Essential Reads

Spying the Spy: 50 Must-Ask Questions to Ask a Suspected Spy

By Joe Navarro M.A. on May 31, 2017 in Spycatcher
With all the inquiries about foreign intelligence and the Russians, here are the questions I would ask as a former counterintelligence agent.

Three Keys to Getting Along

By Joe Navarro M.A. on May 15, 2017 in Spycatcher
The Three A's of Making Friends and Getting Along.

8 Ways Your Body Speaks Way Louder Than Your Words

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on April 11, 2017 in Feeling It
We all face difficult conversations with our spouse, our boss, our employee, our friends. We get so caught up in our words we forget the most important part: our body language.

What Is the Importance of Nonverbal Communications?

By Joe Navarro M.A. on April 05, 2017 in Spycatcher
Why study nonverbals? Because as you will see, they matter more than we think.

More Posts on Body Language

Recovery from Betrayal and Infidelity Part I

We’ve lost count of the number of times that we have heard from those who have been unfaithful in their partnerships, that “if I’d known then what I know now..."

How Important Is Sex? Part 2

There can come a time when there is recognition that the sexual aspect of our relationship needs a boost.

13 Challenges and Opportunities in Long-Distance Love

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 04, 2016 in Life, Refracted
Tempted to begin a long-distance relationship? Awareness of unique challenges and opportunities can help you decide what you may be getting into.

Have We Finally Found a Way to Detect Lies?

The big question in detecting deception is the ability to separate truth-tellers from fibbers.

7 Subtle Ways to Measure the Strength of Your Relationship

How committed is your partner? Use these tests to find out.

6 Disastrous Job Interview Blunders

Don't commit one of the deadly blunders that fell many inexperienced interviewees. Following this advice can help you land your dream job.

Mastering the Art of Subtle Seduction Part 1

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex...

Body-Love, Body-Shaming, and Health

By Ruth C. White Ph.D. on October 27, 2016 in Culture in Mind
As Americans get fatter, there is a sense of a 'new norm' and the language regarding how we frame our bigger selves is changing. But is this change good for our health?

Some Thoughts on Changing for the Better

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on October 26, 2016 in He Speaks, She Speaks
The androgynous communication style grasps the differences and uses them to improve the interactions between men and women.

If You Meet a Shark in the Dating Pool, Swim Away!

Beware that "soulmate" feelings may be echoes of former trauma that may lead us into a relationship that will morph into the nightmare of the abusive situation.

How to Keep a Dog From Jumping on Everyone

You can keep a dog from jumping on people by considering the dog's behavior, and how people usually respond to the behavior.

People Who Interview Well

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on October 12, 2016 in A Sideways View
Are some people massively advantaged by the interview process and others seriously disadvantaged? Does this make it a poor selection device and if so, when and why?

The Man Who Could See the Invisible

Thinking about Hurricane Matthew and its possible effects

The Gender Gap in the Presidential Race

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 06, 2016 in Intentional Insights
How emotional intelligence and gender norms for emotional expression might impact the presidential race

Are Women Queen Bees?

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on October 01, 2016 in He Speaks, She Speaks
When men argue or engage in conflict, it’s a healthy debate. When women argue, it’s a catfight.

In Defense of Power Poses

The idea that you can get a boost of confidence from posing like a superhero has recently come under fire. While these critiques have merit, so does the original idea.

Why the Pundits Are Wrong About Clinton Winning the Debate

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Most pundits focus on content in determining the debate winner. This article helps reveal the surprising role of emotional expression and emotional intelligence in the debate.

Body Language Says it All: Hillary Hides, Donald Emotes

By Richard E. Cytowic M.D. on September 28, 2016 in The Fallible Mind
Watch what the debaters do rather than listening to what they say. The best way to judge people trying to persuade you is with the volume turned off.

Did You Watch or Listen to the Presidential Debate?

By Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Between You and Me
We pay attention to different factors when watching versus listening to a presidential debate. Here's why.

Debate Winner Is in the Eye (Not the Ear) of the Beholder

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on September 19, 2016 in Why Bad Looks Good
Watch! Next week´s presidential debate may be won or lost visually rather than verbally. Research shows perception is driven by nonverbal reaction more than verbal response.

How One Pilot Calmed His Passengers With Just a Few Words

By Meg Selig on September 14, 2016 in Changepower
This pilot used 4 simple communication skills to soothe the minds of his passengers. While not a "Miracle on the Hudson," he made life better for a planeload of people.

Outta Control: Trump, Critics, and Circumcising Mosquitoes

By Gregg R. Murray Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Caveman Politics
We need some "mosquito surgery" in this year's presidential election. Calling all male mosquitoes.

Emblematic Slips

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on September 07, 2016 in Face It!
Did you know that a shoulder shrug may be an indication of lying? Certain subtle body movements may be more revealing than you think.

5 Keys to Getting Through Difficult Conversations

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on August 11, 2016 in Wander Woman
Shifts in emotions tell you if someone accepts or rejects your ideas. Here are five cues to look for that will help a difficult conversation have a positive outcome.

Symptoms Are Dreams Trying to Come True

By Gregg Levoy on July 30, 2016 in Passion!
Passions become needs, and if they're not met they become symptoms. Here's how to use those symptoms to unearth your passions, and use pain to evoke growth

When Falling Brings About Great Work

In the blink of an eye, I found myself on the putty colored carpet surrounded by the shrapnel of scattered chair parts. And it was the best possible thing that could have happened.
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What Can a Kiss Tell You About Someone's Sexuality?

By Diana Raab PhD on July 11, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
Kissing is a very intimate activity and it's been said that you can tell how passionate someone is by the way they kiss. Recent studies indicate that kissing unites people.
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Oral Sex on the Menu

By Donna Barstow on June 30, 2016 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Don't worry about doing it "right." Just do it.

Presidential Debates - The Medium Matters

Whether watching on tv or listening on the radio, how you hear a presidential debate might change who you think won.

Are Voice Commands or Hand Signals More Effective for Dogs?

New data answers the question of whether dogs are more responsive to verbal commands or to gestures and body language.