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Debbie Joffe Ellis
Though circumstances out of our control may be extremely difficult to manage, we can still choose to control and create our emotional experiences—despite and including our challenging times.
Many people are experiencing extreme anxiety due to the appearance of the Corona-virus, yet we can choose to create calm & stability by adopting a realistic and rational attitude.
When traumatic events happen we need not be permanently scarred. With the willingness and effort to adopt realistic perspectives on such events - healthy emotions can be created.
As painful memories are evoked, we can choose to focus on redeeming aspects and can be grateful for that which is good — despite the past brutal experiences from whence they came.
When tragic events occur, we can choose to focus on what still is good in life, create stability within, and consequently cope well and act in more effective ways.
By choosing to perform acts of kindness whenever possible, we help the lives of others and of ourselves, and can make our tender and vulnerable world more safe and stable.
On some occasions when many people feel joy, others may suffer painful emotions. We can choose to adopt a healthy perspective - and feel uplifted instead of deprived & depressed.
Many people are experiencing intense emotions after the results of the November 2016 election. Those in distress have the power to change their feelings, if they choose to do so.
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People who inspire us by their efforts in helping others remind us of the privilege and fulfillment of providing care, compassion, kindness, and helpful deeds for people in need.
Getting sufficient sleep is important, and many people feel anxious when unsuccessful at doing so. Thinking in healthy ways to reduce anxiety allows better sleep, and waking life!
Life contains the unexpected. Prevention IS better than cure! To help us cope with any alarming circumstances, we had better practice healthy thinking BEFORE adversities arise.
When rotten happenings occur such as tragic events, not getting what we want or getting what we don't want: we can choose to make effort to minimize our suffering and maximize joy.
When we think in overgeneralizing ways we set ourselves up for a fall. Let's create a habit of thinking about our thinking, choosing healthy thinking, which results in greater joy.
Debbie Joffe Ellis, MDAM, Licensed Australian psychologist and Licensed New York Mental Health Counselor, teaches at Columbia University in NYC.