Essential Reads

The State of Affairs

By Mark Matousek on October 20, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
"An affair upsets the status quo by not only bringing the subject of sexuality to the forefront but every other aspect of their relationship as well," says Esther Perel.

Can Scientists Forecast Attraction?

Long-term attraction is more likely to occur in the presence of qualities facilitating attraction, together with personality traits such as availability and inscrutability.

Emotional Connection

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in In It Together
What is the most effective way to keep your relationship joyful? Learn how to stay connected.

The Truth Behind Breaking Up: It All Comes Down to 16 Steps

Break ups . . . a matter of a familiar script?

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Collective Intelligence in the Holocene: 7

By Michael Hogan Ph.D. on October 13, 2017 in In One Lifespan
Notwithstanding the uniqueness of human beings, a focus on the broadest timescale of analysis reminds us that evolution unites Homo sapiens with all other living systems.

Scams, Scandals, and Security Breaches

We may feel bombarded with stories about the lack of ethics, seemingly everywhere. But we can take charge and actively establish rings of trust around us.

7 Infidelity Preventatives Your Marriage Needs Today

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Clear Communication
The best defense is a good...defense.
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Are Past Relationships Putting a Damper on Your Current One?

By Vijayeta Sinh Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Life in Balance
Don't drag past relationships with you. Trying to understand them will help you move forward.

Managing Relationship Conflict: Letting Go of Being Right

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on October 07, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Tired of having arguments that end with you and your partner insisting that you both are right about long ago events? Learn to let go of being right and find strategies that work.

Nonparental Daycare: What The Research Tells Us

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on October 05, 2017 in Insight Therapy
Most American children will experience nonparental care. America has yet to adequately address the implications of this reality.

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

Here are the two most healing words in the English language--and why.

Timeouts: Good for Adults, but Not for Kids

Most adults know they shouldn’t hit, shame, yell at, or ridicule kids. Timeouts are just as bad. Here's why timeouts are good only for adults, with 13 ideas for what to do instead.

No, Honestly! It's All True!

By Nick Luxmoore on September 27, 2017 in Young People Up Close
Why make up stories, insisting that they're true? What do young people's lies mean and how should we respond?

Theoretical Orientations as Straw Men

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on September 25, 2017 in Feeling Our Way
The appeal of reviling other therapists' approaches.

Oxytocin Ain't Behavin' How Scientists Thought It Would

By Christopher Bergland on September 23, 2017 in The Athlete's Way
Contrary to popular belief, oxytocin (which is often called "the love hormone") also has a dark side that intensifies feelings of social defeat and fuels anxiety-driven behavior.

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles can affect our partner selection, the way in which we relate to our significant other, and the behaviors we display during the course of our relationship.
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The Key to Healthier Relationships

How partners can help one another change their attachment styles and deepen their relationship.
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When Trust Is Gone, What Can You Do?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on September 17, 2017 in Off the Couch
We live in a time when everyone is talking about trust and no one seems to be feeling much of it. Here's what you can do when you no longer trust.

Is Your Mother Narcissistic or Controlling?

By Peg Streep on September 06, 2017 in Tech Support
It's true that children whose emotional needs weren't met by their mothers share common ground, but there are still important differences that affect individual development.

I’m in a Sexless Marriage

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on August 31, 2017 in Minority Report
What does it mean when you're in a sexless marriage or relationship? Is something wrong with the relationship and is there any hope?

I Still Don't Feel Loved/Connected/Cared About!

One of the biggest issues to plague couples I see in my practice is the tension between what is happening and what is wanted. How do we turn this into an opportunity for intimacy?

Dogs as Healers, Dogs as Co-Therapists for PTSD

How Dogs Can Facilitate the Healing of Trauma.

What Your Earliest Food Memories Say About You

Memories of food associated with growing up influence you in ways you never realized. New research shows the role that food memory plays in adapting to adult life.
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A Sacred Circle

By Elizabeth Young on August 17, 2017 in Adaptations
Everyone took her neighbors' hands and the circle steadied and tightened: we created and held that sacred space.

How Do We Decide Whether or Not to Break Up?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 07, 2017 in ExperiMentations
What factors do we weigh when deciding to leave a long-term relationship? How does attachment style influence decision-making? New research provides additional insight.

Why You Didn't Get What You Needed From Narcissistic Parents

The effects of emotional neglect by narcissistic parents are particularly pernicious and difficult to acknowledge, let alone overcome.

Considerations on "The Big Sick"

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on August 05, 2017 in Life After 50
Does Kumail Nanjiani's relationship with his parents ring bells for you?

Are Dog-Loving Millennials Driving House Prices Up?

More millennials are listing dogs as the biggest factor in their home buying decisions, ahead of marriage and children.

Plato, Phones, and That Embarrassing Silence

Is technology a problem? Was it in the past?

How to Recognize Toxic Individuals and Toxic Relationships

Have you ever questioned if you are in a toxic friendship or toxic romantic relationship? Do you feel beaten down by individuals who say they care about you? Learn the red flags!
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What Does Your Social Media Style Say About You?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 30, 2017 in Off the Couch
Research released this month suggests that every time you post to social media you may be revealing more about yourself than you realize.

From Friendship to Courtship: How Friends Fall in Love

How do couples transition from friendship to courtship? The answer depends on projection and mutual attraction.

Can Technology Make Us More Human?

Do the advances in social media, artificial intelligence, robotics, and other technology threaten our basic nature as humans, or will technology enhance our humanness?