Essential Reads

The Autopilot Death of Love

The painful disconnection that modern intimate partners constantly confront rises from attempts to get their partners to “meet my needs when both are in their Toddler brains.

Passive Aggression at Work: The Perfect Office Crime

Is there a passive-aggressive person in your workplace?

The Meaning and Meaninglessness of Genealogy

By Nathan H. Lents, Ph.D. on January 29, 2018 in Beastly Behavior
Americans by the millions are pursuing their genealogy and bio-geographical ancestry. But what can this tell us that we don't already know?

Making Peace With Conflict

By Holly Parker, Ph.D. on January 18, 2018 in Your Future Self
Conflict isn’t fun or delightful. It runs the gamut from mildly annoying to immensely distressing, and it can damage relationships. But is it intrinsically harmful?

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Cycles of Intimacy

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on February 19, 2018 in Complicated Love
Has your ardor cooled? Do you yearn for a bit of emotional space? Cycles of distance and intimacy are common in relationships, but too many couples panic. Don't be among them!
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Adolescence and Processing Painful Emotion

Since emotionality is a fundamental part of human nature, and adolescence is a more emotionally intense time, teaching teenagers how to process their feelings is important to do.
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7 Steps to Changing Your Narcissistic Responses

If you know you are narcissistic and want to change, you can find a better way to deal with the issues that trigger your rage.

Road Rage is All In Your Head

Treated like dirt? On the road and elsewhere, we react to interpersonal slights as we perceive them. We may be mistaken.

Stress and Your Diet: Can Certain Foods Affect Your Mood?

Can you blame your anger on the onions you just ate for lunch?

Mental Illness Didn't Make Him Do It

In the wake of the Parkland, Florida, tragedy, it's natural to search for answers. Mental illness isn't one of them.
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How Is Your Anger Best Seen as Retaliation?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 14, 2018 in Evolution of the Self
Basically, all the perceived affronts that make you mad start, unconsciously, with your self-image taking a hit—reviving the ancient, overblown fear that you’re not good enough.

What Political System Rules Your Psyche?

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on February 13, 2018 in Feeling Our Way
Since we are not unitary selves, but an assortment of response repertoires, emotions, and goals, we need some system of government to secure the blessings of liberty.

Thinking and Breathing to Calm the Body's Emergency Response

Relaxation practice with slow, regular breathing can help us prepare to face challenging situations more calmly. How this works is a biological process with psychological effects.

Facing the World

Why do people spend so much time, effort, and money to make their faces look good? Why do other people hide their faces altogether? What do doctors have to do with it?

My Short List for Creating a Happy Relationship

Here's my list of nine simple things that give any relationship the best chance of happiness.

Resolving Angry Lovers' Quarrels: Forgiveness or Makeup Sex?

By Rita Watson MPH on February 11, 2018 in With Love and Gratitude
Give forgiveness and gratitude a try, even over makeup sex. Why? Because these virtues are long lasting.

How Psychoanalysis Helps

By Leon Hoffman M.D. on February 11, 2018 in Beyond Freud
Why do people seek a talking treatment?

Haircuts & Walk-Outs: The Bad Side of Parental Control

By Paula L. White M.A. on February 08, 2018 in Shape Parenting
Do you have a fit when your children's choices go against your wishes? Learn how to build a parent-child bond while having a positive influence on your child's decisions.

Meditation Does Not Make You a Better Person

Many people think of meditation as a magic bullet. But in reality, the evidence on meditation is mixed.

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

It's mystifying when a departing husband shapeshifts from being the loving man you knew so well into a blaming angry stranger—an alien. How does this happen?

Valentines Day: Take This Relationship Challenge!

Pick two of these five new things to try on Valentines Day. You have nothing to lose but the status quo.

This Simple Mistake Can Gaslight Your Child

I want to share a gaslighting communication that I will never forget—never mind that it happened decades ago.

The Benefits of Arguing

By Jennifer A. Samp Ph.D. on February 04, 2018 in Conflict Matters
Hate conflict and arguing? Focusing on conflict as an opportunity for growth may change your mind.

Psychodrama, an Experiential Treatment, Helps Diffuse Anger

By Marty Babits on January 31, 2018 in The Middle Ground
Do you know how psychodrama brings imagination and flair to the work of overcoming resentment and restoring loving connection? If diffusing anger would help, this read is for you.

What Feelings Can Disguise

As long as feelings remain hidden, we're powerless to affect change in our lives/relationships.

When Anger Management Requires Going Deeper

Still having trouble letting go of anger? Doing so may require you to go deeper.

Biscotti Diplomacy

By Susan Hooper on January 28, 2018 in Detours and Tangents
I lost my temper with a neighbor. I restored good relations with a face-to-face apology—and also biscotti.

Who Were the Alienists?

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on January 26, 2018 in Evil Deeds
What in the world is an "alienist"?

Larry Nassar and the Psychology of the Insincere Apology

Researchers have managed to calculate precisely how much an apology is worth: $32,000.

The Psychology of Gotham City (Volume 1)

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on January 25, 2018 in I Hear You
You can learn a lot about psychopathology from reading Batman comic books, where the villains are psychological disorders writ large, wearing their diagnoses like costumes.

Nourishing Attention, the Self, and Self-Esteem

By Susan Rako M.D. on January 23, 2018 in More Light
How deep are the roots of your patient's troubles? Exploring them can be a curative in itself.

Are You Chronically Ill? Don’t Make Things Worse!

We make things worse by adding an extra layer of suffering to the suffering we're already experiencing due to physical or mental illness.

How to Talk: 8 Tips for Doing It Right

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on January 21, 2018 in Fixing Families
Having productive conversations is not a matter of personality but of skills. Here are 8 tips to help you get started.

Identifying Your Feelings

Feelings that are denied or dismissed do not diminish in size or disappear; they are intensified.