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Recent Posts on Addiction

Cultivating The Ability To Stay in 2012

By Pamela Madsen on December 28, 2011 in Shameless Woman
One of my biggest lessons in being resilient and successful in my love life, friendships, career choices, and even conquering addiction—has been cultivating my own ability "to stay".

The Neuroscience of Perseverance

By Christopher Bergland on December 26, 2011 in The Athlete's Way
Perseverance separates the winners from the losers in both sports and life. Are you someone who perseveres despite difficulties and setbacks, or do you tend to throw in the towel and call it quits when faced with a challenge or adversity? What makes some people able to keep pushing and complete a task while others habitually fizzle and don't follow through?

Casual Sex: A Psychiatrist Responds

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on December 25, 2011 in The Pacific Heart
It ain't all wine and roses in the land of casual sex, contrary to Siegel's recent blog post.

Recovery = Abstinence... Or not

By Adi Jaffe Ph.D. on December 23, 2011 in All About Addiction
Does recovery have to involve abstinence? I don't think so and apparently SAMHSA agrees. Why don't we start measuring what really matters?

The End of Solitude, the Eternity of Aloneness

By Stanton Peele on December 15, 2011 in Addiction in Society
Human consciousness is evolving into a a cyborg-like state where we are constantly hooked up to some form of electronic stimulation or communication channel. We do this in order to escape the eternity of the solitude of death. Paradoxically, it makes us lonelier than ever.

10 Tips for Making the Most of Dinnertime

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on December 15, 2011 in Singletons
The why, how, and essential ingredients for reaping the benefits of family dinner.

DSM 5 Tries to Sneak in Hebephilia

By Allen J Frances M.D. on December 14, 2011 in DSM5 in Distress
he DSM 5, Sexual Disorders work group has not yet given up on its discredited pet idea and persists in trying to find new ways to sneak Hebephilia into DSM 5.

Does Happiness Reside in the Head? If I Am Unhappy, Is It My Fault?

By Sandeep Gautam on December 14, 2011 in The Fundamental Four
Raj argues that happiness lies in the head and it is our responsibility to reinterpret events in a positive light. I argue, that placing too much emphasis on personal responsibility, especially when the events are beyond control, is counter-productive.

Borderline Personality Disorder: Big Changes in the DSM-5

Learn the DSM-5's new "Levels of Personality Functioning" and "Proposed Trait System" for Borderline Personality Disorder.

Psychology versus Magical Thinking

By Stanton Peele on December 13, 2011 in Addiction in Society
Education and health are two fundamental social areas we can never get our heads around in America. And hard-headed but humane researchers—whom I like to think embody psychology—are the people to explain why this is.

Talking with Teens: Drugs and Pornography

By Steve Baskin on December 13, 2011 in S'mores and More
On a 6 day trek through the Himalayan foothills, I found an opportunity to broach some challenging topics with my teenage sons.

Dealing with an Addicted Teen During the Holidays

By Ugo Uche on December 12, 2011 in Promoting Empathy With Your Teen
"We convince ourselves that things are happening the way we want them to be happening. It’s the equivalent of closing our eyes and hoping that the problem will disappear on its own."

What Is Addiction Treatment?

By Stanton Peele on December 12, 2011 in Addiction in Society
What is regarded as addiction treatment in the U.S. is very different from that offered in much of the rest of the world -- which favors community outreach approaches that extend to people where they live and that offer a comprehensive range of services. The consequences of our idea of treatment are that we get less effective coverage at much greater cost.

Dangers of “Crying It Out”

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 11, 2011 in Moral Landscapes
Letting babies “cry it out” is an idea that has been around at least since the behaviorist John Watson applied the mechanistic paradigm of behaviorism to child rearing in 1928, the decade when parents began trusting "science" more than their instincts.

What Drives a Sex Addict, Part 11

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 11, 2011 in Love Doc
In my last blog, Married to a Sex Addict, I described the plight of the spouse who is married to a male sex addict. On Oct 7, 2009 I wrote about the psychology of a female sex addict. More recently the topic of sex addiction is being hyped in the media.

Radical Acceptance Can Inhibit Suffering

By Randi Kreger on December 09, 2011 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
To accept your circumstances radically simply means that you do it from the depths of your soul and in every bone in your body. Radical acceptance of your loved one's disorder means that you acknowledge that you can't change the disorder, you didn't cause it, and you can't cure it.

Learning to Think Like an Optimist

Disappointments and challenges are an inevitable part of life. So instead of viewing them as failures, why not view them as opportunities to learn, grow, and improve? If you do, you're on the road to resilience, and research says that's exactly where you want to be during tough times.

Violence in Divorce: Towards Safety

By Mark Banschick M.D. on December 06, 2011 in The Intelligent Divorce
Continuing the discussion on the malignant divorce, and touching upon the seriousness of domestic violence.

Sex Addiction: The Null Hypothesis

By David J Ley Ph.D. on December 06, 2011 in Women Who Stray
Science is a human enterprise, like any other. Good science thus works in ways that try to minimize the effects of politics and human convictions. If sex addiction cannot be proven to exist, then scientists must accept the null hypothesis, that it most likely does not.

"Shame" and Sex Addiction

By Christopher Lane Ph.D. on December 06, 2011 in Side Effects
Does obsessiveness about sex really belong in a manual of mental disorders?

The Seductive (But Dangerous) Allure of Gabor Maté

By Stanton Peele on December 05, 2011 in Addiction in Society
Gabor Maté, a popular and appealing addiction clinician and writer, claims childhood trauma derails brain chemistry so as to turn people into addicts. Because of his work among downtrodden drug addicts in Vancouver, he is widely admired in radical harm reduction circles. But his theory doesn't hold water. Moreover, his views are dangerous for the harm reduction movement.

Adolescence and Allowance

The primary purpose of allowance is to teach the adolescent about how to manage money.

Do You Eat Out of Boredom?

By Susan Carnell Ph.D. on December 04, 2011 in Bad Appetite
It’s 8pm on Sunday, and you really should get started on that essay / presentation / big pile of ironing...but maybe you'll just check the fridge first. Why is it that we boredom-eat?

The Online Social Experience and Limbic Resonance

By Hilarie Cash Ph.D. on December 04, 2011 in Digital Addiction
Many people turn to the internet to make friends, develop romance, or maintain other social connections. Yet, the more time we spend online, the more depressed we become. Why is this? The answer has to do with something called limbic resonance, which, it appears, can not be found in adequate supply through online interactions.