Essential Reads

4 Things Not to Say to Someone with an Anxiety Disorder

These statements can do more harm than good.

Don’t Let Shame Weaken Your Retirement Plans

Psychologists tell us that shame can lead to despair and weakness.

Does Uncertainty Breed Prejudice?

New research suggests that it does - for some people.

Success in New Situations: Five Key Skills

Simple things you can do to be more comfortable and confident when you're new

Recent Posts on Anxiety

5 Reasons Suffering People Don’t Want to Try Medication

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on October 04, 2015 Full Living
While it is true that we live in a world that too quickly turns to medication, it doesn't mean people with anxiety and depressive disorders should go without. This may be our one and only life; it is worth removing barriers to our contentment.

An Overwhelmed Graduate Student

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 How To Do Life
A transcript of a part of my session with a client. Many lessons embedded.

Do You Work for a Demanding 'Type A' Boss?

By Victor Lipman on October 03, 2015 Mind of the Manager
Type A managers, of which there are many, can at times be impatient, stressful, and plain old hard to work for. Here are practical tips to help you survive, and even succeed.

5 Reasons Not to Fear Public Speaking

By Victor Lipman on October 02, 2015 Mind of the Manager
Great speakers are made, not born (as are plain old good ones). Consider the examples of this famous five. All overcame significant public speaking confidence problems — and so can you.

Get in Touch With Your Core Value

The rewards for staying true to your deepest values are great: Authenticity, conviction, long-term wellbeing. And the reminders for violating them are terrible: guilt, shame, anxiety, regret, feeling inadequate or unlovable.

How Do You Know When Your Therapy Needs Help?

How do I know when my therapy is deadlocked? The following discussion was provoked by feedback we received on a blog entry on the “doctor-patient relationship,” and provides food for thought for both therapists and their patients.

Rampage as a Team Instinct

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 A Swim in Denial
Humans have evolved powerful social bonding that shows up in group rivalry and team spirit. In civilization, where strangers can live together, the lethal competition of warfare is safely symbolized in team sports such as football. In rampage killing, as in the Roseburg Oregon massacre, that symbolic quality breaks down.

4 Things Not to Say to Someone with an Anxiety Disorder

Saying this to someone with an anxiety disorder is unhelpful and stigmatizing.

Don’t Let Shame Weaken Your Retirement Plans

How can you get power to save for retirement? Retirement planning is possible. Three tips that will empower anyone to plan better without despair and shame.

The Essence of Managing Anxiety

Stress, anxiety and worry make us uneasy and can derail efforts to stay calm. Here are 10 simple ways to keep calm can make it possible to carry on even in difficult situations.

13 Easy Ways to Jumpstart Your Boring Life

By Donna Barstow on October 01, 2015 Ink Blots Cartoons
Routines can be comforting, but when every day looks the same, that can be a danger signal.

A Philosophical Cure for Anxiety

By Neel Burton M.D. on September 30, 2015 Hide and Seek
By facing up to death we can escape from the pettiness and paralysis of anxiety.

Does Uncertainty Breed Prejudice?

By Nathan A Heflick Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 The Big Questions
How does the quest for certainty impact prejudice towards people who do not belong to our social groups?

Replication Crisis?

By Nathan A Heflick Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 The Big Questions
Psychology studies are finding difficult to replicate. Is it time to panic, or due we just need greater appreciation for the complexity of human psychology?

Dreadful Companions Called Fear, Guilt and Shame

Along with anger comes companion emotions that need to be examined as you heal from your eating disorder or disordered eating. Anger can be an immediate response to pain in your life. Fear, guilt and shame, however, follow close behind.

Is It Time To Worry When Flight Attendants Are Told To Sit?

By Tom Bunn L.C.S.W. on September 30, 2015 Conquer Fear Of Flying
If if the turbulence is expected to be light, pilots try to turn the seat belt sign on early. This is because the flight attendants must put away loose items in the galley and stow the serving carts before they are seated.

How Are Human Traits Linked to Specific Brain Connections?

By Christopher Bergland on September 30, 2015 The Athlete's Way
Researchers at Oxford University have identified that positive and negative human traits are linked to specific brain connections.

Students: Microaggression and Trigger-Warnings

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 Beyond Good and Evil
Folie à Plusieurs in the 21st Century!

Success in New Situations: Five Key Skills

Ever find yourself reluctant to meet new people and join new groups? Get better at these five fundamental newcomer skills and you’ll be more willing to put yourself out there and take advantage of life’s opportunities.

The Sources of Fear Perception

By Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Science of Choice
The development and maintenance of anxiety is jointly determined by the relative strength of emotional brain and cognitive capacity to control unwanted responses.

Political Correctness Gone Mad

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Beyond Good and Evil
The thinking we do when we don't think about the thinking we do: microaggressions and trigger-warnings:

One Easy Question Can Help Break the Anxiety Cycle

By Christopher Bergland on September 29, 2015 The Athlete's Way
Researchers have identified that asking yourself one easy question can help break the anxiety cycle.

The 6 Mental Health Habits That Kill Your Confidence

Do you struggle with self-doubt and self-defeating habits? Do you want to feel more confident about yourself and what you have to offer? Do you focus on pleasing others, rather than following your dreams and living your best life? The best way to start feeling better about yourself is to notice the automatic mental and emotional habits that don’t serve you well.

Do You Feel Like a Placeholder in Your Relationship?

If you suffer from self-loathing or low confidence, you may worry that your partner is always looking for some better—which may be a self-fulfilling prophecy you want to avoid.

How to Plan for the Future without Missing Out on Today

The truth is we really don’t know if we’re going to wake up tomorrow morning, so it’s important each day to make sure there are special things throughout our day, today, that make it a beautiful.

Anxiety Can Speed Aging

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on September 27, 2015 Memory Medic
No one gets to re-live the past, but everyone can influence their own future.

Grief and Fear

Grief is also about becoming untethered. It’s about losing an identity.

Getting Over Relationship Insecurity

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on September 25, 2015 Compassion Matters
Insecurity, as most of us know firsthand, can be toxic to our closest relationships. And while it can bounce back and forth from partner to partner, both the cause of our insecurity and its cure reside in us alone. So, how can we best deal with our insecurities?

The Purpose of Worry and How to Manage it

There are many reasons why a person may develop the kind of anxiety that includes ruminative worrying. And there are many tools to control that kind of worry. Give these ideas a try—you might be surprised that you can eliminate worry.

Protected Against Presence

Presence can be an idealized—but powerfully defended against—missing ingredient in relationships that work as co-created psychological defense systems, called irrelationships. Presence, the very thing we say and think we want can be a terrorizing force threatening to erupt as love, care and compassion—the very things that irrelationship is built to protect us against.