Attachment Essential Reads

The Biggest Red Flag That Your Partner is Not "The One"

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 16, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Infatuation Alert: You have feelings of anticipation and excitement whenever you think about your new love interest. But is your emotional intoxication healthy or harmful?

Smartphone Attachment Can Mimic a Human Relationship

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on December 13, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Is there is a connection between anxious smartphone attachment and anthropomorphic beliefs? Anxious smartphone attachment is related to the urge to answer texts or emails.

Fears and Consequence in Choosing Open Adoption

If the birth mother is in our lives, won't my child will be confused as to who their "real" parents are?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence the ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

Death In Our Hands?

The internet has become the modern piazza, but at what cost?

How to Neutralize Your Partner’s Defenses

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
Unlike courtship, once couples enter into a presumably lasting commitment, they both—however unconsciously—focus more on what they never really liked about each other.

Starved for Affection: How Childhood Experiences Define Love

By Peg Streep on November 07, 2017 in Tech Support
Our culture tells us to stop whining about childhood and to "move on." But we'll keep repeating the patterns of the past if we can't see them.

Should We Prepare Ourselves for Straying?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on October 31, 2017 in In the Name of Love
In order to reduce the pain of a potential romantic rejection, some people cultivate back-up romantic options. How beneficial is this preemptive strike strategy?
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Are You Lonely in Your Marriage?

Emotional abandonment happens when the other person is lying right beside us.

The State of Affairs

By Mark Matousek on October 20, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
"An affair upsets the status quo by not only bringing the subject of sexuality to the forefront, but every other aspect of their relationship as well," says Esther Perel.

The 11 Things That Drive Romantic Attraction

Long-term attraction is more likely to occur in the presence of qualities facilitating attraction, together with personality traits such as availability and inscrutability.

Emotional Connection

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in In It Together
What is the most effective way to keep your relationship joyful? Learn how to stay connected.

The 16 Steps of a Breakup

Break ups . . . a matter of a familiar script?

Choice in Consensual Non-Monogamy

How consent, personal responsibility, and mutual reliance enable polyamorous people to construct designer relationships.

The 14 Crucial Ingredients of All Successful Relationships

Considering the many factors involved in relationships, it might seem impossible to narrow them down to a reasonable number. New research shows which are the 14 common elements.

The New Erotic Frontier: Sex in Nursing Homes

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 15, 2017 in All About Sex
Nursing homes are slowly moving from a policy of “don’t” to “do not disturb.”

The Importance of Cuddling

By Vanessa LoBue, Ph.D. on September 11, 2017 in The Baby Scientist
Doctors are starting to tout the importance of skin-to-skin contact for newborns. Here's what science says about why touch is so important for babies, and for you.

6 Facts and Myths About Masturbation

While it may feel shameful to admit, everybody does it at some point in their lives.

A Simple Tool for Greater Relationship Satisfaction

In today's hectic, sometimes lonely, day and age, proven tools to increase passion and relationship satisfaction are a sought-after commodity. Research is illuminating and useful.

This Is How Men Really Think About Sex

Sex begins in the body. While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men, desire is physical.

Why You Can’t Be Without Your Phone

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on August 02, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Do we become attached to phones as human attachment substitutes? Anxiously attached people keep their phones close to be in constant contact with other people.
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You Really Need to Be Tracking Your Dreams

By Patrick McNamara Ph.D. on August 01, 2017 in Dream Catcher
Recording and working with your dreams on a regular basis may allow you to better predict your illnesses, cultivate your creativity and improve your daily social interactions.

4 Ways That a Rough Childhood Can Damage Adult Relationships

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on August 01, 2017 in Mindful Anger
There are many ways childhood emotional trauma continues to affect you even after you've grown up.

The Unusual Narcissism of Compulsive Givers

By Steven Berglas Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in Executive Ego
There's a paradoxical form of narcissism that involves compulsive giving. Essentially it's a way of bribing people into attachment.

Secure Attachment: The Norm in Interethnic Relationships

How accurate are negative stereotypes about individuals who form long-term relationships across ethnic lines? Attachment studies suggest that the stereotypes are false.
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What Causes Someone to Develop an Eating Disorder?

Individuals with eating disorders are suffering because of an inadequate attachment with their caregivers.
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Timing Matters in the Effects of Neglect on Development

By Rebecca Compton Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Adopting Reason
How much can stable, nurturing homes help children overcome the effects of severe early neglect?

The Challenges of Intimacy

By Neel Burton M.D. on July 18, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Why intimacy requires constant vigilance.

Pornography and Broken Relationships

People who view pornography are much more likely to experience a romantic relationship breakup. We look at research data supporting this expectation and discuss pivotal factors.

The Danger of Secrecy: What Happens to Unanswered Questions?

A child raised in an environment of secrecy receives the unspoken message that the subject of adoption is taboo, and they will continue to have unanswered questions multiply.