Essential Reads

I Turned Off My Cellphone for You

By Jan Albert on June 28, 2017 in Points of Observation
What in the world could convince a 20-Something to separate from his or her cellphone? Pratt University designers look to nature and the field of Biomimicry for inspiration.

Why Parents Make Us What We Are

Imprinted genes are critically implicated in nurture via their role in the brain and REM sleep.

How Maternal Personality Problems Affect Children

How does parental personality dysfunction affect the future mental health of offspring? New research highlights how psychological issues carry over through generations.

What's So Special About Dads

For Father's Day, we describe the science of what makes fathers unique from mothers, and the special role they play in child development.

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Does Prince Harry Reveal How To Cope With Loss?

...the counterintuitive finding is that such a profoundly negative experience as losing a parent during childhood, can lead you to feel more gratitude or appreciation for life...

Polyamory: A New Way of Loving?

By Neel Burton M.D. on April 06, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Polyamory and its pros and cons.

Are You Taking an Anti-Love Drug?

Before writing off the idea of a love drug, you might be surprised to learn how some common drugs are already affecting the bio-chemical bases of love.

Protective and Risk Factors Associated With Trauma

By Asa Don Brown Ph.D. on April 04, 2017 in Towards Recovery
What is your personal susceptibility to trauma?

Europe's Largest Rolling Stones Collection Unveiled

By Christine Louise Hohlbaum on March 27, 2017 in The Power of Slow
Some people spend a lifetime collecting merchandise from their favorite band. Reinhold Karpp's story of his near fifty-year pursuit takes the cake.

How Much Solidarity Do You Feel With Animals?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in Animals and Us
A new scale helps researchers study why some people identify with animals and others despise them.

Pets of the Homeless: Attachment Figures and Social Support

By Zazie Todd Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in Fellow Creatures
Why do homeless people have pets? It turns out that homeless youth with pets are less depressed and lonely than those without, but pets bring disadvantages too.

Relationship Mistakes to Watch Out For Early On

While some people do change, most don't. Old habits die hard. If things are difficult now, the likelihood is that they are only going to get worse.

How to Raise a Securely Attached Child

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on March 22, 2017 in In Practice
Simple, practical tips for developing emotional trust.

Get Outside in a Park With Your People

By Temma Ehrenfeld on March 21, 2017 in Open Gently
Get outside in greenery to have difficult conversations or to bond.

10 Ways to Help Your Daughter Get Over Her Boyfriend

A breakup is like drug withdrawal.

Predatory Polyamory?

My first blog on this topic told monogamous folks that they did not need to worry about poly people trying to steal their partners, but readers wrote in telling a different story.

How Relationships Work

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Want a straightforward, research-backed, practical overview of how relationships work? Here it is.
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Are We Doomed to Repeat Our Relationship Patterns?

Do the attachment styles we develop in childhood inevitably shape our adult relationships? And if so, can they be changed?

More Proof That Skin-to-Skin Contact Benefits Babies' Brains

Growing evidence suggests that skin-to-skin contact plays a significant role in healthy childhood brain development for all newborns, but especially for babies born prematurely.

Why Young People Destroy the Very Things They Need Most

By Nick Luxmoore on March 15, 2017 in Young People Up Close
When young people spurn our best attempts to love and support them, why do they do this?

Why Does Self-Help Fail?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 15, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Is self-help failing you? If you don't know why, and you do want it to work, learn how to help yourself in ways which succeed.

Should I leave This Person?

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 12, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Frequently, a patient asks me if he/she should leave the person he/she is dating. Usually, that person's friends make that recommendation. I do not usually--for different reasons.

War of the Worlds: Common Enemies

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 12, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Orson Wells galvanized America with the alternate truth that we were being invaded by Martians. But do we still need a common enemy to feel united?

What If Your Child Chooses to Do Wrong?

Punishment drives the feelings underground and makes the bad behavior worse. Healing the feelings that are driving the behavior is what prevents a repeat of the misbehavior.

A Parent Aims to Decipher a Teen’s Transgender Declaration

By Tina Traster on March 07, 2017 in Against All Odds
I don’t care how cool LGBTQ is at the moment. At the end of the day, a transgender desire is not welcome news to a parent.

Toward Integration: Mental Health Defined

We're all familiar with mental health issues or symptoms. But what does a mentally healthy brain look like? And how do we get there?

Commitment Phobia and Hookups

In today’s hookup culture, no one is a priority. People are options, like restaurants. If you don’t like the food, you don’t ever need to go back.

Breakup Strategies: The Brave and the Cowardly

By Samantha Joel on February 25, 2017 in Dating Decisions
Painful breakups can be made even worse by the way the breakup took place.

Why Do Dog Breeds with Genetic Disorders Suddenly Get Hot?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on February 24, 2017 in Animals and Us
Dog breeds like French bulldogs and Chihuahuas are skyrocketing in popularity despite their genetic problems. A new study examines why people are attracted to unhealthy pets.

All Problems Are Betrayals

By Nick Luxmoore on February 17, 2017 in Young People Up Close
For young people, all problems provoke primitive anxieties of betrayal: reminders of an original betrayal they can't consciously remember but can't help feeling strongly about.

Rethinking Love

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on February 16, 2017 in Face It!
Is love an emotion?

Ten Ways to Heal Your Attachment Issues

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 15, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
It’s never too late to have a close relationship with someone you love. If you had a connection before, you can have it again.

The Romance of Boycotting Valentine's Day

By Holly Parker, Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Your Future Self
And it’s precisely because romantic bonds are so meaningful and valuable that we’d do well to give Valentine’s Day the snub this year. Why?

What Adults Did to Me at Birth: A Baby’s Point of View

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Moral Landscapes
You civilized people don't know what you are doing to babies. Here's my story.