Essential Reads

What Helicopter Parents Need to Know

Nurturing college students for success, not dependency

Baby Crying? Don't Shame the Parents!

What all adults need to know about letting babies "cry it out"

Behavior Differences Between Smaller and Larger Dogs

Small and large dogs behave differently, partly because of their owners.

Recent Posts on Anxiety

4 Keys to Happiness

Happiness is not about what you need from others, it is really about what you are willing to give to others.

Do “Autism Parents” Face Increased Stigma for Mental Health?

Despite the fact that mental health is centrally tied to our overall well-being, parents of children with autism may find themselves not only combating the general public’s shared stigma related to mental illness and therapeutic services, but must also contend with additional challenges in overcoming the stigmatization of supporting their own psychological needs.

What Helicopter Parents Need to Know

How can concerned parents help today's college students become healthier, more successful young adults?

The Trouble With "Shame On You! You Shouldn't Feel That!"

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Ambigamy
Some people shun negative emotions to purge them. It doesn't work.

The Best Place to Be Is Together

A sense of peace and relaxation is the largest benefit from a vacation according to experts. Five guidelines help you return relaxed and happy.

The Most Annoying Mistake Anxious People Make Every Day

Everyone wants to be heard. There's nothing wrong with wanting people to know your opinions, or how you feel. However, you may be driving others away when you open your mouth. Learn how to sharpen your communication skills and feel less stress and more calm and inner-peace.

Seeing the Person Within the Persona

Irrelationship is about a lot of things: a co-created and shared defense, compulsive caregiving, Performing and Audiencing, suffering and feeling trapped and helpless. It is also about hiding out in a routine, a song-and-dance routine. That routine is like a mask that protects the self from observation—it is a persona-in-action (an enacted disguise).

Abnormal Behaviour – What Does It Really Mean?

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in A Sideways View
Most people like to think that they are "normal". But what does it mean to be normal? And if you are not normal does that mean you are abnormal?

Cheating Yourself? I Hear the Advice, I Do What I Want

Real behaviour change is not about willpower, or stages of change, but about satisfying wants and dealing with needs along the way.......it is about coherence at all levels of the person......

Baby Crying? Don't Shame the Parents!

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on July 26, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
A medical doctor, also a parent, wrote to me recently to complain about my blog post, "'Dangers of Crying it Out.'" Here is (most of) my response.

Is It True That Your Physical Pain Is In Your Mind?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 25, 2015 in Off the Couch
“I think there’s something wrong,” Marjorie said. “I feel like I have a urinary tract infection all the time. But the doctor can’t find anything the matter. He says I have an anxiety disorder." A week later, tests showed that she had a UTI. Why hadn't the doctor picked it up before?

Treating Eating Disorders the New-Fashioned Way

The establishment and assuredness of a safe and trusting relationship between patient and therapist prior to making the transition from office to on-line, plus symptoms being well under control or gone, then YES, my experience has shown that continued progress and recovery is possible, particularly for eating disorder patients with underlying anxiety & depression.

"The Feeling Brain" Like Disney/Pixar Movie "Inside Out"

As an expert in Psychology, when I saw Disney/Pixar's "Inside Out", I was happily surprised by its accuracy in its portrayal of emotions (aside from emotions being personified and sitting in a "control room"!) At the same time that I saw the movie, Norton Publishing asked me to review the book, "The Feeling Brain", and I found quite a few similarities between the two.

Should We Work Harder?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on July 24, 2015 in Hidden Motives
In America, we tend to think that success is all about individual effort. And recently Jeb Bush reinforced that idea in suggesting that our economy could be more robust if each of us worked harder.

It's a Step, Not a Stop, on your Journey

Savor every single step of the journey for what it is . . . . a step, not your final "stop."

Getting Up and Hitting the Road Feeling Good

Becasue you feel better, you operate better.

Are You an Adventurous Eater?

By Susan Albers Psy.D. on July 23, 2015 in Comfort Cravings
Do you like to try new, exotic foods or do you stick to the same foods you know you like? You may be surprised by some of the benefits of being an adventurous eater outlined in this article.

4 Mental Health Disorders That May Thrive on Loneliness

By Kira Asatryan on July 23, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
It's possible you're not mentally ill. You're just lonely.

Seven Reasons Why Your Financial Life Creates Anxiety

By Michael F. Kay on July 23, 2015 in Financial Life Focus
While there are some who breathe the rarified air of having their financial lives totally together, most people struggle. Your degree of struggle might range from small—not being sufficiently organized—to complete and utter meltdown.

Pregnant and Anxious?

A woman who feels anxious during her pregnancy might think this is just what it feels like to be pregnant.

Do You Want More Respect and Recognition for Your Work?

By Allison Carmen on July 23, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
The desire for appreciation and respect from others often stems from a fear that things are not all right. We are afraid that we're not who we should be or we're not accomplishing enough with our lives. Yet the trap is that we can’t always get from others what we are looking for and must look within in order to find any semblance of stability and freedom.

Behavior Differences Between Smaller and Larger Dogs

Research shows that there are significant differences between the behaviors of smaller and larger dogs. Some of these differences have to do with the behaviors of their owners.

Social Anxiety Diminished by Brain Signals and Re-Thinking

Social anxiety and its treatment with cognitive behavioral therapy can be studied with advanced brain imaging. Both the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala are involved.

Feeling Insecure vs. Empathy

How can we learn to live with our insecurities

Finding My Daughter Again Through the Outdoors

I think much parenting anxiety centers around how the kids will turn out and whether the choices you made will impact them in good ways or not so good ways. You wonder how you’ll feel about them as people, too, whether you’ll like who they become as adults. You know you’ll love them, but will you like them?

Nature Calms the Mind—Even in Photos

By Temma Ehrenfeld on July 23, 2015 in Open Gently
Brain research on why nature is calming and restorative.

Freud had DP at the Acropolis; Today Teens at Venice Beach

By Elena Bezzubova on July 22, 2015 in The Search for Self
Physical and physiological stressors - bright light, overheating, dehydration, sudden climate change, spinning or fever - can precipitate fleeting feelings of unreality of oneself and the surrounding world. These transitory non-pathological episodes are characteristic for adolescents. Sometimes the episodes foreshow the full blown depersonalization-derealization syndrome.

How to Resolve a Misundertanding

By Kimberly Key on July 22, 2015 in Counseling Keys
When mindreading doesn’t work, what can you do to improve your communication and lessen misunderstandings?

There Must Be a Good Reason

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 22, 2015 in On Having Fun
A game to play with yourself before you start hating people.

Is Your Childhood Wrecking Your Love Life?

By Peg Streep on July 21, 2015 in Tech Support
One of the legacies of childhood is how well or badly we connect to others, both in friendship as well as intimate settings. How your childhood experiences may shape your ability to love and be loved today, and how to understand and recognize patterns of insecure attachment.