase loneliness and alienation.

Life is a Like a Metaphor

When you stand alone like scraps of paper instead of “high-piled books” on Keats’s “shore of the wide world,” and love and fame “to nothingness do sink,” it might help to recognize that your current construction of the situation is a metaphor, and that you are not literally littoral litter.

“Having Guts” to Harden Parents’ Hearts

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
“Do you have the guts? You’re chicken if you don’t!” Remember such taunts to do stupid things in childhood? Apparently they are common in adulthood too—most recently with a doctor advising new parents. Destructive and unethical, let’s take a look.

He is Verbally Abusing Me: Why Me?

A victim of verbal abuse may manage to get out of an abusive relationship and feel relieved, but then meet someone new who is also an abuser. Or she might manage to get out of a relationship but then realize that her colleagues or friends are verbally abusing her too.

What do Children Think about Love?

A group of over thirty preschoolers and kindergarteners were asked what they thought of the word “love.” While younger children were primarily focused on an external conceptual line of thinking, the older children had moved to one that was more internally based.

Shaming Women: Sex, Toys, and Cosmetic Surgery

Stigmatizing women continues. But let us be grateful to women's advocates -- those who expose the finger pointers.

From “wow” to “meh” – 8 ways to deal with any letdown

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on March 28, 2015 in Off the Couch
Has this happened to you? You love everything about your new job – your terrific boss, your fabulous co-workers and your first assignment. Even your little cubicle is in the perfect location, with a bit of sunlight from a nearby window and near all of the right people. And then, sometimes all of a sudden, sometimes just bit-by-bit, you start to feel less excited.

Are We Losing Our Need for Physical Touch?

By Ray Williams on March 28, 2015 in Wired for Success
Has our hi-tech, media-socialized world lost something critical to our species—non-sexual human physical touch? Hasn't human physical contact set us apart from other animals, and has helped us develop complex language, culture, thinking and emotional expression?

Your Childhood And Your Child

The process of making connections between the past and the present is very important to family relationships.

Understanding Transgender Reality

In February, at the annual International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) symposium, I was honored to hear Ryan Sallans, an international speaker, transgender man and author of the book Second Son, speak.

Don't Just Be a Man; Be a Good Man

We can help boys to live happier, healthier lives by helping them to preserve their integrity and relationships.

Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a powerful method of overcoming trauma via the mind-body connection, and often without medication. This piece by Saint-Laurent and Bird is a great introduction for those considering the treatment as well as for therapists interested in SE training.

What No One Tells You About Avoidant Men

A subgroup of men with an avoidant attachment style suffer from a condition known as the Madonna-whore complex. Men with this complex assign Madonna status to some women and whore status to others.

4 Reasons Kids Stop Respecting Their Parents

Just telling kids their behavior is not okay is not enough

Unnaturally Good: The Plight of the Goody Two-Shoes

There’s authentic virtue, and then there’s a kind of chronic, not-quite-credible virtue that doesn’t—and can’t—reflect the individual’s true nature. Their righteous words and actions, though perceivable as virtuous, may not come from their heart but their head. And what they say may belie what they’re really thinking—may not, in essence, “capture” who they truly are.

The Infestation Begins: Terror on the Prairie

What if a doctor fainted at the sight of blood, an actor trembled when facing an audience, or an entomologist panicked amidst a swarm of insects? Professionals might have access to certain knowledge and skills, but experts are humans. So what does a scientist do when he loses his nerve and can no longer sustain a safe, psychological distance from the object of his study?

Should Autism Be Diagnosed in Infancy?

By Claudia M Gold M.D. on March 25, 2015 in Child in Mind
Autism research is coming out from the shadows of the "refrigerator mother theory' to show the importance of working with parent and child together to promote healthy development

Are You on the Fence? 10 Questions to Help Set Yourself Free

By Peg Streep on March 25, 2015 in Tech Support
Are you someone who second-guesses every big decision to death? Do you find yourself unable to move one way or another? Here are some questions that can possibly help...

Should You Make Choices for Your Kids?

Parents need to be concerned about the choices their kids make. The quality of your presence and support as your child explores and sorts through the options establishes the basis for his and her confident and solid decision-making when he and she are on their own.

The Quiet Advocate Behind Thriving Youth

All youth need supportive adult relationships beyond their parents—mentors who believe in them and their potential. Are you a mentor to young people? Learn how to foster their success.

In at the Sharp End

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in In Excess
Belonophilia refers to the deriving of sexual pleasure and arousal from pins or needles. Although media stories relating to ‘needle fetishes’ appear to be relatively rare, clinical and medical case studies in the academic literature are almost non-existent. So, what do we know psychologically about this apparently rare sexual fetish?