Essential Reads

Empathy for a Child Abuser?

Empathy for the Undeserving Can Be a Useful Strategy for Changing Families

The Top 9 Reasons I Hate Anxiety

Here are the top 9 reasons I hate anxiety--and you should too!

Think You Can't Get Drunk on Soda Water? Think Again.

A powerful demonstration of how easily we can be fooled.

Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree

Different visions? Find the problem under the problem.

Recent Posts on Anxiety

Family Storytelling: Good for Children (and Parents)

Increasing bonding and resilience as well as lowering behavioural and emotional difficulties are among the many benefits.

Are You Strong Enough to Unplug for 24 Hours?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in Singletons
Everyone from your boss to your child’s teachers expects you to be connected and be reachable 24/7. What a relief it can be to unplug for one day and not be at the mercy of your “screens.” What happens when you unplug for a whole day?

You Just Found Your Kid’s Drug Stash - Now What?

Don’t delay in talking to your child. Take a little time to get educated about commonly abused drugs and adolescent substance use trends so you can better assess your child’s risks.

Hiding From Relationship—In Relationship

The suppression of the emotional vitality that we call passion is both the benefit and the cost of irrelationship, and a side effect of the process that creates it. Relationships can be enlisted in the service of defense in many ways. In irrelationship, the enlistment is constructed by two people, and enforced by both.

Why is the Unattainable so Hot?

We crave what is mysterious. It arouses us and fascinates us. In that respect, the unattainable is similar to horror.

Long-Term Look at Rett Syndrome

Australian researchers complete 20-year longitudinal study on neurodevelopmental disorder Rett syndrome

Colorblindness Is a Poor Adaptation to Neo-Diversity Anxiety

American racial, intergroup anxiety is getting worse. And one poor adaptation people are trying to use to avoid their own racial neo-diversity anxiety is the “I don’t see color” strategy.

A Visit to the Psychiatric Hospital Made Me Sick

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
Our psychiatric inpatient care system is insufficient and often detructive. But the inpatient population is not a wealthy, vocal, or well-organized pressure group. In our current cultural moment, without a strong voice in the Halls of Power, you may well end up wandering aimlessly down the corridors of an ill-staffed and ill-equipped hospital ward, talking to yourself.

Helping Your Anxious Child Overcome Bedtime Fears

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on March 03, 2015 in Worry Wise
It’s not their bed, or the house, or the dolls—it’s what their mind, and specifically their “worry brain” is telling them about those things that is making them so frightened. So while you’re tempted to just reassure your child that everything’s fine, chances are you already know—that doesn’t work.Instead, teach your child to be the boss and not get tricked by their worry!

50 Ways to Reduce Anxiety

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in In Practice
Mega list of strategies for dealing with anxiety.

Drawing From Moments of Serenity

By Hal Mathew on March 02, 2015 in Unagoraphobic
Learning a new skill will give you meditative, calming periods of time each day

The Brain Is Not an Octopus

By Susan Greenfield Ph.D. on March 02, 2015 in Mind Change
Engaging in several tasks at once might seem like a wonderful solution for keeping pace with the speed of twenty-first-century life, but the price paid could be high.

Divorce Equality

While there is a lot of press about gay marriage, there is much less reporting of gay divorces.

The Sexual Boundary Issue That's Seldom Discussed

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 02, 2015 in All About Sex
Many couples struggle over men's wish to ejaculate into women's mouths and have them swallow.

Empathy for a Child Abuser?

Empathy for a child abuser? For a child molester? How can anyone be empathic with someone who has done something so terrible? Why would they want to? Do the perpetrators possibly deserve such a thing? For a judge or prosecutor, of course not. For stopping repetitive dysfunctional family interactions that trigger someone's self-destructive behavior? Necessary.

What We Lose, and Gain, When a Family Separates

By Kylie Agllias Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Family Conflict
The choice to estrange from family is often portrayed as a simple and selfish act, but the reality and the experience is much more complex.

The Top 9 Reasons I Hate Anxiety

Here are the top 9 reasons I hate anxiety--and you should too!

Fear and Pain Can Alter Memory

What we experience today can impact our memories of similar events that happened yesterday. Our present-moment experience is so powerful it may reinforce or ‘overwrite’ our memory of a past experience.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Can Bacteria Make You Fat?

The problems of keeping things in the family

Healthy Relationships Overlooked in Search for a Quick Fix

By Amy Banks on February 28, 2015 in Wired For Love
Simply thinking about your strongest relationships can change your brain chemistry in a positive way. Imagine the benefits of being face to face with the people you love!

Finding The Sweetness in LIfe Even When Times Are Tough

By Allison Carmen on February 28, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
I had just found out my mother had breast cancer, and I was walking to meet her for dinner. My mind was seized by the most frightening thoughts of losing my mother and what this illness would mean. All of a sudden, a beautiful breeze hit my face and an enveloping peace and joy ran through me. Was it okay for me to feel this joy when danger was looming over my family?

How People Quit Being High Maintenance

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in Ambigamy
Holding our heads high is good an necessary, but higher than other heads is exhausting both for us and the people who have to deal with us. Here's an alternative.

Think You Can't Get Drunk on Soda Water? Think Again.

Don't blame it on the alcohol! Blame it on your expectations about drinking.

How to Tidy Your Home Mindfully

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on February 26, 2015 in Urban Survival
Could the cluttered state of your home be holding you back? Marie Kondo's method of decluttering is about more than tidying the home—surrounding yourself with things that bring you joy can help you achieve a greater clarity and awareness of the mind, too.

Should Health Care Providers Joke About Patients?

By Jean Kim M.D. on February 26, 2015 in Culture Shrink
Medical Gallows Humor can help providers cope, but at what cost to the care provider-patient relationship?

Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on February 26, 2015 in Fixing Families
Being on different pages about having children can be a major relationship roadblock. The key is uncovering the problem under the problem -- some likely suspects.

Coping With Traumatic Brain Injury

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in Talking About Trauma
Tricia Williams, a clinical neuropsychologist at Holland Bloorview Kids Rehabilitation Hospital, explains how to improve child development and mental health for individuals coping with a TBI.

Are Kids Curious?

By Glenn C. Altschuler Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in This Is America
In The Hungry Mind, Engel draws on the latest social science research to understand why curiosity is nearly universal in babies, and less evident in school. Although most children learn more when their curiosity is piqued, “schools do not always, or even often, foster curiosity.” But in an era that prizes quantifiable results, curiosity is not likely to be a priority.

How to Respond When Trauma is Revealed

Asking clients questions about past or present experiences of trauma, abuse or neglect has become a standard part of the intake and assessment phases of most mental health treatment practices. The therapist’s initial responses can help set the stage for subsequent processing and healing.