Essential Reads

Theo Fleury Is Teaching Us How to Heal

Hockey great explains power of conversation

Get Out of Yourself

Put your mind on something else, or your troubles will take up the whole world.

Think You Can't Get Drunk on Soda Water? Think Again.

A powerful demonstration of how easily we can be fooled.

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

Loving parents, disturbed children and 12 approaches to the problem

Recent Posts on Addiction

Day 18: Not Labeling Emotional Difficulty a Mental Disorder

Why do we say "I am depressed" when we don't say "I am a rash" or "I am a broken arm"? On day 18 of 30 days to better mental health we look at how to avoid self-identifying with a mental disorder label when emotional difficulties arise.

Fertile Imagination

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on January 20, 2015 in In Excess
Professor Sammy Lee (one of the UK’s pioneers in IVF egg donation) believes that the urge for childless couples to have children is stronger than the urges addicts feel for their drugs or behaviours of choice and that their pursuit is obsessive. but what evidence is there that 'IVF addiction' exists?

Missing the Boat on Diagnosis

By Ira J. Chasnoff M.D. on January 19, 2015 in Aristotle's Child
In this new study, 86.5 percent of children and adolescents with FASDs had been misdiagnosed

If You Want Happiness, Resolve to Find Meaning

By Dan Mager MSW on January 19, 2015 in Some Assembly Required
Is it better to be happy than not? Do bears defecate in the woods? The question is not whether happiness is a good thing. Rather, it is two-fold: To what extent is it helpful and healthy to view happiness as an end unto itself, and how best to facilitate happiness?

Limits of Natural and Logical Consequences in Parenting

By Ugo Uche on January 19, 2015 in Promoting Empathy With Your Teen
For a child, the natural rules of the universe and the rules set by his parents present with consequences for any decisions he makes. This is because children need their parents to survive. As a result, parents are the environment that children adapt to.

Day 17: Dramatically Reducing Your Defensiveness

Learn why reducing your defensiveness dramatically increases your mental health.

iPhone Separation Anxiety

Are you suffering from iPhone Separation Anxiety?

9 Essential Issues Good Therapy Should Address

By Clifford N. Lazarus Ph.D. on January 18, 2015 in Think Well
Despite the fact that all people are unique individuals who will need their therapy tailored to their specific needs, there are some general factors that define good therapy. If you and your therapist are not addressing them, important therapeutic stones may be left unturned thus limiting your therapy's effectiveness.

Day 16: Reckoning With The Distress of Meaningless Work

In order to improve our mental health, we need to factor in the toll that meaningless work takes

Je Suis Charlie: Courage, Commitment and the Cost of Freedom

By Stephen A Diamond Ph.D. on January 18, 2015 in Evil Deeds
It is easy for Americans and French citizens to take our freedom for granted. But these violent attacks remind all of us that freedom is something precious and precarious, and that it takes great courage and commitment to affirm and maintain it. This is an existential truism not only for nations or cultures, but for patients in psychotherapy too.

Putting Feelings Into Words: 3 Ways to Explain What You Feel

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on January 17, 2015 in Off the Couch
Have you ever had troubles finding the words for what you’re feeling or thinking? Most of us have encountered this difficulty at some time or another. It often happens just when we most need to be able to explain ourselves – when we’re feeling something particularly strongly or in a crisis or just want to communicate a strong feeling.

Day 15: Learning the Skill of Quick Meaning Repair

What can you do if life suddenly feels less meaningful? Practice the skill of quick meaning repair!

Day 14: Only Thinking Thoughts That Serve You

True thoughts aren't necessarily useful thoughts. Learn how to think thoughts that serve you!

Healing the Shame of Childhood Abuse Through Self-Compassion

Shame can be the most damaging effect of child abuse--compassion is its anecdote.

6 Ways to Make a Clean Break

The New Year often brings with it a desire for personal change and positive growth. For most people this involves a resolution to lose ten pounds, to keep the house clean, to stay on top of work once and for all, or something similar. That said, many people have something bigger in mind – ending a problematic relationship.

How Much Is Your Failed Resolution Costing You?

By David Maxfield on January 15, 2015 in Crucial Conversations
Why do so many of us fail at our resolutions? Three challenges and strategies to overcome them.

Day 13: Feeling Better Sooner Rather Than Later

What helps us make a needed change more easily? This one simple tactic!

Ten Things You Need to Know about Campus Sexual Assault

Sexaul assault on campus is common--far more common than many people imagine.

Let's Talk about Our Failures

Growing up we learn all the important subjects: Math, English, History, and Science. But at what point do we learn how to handle failure, betrayal, sadness? We need to start creating a language to make it ok to talk about the hardships in our lives because we all experience it, yet few talk about it.

The Neurological Differences in Men and Women Smokers

Talk to your physician for information on alternative smoking cessation programs. Individual plans can offer long-term success and a healthier lifestyle. It is never too late to benefit from quitting the habit of smoking and reduce the associated health risks.

Alcohol and Cigarettes Use in Teens Declines

By Richard Taite on January 14, 2015 in Ending Addiction for Good
Alcohol and Cigarettes Use in Teens Declines

Day 12: Reducing Meaninglessness With One Single Question

Life not feeling too meaningful? Here's one simple thing to try!

5 Ways to Silence Shame

Shame is among the most corrosive of human emotions, with the power to convince us that that little voice in our head is right after all – you know, the one that says “I knew you’d fail,” “You’ll never really belong” and “Who would love you?”

Day 11: Turning Your Meaning Needs Into Action Steps

What should you do when a meaning crisis strikes? Create a plan of action!

Painkillers and the NFL: Why the Players Sued

By Jordan Gaines Lewis on January 13, 2015 in Brain Babble
The legalities of the claim that the NFL got their players addicted to painkillers will likely be argued for a long time. But the questions remain: why are prescription opioids used so often for pain relief, and why are they so addictive?

Bump Start

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on January 13, 2015 in In Excess
One of the more interesting and somewhat controversial male psychological conditions that have been reported relatively frequently in psychological research literature is Couvade syndrome (sometimes called sympathetic pregnancy) but is not generally recognized as a bona fide medical condition. But what does the psychological literature tell us about this disorder?

Irrelationship's Patient Zero Couple

Irrelationship is what happens when two people co-create/-maintain a way of relating that protects them from love's dangers—from the anxiety and insecurities that go along with being vulnerable to the risks of being in love. We are going to follow a couple as they explore the ways that irrelationship protects them from empathy, intimacy emotional risk and investment.

Day 10: Tackling the Boredom Behind Our Frantic Busyness

Effectively dealing with the boredom that masks meaning problems and causes us to keep ourselves over-busy

The Teenage Brain Blog

By Frances E Jensen M.D. on January 12, 2015 in The Teenage Brain
How new research is turning the tables on myths about the teenage brain: Revealing hidden strengths and weaknesses

The Quickest, Smartest Way to Bring More Love into Your Life

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on January 12, 2015 in Finding Love
In deciding your most important goals for 2015, don’t forget the factor that's most likely to give you joy, contentment, and a deep sense of personal meaning and mission. We all know what that is: It's loving relationships. I'm referring to all forms of love, not just romantic love. Here is the simplest and best way to create a more love-filled year ahead.