Essential Reads

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Observing

Observation permits us to use our inner scientist to discover how our behavior affects our loved one, as well as how we experience others' attempts to show love.

Hyperactive Kids and Playtime - What's the Connection?

Kids with more free play time behave better, are physically healthier and exhibit stronger social and emotional development.

Are We Growing Disconnected in an Age of Connectivity?

Is the constant pull of technology distracting you from what's happening right around you? A few tweaks can help you focus on the here and now.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: No Stealing

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on February 19, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Taking over a loved one's time, attention, property, space or decisions without explicit permission from him or her is stealing. Boundary violations can threaten a relationship.

More Posts on Attention

Build Routines Early, Build Skills for the Future

By Jennifer Weil Malatras, Ph.D. on December 21, 2016 in The Healthy Child
Struggling to stick to a routine? Research suggests you keep at it. Developing a consistent routine for your children may very well do them good in the long run.

The Currency that Makes a Relationship Thrive

What powerful biologic need is the essential fuel for connections to others?

Only Attention Can Lead to Devotion

Look closely and be drawn in.

When the Expectation Is for Parents to Hover

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on December 14, 2016 in Talking About Trauma
Problems arise when parent involvement extends too far, leaving young adults helpless in trying to find their footing, impeding normal development and independence.

The Psychology of High Heels

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 13, 2016 in All About Sex
One reason women choose heels: As height increases, men find them increasingly attractive.

Danger! Danger!

By Atalanta Beaumont on December 13, 2016 in Handy Hints for Humans
How to tame your inner Drama Queen

Understanding Attention Seeking and Confrontation

Attention seeking and confrontation can provoke strong emotions within us, especially as we age.

Deadlines and the Pacing of Creative Projects

By Wilma Koutstaal Ph.D. on December 06, 2016 in Our Innovating Minds
What pacing best gives your creative process the space and freedom it needs?

Celebrating Your Child's ADHD Gifts

By Dena Kouremetis on December 01, 2016 in The Unedited Offspring
Distractibility, disorganization, impulsivity. These are things the ADHD child learns to navigate, making them uniquely positioned to succeed as adults in many instances....

The Neutral Zone: The Fine Art of Being In-Between

By Gregg Levoy on November 25, 2016 in Passion!
Between an ending (of a job, a relationship, a mindset) and a new beginning is a phase called the neutral zone. Here's why it's so important not to skip it.

Toilet Paper, AAA Batteries, and a Clear Mind

Here's how to de-clutter your mind, and never run out of toilet paper again.

"I Have to Beg to Get His Attention," A Wife’s Lament

Husbands need to learn to be available and listen with full attention. Women need eye contact and time to talk.

Trump: The Master Distractor

What psychology says about our presidential election and the American public

Dispirited Men

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 04, 2016 in How To Do Life
A new movie calls attention to a gender double-standard.

Outlook matters

By Tracy P Alloway Ph.D. on November 01, 2016 in Keep It in Mind
Why paying attention to the snake on the ground can save your life, but harm your mental health.

Mastering the Art of Subtle Seduction Part 1

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex...

4 Possible Explanations for Déjà Vu

We still don't know that much about déjà vu. Here are 4 possible explanations for this phenomenon.

Personality and the Brain, Part 6

After his brain injury, Derek Amato became more agreeable and empathetic, suggesting that personality is not set in stone.

Paying Attention to Injuries Among Temporary Workers

Has your company seen an uptick in work-related injuries or illnesses lately? Recent hiring trends may be part of the problem and the solution.

When Love and Attention Just Aren't Enough

You'll be amazed at how affectionate and cooperative your little guy is after you "hear and see" his feelings.

Claustrophobia: Cause and Cure

By Tom Bunn L.C.S.W. on October 16, 2016 in Conquer Fear Of Flying
On top of a building, the most direct escape is to jump, a thought that can trigger panic and make stairs and elevators seem impossible to navigate. The answer: alarm attenuation

This Could Be the Biggest Threat to Your Relationship

It's often referred to as "the invisible addiction."

Are You Really Listening, or Just Waiting to Talk?

By Caren Osten Gerszberg on October 05, 2016 in The Right Balance
How good a listener are you—really? These five tips may change how you interact with those around you.

Groping for Sex and More Life

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on October 04, 2016 in A Swim in Denial
Terror Management Theory (TMT) offers a scientific way of understanding the spellbinding effects of Donald Trump's fantasies..

Is Digital Technology Just A Buzzy Distraction?

By Jeffrey Davis M.A. on September 30, 2016 in Tracking Wonder
When we gain or regain the skill set to harness our attention, then we can make wiser decisions about when, how, and why we use digital technology and the Internet.

Can Virtual Reality Help With Pain?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in Media Spotlight
A new meta-analysis highlights the effectiveness of virtual reality distraction in controlling different types of pain.

Your Left Cerebellar Hemisphere May Play a Role in Cognition

By Christopher Bergland on September 17, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
Traditionally, the cerebellum has been considered a "non-thinking" part of our brain. However, a new study reports that specific cerebellar brain regions are involved in cognition.

Shift the Sadness of Losing Summer

Our brain brain is good at scanning for negatives, but you can wire yourself to focus on positives.

7 Ways to Enhance Your Memory

By Ryan Anderson on September 13, 2016 in The Mating Game
Have you ever wondered if there is a simple way to improve your memory? This article gives you 7 evidence-based techniques you can use to become far better at retaining information