Attachment Essential Reads

I Turned Off My Cellphone for You

By Jan Albert on June 28, 2017 in Points of Observation
What in the world could convince a 20-Something to separate from his or her cellphone? Pratt University designers look to nature and the field of Biomimicry for inspiration.

Why Parents Make Us What We Are

Imprinted genes are critically implicated in nurture via their role in the brain and REM sleep.

How Maternal Personality Problems Affect Children

How does parental personality dysfunction affect the future mental health of offspring? New research highlights how psychological issues carry over through generations.

What's So Special About Dads

For Father's Day, we describe the science of what makes fathers unique from mothers, and the special role they play in child development.

Are Young Women With Older Men Looking for a Daddy?

Relationships with a significant age gap almost always trigger raised eyebrows. Research helps to determine whether those raised eyebrows are justified.

Why Some People Just Have Difficult Relationships

You may regard yourself as pretty easy-going, so why are some people in your life so very hard to get along with? New research shows why the difficult are so difficult.

This Is Your Brain Falling in Love

By Lydia Denworth on June 02, 2017 in Brain Waves
A new study let scientists get a glimpse of what happens when one individual is becoming attracted to another.

Toxic Friend or Just the Product of a Toxic Environment?

Sometimes non-toxic friends display toxic relationship behaviors.
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What Counts As Intimacy? Not Everyone Agrees

By Tim Cole Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in Intimate Portrait
How do you define intimacy in your relationship? Knowing your attachment style can help.

Is Depression Apart from Grief or a Part of Grief?

The title above alludes to a really tricky question. And a complicated one, too. For the answer to this two-part inquiry is, well, “Yes” and “Yes.”

Mother’s Day Manifesto for Grieving Mothers

By Allen J Frances M.D. on May 13, 2017 in Saving Normal
It is time to get back to the original intent of Mother's Day: a loving tribute to all mothers, especially those who are grieving the loss of a child.
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Are You a Good Enough Mother?

By Barb Cohen on May 11, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
All parents commit missteps, but the fact is that ours seem more consequential. Is being good, good enough?

The Gift and the Sacrifice of Breastfeeding

Doctors tout the benefits of breastfeeding, often using the phrase "Breast is Best." According to research, nursing has benefits, but it can also come at a cost for some moms.

Geographical Differences in Love

Are you living in a region populated by highly anxious people? Research reveals where love comes easy.

Expectations Can Hurt Your Relationship

Certain expectations, if they're unmet, can be problematic for your relationship.

Hundreds of Psychology Studies are Wrong

By neglecting genetic influences on behaviour, numerous psychologists have confounded their own research.

What Is Your Conflict Style?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 14, 2017 in Talking Apes
Conflict is inevitable, but how couples approach it determines whether their relationship will be strengthened as a result, or torn apart.

Disorganized Attachment: Fears That Go Unanswered

By Molly S. Castelloe Ph.D. on April 12, 2017 in The Me in We
How disorganized attachment in infancy impacts emotional and social development.

Why Social Media is Not Smart for Middle School Kids

Wondering why your middle schooler's social media use has ratcheted up your stress levels? Understanding the brain at this age can help you can take back control.

Love at First Sight: New Research on Who's Attracted to Whom

Whether or not you believe in love at first sight, there’s a case to be made for instant attraction. New research on speed-dating shows how personality affects romantic choices.

Want to Build a Dog From A Fox? Here's How To Do It.

Tucked away in Siberia, there are furry, four-legged creatures with wagging tails that are as friendly as any lapdog. But, despite appearances, these are not dogs—they are foxes.

4 Sure Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If a pattern of toxic love describes your relationship, there is a way out of this spiral. Here are four signs that suggest your relationship very well may be toxic.

Why the Best Relationships Don't Follow the Golden Rule

By David Ludden Ph.D. on March 20, 2017 in Talking Apes
According to recent research, to get what you want out of a relationship, you first have to give your partner what they want.

Apologies Are for the Weak: How to Crush Your Enemy

New research indicates that real men don't apologize.

What’s Behind a Dating Profile?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on March 07, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Profiles written by people in middle age are longer than the those by age groups younger or older. Females who use negative words score lower on trust and higher on caution.

Can Punctuality Ruin Love?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on February 23, 2017 in In the Name of Love
There are good reasons for considering punctuality to be a virtue. Is it also a romantic virtue? There are reasons to think it is not.

Marriage as a Constraint

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on February 19, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Someone may explain a hesitancy to marry in terms of a particular partner. Often, however, there are are more general reasons.Some men and women see marriage as a constraint.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: No Stealing

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on February 19, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Taking over a loved one's time, attention, property, space or decisions without explicit permission from him or her is stealing. Boundary violations can threaten a relationship.

For Better or for Worse?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Talking Apes
It takes both partners working together to make marriage a heaven on earth — or a living hell.

Are the Physically Attractive Also Happier?

The surprising finding was that gorgeous models who made a living from being beautiful, suffered lower well-being and greater personality maladjustment than non-models.